Stress: A Masterclass For Living In Freedom with Sam Qurashi and Richard Moat - Genius Network Episode #181

The real key to changing the way you interact with any emotion or any situation is changing your relationship to that situation, to that emotion, to that event. And once you change the relationship, that's when therapy works.

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Introduce Genius Network member for several years and just an amazing human, one of my dear friends, Dr. Sam Qurachi. He's a writer, entrepreneur, Instagrammer and YouTuber. He worked at a psychiatric he worked as a psychiatric resident in an addiction hospital. Throughout that time, he'd had the opportunity to help over 10,000 patients. After seven years, he walked away from his medical career believing that there must be a more effective way to help people. He started interviewing experts that live beyond the frame of traditional psychology, but are masters of the mind in a unique way. That list includes the Iceman, Wim Hof, the Horse Whisperer, a Samurai, a Cold Reader, a Ninja, a Tea Master and a pickpocket. And the list goes on. He then started an Instagram page that now has over 660,000 followers. On his page, he shares thoughts and concepts that can interrupt the psychological patterns that are keeping people trapped in mental loops of their own design. Sam introduced me to Richard Mote. Very, very smart man. There are few people more qualified, experienced or knowledgeable on how stress affects our health, performance, happiness and success than Richard. Having had a personal coach from the age of 14, it is undoubtedly a significant factor in his rise to becoming an in demand coach to coaches, advisor to advisors and therapist to therapist. This is in addition to establishing a reputation among some of the most highly respected and qualified health professionals as the person to consult with when they are struggling for a breakthrough with their own patients. During his to date 38 year career, Richard has advised a list celebrities, public figures, business champions and royalty, as well as Olympic gold medal athletes and national and international sports teams. Having himself enjoyed an international hockey career spanning three decades, which includes captaining England in 1997, he was recognized by HRH as the Queen as one of the decade's most significant contributors to British sports. So that is Richard and Sam, how.

Do you both describe what you do and how you actually help people?

The way I help people is through social media, but the way I help people is indirectly through the content. So the quotes that I write, the videos that I make, I take my time and try to structure it to make it as simple as possible, but thought provoking. And the key to Interrupting any pattern is to be thought provoking in a way where you hear something that you've known for a very long time, but you've never heard it that way, or you hear something for the first time. And all the quotes are, yeah, original. I don't copy anyone else. It's just based on my personal experience from everyone that I've learned from and my personal experience with patients, my personal experience with the coaching that I did. I don't even consider it coaching. I'm just having conversations with people and helping them, really. I wasn't charging because it was not really part of what I wanted. I wanted to reach the masses, and social media was the way to do that effectively.

What I'll. That's where I can sum up my area of expertise is in helping people understand how stress has manifested itself physically in the body. And that stress is actually far more complicated than we give it credit for. The fact of the matter is that every single one of us will without exception, has at some time been emotionally wounded, emotionally scarred, emotionally bruised as a result of life. And we haven't been taught and we haven't had the role models at the time to help us navigate and negotiate things effectively. We might have survived them, we might have got through them, but we come out the other side. We think we've moved on. We think that's behind us, we think we've dealt with it. But all of us are carrying wounds, bruises, and scars that are typically buried in the unconscious. As time passes, these wounds, bruises, and scars start revealing themselves. And that's what creates the behaviors that let us down. That's what underpins the beliefs that don't support us. So I help people unpick the stitching on the beliefs, the behaviors, the emotional wounds, bruises, and scars in the specific context of physical illness, ailments, and disease. So I guess that's the best way I could sum up where I'm at.

Right.

No, thank you. And, you know, one of the things you said, the wounds start revealing themselves. I just pictured, like, an infection that isn't treated, and that infection just is insidious and it takes over all different parts of your. Your physical being. How would you define stress? Because that's what I want to talk with you guys about today. Stress. What is it? When's it good? When's it bad? How do you view it?

Because I would venture to say most.

People I talk to, when I hear pain, they use the word stress a lot.

Stress is very misunderstood, I believe, because it's generalized. There are many different types of stress, whether it's physical stress, nutritional stress, chemical stress, environmental stress, and all of the stresses that are put upon us place demands on our resources. So if I was to define what stress is in general, I would say when the demands put upon us exceed the resources that we have to deal with those demands, then a stressful situation is created. Now, that doesn't mean that it's bad. I mean, large proportions of the world, we've made out stress to be, you know, the baddie. And it's not because stress can actually help us grow if we take that invitation, or it can actually help us diminish if we're not ready or prepared, willing or up for that growth. So the stress in itself, I consider, is an invitation that we can take one way or the other. The caveat with that is, though, that most of us have grown up in a time and over decades and in a society and in a world that actually makes it okay and gives us permission to feel stressed for or to feel stressed and to use that as a bit of an excuse as to why we're not giving our best. So we shouldn't make it out to be the bad boy or girl in the. In the classroom. You should look at it in each individual case and understand what it actually is. Then the final thing I would say on it, which can be quite controversial, is I don't believe that stress or is the things that make us feel stressed are outside of us. Because everything that's outside of us is inanimate. It exists. It's vibrating at an energetic frequency. Absolutely. But in of itself, it is not stressful. It is not stress inducing. So what makes it stressful? What makes it stress inducing? When we come along, interpret and perceive what that thing is, we give that thing meaning, have this feeling inside that we think, oh, my goodness, I'm not feeling good about that thing. Therefore, it's that thing that is making me feel stressed. So then we fail to see that we are responsible. As hard as this may be, we are responsible for our reaction to this stuff. And we've got to turn it around. We've got to do a 180 and we've got to say, okay, so it's my response to what's going on that is causing me to feel this way. And here's the kicker. Now, we talked about the emotional wounds, bruises and scars from the past. We're carrying those around with us, and we're looking into the next situation in life. Ready? Wounded, scarred, bruised. Which means there's the potential Then for the wounds to actually be touched, reopened, and all of a sudden we find ourselves back in coping mode, handling mode, managing mode, which in itself is hard work and stressful.

