Mark Normand: Comedy! | Lex Fridman Podcast #255

The following is a conversation with Mark Normand, a New York comedian who has a way with words that is often both dark and hilarious. Let that be a warning, dear friends, to proceed with caution and to wear protection. You may in fact need it. He has a special on his YouTube called out to Lunch and a new special on Netflix as part of the Stand up season three series. I recommend you watch this is the Lex Friedman podcast to support it. Please check out our sponsors in the description. And now, here's my conversation with Mark Normand. I asked Tim Dillon about Bukowski first. So let me continue on that tradition and ask you about something that Charles Bukowski said about love.

Wait, are we rolling?

Yes.

Oh, geez. No hello? No, nothing.

Nope.

I thought I was robotic.

Bukowski said love is a fog that burns away with the first daylight of reality. So, Mark Norman, let me first ask you about love. What are your thoughts about love? You talk about your relationships quite a bit. Do you think love can last?

I do, but I think it's work. Everybody wants love to be this prepackaged, perfect, euphoric thing, but you got to. It's like a good body, you know, we're all born with a good body, but you got to keep it in shape. And it's the same with a loving relationship.

I think you.

Nobody wants to do the work.

That's the problem you talked about. I think you told a story about being unfaithful to a previous girlfriend or something like that. I think the story goes that you were like drifting apart. Who are you talking to? Bert Kreischer maybe, or somebody like that.

Yeah, we were high school sweethearts, dated for like 12 years. And then.

So that wasn't love anymore. That was more like relation. That was like.

It was comfort, it was routine. And we just slipped into that kind of married life, autopilot world. And I tried to break up, I think, and it didn't take. It was one of those things. Our lives are just so baked in. And then I think I cheated and she caught me and it was ugly. And then we went to therapy to try to work it out, but it's. It's much like a car that gets into a wreck. The door just never closes the same. You know what I mean?

Yeah. So what are your thoughts about then? Commitment, like outside of love, marriage?

I think it's an antiquated idea. I think it's kind of silly and unrealistic and I think we're coming out of that as we get all polyamorous and non binary and queefy. And all this stuff. I think we're slowly moving away from that. But I think a lot of the ladies, more majority women, like marriage. Like the idea of it. Like, I'm gonna. I'm. I'm a fiance now, or whatever you call it. I'm engaged. And I mean, she is just going hog wild. She's loving it. She's got the dress thing. Pick a venue flower. And she's. She's deep in. Whereas I feel guilty because I'm just like, ah, geez, is it planned already?

When's the wedding?

Squid game. I'm just living life. Yes, it's. It's planned. It's in New Orleans. I'm from there, and it's next year. Are you married?

No. Single virgin. Of course. Yeah.

I can't imagine. I bet you'd be great in bed. You're ripped. You got the best hairline in podcasting.

Yeah, I don't know. I haven't tried yet, so we'll have to see.

All right, well, let me know. Pretty big hog on you. Yeah, I could see you packing a crazy, crazy tool downtown.

That matters to girls, apparently.

Yeah, that's all I hear about.

Okay. New Orleans. You grew up in New Orleans?

Yeah, born and raised. Treme, outside the French Quarter. You ever been?

Yeah, don't remember it.

Oh, you drink?

Yeah, I drink. Of course I drink.

I don't know. I can't tell if. You have fun.

No, not really. But rush. I mean, Russian, of course I drink vodka, all that kind of stuff. Yeah, yeah.

Yes.

Gotta know.

Vodka. Yeah. Beer was just labeled an alcoholic beverage in 2011. Fun fact.

What do you mean?

In Russia, it was just drinks. It was just like apple juice before it finally got declared legally as an alcoholic beverage.

Which means you can regulate it, that kind of thing.

I guess so.

Yeah.

See, that's where your brain goes.

Yeah, yeah.

I just go all these rusty.

I didn't even know there's rules about drinking. This is good. I'm learning about Russia from you. So what's the difficult memory experience from childhood in New Orleans that made you the man you are today?

I don't know if it made me the man, but, geez, I had a lot of scuffles in the neighborhood with. I was the white kid in the neighborhood, so I was automatically the odd man out, the minority, the weirdo, the dork, the dweeb, the honky. So just a lot of memories of, like, getting slapped in the face by guys and just having to take it because there's like, five guys There. And they'd be like, oh, look, you don't even fight back. And you're like, what am I going to do? Hit you? And then get beat up by these guys. So a lot of that stuff was big bummer growing up. Got robbed all the time. Lost a lot of bicycles. Had a bicycle taken from under me. That was pretty brutal. These kids pulled up, you know, they're like 17 and I was 13 and I had a face paint on. Like I had a not black face, but I was at a summer camp and I had a rainbow face painted on me. We were helping kids that day, so I let them put paint on me. And so now I'm riding home. What a mark. What a, what a goober I am. I'm riding home and these guys see me a mile away. I'm a sitting duck. And they go, we can take his bike. He's got a rainbow on his cheek. So they just go, hey, you know, like cut in front of you. They go, let me try your bike. I go, I'm good, I'm good. I knew what they wanted. And they go, let me try the bike. And then just pushed me and took the bike. So stuff like that was really shaping the insecurity, the self worth.

Did it? Because I've been mugged when I was younger too.

Really?

Yeah. Is it changes your view of human nature a little bit?

For sure. You go, I didn't know people could be this big. Mean is cool. Yeah. Inconsiderate. I'm, I'm always worried about it. Did I fart too much? Am I annoying? Am I pissing this guy off? But what a way to live. Just. I want the bike. I'm taking it.

His feelings for me that quickly turned into realizing that that's just a temporary phase that those folks are in. Like they, there's a. They have a capacity to be good.

Sure.

For some reason, for me, that was a motivation to see can we discover, can, can we incentivize them to find like a better path in life? Like I, I wasn't like all like, I don't know Gandhi about it, you know, of course I was pissed and all those kinds of things, but I don't know, it seemed like just the kind of thing you might do when you're younger.

You hope. But there's adult crime, obviously.

Yeah, I know, but. Yeah, exactly. And then it solidifies and then you're beyond saving at some point. But it's like there's always, there's always an opportunity to, to make a better life. For yourself, to become a better version of yourself.

Yeah. And I remember coming home crying with no bike. And my mom, she's. My parents are, like, liberal to a fault, you know, where they were like, oh, well, they need it. They're poor kids in the neighborhood. You're like, all right, but I. I also, like. I have a bicycle that I ride around, you know, And I also like to live in an area that's not just, you know, riddled with theft and vandalism, but they were just like, ah, they need it. And then it was a. It was a moot point. We just moved on. So I remember very young being like, all right, I gotta figure my shit out.

Okay. So you said you were beat up quite a bit, like bullying and stuff, pushed around.

I was never hospitalized or anything, but, you know, you get a black guy here and there and a bloody nose, stuff like that. And it was just the outnumbered thing. Violence didn't really bother me because you're just kids, you're boys. Yeah, but it was the predatory. Let's get them. You know, we can take him down. He's, you know, he's an easy target. That's what kills you. Yeah, the mental part.

Yeah. You know, until you actually said, I didn't realize I've been in. What do you call them, Scuffles. And there's just one that stands out to me where.

Yeah, let's hear it, fatty. Bring it on. And you do jiu jitsu and all that stuff, right? Yeah, I can see the guns through the suit. You're like John Wick.

All right, all right. Well, I used to have. Now you're gonna start making fun of me. I used to have long hair for. For like a couple years. I was in a band, playing music and stuff like that. And there was, like. Most of the fights I've been in were basically one on one, maybe a little bit, like a little extra stuff, but not outnumbered. And this one particular time, I've learned a lot of lessons, but one of them was I. There's a fight started between me and this other person, and then his buddies, I guess, were there, and they. As opposed to, like, breaking it up or letting it happen, one of them grabbed my hair. It's the first time anybody grabbed, like, used it. My hair in a fight, which I've since then realized that that's actually a really powerful grip and a powerful weapon.

Oh, very vulnerable of you.

And then my head got pulled back and they pulled me down to the ground like I couldn't do anything. I remember Being exceptionally frustrate.

Yes.

That was the feeling. Like, I can't do anything here. I'm, like, trapped. And then they were just, like, kicking me and hitting me and stuff like that. And the outnumbered part of it, because I always kind of remember the trapped part, because I just hated from a fighting, grappling perspective how like. Like, the feeling was, this isn't fair.

Yes. That's what it is. It's a deep, deep unfairness. Yeah. That you just can't. You can't win. The mob wins.

Yeah, the mob wins.

Scary stuff. And. But it makes. Makes a man out of you in a weird way that builds character. You realize life isn't fair early, and you. You go on from there. Yeah. So there's something there. And look at you today. They're probably, you know, eating out of a dumpster at a Krispy Kreme, and you're here. Got eight podcasts. Yeah. You're doing great. Talking to giant titans of the industry.

No, I. I do remember returning home that night. I mean, that you said you were crying. That's really formative. Like, oh, yeah. That's the point in which you get to decide, what do I make of this moment? I mean, especially when you're younger, maybe it's not presented to you that way, but, like, some of the greatest people in history were bullied in these kinds of ways, and they made something of themselves in this moment. Like, bullied by life in some kind of way. It's like an opportunity for growth. It's. It's weird, but, like, hardship, even in small doses, is like an opportunity for growth.

Totally. I mean, look at Richard Pryor. They say he's labeled as the best comedian of all time. Grew up in a whorehouse, watch his mom get plowed by these guys in. In the middle of Indiana, I want to say. And just. Who had a harder life? Who would suck dick for drugs? All this stuff growing up, beat up. And then the weird thing is, oops, sorry, that's my birth control alarm. And then the. The whole world is, like, trying to get rid of bullying, but we still do bullying, but now it's accepted bullying. It's very strange.

So you're. You're a proponent of beating kids up.

Yes. And sex with them.

All right.

But no, I just think it's part of life, and it's horrible. It is. It's like rain. You got to have it. Look, a rainy day is a bummer, you know, but you need it, and I think it's similar to that.

What was your relationship like with your. Your mom, your dad. What are some memorable moments with them? What did you learn from them?

Good parents giving thoughtful a little out to lunch. You know, they were workaholics, so there was. It was hard to get a lot out of them. And my dad was kind of an angry dad. I think he just had like a weird childhood, and he's just trying to make it and he's trying to provide, but it's hard. And we live in this horrible neighborhood and we're getting robbed all the time. So life was kind of coming down on him all the time. So then he'll take it out on you or whoever. He would snap. But great parents, they cared. They put us first. But there wasn't a lot of. How do you see the. You know, you ever go to a friend's house as a kid and there's like a picture of a ski trip, and you're like, ski trip? What the hell is that about? You know, it was a lot of that and smart, very smart people, but I don't know how well they were at socializing.

So you never, like, bonded with them, like in a deep human level, there.

Was some Bonnie, but rarely deep. Yeah, it was just you almost. Almost co worker. Hey, cold out, huh? What it's called out, huh?

Oh, yeah, like that kind of stuff. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Gotcha.

