In this livestream, life coach Jennifer Dent‑Brown addresses women who struggle to reach their goal weight. She argues that the single most important skill is learning to be "comfortable with being uncomfortable"—to sit with cravings, stress, and emotional triggers without using food or alcohol to soothe them. Using a recent strategy‑call case (a client needing to lose 107 lb), she illustrates how excuses arise when a person avoids discomfort. She offers concrete mental hacks: self‑talk affirmations, visualizing the choice to stay on track, deliberately feeling the discomfort of passing tempting foods (donuts, Girl Scout cookies) or skipping a workout, and then allowing the feeling to pass. She emphasizes that repeated exposure to discomfort weakens its power, leading to a sense of empowerment (“rock star,” “Wonder Woman”). The talk also covers emotional eating triggers (stress, anger, relationship conflict) and suggests acknowledging the feeling instead of buffering it with food, possibly seeking support from a therapist (e.g., Dr. Siobhan). Throughout, she promotes her free "Stop Dieting Forever" strategy calls, invites viewers to message her with questions, and engages community members (Cheryl, Siobhan, Charity) to personalize the message. The overall takeaway is that mindset work—embracing discomfort—combined with practical self‑regulation techniques can bridge the gap to a sustainable goal weight.
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Good evening, good evening. Jennifer Dent-Brown here, life coach, and I help women learn to stop dieting forever. I got a message for you right now and I need to share it. Something that is bubbling up and coming up a lot in conversations that I've been having, and it's a simple thing, right? It's a simple thing, but it's so difficult for a lot of us when we want to get to our goal weight. Weight. So if you're struggling, if you're trying, if you like trying to get to your goal weight, there's one thing that you absolutely need to learn how to do as you go on this journey, and that is be comfortable with being uncomfortable. You got that? When you're trying to get to your goal weight, when you're working to get to your goal weight and staying there, right? So there's maintenance after you get to your goal weight. You've got to learn to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Now, I've had a strategy call recently. So I do these free Stop Dieting Forever weight loss strategy calls, and you can feel free to schedule one with me if that's something you're interested in. But I had a strategy call recently with a woman, and she needed to lose 107 pounds. She seemed very excited and very motivated. To wanna lose the weight. She had been 150 pounds before. She knows how great she felt at that weight, and she was, seemed very determined and very excited and ready to do what it takes to get to her goal weight, 107 pounds, okay? Now, as we started to get into some of the strategies that she could begin to kick her off and get her on the goal, on her path to getting to 150 pounds, All of a sudden, a lot of excuses came up, right? It was, you know, "I can't do this. I can't eat this. I don't like this. I don't know how to do this." And I get that, right? The reason why you're not at your goal weight now is because you don't know the exact tools and the exact strategy for you to get there, or else you would already be there, right? So this is where I come in as a Coach. I come in to help you and guide you and give you new tools, new strategies to help you check your mindset at the door and to guide you to your goal weight. So we are having the conversation and I am listening to her challenges and I am listening to her obstacles and things that she has been struggling with that are currently giving her the result of 207, or I think she is 257 lbs. And we talked and I do what I do best, right? I get down, I dig down deep, I ask a lot of questions and I figure out what's really at the root of her problem. Now, she was not willing to be uncomfortable to get to her goal weight. And if you are not willing to be uncomfortable, to break out of your comfort zone, to do things that you don't normally do, then guess what? You're not going to get to your goal weight. I hate to say it, but that is the truth. So if you're used to, say for example, you decide, okay, all week I'm not going to eat any sugar, I'm not, I'm going to drink more water, I'm going to do all of this stuff because you think that's going to help you lose weight, and you know, eventually it will. But if you're in the habit of talking yourself out of it, so as soon as you walk past the kitchen at work and you see the donuts out on the table and you grab one real quick and you say, Oh, you know, it's okay. I'll have just this one donut because it's there and I'm going to eat it. You are not comfortable with being uncomfortable, right? The uncomfortable feeling would have been to look at the donuts, to feel the desire, feel the craving of wanting the donut and walking past, right? But you are not comfortable with being uncomfortable yet, so you gave in to to that desire and that craving and grab the donut. And guess what? That is gonna keep you at your current weight. An action like that is gonna keep you at your current weight. So when this opportunity or this circumstance happens again and you are like focused, like I brought my lunch to work, I'm gonna eat my salad, I'm gonna drink my water, I'm not gonna do sugar, I'm not gonna do flour, I'm gonna be focused. And then you're at work and you walk past the kitchen and what do you see? Boxes of Girl Scout cookies. This is your moment of truth, right? Are you willing to be comfortable with being uncomfortable? With feeling that feeling of like, dang, I really want those cookies. And don't let them be free, right? Hey Cheryl. Hey Siobhan. Are you willing to be uncomfortable to sit there and feel that desire, feel that craving for those cookies and not give in, right? A lot of times we don't like that feeling of being uncomfortable. It's just easier for