In this conversational interview, host Jo Renshaw talks with coach Bayla Abdurrahmanov about her path from a college literature teacher to a certified coach, inspired by her mentor Brooke Castillo. Bayla explains that she primarily works with multi‑passionate and highly sensitive women—clients who have many talents and interests but feel unclear about direction. She introduces her core framework that separates a person’s life mission (who they want to be), career (what earns money), and callings (plural inspirations from outside). Bayla describes tools such as a free “mission audit” that helps clients explore their unique mind, align their career with their mission, and honor their callings without forcing them into a single “one‑thing” identity. The conversation highlights the emotional shift from relief—realizing one’s uniqueness is not a flaw—to thriving by viewing multi‑passion as a gift. Bayla shares how listeners can contact her via her website (coachbela.com) and Instagram (@coachbela) for a free consult.
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Good evening, my friends. So we're live, and I'm here with my friend Bayla Abdurrahmanov. Bayla is a coaching colleague of mine, and we thought we would get together and have a chat, and I can introduce you to her work. So Bayla, tell me, how did you come to coaching?
So thank you for having me on. It's great to be here. How did I come to coaching? It's a great question. I feel like my entire life I sort of unofficially been a life coach. I'm one of those people where someone will meet me for the first time and we'll just be talking and all of a sudden she'll tell me everything. And I'm an educator also. So I was teaching literature and writing in college and I have a lot of students that come to me and ask me for mentorship and coaching. And I realized there is a lot of work to be done in the world. And I realized that I was making a difference and I felt like I could make a difference on a larger scale. And I really felt this calling to do this work. So I found my coach, Brooke Castillo, who we both learned under. I found her. And from there, I just, I joined her program, I joined her certification, and I decided that I wanted to, you know, I wanted to reach and connect with women on a larger scale.
Great. So tell me about your clients. Tell me what sort of people come to you and what things you help them with.
Yeah. So the people I serve are mostly people who are similar to me In that I serve a lot of multi-passionate women. So women who have a lot to offer, they have a lot of talents, they're really curious about the world, they're creative, and they want to do a lot of things, but they're not necessarily clear about which direction they want to go in. So for a while, I had— I'm multi-passionate and I enjoy a lot of different things. Like right now, I'm taking singing lessons and I teach, I coach, I homeschool my children, and I'm constantly learning different things. I'm into different parenting strategies and researching different things. And at some point, it, um, it kind of felt like a burden. Like, where is my one thing that I'm supposed to do? Until I realized, well, wait a second. No, this is a gift. And there's a difference between what's my life's mission, what's my career, and what's my calling. And when I figured all that out, I realized I could help women like that too, who have a lot of interests and they're not really sure of the direction they want to go in. So a lot of women who are multi-passionate are drawn to me and I work with them. I also work with women who are highly sensitive. I'm also a highly sensitive person and I kind of think of it as my coaching is I help women understand their beautiful one-of-a-kind mind and work with their minds. Right? So a lot of times I feel like we're fighting the way that we are, whether it's being multi-passionate, whether it's being highly sensitive. For a long time, I would be well-rested. I'd consider myself having a good night's sleep, and then I'd be tired in the middle of the day, and I'd feel like, well, that's not normal. I shouldn't be like that, and I'd fight it. And then I realized I'm highly sensitive. I need to treat myself differently. I can't just, you know, this is what my body needs. This is what my mind needs. I feel in a very deep level. So I also coach women who are highly sensitive and who, you know, want to understand and work with their unique brain and their unique, you know, body and needs more and reach their potential that way.
Lovely, lovely. So tell me, tell— give me an insight into some of the tools or one of the main concepts you teach. So if I was multi-passionate, what might be something that What are some of the things that I would learn in a session with you?
