Joanne Smith explains how to build a sense of safety by taking small steps toward things you've been avoiding, like cooking a meal. Make promises to yourself you can actually keep. Tiny, manageable actions tell your nervous system you're capable.
So you can even ask yourself the questions like, what makes me feel capable? What things could I begin doing that will be a message of safety? Or like, if you think about things you've been avoiding, you could then start doing a little bit of those things, because again, that's gonna be a message of safety when you, when you take steps towards doing those things, because when you're avoiding doing those things, That screams danger. Jo's not cooking dinner. Jo doesn't believe she's able to cook a meal. That screams danger rather than safety. So baby steps, little by little. There's nowhere to be— there's no time limit on this, you know. This is your own journey. So, um, yeah, don't make promises to yourself that you can't keep. Make a promise that you know you can see through, because again, safety, you know, you did well, you did really well.
