Holly FurtickFollower of Jesus. Member of Elevation Church.

Breaking the Anger Cycle

Name: Breaking the Anger Cycle
Uploaded: 2024-01-17T12:00:03+00:00
Duration: 59 s
Channel: Holly Furtick
Description: A short spoken segment from Holly Furtick (YouTube video "Breaking the Anger Cycle", Jan 17, 2024) in which she reflects on how holding onto anger…

17 Jan 2024 · 1 min

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A short spoken segment from Holly Furtick (YouTube video "Breaking the Anger Cycle", Jan 17, 2024) in which she reflects on how holding onto anger prevents owning one’s part in conflicts. She explores the difficulty and cost of being the first to apologize, notes reciprocal perceptions of who apologizes first, and comments that women often ‘‘keep score’’ in their heads.

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As long as I stay angry, then I'm never able to own up to my part. Even if my part is only 10% anger. It comforts to a certain degree it makes you feel better because as long as you stay angry you never have to admit that you've done anything wrong. And as long as my focus stays on him and all the things that he needs to change, then I never have to look into in the mirror. But let me ask you this. What does it actually cost you to be the first one to say I'm sorry? It's hard to be the first one to say I'm sorry. It's also hard when you feel like, and I know you're going to go with me here, you're always the first one to say that you're sorry. Funny thing is he probably feels like he's always the first one to say he's sorry too. But that's not the point. I think as women we keep score in our heads.