Get there a little bit. But it. My parents, and I hope they never say this, but they would do a thing where. My dad especially would do a thing where he would. He knew how to cut you down right to the bone. And so after a while, you're like, I'm not even interact with this guy because he. He can get you so. Well, one time we were at a. Like a Thanksgiving, some kind of family event, and all the cousins are there, and I remember I was holding court. I was a young boy finding my comedic legs in this weird tumultuous sea we call a family. And I was killing. And my dad comes out when he goes, what are you holding court? And I was like, ah. And I felt like I was this big. I just shrunk down. He just nailed it. Because in my head, I'm like, I'm holding court. Look at me. I got the whole room. And he goes, what are you. What are you holding court here? Like, who the hell do you think you are? And I was like, he's right. I shouldn't be holding Gord. Who the am I? I'm nobody. So stuff like that.

Was he aware of that?

You think he wasn't he wasn't. I don't think he was.

But you do you give parents a pass when they're unaware of the destructive. Like, is it better when they're unaware? Because it seems like that's the way.

That's true.

That's way. The way parents often fail is they're not intentionally malevolent, they're just like clueless.

Yeah, it's a bittersweet thing, is you're like, well, okay, he's not malicious, he's not trying to hurt me. But also he doesn't know he hurt me. I don't know, it's. It's tough because if he was trying to hurt you, I guess that would be worse.

So you're the fully baked Mark Norman cake at this point. What?

It's a shitty cake.

Do you.

Fruit salad.

You know the sense of self worth you mentioned? I think in your comedy there's a sense like you hate yourself.

You think? I didn't know if that came through. Shit. I was trying to hide that part. God damn it.

I mean, when you like in the privacy of your own mind, are you able to love yourself or is it mostly self hate?

Geez, what happened to this podcast? I didn't know I was on Mr. Or Dr. Phil.

Dr. Phil.

I thought we were going to talk about engineering and, and climate change and rockets.

We'll get there.

Okay.

Starts with love, goes to rockets.

All right, I like that. I like. That's a T shirt. I mean like, what's the question? Sorry. Do I feel love?

No. No.

Like myself?

Yeah. Yeah. So are you like this engine of being self critical, of just being constantly anxious about how the world perceives you, these kinds of things? Is this something that you just go to for, for comedy or is this who you are as a human being?

I think I, I don't want to explore it. I think I get around it. You know, I tap dance around it, but I get it out a little with my act maybe because I, I can't do it. I'm not doing it in real life. So I'll get out this. No love, not loving myself. I don't know. Who wants to love themselves? Everybody always like, you gotta love yourself. And then when you meet somebody who does love yourself, you're like, I fucking hate this guy. Don't you hate the guy who's upset? I'm great, I'm awesome. Life is good. Like, ah, this guy sucks. I'd rather an insecure guy. So maybe I want to stay insecure. Maybe I don't want to find this love for myself.

Well, okay, so self love, like just appreciating who you are or like appreciating the moment or being grateful doesn't have to express itself by the guy saying, I'm awesome.

True.

It's more just like humility. He's just like walking calmly through the world and just being grateful to be alive. That kind of thing. And just. And like, oh, being appreciative of all the accomplishments you made so far. I say all this because mostly I'm extremely self critical in everything I do.

Yeah.

And so. And I kind of enjoy it. I think it's a nice little engine that it makes it fun. It makes life fun. Because it's like if you hate everything you do, like you've done in the past, that gives you, like, all right, we can do better.

Yes. But that's the key is making itself critical. Always trying to get better. I could change this. I could tweak this. I can improve this. When you just go, I hate that I do this. I suck. You just shut down. So that's the key is, is always being productive with the, with the criticism.

Yeah. And the basics of life. I'm just like, grateful for it to be alive. That's nice to be a couple. Like, couple that with two legs.

Criticism again. The hairline, the hog, the muscles, the, the, the, the world. You got a good brain on you. I mean, you're, you're lucky you're in the top. You know, most people are fat, as at Burger King right now, hitting their kids.

Yeah.

You're in a Ramada Hotel sitting with, you know, a low level comedian.

For the record, I ate McDonald's last night.

All right, well, you're human.

Well, just so you know, this is not me defending. I'm not sponsored by McDonald's, but I mostly eat meat. And there's nothing wrong with the, the beef they have. It's actually one of the easiest ways late at night.

I don't know if it's actually, it's.

It's actually rats. Yeah, you're right.

But hey, it's just meat. I'm a meat guy myself. They say in 20 years we're going to look back and go, can you believe people ate meat? It's all because I'm like, slavery.

Yeah. There's some ethical difficult things with factory farming.

Yeah. So let's ride it out now while we still got it.

And now it's on record. Tom Waits says something about New York. You like Tom Waits?

I think he's underrated. I think he's got great, he's got a great, he's great at quips and quotes. Check him out on YouTube. He's got some montages and super cuts of him being hilarious.

What does he say about I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy?

That was the one, that was the one that sold me. I was like, this guy's awesome.

Yeah. But his music, because he's just a genius musician.

Yeah.

Anyway, he was talking about New York and I was walking around this. I'm in New York right now. We're in New York right now. It's still a magical city to me. A lot of people are quite cynical about it, about the state of things. But not, not like Michael Malice, like a lot of friends of mine. They're just a lot of folks. I mean San Francisco, New York, there's something about the pandemic where people have become quite cynical about the place they are and they tried to escape. It's interesting. I mean they're asking some difficult questions about where they are in life. They're having like a self imposed midlife crisis. It's good I think for everybody to go through this process, but I think, I hope New York reem. It will as the flourishing place for the weirdos. Anyway, the Tom Wade said New York of course is to be in endless surreal situations where a fifty thousand dollar gunmetal Mercedes pulls up in a puddle of blood and out steps a 25 karat blonde with a two dollar wristwatch. And he goes, he keeps going on. So like it's like, that's like bars.

He's like a rapper.

Yeah, yeah, he's good. But basically just the absurdity of it all. Lots of money, lots of weirdos, degenerates and dreamers and the whole, the whole mix of it. Do you think, do you think that's an accurate description of what New York is today? Like, is there still place for the weirdos and just the interesting artists, the, the edgy, the comedians, the, the creators, the, the, the, the entrepreneur is like. As opposed to like Wall street, as opposed to like rich folk and then like hopeless folk?

Yeah, I think it's definitely changed a lot. There's a, there's a tiny corner for us weirdo artists. New York used to be where you went to make it as a painter or whatever, a comedian or a singer. And there were all these dives and shit boxes and all these places you could go. And now there's a, now it's more pinkberries and subway sandwiches. And chase banks. So it's definitely lost a lot of its creative edge. It's just money. Money keeps coming in. And now you see all these comedians move to Nashville, Austin, Denver, whatever. So it doesn't have the power it used to have of like, you gotta be here if you want to make it. That's definitely gone. So that hurt the city a lot. The city is way more soulless. When I moved here in 07, I mean, not only did I get mugged three times in the first year, but it was a hub of, like, it felt like things were happening here. You know, it was. It was an energy. There was electricity, and we still have the electricity. But it's also maybe just because it's Times Square, there's SoHo, there's Wall street, so we got the staples, but there is a little bit of that. It's almost like a marriage. Like, yeah, we're in love, but it's not as passionate as it once was. That's how I would equate New York.

What gives you hope? You're pretty hopeful about it, though.

I'm hopeful just because I know it's magical. And I. And I think it has to be. I mean, it's the epicenter of America. Like, this is where the immigrants came, and this is where the stock market is and the entertainment industry. A lot of it is here. So I think it. It's. It's gonna happen, but it. Something like the bottom has to fall out, and then people have to move back here and all that. So something. The corporations are kind of fucking us. They're just buying everything.

Well, that's true for everything. It's true for Austin probably as well. People are just buying out land and all that kind of stuff.

You always hear a Hemingway and Dali, and all these guys went to Paris in the 20s or whatever that was. Yeah, I get it now. I feel like, why these guys go to Paris, you know, why do these artists. And now I get it because it's like, it's freer there. That's why Austin became like that Paris, where everybody's like, I got to get out of la. I'm going there. And maybe. But we came back from that, you know, the 70s were wild and 90s were cool. So maybe it'll come back. I just take a decade.

Well, there's always. That's how stories are told. There's always pockets of, like, Paris within New York, right?

True, true.

There's just an opportunity to let your weird flourish is there in New York, I'm sure there I Mean.

It'S there. You got to find it. Before, it was front and center.

What's your favorite thing about New York? Like what. What kind of things? Just, like.

I mean, how long is this pod? I could go on. It's just. It's too much to. To put into one hour. We've got other questions. But I love that one neighborhood is wildly different than the next. I'm in Little Italy. And then you take four steps. Now I'm in Chinatown. I mean, and then the history there, and then the stories and the food and the culture and all that. And then you go 10ft over here. Now you're in Brooklyn, and this is insane as a whole nother world. And it's. It's almost like a little America in one, you know, city. And it's great. And just the fact that they pulled it off, like, Fifth Avenue goes way up, and you're like, there's a billionaire's house next to a hobo. And then this is a black guy who's. Who's fighting with a Cuban guy, and an Asian guy's trying to get in the middle of him and the cabbies from the Middle east. And there's so many beautiful women here, and there's so many brilliant minds here, and. And the pace is great. It keeps people moving. I mean, it just. You can't beat it. And the city will. You in the ass, too. Don't get me wrong. You land at jfk and you're like, oh, God, I got mugged. My. My Uber driver called me a homo. I stepped in. In human shit. Where the fuck am I? So, yeah, it's. It's bad news. But that bad news, it's almost like the bullying. It kills you in a weird way, but it makes you stronger and you build more layers and layers and layers. That's why some new guy, some hayseed from Milwaukee shows up. You've been here 10 years, and you go, let me. Let me help you out. Because you're.

You.

You gotta adjust. You're gonna get your ass kicked for, like, six months. But I know the ropes a little, and I think you need a little. That if the treadmill's not on, you're not gonna run New York. The treadmill's on. So it just makes you run and it makes you better. And look, it wears on you. You probably lose 10 years of your life living in New York versus, you know, Indianapolis. But it's a. You know, it's a better life.

Have you seen 25th Hour?

Yeah. Spike Lee joint?

Yeah, Spike Lee Joy. I mean, at Norton there's a, there's a whole like monologue there about New York.

That's right.

They're talking about just. He has like a mix. There's like melancholy music, I think, or just a melancholy feel to the whole thing. But there's an anger and a disgust with the city. But through the anger and the disgust comes out like a love for the city. The same with was Taxi Driver in New York.

Oh, yeah, yeah.

So like that, there's something about. What is that, what is that, that grit of the city that like pushes you down?

Well, that's the beauty of the city is it's this tribal human nature. Like the sex shops and fist fights and racism and all tension, but yet it's the epicenter of technology and finance and sophistication on Fifth Avenue. So you get that juxtaposition. It's kind of like in Boston, you go to Boston, they got mit, they got Harvard, they got all this shit. And then they got the fishermen, the blue collar douchebags, the Irish guy, the immigrants, you know, and you get that mix of like insanely smart with wicked pissa and these, these two worlds. And that's, that's a good thing. It's like when a black guy, an Asian lady, that's a good looking kid, you get a mix. You know, we're mixing, two totally different things are coming together and it makes it. It's like peanut butter and chocolate.

Peanut butter and chocolate. I've never tried that.

What?

Peanut butter? Maybe I have.

Talking about Reese's, man.

Like Reese's. Yeah. And yeah, yeah, it's the best candy. Yeah. Without the fakeness of la, without the, without the kind of the facade.

