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Hesed Ojieh describes a church member who repeatedly sought his counsel but really wanted to argue. Some people feel healed by conflict itself, he says. Spiritual leaders need to recognize this pattern and set boundaries instead of feeding it.
Hesed Ojieh describes a church member who repeatedly sought his counsel but really wanted to argue. Some people feel healed by conflict itself, he says. Spiritual leaders need to recognize this pattern and set boundaries instead of feeding it.
There used to be a sister, and she used to be part of my church. But I began to notice that she wasn't just calling me to pray or to speak over her life. She was pouring her whole battle. She was pouring the whole battle, the mess in her life, she was dumping it on me. She will say things like, well, I need to speak to you, Prophet, I need to speak to you. In my own way, I would just call her up to check on her, what's going on. Then all of a sudden, I realized what she was doing. There's some people that fighting with you is therapeutic to them. I'm trying to take out this label. Fighting with you heals them. Don't give them that fight. Don't give them that fight. Fighting with you makes them happy. Fighting with you makes them whole. They have to fight with somebody. That's where you come in.