us to grab the cookies, grab the donut, eat it real quick and say, "Oh, you know what? I'm going to get back on track tomorrow," or, "I'm going to get back on track for dinner." That pattern is going to keep you at your current weight. So, I am challenging you to be comfortable. Just say to yourself, like, look, this week I am going to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. I am willing to feel the feelings of being, have cravings and having desires of foods that I know that are not going to help me get to my goal weight, and I am willing to sit with those feelings I'm willing to feel the feelings. I'm willing to be like, damn, this sucks, and let it pass through me. Because here is the good news, that uncomfortable feeling, it will disappear. It will disappear. But you've got to be willing to just sit with it for a while, right? And don't give in to the food. So one of the tricks you can do, or the hacks, the mental hacks, the mindset trick to get to that other side, Yes, Cheryl, feeling uncomfortable. Yep, I'm glad you, you resonate with that. And yes, I hope this week you get used to feeling uncomfortable and being comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. So one of the things you can do when you're at work— I'm just using this as an example— and you're staying focused and you walk past the kitchenette and somebody's got Girl Scout cookies or somebody's got pretzels or whatever, is out there and it's like calling your name, what are you gonna do? You can say to yourself something like, you know, I'm choosing not to eat the cookies because I'm choosing my goal weight. I'm choosing to not eat the donuts because I am choosing better health, right? And just repeat that to yourself as you let that feeling of uncomfortableness sit with you, and then it will pass, right? It will pass. I promise you, it will pass. You will feel better. And when you get to the other side, let me tell you, the first time it happens, you're going to feel like a rock star. You're going to feel like Wonder Woman. You're going to feel like you are from Wakanda. Okay? You're going to feel awesome because you broke a habit. You broke a pattern. You did not give in to that craving and that urge. And you stood strong and you gave— you did not give in to that uncomfortable feeling. So whatever your thing is, right, whatever your focus is, it might be drinking more water, it might be getting to the gym 3 times a week, and if you're used to like grabbing the Diet Pepsi instead of the water, try being uncomfortable with— try being comfortable with being uncomfortable. Use this mind trick. It could be you like to, you know, you're planning to go to the gym 3 times a week after work, and you got your gym clothes in your back seat and you're ready to go, but on the way from work to the gym, you talk yourself out of it and you end up driving past the gym. I want you to drive to the parking lot of the gym, sit there, and understand and feel that feeling of not wanting to go in to work out. And just be like, okay, this sucks, but here I am. I'm committed to my goal. I'm committed to losing the weight. Let's just do it and let's go. Hey Charity, good to see you. So we're talking about feeling comfortable with being uncomfortable. That is the one thing. If you're not able to do that, you're not going to get to your result of getting to your goal weight. So, I need you to challenge yourself this week to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Be comfortable with that feeling of, oh, here is another thing, right? So, you may be feeling uncomfortable and you may have a desire to eat foods that are off plan. You may have a desire to snack because you are feeling some type of way at work. You are feeling anxious or maybe at home, your husband is driving you nuts and you are stressed out or you are angry or you are, whatever, and your normal go-to is like, well, let me just grab a little something to eat. Let me grab some chips. Let me grab a handful of nuts. Let me just grab a real snack. And you're using that food to like squash that feeling of anxiety or stress or anger or whatever it is that you're feeling. Challenge, challenge, challenge, challenge. How about you feel that feeling instead of using food to squash and buffer that feeling? How about you just say, look, I'm pissed off. I'm pissed off. I'm angry. I'm upset. This is how I feel. Fold your arms like this and just say, this is the way it is right now. This is how I'm feeling. I'm not going to eat to squash this feeling. I'm just going to be angry right now. And let it pass through you. It will pass. And if you're angry with your husband, you need to talk to my friend, Dr. Siobhan, because she can give you some tips on how to deal with that husband-wife relationship if you're struggling in that area. But the point is, you want to learn to be able to just feel that uncomfortable feeling that has normally driven you to drink wine, has normally driven you to snack in between meals, that has normally driven you to just overeat in general, right? So when you can begin to just feel that feeling and not use food or alcohol to buffer it, guess what? Your goal weight begins to get a little bit closer and a little bit closer and a little bit closer. And the more you can be aware of those triggers and those feelings that are making you grab the chips, grab the nuts, grab the donuts, or just eat mindlessly, the more you are aware of that and the more you can negate that feeling, right, and that urge and that desire to overeat, then guess what? Your goal weight is right around the corner. So I hope this was helpful. If you have any questions, Even if you have questions throughout the week, please shoot me a Messenger. I'm happy to— I respond to all of my messages. I'm happy to talk to you. Charity, you and I have been going back and forth about some things. So if you have any questions about being comfortable with being uncomfortable, let me know and we can definitely talk about it. But until then, have a luxe day and I will see you on the next livestream. Bye-bye.