Yeah. LA is tough.

What's the difference between LA comedy, New York comedy to you?

I think one place you kind of go to make it and be discovered and be loved. And one place you go, you can, you can get all that in New York too. But I think in New York it's more of a, A school, a boot camp of comedy. Let's make great comedy, let's make original comedy. Let's watch the other guys and gals who are at the show, at the clubs and learn from them and try to hang out with them and absorb some of them. And in la it's like, when am I on? I'm next. Get out of my way. I'm the star here. I'm a bigger star than you. Oh, this guy's actually a big star. I gotta outwork, you know, It's Just a lot of that. Instead of like, damn, that was funny. I gotta be that funny. Damn, I wish I had a joke. And look, I don't want to speak for LA comics because there's, you know, Bill Burr, Anthony Jeselnik, these brilliant LA comic, but they all cut their teeth in New York. Just saying. Then they moved to la.

It's a good point.

Ali Wong, all these people, killer comics. But New York, started New York, moved to New York.

There is something about comics that stay in New York for a long time though. Like Dave Vital.

Ah, you know about Dave.

Yeah, yeah. He wants to do this podcast.

He does, yeah.

I'm a huge fan of David, but it's like it. Almost like he doesn't want to make it. I don't know, I mean, you probably know him, but like, it feels like you just. Maybe it's romanticizing it, but you're like. You almost just love the art of comedy of like becoming funnier, crafting the jokes, becoming funnier than the other comics, like competing with each other kind of thing. Not over like money or fame or any of that.

Just.

Just purely the comedy of it.

Totally. That's Dave. That's him and a nut. He's like that guy in the movies, in the 80s action movies where they're like, they go up to a. A creek in Montana and some guy's living in a cabin and he's sharpening a stick and they go, the Russians are coming. They're invading. We need you. You're the best. Commando. And he's like, I gave that up, man. I'm done with that lifestyle. But you're the best. We need you. And he has to suit up eventually, you know, he looks at a picture of his dead wife and he goes, it. I'm going. And then they, you know, fight the Ruskis. But he's that guy. He just is gifted. He's like, got a gift from Allah and he's the best.

Yeah, A lot of comics give him props. It's always surprising to me. I didn't.

Because.

Surprising to me because he hasn't really made it like, big.

He did in the 90s. He was huge. He had his own TV show. He was.

Yeah, yeah, that show was. That show was awesome. But I mean, like, as big as I think he deserves to be, so I.

Well, that's art. The mainstream is always the worst.

The.

It's like McDonald's versus some hole in the wall. I know I'm on McDonald's again, but it's good. And you know, certain comics we can name are good, but the, the delicacy is going to be less talked about and less household namey than. Than the mainstream hacky.

Yeah, it's funny because he hasn't. I think he was on Joe Rogan show once maybe. Yeah, once or twice. And. And he was with somebody else.

Jeff Ross.

Yeah, he might, he might have been Jeff Ross. Oh, yeah, because they did that like two mics thing.

Mics. Yeah, yeah. But he's the quickest guy. There's no one funnier.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Him and you, you're super quick. Your appearance on. Recent appearance on Rogue One, Solaris.

Oh, thanks.

Just so fast. Year on with Ari and Shane Gillis. Shane Gillis.

Yeah. That was fun. We're going back in January.

Yeah.

I don't know when this comes out.

This has never come out.

Neither will you. We're having fun. Yep.

All right. So what does it feel like to bomb in stand up comedy? Like to fail, maybe the psychology of it first, like, just take me through it because we're talking about being outnumbered in a fight, just being beat up.

Very similar, by the way. This is like a no eye contact off.

Yeah.

You know, I like, we're both uncomfortable. Yeah, it's great. It's kind of nice to be with my people, but. Yeah.

Do you have paper to look at or.

I'm going, I got a good sweet spot right there.

Yes.

Yeah, it's. It's a nightmare, but it's part of it, you know, it's, it's, it's the, it's the validation too, is the worst part. Like, because, you know, whenever you do comedy and kill, you can be a great comic. But even David, tell these brilliant guys, they feel like they're getting. You feel like you're getting away with something. I don't have a day job. I'm telling jokes for a living. I'm talking about my dick up here. And they're loving me and they call me a genius and all this. I'm talking about my sack.

Yeah.

You know, and, and it's great. It makes people happy and it's funny. But that bombing, when you bomb, you go, Your first thought is like, yeah, you're right. At first you're like, you got what? You don't like this. And then you just start going in. You're like, yeah, maybe it isn't that good. Maybe they're right. I do suck. I knew I sucked. I should become a mailman, you know, and it stinks and it feel. You feel alone and you feel like you Wasted their time. And then you're like, what was I thinking? I could be a comedian.

What the.

Who am I? You know, Eddie Murphy? What am I doing here? So it's a lot of just spiraling out of horrible thoughts. But I also love that it hurts so bad. Bombing fucking hurts. Because now. Now everybody doesn't do it. I think a lot more people could do comedy probably, and figure it out, but the bombing is so brutal that it keeps. One time I went to Minneapolis, I was like, this is a great city. I mean, the sun is shining. Why isn't this city, like, packed? And they're like, because the winners are so bad. And we love it because it keeps everybody out. And I feel like the same about comedy. The bombs are so brutal. I've had bombs where I'm in the. I'm in bed. I'm just staring at the ceiling. Like, what the was that? Like, you have PTSD. I bombed at an arena once. 20, 000 people. I did 30 minutes to silence.

So it's not just like one joke fails. It's like, oh, yeah. They start piling on like, it's irrecoverable.

Yes. And one joke failing is very common. Like, a lot of audience don't even notice, like, that bomb, because you get, you know, you got so many jokes in a row, you can sandwich a good one, then a bad one, then a good one. But when you bomb, it's almost like they chose, we don't like you. Nothing you say will redeem yourself, and it's hard to get out of. It's like being pulled down by your hair. You can't get back. I can't win this fight no matter what.

Can you, like, get him back by acknowledging, like, the elf in the room.

That, like, that helps, but they're still gonna go, that was funny when he made fun of it. But he sucks.

He still sucks.

He still sucks. That's the worst part. You're going, no, this is good. You guys just don't like me. Just you don't like me doesn't mean I'm bad.

Yeah, I like going to open mics a lot. Just. Just listening. Because, first of all, I think the audience in open mic, at least the ones I've been to, is most, I guess, other comedians or, like, at least people who don't seem to want to laugh at anything. And so I just love it because it's human nature and perseverance at its best. That. Here's comedians, like, clearly this is mostly in Austin. They have a dream, like, why would you get up there?

Right? Like, maybe some weird, you know, New Year's resolution. But for the most part, it's people who want to be comedians.

Like, a lot of the open micrs are people who clearly have done this for quite a long time. Like at least a year or two, maybe five years. And they're often not very funny. And the just bombing in front of an audience of like 20, where they're just sitting there, like, almost like mocking them with their eyes or maybe. And I don't know. And they still push through. They still. They still like as if they're doing an arena and everybody's laughing.

Yeah.

Still. They still got that energy, trying to. Almost like to an audience that doesn't exist, like an audience of their dreams. Because I guess you have to do that to keep the energy of the act going. And it's just so beautiful to watch them try it. It's. And also the. What happens open mic? I don't know, five minutes. Whatever they do, they, you know, walk off and that. Walk back, you know, offstage, Nightmare. And, like, you can't. Who do they look at? Like, what do you look. Do you make eye contact with people? Do you.

You look at your phone, you look at your feet. You just zone out. You kind of. Kind of go white. You know, you just hear white noise and go out. It's. It's tough, but you gotta. You need a little. A little delusion to be a comedian to get into it. It takes a little bit of delusion. Like, you think you can do this. You know, you got 10 years ahead of you of hell, and you're up for this. And, you know, most comics, we see a horrible crowd and we see our friend Bomb and we go, yeah, he's bombing, but I'll get him. I'll get him. And then you don't get them. But that's. That's human nature, too, is like, I. They don't like him, but they'll like me. And you need a little of that to keep going as a comedian. But you don't want too much delusion because then you're a psycho, but you need a little.

Well, the psycho could be good for a comedy.

That's true, too. A lot of psychos.

I mentioned to you offline that I talked to Elon and we talked about doing stand up, that he's thinking maybe do a few minutes of stand up.

Say if you need a coach, Elon, I gotcha.

Well, maybe you should move to Austin to coach him full time.

Hopefully you can Fly me in.

So what. What advice would you give to somebody who, who wants to try to do five minutes? Like, the early steps of trying to go to an open mic and say something funny?

Well, that's the irony of comedy is. I don't know if it's irony, but it's like the beginning is the hardest part. Usually the beginning is the easy part. Hey, I'm playing this level of Mario. I start, I jump over one Koopa, Troopa, whatever. And then the end is like, jesus Christ, I got 30 guys coming at me. Comedy's the opposite. The beginning is like. It's a gauntlet. It's just obstacles. And it's like you said, open mics, you. I watch these famous comedians on Netflix, and you go, this would all bomb on an open mic. They're killing in, you know, Radio City. This would bomb in an open mic. That's the weird part. So it's almost. You have to go through hell just to get to the. The promised land. And I would say rehearse the shit out of it, because you're going to get frazzled up there. Everybody thinks, oh, this is good material. But you also forget about the other part of delivering it. Having confidence, being likable, having timing, having a cadence, figuring out who you are, figure out what the audience thinks you are or how they perceive you. Because you can go up there and say all this, but they go, why is the guy. He's clearly gay. Why is he acting like he's not gay? You know, that's all. Now they're not listening to the joke. So, like, you got to know how you look. And it's just repetition, repetition, and bombing is not failure. That's what you got to remember. I mean, look, if you. If you do a killer hour and then you take it to Netflix and bomb, you fucked up. But bombing is not failure. It's just data. It's going, oh, okay, I gotta re. Retool that. That didn't work. Something wrong there. I missed a word there. So you gotta treat the. The act almost like. Like, like ingredients in a. In a. In a cooking in a dish, you know, like, oh, that I put too many eggs in. Take an egg out. You gotta treat it like that. And look, when you pull a bad cake out of an oven, you go, I fucked up. But it doesn't hurt your feelings. But when you bomb and fuck up, it hurts your feelings. So you got to factor that into your feelings going to be hurt and just almost be a robot and just keep going towards that open mic. You know how scary an open mic is. Bombing sucks. But bombing in front of other comedians is way worse because they know what just happened and they could have saved you and they didn't, so it's way worse.

And they're going to be your quote, unquote friends for this journey.

Yeah. No, these are evil people. Twisted up people.

Can you tell, like, in those early days. Let's just talk about that, like, at the open mic level, that a joke is going to be good on paper. Like, I'll give you my experience because maybe you can be my coach in this particular moment.

So, like, Larry Nassar. That's fun, huh? Joking everybody.

I hope.

Nobody. All right, seriously, there's.

I now have an amazing team of folks who help me with editing, and they're now currently sweating.

You gotta leave that one in. That was quick.

Yeah, that's pretty good.

I'll eat that one.

That was good. All right. So, you know, going in front of an audience just even to give a lecture terrifies me, which I've done. But open mic, I mean, that, to me, perhaps that's why I like going to open mics and listening is because I just. It terrifies me so much, that idea.

Yeah.

