EP 566: Experiences vs. Excuses

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All right, all right, all right. Welcome to the habit based lifestyle podcast. I'm your host, Jesse Yul. And today we're going to be talking about a guy's trip me and my son just got back from taking and just the importance of this. And as we get into today's episode, I want to talk specifically about kind of how this went down. So a couple weeks ago, I think it was the week after Thanksgiving, my son says, like, hey, dad, we should go to the Husky, you know, husky and Oregon Pac 12 championship game. And I'm thinking in Vegas. And at first I was kind of like, oh, you know, we don't really have time, I'm busy. Kind of started making all these excuses. And after that, you know, we, we kind of got into, okay, well why can't, why can't I do this? And I started to kind of go down this path of like thinking, okay, I had a conference that I had to go to on that Saturday, so I had to be back at a certain time. But I found myself kind of making all these excuses why we couldn't do it. And at the end it was really more about, you know, my son, hey, he wants to do this thing. And instead of thinking, figuring out a way to make it possible, at first, I figured out a way to come up with excuses and reasons why I couldn't do it. And so as the day went along, I, you know, even had a couple meetings that day with employees and they're like, oh, you should go do that. That would be awesome. And I'm like, yeah, that, that would be awesome. So why don't I do that? So anyways, I began looking into the trip and just getting more details on it. And as I did it, by Monday evening, I'd gotten tickets to the game and the result of that became, hey, I'm gonna go. And I started to look at flights. Well, there wasn't a lot of flights, and I had to be back at a certain time. And so I made a commitment from that place to just be like, all right, well, we're just gonna drive. And then how about this? One of the guys that's putting on the event, he's like, hey, just bring your son to the event. He probably have a great time. And it was a sales and marketing event. And as things started to fall into place, I kind of began to recognize, man, how. How often am I putting excuses or reasons and. And things in the way of me getting what I ultimately want. Now, the whole point of all this was to be able to spend time with my son, you know, be able to go to the Pac12 championship and do something he really wanted to do, which in itself, you know, was a great time and a great thing we could do together. And so we went to the game. We obviously got to Vegas. We spent, you know, four days together, and, you know, me and him, you know, haven't got to do many of these types of trips, but, you know, when we do, we have a great time. So we spent, you know, two of those days in Vegas, and then we drove to Arizona. But one of the things that I kind of began to recognize is, you know, above all and else, we had this great time. We actually ended up going to a conference after in Arizona for Andy Elliott and his team. And if you want to talk about, you know, culture, team building, energy, commitment, it was pretty cool just to be in that environment, specifically, you know, for my son. And as we kind of went through this, it was like, you know, even at the game, you know, we. We ended up getting some upgraded tickets from another friend. And so it was like. It was this series of, yes, stepping into yes. And like, yes, I'm going to take my son getting tickets, and then, yes, I'm going to take him to this other event. And these series of yeses led to, you know, even us, a good friend of mine, getting a sweet tickets on Friday morning and getting those and getting upgraded to better seats and just having a better experience. And so there was a couple lessons that I learned from it. It was. Is just by me committing to yes opens the door to a greater experience, not only for me, but for my son. And that experience began to build, and things began to kind of come up where all of a sudden, you know, we're getting upgraded. Different tickets, better seats, different things like that and then we had a better overall experience after the game. We kind of hung out with some friends and, you know, we're able to, you know, meet a bunch of the players, even got a bunch of, you know, gloves and different memorabilia from the game from some of the players. But it was, it was pretty cool to just experience that whole thing. And then we were able to go to Arizona and really kind of be in an environment where there's, you know, other business owners. And, you know, it brings up this other conversation of my son asking me like, hey, dad, how can I implement this stuff I'm learning into what I do? And it just brought up a whole different conversation that we could begin to talk about. Well, here's exactly how you can do that. And so one of the lessons that we talked about is like, hey, marketing and sales is the number one lesson you can learn as an entrepreneur, but also as a 16 year old. It propels you to really be able to do anything that you want in business or life. And it really