Joanne Smith argues that your emotional state comes from how you react to events, not the events themselves. A flat tire or unexpected bill doesn't make you upset; your response to it does. When you realize only you control your reaction, you can shape your own experience.
was creating my own experience from the inside out. Like, that was really helpful for me to understand that, that nothing, like, no other person could be to blame for how I feel. No other person could, or nothing happening, like, you know, getting a flat tire or circumstantial, like maybe having, having a massive expense and then not being able to afford to pay bills, you know, those external things. I began to understand that there is no way that an external challenge can have any power over how, how I respond. I'm the one that does that, and I felt really empowered by having this new inside-out understanding that I create my experience.