Of going up there and bombing. I mean, it's scary. And to do even like one minute, to be honest, is scary. And five minutes. I'm also watched enough open mics to realize that five minutes is a long time. I mean, it depends on your comedy. But if you're doing fast stuff, five minutes is a really long time. Oh, it's eternity, I guess, with a long story, too, is a long time. Because if the story is not work, you're building up to something. If the story is gonna fail, you just spent all that time telling the story that completely went flat. Completely nothing. I guess if you have a series of jokes, you can at least try to recover and, like, do the Mitch Hedberg thing where, like, all right, I'll cross that off.

Yeah. Yeah.

Well, I'm able to, like, I've tried to write a few things, and I'm able to tell that it's really bad.

Well, that's better than most. Most people's egos kick in and go, no, this is good.

Now, see, I'm able to introspect that. Like, it seems funny. I mean, I guess the thing I'm looking for is original. Like, there's easy stuff that you think it's funny. But to me, originality is the thing you should be looking for because then. Because then that's what's Actually becomes funny, like. Or rather, if it's original, even if it bombs, that feels like more a beautiful art creation that you did. Like, at least you swung for it. Like, you did something unique. Because even with open mic, your first five minutes, there's so many. Just go to enough open mics, you'll hear, like, all the. There's, like, a list of jokes that you just go to. First of all, you can make fun of the fact that you're at an open mic, that you're, like, doing this the first time, and so on. You could do a lot of stuff where you make fun of your appearance in some way and so on, but, like, yeah, you could do that. You know, that takes actually. That's way harder than people realize. To do it in an original way.

Yes.

To present who you are as a person very quickly enough to then put that person down in front of everybody else. So you have to reveal the audience.

Is like that because they go, he knows what we're thinking.

Yeah, exactly. But do it again in an original way. And so, like, when I'm trying to write stuff, not that I've tried long, it's like 30 minutes, but as. Enough to see, like, oh, the. To write something original is really difficult.

It is. What do you got a bit. Anything?

No.

You didn't write any one line or anything for this?

No.

Well, just in general. Ever in your life, ever written a joke?

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Oh, okay.

No, but I don't have anything in my mind popped up. So the. The. The jokes that I've written have more. Like, for some reason, my mind goes to, like, dark places. So, you know, like. And not actually dark in the Mark Norman dark. Because you go really dark to where it's, like, almost absurd.

Yes.

My natural inclination is to go to, like, a dark historical, like, place. Like Hitler and Stalin.

Yeah.

And almost. So go to that place and then talk about something absurd there. So, like, don't go, like. Like all the way. I don't know. I don't want to give examples because it'll be clipped. But the. But the Mark Norman style, look it up. He has a special on his YouTube that kind. I. I want to almost explore the dark aspects of human nature more kind of connected to actual historical figures. That's the. That's the inclination. Like, I don't know, Nature's Metal, the Instagram channel that. That explores, like, the darkness of nature. Like, something there that.

See, that's good that you already know that you've kind of gotten to the Core of your comedy already. And that's interesting. That's a step ahead.

Yeah. I can hear. I mean, with most things that I do in life, I can like, hear the music from a distance, like in myself. Like, okay, if you have anything, this is the direction it'll be without actually knowing exactly all the steps. And that's a nice motivation to be like, all right, well, if you do this for a long time, maybe you'll have a chance to get there.

Right.

But you have to. That. That's where the. It's a feature to be super self critical, I think.

Yes.

But then that's why it's fucking terrifying to walk up to a stage, stand there and probably forget everything.

Yeah, that's the other part nobody thinks about. Just goes right out of your head. You go fight or flight. It's ugly. My first years were horrific. Bombing, Horrific. Stammering, horrific. Not remembering the punchline. Like, you got. Maybe you got a setup going and they're kind of on board and you're like, ah, how's that? I can't. I camera how it goes. And you just hate yourself. It's. It's a nightmare. But you've already kind of. Maybe if you haven't done stand up or whatever, but you kind of know your voice and that's. Yeah, that's pretty advanced.

So you're not trying to be somebody else, I guess.

Yeah.

Just for having done like podcasts and lectures.

That helps.

You've. I've embarrassed. I've already done some of the work of the standups do, which is embarrass yourself in front of others for prolonged periods of time.

Yes.

Yeah. So I've done that without actually developing the funny.

Right, right.

But maybe the funny just is not that difficult to develop. No, it's super difficult, of course. But I mean, maybe the essential work of a standup comedian is just the embarrassment of, like finding who you are.

Yeah, that's a part of it for sure. You know, in the beginning, you're like, water bottle. What's funny about water bottle? I'm a funny guy. I can make this funny. But that ain't. That's not it. You know, it's. It's your shit. Your shit. Like your dark stuff. For me, I tend to gravitate towards dark, but in a weird way where, you know, people will say like, hey, don't objectify women. But then they go, caitlyn Jenner's beautiful. And you're like, well, wait, I know something's off here. Why can you objectify her? But not the supermodel. So what's going on there? And I like to play with that. So I have this joke where I say, caitlyn Jenner. Oh, oh, women go, caitlyn Jenner is beautiful, beautiful woman. I go, well, you look like her. And they go, fuck you. And you're like, there's a lot of truth there. But I like exploring that kind of. Oh, you're trying to get one over on me or you're lying to yourself or what are we doing here? And I like, I like that kind of comedy. I don't see color. Well, I'm black. No, you're not. Ah, you know, that's fun because you're, you're lying.

Yeah. Okay. So like big time comedians such as yourself don't like to think of yourself in this way.

But here we go.

Yeah, this is like where you over philosophize comedy.

But yeah, definitely.

It seems like comedians don't say important.

Nothing worse than a comedian who thinks they're important.

Yeah. So I was going, I was trying to find, as I was trying to say these words every realize how cliche it is and how uninteresting it is. So I'm going to just. But there is something.

I'm worried this whole thing is uninteresting. I'm like, who cares about comedy? There's like six comics on the planet that nobody cares. Okay. This is, I trust you in the, in the pilot seat. You know what you're doing. You got, you got listeners.

They've tuned out long ago.

Get Dan Carlin on here, huh? Is he around?

Yeah, we just going back and forth on Twitter just now as I'm a huge fan. He was on here before. He'll be back.

Great.

I've been actually really trying to volunteer myself aggressively with Dan Carlin for, for like a Russian episode where I speak Russian. I. There, there's, there's certain documents same. I talk with Jocko about this too. Certain things. I mean, I just love the challenge of bringing Russian documents that I can read in Russian and it can translate and can try to capture the, the depth of the writing in, in the Russian language and communicate to an American audience. So much is lost in translation. Like, there's so much pain and poetry in the Russian language. It's just connected to the culture. Every language, not every language, but many languages are uniquely able to capture the culture of the people. I mean, in some way they're the representation of the culture of the people. And so Russian is definitely that like represents the full history and culture of the 20th century, with all the atrocities, all the. All the broken promises, all those kinds of things.

Norm says Russian literature is. It's the most tapped into human existence than anything else. Norm McDonald.

Yeah.

Big, big Russian literature guy. Dostoevsky, all that.

It's funny that there is a gap of comedians too. There's a culture of Russian comedy, like stand up comedians that are totally. Yeah, yeah.

I don't know these Russians.

I mean, I don't know today. I mean, more from the 80s and 90s. And so there's a Yakov.

That's all I know.

That's not so. There's like. Of course that's. That's.

I've never seen you that offended.

No, no, no, it's not offend. There's a different. There's. There's a. There's like the Kinison and the. There's the edgy.

Is that Russian? What.

What do you mean?

Wait, I thought you said there was Russian comics.

Yeah, Russian. I mean, I'm comparing. I'm. I'm giving you. I'm giving you like a style of darkness. Like, that's the kind that people. That kind of challenge, they give. Again, this is to how important comedians are, is they give a voice to people where in the Soviet Union you really can't, like, express your opposition to the government. And so comedians are exceptionally important there for just, just, I don't know, channeling the anger. Even when sometimes it's not the actual opposition to the government, they're just channeling the anger, the frustration with the absurdity of life. Like, you know, when there's a shortage of food, shortage of jobs, the. The. The absurdity of the bureaucracy, like the top heavy government, just all of that can only sometimes be expressed with like, dark, absurd humor. And that actually why there's a culture of that kind of humor. You know, you gather on the table with vodka.

Yeah.

And all you can do is just talk shit.

Yeah. And just be offensive. Say horrible ball bust. I mean, school. I make school shooting jokes. And people go, how do you do that? I'm like, well, maybe that's how I deal with it.

Yeah.

You know, like, how come I gotta. I gotta empathize the way you do? Maybe we're different.

All right, so now let's skip the whole open mic thing and crafting jokes.

Oh, that's tough.

Kerouac said, one day I will find the right words and they will be simple. When do you know the joke is done? It's perfect. You're somebody that does, like, really sharp like, fast jokes.

Wow, thanks.

So, like, there's somebody. I don't know. I don't know who you see yourself in the same school as, like, had. You're. You're. You're darker and faster than Hedberg. I think, in terms of, like, just. I don't know, the turns you take are very.

Hey, thanks. I appreciate it. I think I got some Norm MacDonald. And maybe that's right, you know, obviously Norm. But Chris Rock was huge for me. Chris Old, like, 90s. Chris Rock was like, I didn't know you could do jokes like that. I always loved George Carlin and Groucho Marx and Bill Murray. There's so many different types of comedy, but when I saw the bigger and blacker bring the pain, I was like, oh, my God, this, like, it hit me. So that was big. And then Norm's just, like, the funniest guy on the planet. So him. Him being the smartest guy in the room, but acting dumb was great. So, yeah. Chris Rock has that way of cutting to the. The bullshit, which I mentioned earlier. I like that cutting through the bullshit kind of style of comedy, because you kind of go, oh, I'm not crazy. That's what I thought, too. I was too scared to say it, but I thought that. And he's saying it in a room of. People are laughing. Maybe I'm not an idiot. So that helped me.

So it's observational, but not Jerry Seinfeld observational. It's like, look, going to the darker thing.

Yeah.

Like within society.

But I like him too, but seeing it, doing it about stuff like in your life, Society.

Yeah. Race, gender, government.

Yes.

Politics. All that kind of stuff.

Exactly. Sex, human emotions, jealousy, whatever it is. That. That's the good stuff.

How'd you feel when Norm passed away?

Ah, that was a bummer because he was, you know, what, 61. And I just didn't see it coming. And I just. I've watched so many hours of his stuff, and I've met him, and he's like. He was like this comedic bar, like, hey, we got Norm. You know, there's so much shit comedy. Then you see Norm and you're like, this is next level. This is savant type shit. And then to lose him is like, Norm had 20 more years at least of just content and content and thoughts and his point of view, and that's. We'll never get that. And that sucks.

Yeah. There is something about artists like Jimi Hendrix dying.

Yeah.

Too early. It's like, you wonder what was next. Yeah. What was next? But then Part of it is like, you know, it all ends for all of us. And it's like walking away early is. It's kind of admirable. It's almost like I did a pretty good job. Yeah, I'm good with that. Especially the way he did, which is not telling anybody.

I know. Nine years, his best friends didn't even know. And in this world of, like, victimhood and I need clicks and I need people to love me, he could have. He got, you know, canceled and yelled at, in trouble, and he could have pulled that cancer card, and he never did. I mean, the integrity on this.

