Are you carrying your trauma as a burden you could set down, or wearing it as part of your identity? The difference shapes how others see you and what you let them believe about your life.
Think about the hardest thing you've ever been through. Sit with it for a second and ask yourself, are you carrying it? Are you wearing it? Because those are two different relationships to the same event. Carrying means you'd put it down if you could find solid ground. Wearing means it's part of how you show up, part of what you lead with, part of what you need other people to see before they're allowed to have an opinion about your life.