Okay, so if you're multi-passionate, we're going to talk about your life's mission. A lot of women who are multi-passionate are very impact-driven. We want to make an impact and we want to sort of find our one true calling, but we don't know what that is. So we're going to talk about what's the difference between your life's mission, your career, and your calling. And to sort of sum it up quickly, your career is the thing that you do that earns you money, that gives you financial stability. Your life's mission is in who you're being. So who do I want to be in everything that I do, not just in my career? So for example, for me, my being is focused very much on helping, on serving. And so whenever I— whatever I'm doing, I tap into that mission for me. So if I'm standing in line in the grocery store, and I see that there's a woman behind me, she only has 3 packages and I have a whole 2 carts full. You know, I'll say I want to be in the mode of helping, in the mode of serving. So I might say to her, you know, why don't you go ahead of me? And there I'm tapped into my life's mission. I don't have to be, you know, in doing any particular career by tapping into my life's mission. When I'm feeding my kids dinner, I'm tapped into my mission of helping and serving. And of course, coaching, I'm tapped into my mission. But some of us don't always have careers that line up with our mission. So I help women figure out how their career aligns with their mission, figure out what their mission is to begin with, and how they could bring it into all areas of their life and feel fulfillment in all the different areas of their life. And then there's calling. So I don't remember off the top of my head the anesthesiologist who came up with this, but there was an anesthesiologist who talked about his interest in figuring out what he does when he puts people under anesthesia. How does it work? And he came up with the idea of this new idea of consciousness where he said, what I do is I basically shut the receptors that are in people's brains. That he said that there is consciousness coming from the universe or God, however you want to talk about it, right? Coming from outside of ourselves. And what I do as an anesthesiologist is I shut those receptors. And so the person is no longer able to receive that consciousness. Right. So I look at calling as plural, actually. I like to call it your callings, that we're receiving certain ideas and certain things that we want to do from outside of ourselves, from God, from the universe. And we have a mission. We have, you know, part of our being wants to answer those callings. But here's where a lot of multi-passionates make the mistake, is that we want to turn it into a financial gain or a career or a business. But sometimes you can do it just because, like, I decided to take singing lessons because I wanted to learn to sing. And I decided to take painting lessons because I wanted to learn to paint. I don't want to become a painter. I don't want to become a professional singer, but I want to answer my callings. And sometimes it's even in just that freedom of exploring that you really settle and find, find your mission, find your career, find your pathway. But you have to have that exploration period. Mm-hmm. That's one of the teachings that I work on with, um, with my clients.
That's so interesting because it's so counter to how we're brought up, isn't it? It's that we're— when we grow up, we're told very much that we have to find something we're passionate about and go and make money doing it,
right?
But what you're noticing is that that's not matching up for a lot of people.
No, not everybody fits that. There are some people who just know. They know from a young age. They And it fits for them. But not everybody fits that, um, you know, that type. So we have to— that's part of learning to work with your unique, unique self.
So I would imagine that a lot of your clients come away from sessions with you feeling a sense of relief that, um, that it's okay to be the way they are. There's not something wrong with them. This is just a uniqueness that they have about them. They don't— they're like a cookie-cutter mold. That they can go into.
Yeah, it's definitely very relieving. And my goal also is to work with them to get them to a place where they, where they thrive, where it's not just a relief. So relief is like the first step. And I remember when I discovered it for myself, it was, it was a huge relief. I remember the feeling. But also, how can I thrive? And how is this gift— like, I look at multi-passionate as being a gift. How is this a gift for me and a gift for the world?
Yes, I love that idea of it being a gift. So, so how can people reach you then? Okay, multi-passionate, because I know lots of very multi-passionate, highly sensitive women. I live in a city that is full of multi-passionate, highly sensitive women. So if someone would like to—
Wonderful. Yeah, so to reach me, my website is www.coachbela. That's And they can go to the Work With Me page and book a free mission audit, I call it. We sort of like discuss your mission, look at, you know, your, your interests, your one-of-a-kind mind, and how we can work together. So, so they could book a free consult there, mission audit. And if you are— since I know you're in the UK, many of your friends are probably in the UK. I'm in On New York time, on Eastern time in America. So if none of the times work for you, go ahead and through my, um, through my website you can send me an email and reach out to me. You can also reach me on Instagram @coachbela.