Did you get a chance to interact with him? Like, what. How. How often did you meet him?

I met him once at the Comedy Cellar, and we chatted for five minutes, and then he went on and did the. The Letterman set that he did. He was running the Letterman set and. Sweet guy, nice guy. Didn't know him that well, but, I mean, he's just brilliant. And I also love a brilliant guy who does stupid stuff. That's a fun, fun little combo there. Like silly guys who are actually brilliant also, you know, like, Louis CK Is a brilliant comic, and he'll do a joke about farting on a kid, and you're like, that's great that he still finds farts funny. And he's also this comedic genius guy. I like that.

It doesn't really acknowledge the genius.

Yeah, that's.

Yeah. I like. I like smart people. They're silly.

Yes. That's a good combo. Like you said, Elon is silly.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's great. Yeah, because we. We taught. We teach kids, like, hey, put that down. Stop that. Quit cutting up. Quit horsing around. But maybe that's some kind of sign of brilliance there.

Yeah. Being, like, childlike and silly is a kind of wisdom. I feel like those people are way wiser than the people that, no offense to me, wear a suit and take themselves way too seriously.

No, but you got a spark in you a little here. You got a little. What's the word? Not elf. Imp. Little imp in you. Give that a go. You know what? Imp.

Yeah.

Mischievous. It's like a little.

Is that a Tolkien character? Imp. Yeah. An EMP is European mythological being similar to a fairy or a demon. You call me a fairy frequently? No. Okay. Similar to a fairy or a demon. I feel like that's a big leap.

Big leap. Yeah. That's not a great info bio there.

Frequently described in folklore and superstition, the word may perhaps derive from the term imp spelled with a Y, used to denote a young grafted tree.

Oh, it's a little mischievous. You got a twinkle. You're this serious buttoned up guy. But this is a twinkle.

There's a twinkle. Wow.

And the audience can see the twinkle. And that's why you resonate, I think. I'm sorry.

Deep analysis by Mark Norman. Psychological analysis. Okay. But then back to the crafting of the joke. You said Chris Rock, Norm MacDonald, like, what for you. How do you know when the joke is, like, done? Are there some jokes when you're, like, are proud of, like, wow, that, that's. That's well done.

Yeah, yeah, the joke is done. It's a tough question because there's so many different kinds of jokes. There's what we call a chunk, which is a big idea with a bunch of jokes in the middle of it and then a big crescendo at the end. Or there's a one liner or there's a tag of a joke that's also a joke. So the jokes come in different. Like, I have a joke where I say, I met my girl in that Jewish app. What's that Jewish app called? PayPal.

Nice.

That's the hell. That's the reaction you want from the. The crowd. But it's a fun turn because you say your thing and then I hit you with a misdirect. And that's a joke. Is a joke is basically me saying something that makes sense but you didn't see it coming. Yeah. And that's a perfect example of that. So that joke took forever to figure out, by the way, you know, and.

You have to go to different services like PayPal. What's funniest?

Exactly. And I figured PayPal is funny because it has the word pay in it.

Yeah.

You know, Venmo. It's also not really a good word. Venmo. PayPal. It just hits better.

Yeah. PayPal is funnier somehow.

It's funnier about. And that's the beauty of comedy. There's a weird little magic into it. You can get technical all day and formulaic, but there's still that little bit of fairy dust that you don't know why this is funnier.

Or imp dust.

Imp dust, yes, the why.

Okay.

So you know, a joke is done when it kills, and it is a roundness to a joke when you feel like this is buttoned up, this is done here.

Is simplicity the right word there?

Yeah.

Is it like you're chopping stuff away or you're adding stuff? Like, what does it feel like?

Simplicity is always the best angle. I mean, you can get real high concept with a joke and still make it work. But the simpler, the better. I saw Dave Chappelle on stage once, and Chris Rock and Demetri Martin were in the back watching in awe. And Dave Chappelle, I can't remember the joke, but he said something about sex or women. And Demetri Martin goes, it's a little easy. And Chris Rock goes, that's why it's good. And I remember hearing that as some young comic like, ah, I'm getting this, like, you know, comedy lesson right here for these two titans. And so that was fun. Simple is key.

So the easy is okay. That's such a weird. I. I think I remember reading or hearing Eminem say something about maybe the song Some Shade, one of the songs. He's like, I knew it was going to be good because it got like, really repetitive and annoying very quickly. I mean, that's the. The sort of. The music equival. It's too easy. Like, if it's like super catchy as a musician, you might get very quickly bored of it or like, as you're creating it. No, it's too. It's too easy. It's like there needs to be some more complexity to it.

But I like complexity. But the best guys who are the ones who make complex shit look simple. Like, you ever heard that Ben Franklin story where he's talking to his friend. His friend's like, I'm gonna start a hat store. So he puts a sign out, says, hats for sale, $12. And. And Ben Franklin looks at it, goes, well, you don't need the $12, because, you know, all they need to know is that you got hats for sale. He's like, all right. So he loses the $12, makes a new sign, hats for sale. And he goes, you know, you don't really need for sale because it's a business. People can put that together. So he just goes, all right. He makes a new sign. It says hats. And then Ben Franklin's like, you know, you don't really need the word hat. You can just put a picture of a hat. And he made a new sign, which is a picture of a hat, and like, helped the business or something. That's like some old wives tale or whatever. But I think about that all the time when I'm writing.

I thought this was going to, like, there was no sign. It went like, super.

Like, maybe that could work too.

What? Like, as a comedian. So I'm a fan of yours. I enjoy. I really enjoy you in conversations like, wow.

Because you're now getting nothing out of it.

This is.

All right. I can't.

Oh, like emotion.

You're tough not to read.

Cold inside. I mean, just the quickness you have. Obviously you're also a great stand up comedian. What's your favorite medium to shine in? So you have a podcast yourself. An excellent podcast.

Thanks.

You're often a podcast guest.

Yeah.

Which is always fun to listen to. How you're going to deal with the different people. You're great on Rogan.

Oh, thanks.

What, what do you enjoy?

Most podcasts are great because you can, you can stretch out a little more, you can breathe a little, you know, with a stand up set. I like to be like, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. But podcasts are great because it's conversational. So you can be. It's almost like you're being funny with your friends. Whereas the stage is like a. This is a piece, this is a presentation. But I think the, the podcast is great. But you don't get the reaction unless the host is laughing. You can't hear the guy in his car in New Jersey driving to work on Ah every now. And I'll read a comment like, I spit out my coffee when you said this and I'm like, but it's not immediate. You want the immediate. So stand up will always be number one. But there's no better feeling than killing in a room of people who don't know who you are. Strangers. You're in the middle of nowhere. You left your wife at home, you left your kids, you left your house. You're in the middle of bum dick ville and murdering for these hillbilly nobody, whatever it is. And they're slinging their beers and cheering you on and they carry out and you some fat lady and you leave and you get back to your hotel and you go, holy, what was that? No one will ever know about it. Just lost in the ether. That's the best feeling.

Yeah.

Killing an obscurity, as Bill Burr would say. Yeah.

This is one of the things that sucks about giving lectures like at universities or giving lectures in general is when you look at the audience, you know, several hundred students, they're all have a bored look on their face.

Yeah.

Of course, like even like my, my face now probably looks bored, but I'm actually excited to be talking to you. But there's something about just. There's something about a comedy club. Maybe this. The contagion of laughter. But like it gives people the freedom to just laugh. To like. Yes. To remove that facade of like, you don't have to, you don't have to pretend like you don't care. Like if you care, you can show it and yeah, have fun with it a lot. Probably liquor is helpful too.

Yeah, it helps for sure. But there is a especially. And that's why comedy, I think, is so popular right now, because HR is up our ass. We're scared of old tweets that might come back to haunt us. What did I say on that interview? Even people at offices are like, I put something on Facebook in 1999 that was about fat tits that I liked. Should I get rid of that? Even people say, like, there's no cancel. Whatever. There is something in the air right now that wasn't there before. Yeah, it's the video. I'm a Karen. I got caught at Trader Joe. Whatever it is this people rat on each other. Now everybody's tattletailing because they want the clicks. It's a horrible society we've crafted, but stand up comedy gets you to come out. And now people do it at stand up shows too, sadly. But it gets you to come out and let that inhibition down. Like, because we're all human, we've all had the up thoughts, like, man, that guy's fat as. You don't mean you hate the guy. Doesn't mean you hate fat people. Doesn't mean you're fat. Shaming. But you can't say that at the office. You can't go, bob, you're fat as. You'll get fired for body shaming. But at the club you go, that guy's fat as the crowd goes. He is fat as. It's this weird cathartic thing because all we do is tamp down. It's kind of like, you ever meet a girl who's like all prim and proper in the bedroom, she's like, put a lamp up my ass. Ah, you know, whatever it is, it's cuz we got to get it out. We're all repressed in some way.

So I guess what you're saying is comedy is important.

Yes. Call back.

All right.

Well played, sir.

Yeah. What do you think about Austin? What do you think about the comedy scene? Also talk about LA and New York. What do you think about what Joe's trying to create there? So I, I, I should say that the reason I moved to Austin, I have this dream of it wouldn't be funny if I said this dream of becoming a comedian.

Oh, God. An audience at least.

Yeah, that's true. You know, I always said you can hear the Music in the distance I, you know, I have this dream around robotics and artificial intelligence. Whether it's a company, whether it's something else that was just pulling me to do. I actually wanted to move to San Francisco, and then all my friends in San Francisco said, no, it's the wrong place.

Yeah.

To. To. It's. No, it's. At this time, the. The cynicism there is just not conducive to, like, taking big leaps into the unknown, excited about the future kind of thing. And. And Austin was that with. For me, in particular, with Elon Musk, but also just the energy that everybody had, including Joe, the excitement about the future.

I don't.

I don't care if Austin burns to the ground and it actually is a complete failure. Being excited about the future seems to be, like. Optimism about the future seems to be the thing that actually makes that future happen, makes a great future happen. So it's always cool for me to see, like, Joe super excited about creating, like, a culture in Austin, like a. Making it a comedy hub. Like.

Yeah.

I don't want to overstate it, but he. I mean, I think he really believes it'll be a very big place for comedy.

Yeah.

In the United States, in general. In the world. And so just even believing that, that's powerful. Like, you start to make it. You start to make it happen. That energy is there anyway, so. But that's, for me, from just an outsider watching the fun of. I should also mention for less of an outsider, more insider in the martial arts world, partially probably because of Joe, I'm not sure. Like, John Donahar, Gordon Ryan, the B team, all those folks, those are. That might be gibberish to you, but those are, like, some of the greatest grapplers and martial artists of all time. So it's also becoming this hub of martial arts. So the whole. The whole thing is just beautiful. Anyway, what. What are your thoughts about that scene?

Well, there's a lot. Lot here. A lot of things to mention. One, I think Joe did do that to a degree. You know, like, all these people. Segura lives there now. A lot of comics live there. He's opening clubs. Other clubs are opening. I think it's happening. That's. The other thing is people go, everybody's moving to Austin. Austin's the new hub. And then they look at their watch and they go, five minutes went by. Nothing changed. It's going to take years, you know, but everybody wants it now. Now. Now what? Awesome. There's no industry there, you know, there's no Netflix Whatever. And you're like, yeah, I know, but it. It needs a minute. You can't just do this overnight. So people forget that. So it could happen. Huge. Just give it some time. I mean, he's opening a club. I went and saw it. It's incredible. Like, it's so perfect for comedy. It's every detail. It's incredible. But so it could happen still, I do think where there's a little biting off more than they can chew with Austin, because it's not that big.

