Short transcript excerpt from a YouTube video ("The Importance of High Standards in Mentoring") discussing mentor/coach behaviors. Speakers warn that mentors who stop pushing mentees have effectively given up; they describe a "protector mindset" (lowering standards to avoid causing stress) as problematic and contrast it with an "enforcer mindset" (strictly holding standards and leaving responsibility to the mentee).
The thing to worry about is not when your mentors and coaches are pushing you, it's when they stop pushing you that you should really worry because that means they've basically given up on you. So that always rung in my mind.
Yeah. What I call the person who just is no longer maintaining high standards for you, I call that a protector mindset that it's almost like it's going to be too much trouble to see you dealing with stress from being pushed that I am going to protect you from that stress. I, I, maybe I care about you but I'm not going to not hold you to a high standard. And I see that a lot in coaches, I see it in teachers, I see it in parents. For me, the, the opposite problematic version is what I call an enforcer mindset. This is like here's the standard and I'm going to hold you to it and it's up to you to meet it or not.