equips you to have the confidence to be able to talk to anyone, have a conversation about understanding how to persuade, how to sell things and ultimately those things at 16 years old. I mean, I wasn't learning those things at 16 years old. I was, you know, pretty good at doing them. I worked hard. But to be 16 and be able to learn those skills are, are so valuable when many times I find entrepreneurs, they don't even think about those things until they're desperate for clients. The other thing is this. You have to constantly put yourself in situations where you're constantly growing and learning. So even, you know, putting ourselves in different environments, we get to learn lessons. So, you know, being able to put ourselves in an environment where we're in college, watching a college football game, having that experience, and then being able to put ourself in a situation where, you know, we're in a room of 360 entrepreneurs and my son was probably one of the youngest in there, but just how powerful of experience that that was for him and how he was able to kind of see and meet other people. And one of the common things was, you know, people began to come up to him and be like, hey, you know, what's your business? He's like, I'm actually, I play football, I'm 16. And most of the people thought he was 20 years old. So the overall experience there was a lot of driving. The cool thing is we got to talk a lot and we got to share a lot of the things we were learning and we just got to talk about life and other things and that was probably the coolest experience. So you know, for me it's really about learning. Hey, what are the things that my son really values? What are things that he wants to learn about and he's interested in? And how can he take a lot of these things that we were learning and really apply these to his own business and life? And you know, I think the other thing too is, is what you learn is when you say yes and continue to say yes, how many other things open up, how many other opportunities open up. Where a lot of times, you know, it's like, oh, I'm just gonna, I'm busy, you know, I don't have time or you know, we got a lot going on or, or for me even I was making the excuse of like, hey, I gotta be in Arizona the next day instead of just figuring out a way to make it happen. And there's so many times in life where we, we, we make an excuse for, hey, I don't have time. We give reasons like why we can't make something happen instead of just finding a way to make it happen. And sometimes, you know, even being an entrepreneur, it's like we're letting other things, excuses dictate how we show up as a business owner instead of like, look, the whole reason I am the business owner and the whole reason why I wanted to start my own business was to have the freedom to be able to work, you know, as hard as I want, to be able to go on experiences, to have freedom. And here I am being presented with an opportunity to do this with my 16 year old son. He's, you know, not going to remember the days I worked, he's not going to remember the hard work that I put in. But what he is going to remember is the experiences that we've created and putting him into environments that allow him to grow and allow him to see other things that, you know, others aren't. And so it comes down to really setting a standard as a father. Do I want my son to just remember me as the dad who always worked and you know, 100% focus on that or do I want him to remember me as like, hey, you know, at 16 we went to, you know, the Pac 12 championship. At 16 I put him in a room of 350 other business owners where he got other people teaching him about sales, marketing and many of the things that I maybe talk about. But just hearing it from someone else is truly powerful when it comes to learning. And it's valuable to him, changing his mindset and then to be able to see other entrepreneurs who are successful and be in that environment sees that, hey, this is a path that I potentially want to take one day. And so, you know, being that standard, setting, that standard of growth is so important for our kids. So that's it. You know, that's the biggest thing I want to talk about today because I, I see so many opportunities where maybe in the past I might have said, hey, I gotta work, I got something to do. But in reality I'm just making an excuse. And so being able to step into that even more in 2024 and being able to step into, you know, times where I can create experiences for my kids versus, you know, creating excuses or things like that. So, guys, want to thank you for being on the show today. Hope you have an amazing week. And also, if you want to be part of our habit Based Lifestyle community on Facebook where we teach health professionals, business owners and coaches how to grow in business and their lifestyle, simply go to the Show Notes and take the direct link Habit Based Lifestyle Business Secrets until next episode. Have a great day.

The Purpose of this show the purpose of this show is to guide you to realign with habits that get you to live the life you've always dreamed of. This this is the Habit Based Lifestyle podcast with Jesse.