So, like, it's spread out. I mean, yeah, it's not big and the infrastructure is not quite there to support it, but it has a lot of, you know, I'm comparing for my. From the tech side for it has a lot of land to expand into. So it might become. This helps. Like, you're basically establishing. It's kind of like in New York, you're establishing these whole neighborhoods.

Yeah.

And you have the freedom to do. Do that because there's a lot of space on all sides.

Yes. Okay. So that helps. So again, maybe some time. I do agree with this. That new hope that's kind of built into human beings of like, let's go to America, let's go to Utopia. We even have it with space. Let's go to Mars. We got to see what's over there. And it's just red, dusty. But you still gotta go. So I'm with you on that about this new hope, this new land, and I think that is beautiful. And I think there's a lot of haters and there's a lot of naysayers who hate change, who hate anything new. And then I think, you got to go, hey, that hurts. That sucks. But blow me, dickless. I'm trying something. You're a loser. Stop hating on me. I mean, how many people hate Elon Musk, you know?

Yeah, it's hilarious. I mean, there's some of the criticism on Austin would be. It's like a fad. Like, a lot of people are really. People are excited about Austin and somehow that's like. It's like when Green Day became famous, you no longer want to be a fan of Green Day. But to me, like, this, Austin was.

Already a cool town. Like, every comic five years ago was like, oh, I got Austin this weekend. I can't wait. So it already had a buzz, but some people think maybe the buzz was the cool part. The fact that it was like this off the beaten path city and now I get to visit it and then leave. But I think it could still be this comedy tech booming place, it just will take some time and people want it right now.

Well, on the tech side, it's, it's already there. It's, it's, it's getting there very fast. So, I mean, Elon's really pushing that with the factory. It's just a huge number of people are moving there with jobs like you're already starting. And then the opportunities to launch new companies is just incredible. I guess it's not right now. It's like within months, within a year, that kind of thing. But like it's an opportunity to just start to build shit in a new place. And it's cool. It's kind of like, you know, going to Mars. It's like you get to start over.

Yeah. And I like the hope aspect. I think that's huge for people and I'm all for it. I hope it works out. I don't know if it will, but I don't know anything about economies and city. Cities SC planning and all that, so it might be too early to say, but I hope it works.

Are you still talking about Austin or Mars?

Austin. Mars is. There's nothing there. There's no vagina there. There's no food there. There's no water there. I don't know, it seems I get space travel. I think it's important, but I, I don't know. Mars is really going to move the needle.

So what are your thoughts about elon Musk and SpaceX and launching rockets into space?

I think it good because you could say, hey, we could just feed everybody. And I was like, yeah, that's true. By the way, these guys give a ton of money to like philanthropy that nobody cares about, by the way. You know, it's weird. Like he could feed Nigeria and with pocket change of his and you're like, well, maybe he has, you know, like, I heard Bill Gates gave back so much money, he saved 6 million lives. Yeah, but that's a reverse holocaust, by the way. That's pretty good. What have you done? You're a barista. So, you know, I just think, I think space travel is good because you learn about the place you're living in from going to space. It kind of helps you learn about this more. You could say, what's the point of going this other there? But it does help, I think.

Yeah. Doing difficult things in the engineering space seems to be a way to develop like as a, as almost like an accident, as a side effect of doing a really difficult thing in a team of brilliant people. You develop things like The Internet. And you could argue that the Internet maybe is not so good for society. No, I'm just kidding.

That's good and bad. Yeah, but, but it's like a pull up. You're trying to get your bicep going. But hey, but before you know, you got decent forearms. But you weren't working on the forearms you wanted to buy, but you got the four. And I think that's kind of what space travel is.

I like how this like pivoted into to a workout routine advice.

I'm trying to get an analogy going here.

All right, they worked pretty well.

I'll take it.

All right, what are your thoughts about? Since I'm a robotics person, I'd be curious to see, like what do you think about the space at all? About first of all, autonomous vehicles with Tesla Autopilot and Waymo self driving car. I'm not sure if you're familiar with all the autonomous vehicles and so on. So those are robots on wheels. And then there's also legged robots. So next time here in Austin, you get to meet some of the legged robots I've been working on. And I, I find those kind of a fascinating way to explore the nature of intelligence in our computers, but also explore our own intelligence and also explore our own, like what makes us connect to other living beings, whether it's dogs, cats or other humans. Like there's some magic there that's beyond just intelligence. And I like when I have the robot dog, there's some aspect to it that I don't know, brings me joy in a way that a dog does, in a way that a good friend does. Yeah, that's interesting. And I'm not sure if that's some kind of anthropomorphism like where I'm projecting.

Right.

My hopes for this, what this thing is. But maybe a little that, but it's kind of built in. I mean, it's just a source of joy. Maybe it, it's connected to the fact that there's just like a loneliness within all of us, within me. And it's just nice to have other things in your life that move, that recognize you, that kind of thing. I mean, I suppose it's nice to even just have a plant.

Yeah, it is. Plant goes a long way. You see a guy with plants in his apartment, it changes the apartment because they're alive. You got to water them, you got to put sun on them. So yeah, I think there's something there. And I think you can see people's reactions when you show them advanced technology. Like these dog robots or these robots that dance and shit. People are like, what the fuck? Like it hits home in some way, whether it's fear or you want to fuck them, clearly, whatever it is. But it does connect with you in some way. So I'm with you and I think this is why I don't think robots will take over. You always say that. Robot. They're making them too advanced. They're going to wipe us out. Blah, blah, blah stuff. If robots get at human emotions, that is scary because they could. They could get mad at us and kill us. And they're stronger. They don't need sleep, they don't need food, they don't need water. They don't get jealous. They don't, you know. But if they have emotions, then I think we can dominate them. Because who's had emotion? Who knows emotions better than us? We've got thousands of years of evolutionary emotional. We can go, hey, robot, I heard you your wife that Black and Decker, huh? They're gonna crumble. We can bully them emotionally.

Manipulate robots.

Yes. That's when we'll win. Right now they could kill us. They could just. We'd all die. Then we shoot them back. Bing, bing, bing, bing. That's no good. But if they do get emotions, then we can go, hey, you look like hell. What is that, a rusty bolt? Hey, you're dropping some oil there, you know, you loser. I think we can win if we. If they do get emotions, this.

This goes back to your father being able to undercut you with a single word.

You're right.

Yeah. So we're the creators of the robots. And then the robots will just. You would say the exact thing.

Yeah.

Where the robot would be like that son of a bitch, and then he goes back to his hole and just sits there miserable.

Right? Yeah. Hardware looks more like software to me. You can't get it up, yada, yada, yada.

Yeah.

But I'm not worried about robots. And I think self. What do you think about the self driving cars? Is that just wiping out the horse and buggy? Isn't that just progression of technology?

Yeah. So I don't know if you've driven in a Tesla, for example.

I have. I wrote in the. The passenger.

I drive it. Yeah. There's several stages in that. I think it's. The problem is way harder than people realize. And for quite a while. It'll just make driving more pleasant. It'll make it less stressful. It'll take over some of the boring bits for you. It'll make it Easier. Like, there's something that happens actually when the car is driving for you in the following way. Like, it's. It's staying in the lane. It's keeping distance to the car in front of you. Maybe it's changing lanes. It allows you to relax a little bit. Like, yes, you become. You still have to be alert, but you become like a passenger, and you get to, like, take in the world. I mean, somehow that's more relaxing without making you necessarily, like, bored more. It's energized you more. So I just think it makes the driving experience more pleasant. But when you actually fully automate cars, when you can just completely tune out and start reading a book or go to sleep, that might change society, like, in ways we don't even understand. Because you'll have. I mean, it'll probably change the nature of roads because the cars. Because now you can be super productive. And so it no longer quite matters to you as much how long it takes to get from point A to point B, because you're not wasting that time. You just continue working.

Yeah.

It's like public transit that comes to you.

Exactly.

And so there will be maybe less roads and bigger roads, and it will just change the nature of how we get from point A to point B.

I think you're right.

But then couple that also with the fact that we seem to be more and more comfortable existing in the digital world.

Yeah.

So maybe we won't want to go outside more and more. We will just interact with each other virtually. And I don't mean zoom meetings. I mean just in other ways. That's. That's. That's more fulfilling than a zoom meeting. There's. But then maybe not, because, like, there's something deeply uncompelling about zoom meetings. Like podcasts that are remote, unless they're super information dense, at least to me as a podcast fan, kind of suck.

They suck. There's no connect. It goes back to the dog thing with the zoom. There's no connection.

Yeah. And we're not. You know, I don't understand why we're.

Not even making eye contact, but it's something there. It's in the room. There's pheromones, and that's, like, out of our understanding. Probably just some kind of weird, biological. You know, you ever have Cheerios in a bowl? The Cheerios tend to. They tend to go together. You see a cluster of Cheerios. They're never really hanging out on the other side. And that's kind of how people are in real life.

I wonder what the physics of that is. So they, they come together and they stick.

It's something with molecules.

Yeah.

I don't. I can't remember what it was, but it was fascinating. And I think that's how people are. And I think you try to write a TV show or craft a movie with your team. Zoom. Not nothing there. It's like phone sex versus penetration. One day you'll learn that.

I know nothing of either. The. I look forward because I think there's a phone sex Netflix documentary. There's a show or something like that that is really popular that I want to go watch. At least I can learn about that. Okay.

I could send you some links that could really.

On the Internet.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Self driving car. I think it's just inevitable it's coming and these truckers are going to have to figure something out.

Yeah. I mean, that's. That's an understood industry, actually, because there's not. There's a lot of trucking jobs.

Oh, yeah.

And people don't want to. Well, people don't want to actually take them anymore because it's such a difficult job. It won't have. Or a lot of people believe it won't have as big of a negative impact as folks anticipate. There'll be other automation. I think they'll have a huge impact.

Yeah, for sure. I mean, you already see it in McDonald's. You go to the beep, beep, beep. Why do you want to get yelled at by the heavyset woman of color, you know, for making the bad order when you can just, you know, hit the screen? But those interactions, I think, are human. I mean, that's part of life. So it is scary taking away everything. How long till we're not fucking? That's coming too.

Yeah.

Then there's gonna have two. Two types of people. Are you a. In real life, are you a digital person? I'm a digital. I like real. Sorry, we can't date. That's coming.

Well, there's also the. The reproduction side of sex, which is like, with genetic engineering, you'll be able to specify a little bit of details. I talked to Jamie Marzzle about that. Like, where you can specify, like, what. You know, it'll start with, like, I want my child not to have, like a high likelihood of diabetes or something like that. And then you get to specify, like, intelligence. You just get to specify those kinds of parameters until you're like, basically trying to create a perfect human and you lose some of the magic of the flaws that make us who we Are. Yes. And, you know, I'm pretty sure in the full lineup of humans. Like, so let me give you some information.

Lay it off. Break it down.

I'm sure you researched this thoroughly, but a male of the human species, of the Homo Sapien produces 500 billion sperm cells in a lifetime. So that's all. Some more than others. That's all uniquely genetically unique humans that you could produce. So Even across those 500 billion, you.

