The Shame Cycle Explained #addictionrecovery #god #love #shame

the, there's 4 components to addiction. So there's fantasy, ritualization, acting out, and guilt is what Patrick Carnes called it. Okay. And so what happens is first you, you have the fantasy or the idea, then you, you move towards the, um, the act, then you do the act, the sexual act, and then you have guilt about it. Okay. And then the guilt is so strong. That it leads you into ritualization or into fantasy. And so you, to soothe the wound of being guilty of sinning, you sin more. So this is what addiction is, okay? It's a cycle of sin. But so the secular people called it guilt, but as Christians, we know it's shame, right? That, you know, guilt is different than shame. Guilt is, I did something wrong. Shame is there's something wrong with me. And so with, you know, a lot of people who like you would say like, oh, that doesn't affect me, you know, I can do porn, it's perfectly fine, there's nothing wrong with it, etc., etc. What you usually find though is most people hide their porn, right? Why? Well, because they don't want other people to know what they're doing, you know, these dirty deeds that they're doing in secret. Even if they're not Christian, even if they don't believe in morality or law, if they're atheists, they're still hiding the porn that they're doing because It's, it's