Can select and so like abort some or.

No, you can choose which of them you want. I mean, just imagine all the genetic possibilities that are there. Like all the possible. Like, you won the race.

Yes. Shocking this. Yeah. All the 500 billion.

You have to imagine what the competition was.

Oh, just tards all day long. Handicap.

Well, so it's not actually the. The fastest sperm or like it's. I think, a lot of his timing and luck. What. It seems like there's actual papers on this and I've actually been reading them.

I hope so.

So it's not just like the fastest sperm to the egg.

Okay.

There's a timing thing. So you were just lucky.

All right. I believe that.

So it's interesting to think about, like, once you're able to specify some parameters of what your child is, like how that changes the nature of even. Just like the intimacy of two humans getting together and making. Creating together a child.

Yeah.

I mean, it changes it. It's almost like, I don't know, it becomes like a fact line of some kind.

If you don't meet naturally.

Yeah. If you don't mean naturally and then you don't and you get. Get to optimize your child, then it's. Yeah, then it's some like, you have to consider utilitarian type of things, like what's good for society. And it'll probably be regulation about what kind of children you can have or not. Like, your child cannot have an IQ below this or above this or something like that that your child cannot.

We already kind of do that with VIP clubs. Like, ah, you're kind of ugly. Or women go, hey, he's not tall enough. We kind of do it a little.

Yeah.

Especially sexually.

Yeah, we do.

Can't get on the roller coaster if you're this short, whatever it is. You know, we do it in some capacity.

But here, this would be like fully transparent. And to a degree that it's hard to imagine, like the way we currently do it. You can at least get around it.

Yes.

You can at least trick your way onto the roller coaster. Even if you're Short, right?

Or the fat guy can get rich so he can get laid. You know, there's other ways.

At the risk of asking the totally wrong person this question, what advice would you give to young people today in high school and college about how to have a successful career or career they're proud of or maybe have a life that they're proud of?

Ooh. Well, first of all, you gotta be. You gotta want a life you're proud of. Not everybody has any integrity. People just. A lot of people just want short money. I want to feel good, look good right now. I want to do Molly. Boom. I'll feel good, you know, but you should space it out. You should. It's almost like saving money so you can use it later. Nobody wants to save money. What do they say, like, 11% of America actually has money saved? A thousand dollars or some shit. It's wildly low. Everybody wants it now. Now. What do you call immediate gratification? I think the key to happiness and satisfaction is working for something, even if it's. It's like a baby. If you could have a baby in five minutes. If a woman. You got a. You jizzed in her, and she had a baby five minutes, boom. Newborn, healthy. I think you'd be more likely to throw it away if you could make it that quick. It's the fact that you spent nine months back breaking the labor, the lactating, the ripped placenta and the hymen or whatever. The. That's what makes you love it. And I think it's the same with comedy or. Or making money or whatever. Look at these kids who. Who, like child stars, they all become heroin addicts at, like, 22 because they've just. Their sensors are burned out, their pleasure sensors. You didn't have to earn it. I think earning it is a big part of life. And always try to do better, try to do more, try to learn new things. Hey, I'm bored. Life sucks. Play the piano, then you chooch. But you won't do it because it takes effort and failure and all that. But that's the good part. And I know it's hard to see, so I think that's a good key to life is work hard at something you care about and then love the result. The. The hard work. The journey is actually way more important than just getting something. Everybody wants to go on Amazon, I got a package. Then you feel good for 10 seconds and, all right, let's go on Amazon again. And then you're just. It's just a dumb cycle of you being Disgusting and gluttonous. So work for it. Everybody wants to take steroids and just poop. I'm buff.

Why'd you point at me? Well, I'm just Russian or what?

Well, I saw the. The Icarus. Yeah, but no, I'm not saying you're on roids. I'm just. You'd be way bigger. But I'm just saying, you know, work for something and then I would. Also, young people eat early. Eat early. I know a guy who kind of got canceled or whatever, and he had an out early, but he tried to get by and he tried to ride it and it all came crumbling down. But if he had eaten it early, like, yeah, I up. I did that. Whatever it was, he would have. He would have just kind of been. Been shit on for a month and then it would have gone away. But now it's his whole identity and that sucks. So eat shit early. And I know it's hard to see what I mean. Early. I'm in the present. But look ahead, look back. This time will pass. I mean, look at high school. High school was the biggest thing in our lives. Oh, my God, this exam. Susie Q hates me. The football player beat me up. I'll never recover now. You don't even think about high school. It's just a blip in your dumb life, you know? And that's what this is now. This will just be a blip. So remember that and work towards something and work hard and care about the result. If the result isn't good, try it again. And failure is not always bad. Failure. We look at failure as this end all, be all, my life's over. I failed. But failure is really just learning. So that's something.

So in summary, eat shit early and eat, eat often.

Yes.

All right, Mark Norman.

Eat ass.

That's the escalated quickly. All right, I have a list of random questions for you. What activities make you lose track of time? Have that. Go into that zone. You have this happiness, contentment about you that you just truly enjoy.

Yeah, I think good conversation, like, I'll sit at the Comedy Cellar with a friends, maybe a little whiskey's flowing. And when you're really just vibing and. And inhib. Inhib. In inhib.

You can do it.

What is it? Inhibited.

Inhibited.

Uninhibited.

Uninhibited.

When you're just vibing and you're uninhibited and you're saying crazy and you're laughing and you're not worried. Am I seeming cool right now? Am I seeming likable when you're just you 100% and it's all coming out of you and then they're saying stuff and you go back and forth and you feel that excitement. Oh, they're talking. But I want to say my thing and you know, you get all keyed up. I love that. And. And I look at my watch, I'm like, it's three in the morning. This is. We've been talking for five hours. So I love that. That makes the time fly by. Also, I bought, speaking of self driving cars, I bought a 1973 BMW car. And it's classic and it's stick shift and it's grizzly and gritty and rusty and it's a bucket of bolts, but I love driving it.

Bucket of bowls.

Yeah.

Tom Waits are poets. Have you, have you taken like a long trip anywhere, like road trip in your life or with this BMW?

Not with it. It's pretty new, but I will.

It's a new 97.

Yeah, yeah. It's new to me. And it just goes in the face of everything we're doing now. Everything is digital, everything is automated, everything is hands off, everything is delivered. And this is the most hands on thing in the world. And I am dialed in, man. I got the tachometer. I keep an eye on that. Oh, I made. I put the wrong gear in. Oh, it's about to stall. Put some gas, put some clutch. And it's all just brain power and, and staying in focus and all that. And it's the opposite of tweeting and texting and watching porn or whatever. So I almost needed that in my life. So I bought this car just to have this little exercise.

I hope you don't mind that I'm just trying out random questions I wrote on you that are completely. They're like completely insane.

I'm a guinea pig. Jizz in my face. Bring it on, baby.

This would be edited down to five minutes. If everyone on earth disappeared and it was just you left. What would your days look like? What would you do?

That's tough because I'm already an introvert and I try to avoid people mostly. Like, I like a one on one, but crowds and all that is tough.

So, so basically unchanged.

Yeah, that's what I was going to say. But then that's. The irony is I would be so sad to not talk to anybody. So it's this weird bittersweet thing, but I don't know what I would do, man. I guess it's kind of like when you're Hungover. You just go into the primal survival mode. I gotta get food. I need water. I'm horny. Jerk off. You know, you just go. You're not. You're not like, playing the piano or. Or painting or at the gym. So I think I would just go into urges, man. Primal urges. Find food, store food. Am I safe? Make weapons, Build a shelter that I can't get attacked in. I would go all survival mode. And then once I maybe realized if I was safe or not, there's no wild roaming dogs, I would start exploring and, you know, maybe somehow get a vehicle, and I would try to expand and that would be it. And maybe I journal exploring.

To what? To. To try to find new experiences, new.

New life. If there's other. Maybe there is another guy out there.

Oh, so always there's a possibility.

Yeah. Hope. And then maybe there's a better place I could live. Let's find that. And then moving on. Then maybe there's more food over here. So, yeah, the hope would drive me, but it would be bleak and sad and horrible also.

So what you're saying is you really want other people to be there so you can hide from them?

Yes. Well said.

All right, what. What's an item on your bucket list that you haven't done yet? Think about something. You'd be very upset if you died and you haven't done.

Well, I'm terrified of having kids, you know, just because I'm a child myself and I'm. I'm selfish and lazy in a way. So kids are like, this is your whole life now. This is it. You got to not let this thing die. You gotta love it. You gotta raise it. So kids scare the out of me, but I also feel like if I don't have them, I'll. I'll. I'll regret it.

Well, you've seen so many people like you who are fundamentally changed by kids.

Yeah.

Like, it's a source.

It's.

It's a source of, like, a deep source of happiness, even though you didn't anticipate it.

Yeah.

So you, like, you penciled it into your bucket?

Yes. Yes. You're.

It might be on there. Okay.

You want kids.

Yeah. Well, I want kids. I want to get married. I want to have kids. I kind of. I. I don't like choice. So in the following way. Like, I. I appreciate the value of scarcity and the power of scarcity. Like, I don't like the. The modern dating culture. It's not some religious thing, whatever. I just like one girl for a long Time. Or at least swinging for that. Always like swinging for the fences.

You have to be swinging right now. I mean, you're.

That's a different use of the word swinging.

Sure, sure. What I'm saying. You could be clear. You look great. You're handsome.

Yeah. Thank you.

Muscular. Thank you. You get the job done. So I feel like you wouldn't leave without an orgasm on her.

Yeah, I just like to, you know about furries. I like to dress up as animals and. And I just have trouble finding others who like to say there.

I could show you some chat rooms.

You're also my coach for the Internet. Okay. What are you most afraid of?

I guess on Unlived Life, I'm a. I'm always a big fan, growing up of, like, wild guys, you know, like these Teddy Roosevelts who would go out and hunt lions and like bar fighting guys. I was obsessed with the Hunter S. Thompson types. And look, this is what I love about guys. Like, who's a good example? Like, Hemingway. Hemingway was the manliest guy. He had the rifle and the elephant gun and the whiskey and the writing and the women and the fist fights. But people forget that the other side of that coin is I'm sure he was in a lot of hotel rooms weeping. I'm sure he was lonely as fuck. I'm sure he had some wicked hangovers. I mean, he killed himself, for Christ's sake. So obviously he was dealing with something. So the key to me is having this adventurous life. Living to the fullest, doing crazy shit, scaring yourself, but also not killing yourself. Like, also not hating. Because I used to party a lot hard. I used to bang a lot of gals. And this is the flip side is like, this girl hates you now, or you got herpes, or you're hungover, or your mom is like, where, where are you? You never call me anymore. You're like, oh, my mom. I let. Let ties go with my mom. I gotta connect. So there's horrible. There's a horrible side of the party animal. The Keith Richards we don't see is not pretty. I mean, he's already weird looking, but he's partying, he's smoking, he's living. But there's another side of that coin. And I think the key to life is living that crazy, awesome, badass life and also having some, you know, meaning and. And a little bit of. What's the word? Not just not killing yourself, not going sad, not being depressed.

Right.

There's a medium there, a sweet spot. Does that make sense?

Yeah. So taking big Leaps and Hemingway grabbing life by the balls, but at the same time, not crushing the balls.

Yeah.

Metaphor work at all?

Perfect. Like Evil Knievel. We all know him. What a badass. Fearless. Oh, man, what a cool dude. He's got balls of steel, but he's also lived, like, the back half of his life in a, you know, mark. A lounger where his legs were made of steel and he couldn't see straight and his dick didn't work. So. You know what I mean? You gotta have a balance, but you still want the balance. I'm willing to take a little bit of shit for a little bit of fun, but you don't want to go.

Too hard because you got to still risk it. I mean, Hunter S. Thompson, it didn't end well. Yeah, it's quite a ride.

Quite a ride.

What small act of kindness were you once shown that you will never forget?

Wow, that's a great question. You're.

You're. You're. I just wrote these for the. The guinea pig. You're the guinea pig.

That's great. That's a keeper.

Okay. That's a keeper.

Yeah.

This is where, like, workshopping questions here.

All right, I'll take it. I know you're open. Biking.

Yeah.

This is your version. Let's see, there's a couple ladies in high school who were kind enough to hand job me. That was nice. Which I really appreciate. I don't think women know how much that means to us. You know, women are like, I'm not a piece of meat or whatever. And you're like, I know, but if you just gave me a hand job, yeah, I would. It would make my world. It's like telling a kid he's smart or loved.

See, most people mention, like, a math teacher, middle school that inspired them to get into science. You. You. It's. Give a shout out to the.

Well, that's part of. That's not the nicest, but I'm just saying that goes a long way. All right, let's see. Kindness. That's a great question. I want to give you a good answer. I. I got lost when I was, like, six. I was. Was walking around. My dad and I zoned out and went away. And next thing you know, I don't know where I am. I'm in a neighborhood. This old guy finds me crying on a lawn somewhere, and he goes, come inside. And he tried to call my parents, and nothing came of. Eventually, they found me after, like, nine hours. Cops were there, the FBI's out there, helicopters, and I guess, you know, that's nice. This old guy took me in for a couple hours and just sat me down and kept me safe. That's something.

Yeah.

Oh, how about Enos, my transvestite nanny? Very kind. He. Did you hear about this?

No.

Okay. We had this transvestite nanny. He was like, a drag queen. But it was in the 90s, so it was weird. It was new, and my bike got stolen. And he. You know, my parents, like, yeah, what are you gonna do? They're poor kids, you know? And he was like, fuck it. Let's. We're gonna go get that bike. And I was like, this guy's in a wig and high heels. Big black guy. And I'm like, ah, what are you gonna do? You know, it's gone. And he's like, no, we're gonna go get it. So we got in the van and drove around my neighborhood, saw the kids with the bike, you know, five street toughs. And he goes, all right, you want to come out, or should I just do this? And I was like, you do it. I'm terrified. What are you crazy? And he got out of the van in full, you know, heels and wig, and he went up to these guys, and they went off. Oh, my God, look at this guy. Homo, faggot, all this shit. You know, it's the 90s. And he just stared at him long enough to where they were kind of like, all right, well, I guess we're gonna fight you now. And he goes, that's not your bike. And they go, what are you going to do about it? And he puts his hand on the middle of the bike, and they didn't do anything. And he just picked it up and said, that's what I thought. Put the bike over shoulder, slid the van door open, threw the bike in, and we drove off.

Somebody stuck up for you. Yeah.

And, you know, I mean, he could have got. I mean, they had tools. They could have fucking tuned him up. Two seconds.

That actually, like, takes courage.

Oh, yeah. Real courage.

And then that. The. The reason you do an act like that is that makes a kid, like, you feel like there's somebody on your side. Yeah, that's possible.

Someone on your side is big.

It's big.

That goes a long way, especially when they have a. The risk of getting their ass kicked or their job taken away or whatever it is.

Now we're gonna get philosophical, maybe a little bit emotional. Would you rather lose all your old memories or never be able to make new ones?

It's a tough one, but I'd go easy. Answer make new ones.

But don't you think all the shitty things that happen to you.

Oh, so my hard drive is wiped clean. It's not. Is it memories? Or is it how every memory affected me, too?

I mean, this is a very.

Or they go hand in hand.

I. I think the reality about memories is you replay them often. You go back to them even when you're not aware of it. You really go. You go back often like that, and they change.

You change them too.

Yeah. You change them to suit your understanding of the world.

Yes.

And so the. The dark view you have, both the hope and the cynicism you have about the world is so deeply grounded in the. In the memories that you're basically. I would say if you erase all memories, I think you're really starting over with maybe the wisdom of how the world works, but not your. So much. Your personality is gone. You would really. It'd be interesting how your comedy would change. Maybe you would have a good sense of timing. You have a good sense of, like, the writing process, maybe.

But, like, now you're making some good points. But let me ask you this. Let's say I go to Lake Cuomo with my girlfriend now. Like, I wipe the memory or I keep my old memories. Let's say I go to, you know, the Tuscany with the lady.

Yeah.

I just won't remember that.

Yeah, but you get to experience in the moment.

Okay.

You'll get to enjoy it.

Can I look at a photo of it?

Yes.

But I was. What the hell is this?

Yeah.

Exactly. Oh, fascinating beginning.

It's exact. The rules are pretty simple.

Yeah.

I think everyone knows how the rules go. See, but you. You would. Yeah. So what?

Well, I was gonna say start new ones, but then I realized I wouldn't be who I was without them.

Yeah.

That's what you're saying. So I guess I'd keep them because I am 38, so I've gotten a good chunk out of life.

Yeah. And let's be honest. How many years do you have left?

I know, right? I got aids.

Is it better to have loved? Okay, this question is ridiculous. Is it better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all? The sound. It sounds cliche, but there's a question.

Definitely better to loss.

So you enjoy the ups and downs.

Yeah. That's what. That's life. Sun and rain, baby.

I kind of like both. The whole thing, the loss. Every time you lose something, it really makes you distinctly realize how much you valued it.

Yes.

Like, am I when I'm sad? Like When I'm feeling alone and I'm sitting there alone at home and I wish I could hang out with somebody, that's like a realization how awesome people are.

Yeah.

So it's like the missing. The.

Yeah, we don't have a lot of that in life anymore because we can have anything we want immediately. So the missing has gone away, which again drives down the joy of having it. So I. I think you're right. You need both.

So like you said, you have a condition that. A terminal condition. Not much, many years left. Do you think about your mortality?

You think all day, every day.

Are you afraid?

Not afraid, because it's inevitable. So it's more like, what are we. How are we going to handle this? It's like, the winner is coming. Let's stock up on some nuts.

But the existential nature of it, like, the fact that this ride ends, like, what the hell are you doing any of this for? Like, is it your satisfaction? Happiness Short term, but like the. That there is a presumption there that it kind of goes on forever. I think if you truly think about.

The fact that it ends, your brain almost shuts. Shuts it down.

Yeah, there's some kind of like, protective, like, switch that just goes off. I mean, that's why the stoics, you know, encourage people to meditate on death because it somehow reorganizes your priorities. It helps you, like, holy. This ends. Make the most of the day.

Yes.

It's just a nice thing, but still, you can't quite comprehend the thing ends.

Little things too, you know, People go like, oh, we got a layover between our flights. It's an hour. What are we gonna do for an hour? It's like, like, what do you mean, what are you gonna do for an hour? You're gonna kill an hour? Let's kill. How are we gonna kill this hour? This is part of your life. You're just trying to get rid of it. You're just trying to kill it. That, that always blew my mind. Like, hey, it, let's go hit the. The airport. Bar. Let's get a, you know, a candy bar or something. Yeah, anything with bar. But it's just. You gotta live. I hate this. Like, how are we gonna burn? Oh, the bar didn't open for 15 minutes. What are we gonna do? Well, we got 15 minutes. We got. The world is our oyster.

Yeah. Make the most of it. And like the, like you said in modern day, actually, the boredom is a gift. Like the. When you're waiting for something that's. That's That's a gift. You get to be with your thoughts.

Yeah.

Those are the same thoughts you'll have when you're on your deathbed. There won't be a. You won't be scrolling TikTok on your deathbed.

I hope not. Jesus.

You'd be a lot more actually. Maybe you would be.

What a sad existence.

Because it would be a good, like, content creators would be like, oh, I'm dying. This would be good content.

Yeah. I want to be able to film the exact moment it goes.

Like, last words. I wonder what my last words will be. A good way to like, end the. The account with a bang.

Yep. I like that. Well, you know, you ever seen that meme where the old guy in bed, he goes, I wish I had tweeted more, you know? And then he dies. It's so true.

Could be the future. What do you think is the meaning of life?

I don't think there is one. Everybody always throws that out there. There isn't a meaning. I think we're here. We're lucky to be here. I think there's no afterlife. There's no heaven. That's. That's all shit. We tell ourselves to feel better. And I think you got to just. It's like saying, what is the meaning of this food I made? Well, it's just you enjoy the food. You try to get the most out of it. You built the food, you prepared it, so just get what you can out of it. Don't die. And try to make it last as long as possible.

Yeah, but you look at earth, it's like 4 billion years old. And life started early on, like. Like simple cell bacterial life. Like a one billion years in. And then it started, like, having lots of aggressive interaction. Eventually there's predator and prey and there's sex. Lots of sex. Sex. Lots of sex.

Oh, yeah.

Lots of violence.

Oh, yeah.

And then, you know, through natural selection, there's just a whole evolutionary process of. Of animals that have loved and lost and murdered and gotten murdered and all that kind of stuff. And it's somehow led to human civilization. We're super busy trying to create things and creating beautiful art, creating beautiful comedy.

Yeah.

Just always creating something new. It feels like it's tending towards something like it's.

It's not dying. If you die tomorrow, you still have all these hours of pods. So it's kind of. You think you're cheating death in a subconscious way. I think.

Right. You know who Ernest Becker is?

And I've heard the name.

It's a book called Denial of death. This idea that. Yeah, that if you don't acknowledge what's on my shelf, girls love it. Like Dostoevsky. No, I'm just. I'm saying you want to bring Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, Russian literature. It's the back to norm. It's good to bring to. Because. Because no American has read any Russian literature, but they all appreciate it if you bring it. And it's not like they're going to ask you any legitimate questions because they haven't read it. So you can always pretend like you've read it. So it's a little dense.

Can we get a shortened version?

Cliff Notes.

Yes. Or make a movie with, you know, Ben Stiller that I. That I can just go, oh, this is based on. What is it? Life and death? No, what's the one? War and Peace.

War and peace. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So Ernest Becker's theory, and there's this whole terror management theory that basically says that, like, our terror of death, our fear of death is one of the central creative forces of the human condition. It's the reason we're trying to. Yeah. Cheat death. We're trying to delude ourselves that somehow we can become immortal through our art. That's why you've uploaded your special to YouTube. Because you think. You think your special will outlive all of human civilization. You think YouTube will outlive all of civilization?

That could go away tomorrow.

That can go away tomorrow. All of this can go away. So I'm truly grateful, Mr. Mark Norman, that you would spend your very valuable time with me today, even though it could all go away. This could be the last day of our lives. And won't you be quite upset? This is how you spent it.

Ah, yeah. You're a hotel room. What am I? Yeah, you're like Harvey Weinstein here. You heard me up. But now I feel.

Just wait. What we have ready for you after the podcast is over. All right, brother, thanks so much for talking today.

Thank you. That was great comedy.

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