I love that because I completely agree with the idea that, you know, the stress is actually something that is internal and we project it. And I just want to touch upon responsibility for a second. A lot of people look at responsibility as a lack of or as a burden, when in fact, responsibility is control, responsibility is freedom. Because the moment you are responsible, now you have the power to change everything. And people always try to avoid responsibility by blaming others by. And that's. That's one of the issues that we have in communication. That's one of the issues that we have in the way we operate. We try to blame, we look for something else to blame instead of just taking responsibility for what's happening, because that gives us back control in order for us to liberate ourselves from these wounds that we have. So that's one thing. The other thing is, my definition of stress personally is it is the perceived absence of safety. And it's important to look at it as a perceived absence of safety. Because here's the thing, feeling is more important than being to me, because when I look at it, you can be in a fortress surrounded by guards, so you are safe. But if you feel threatened, then that situation is worthless. The point is for you to feel safe. And as long as you feel threatened, the ground around you are constantly shaking and you're unstable, and it's hard for you to function, it's hard for you to communicate, it's hard for you to enjoy anything. So the perceived absence of safety, which means to tie that into what was mentioned about stress. Good stress, bad stress. I would say, for example, eustress is good stress. And the difference really is how you are framing it in the way you commute, in the way you interact with it. The real key to changing the way you interact with any emotion or any situation is changing your relationship to that situation, to that emotion, to that event. And once you change the relationship, that's when therapy works. For example, it's the relationship you had to that image, to that past event, to that experience, and in this case, to stress, for example, when it's happening, the way you are engaging with stress determines whether it's good or bad. Eustress is basically you getting excited about what's happening sometimes. What give you an example. Adele Bridges, dear friend of mine, she's on Instagram, great channel, yoga instructor. She taught me how to do a Handstand. And I realized that there was a hidden fear that I had to doing handstands. And I didn't really understand why, because I feared falling. Because I had an incident years ago that stopped me from learning how to do it. And it was triggered in that moment. But we went through it, we passed through it. But what she was saying was, I teach falling as a skill to get excited about falling. So in other words, she. She's reframing the idea of instead of fearing something, get excited about that outcome, learn it as a skill, get excited for it to happen, pursue it in a way which is very interesting to flip the whole thing. Changing your mindset. In pickup artistry, when I learned from some of the top pickpock pickup artists in the uk, that's a topic for another day. Because there's. Yeah, because there is a good intention to it in relationships, actually. So useful. But obviously there are men that can manipul women in a way.

That is.

Yeah.

But in general, the idea of somebody, a man learning how to walk up to a woman that he wants to start a relationship with, he wants to go out with. The men that succeed usually are. The most are the men that pursue rejection. They're the men that want her to reject him. And what happens is by pursuing the thing, pursuing the outcome you fear in a way lowers the chances of you ever achieving that outcome and you get to have what you want. So it's really about shifting the way you look at things. I'm just going to mention one more thing related to something I learned from Richard about problems. The problems are a mental construct. Nothing is a problem until you decide it is. We've been taught about certain things being a problem. The moment you call it anything else but a problem, you're changing the relationship to it and automatically you engage with it differently. So if there is no problem, there's no conflict. If there's no conflict, there's no stress. And it's really about, just to sum this up, about changing your relationship to the situation to regain control over the situation.

Wow, that's really good.

So, thank you, guys. I'd love to hear more about. Because I could see a lot of people saying, oh, no, you know, you have no idea what my family's like. You have no idea what my circumstances are like. My business is crumbling around me. It's, you know, so what would you say to that, Richard?

That's the reality. Those are the facts. So we're not debating those. Whilst most people will try and fix those, which we do which is very difficult when other people are involved to try and change things. First thing we have to do is accept that that's the reality of the situation. And then given that situation, it's on us then as to how we respond to it. Now we build up triggers, as you. As you call it, build them up over time throughout our life. Things that we have aversions to, things that we winset, things that we smile at as well. So we get used to a certain type of response to a certain type of scenario, and we get so used to it, it becomes unconscious. And the more opportunities we have to roll out that unconscious response to something, the more well rehearsed it becomes, the more second nature it is. And before you know it, we've created a stress response to things based upon, well, my quick assessment of that is that's not good, I'm not happy type of thing. So, you know, the programming that we grow up with is largely responsible for the responses we have today to whatever's going on out there. We've got to actually take some time out. We've got to realize that there's a lot of programming that's gone into ER today and there's a lot of hypnosis that we've been under from external sources, whether it's family, friends, media, community, take your pick. And we've got to sort of de. Hypnotize ourselves and wake up to unconscious way that we're reacting to these things and start, as Sam says, to look at them in a different light. Which isn't easy, by the way, because if we're already programmed and triggered to feel angry, sad, afraid, ashamed, guilty, hurt or disgusted as a natural response to anything, then we've got to get ourselves out of that hole before we can really address what's in front of us in a meaningful way. Yeah.

So, Sam, you want to say anything else? I'd love to have you guys just.

Share some strategies that are most effective.

With dealing with stress and overwhelm.

Can I add to what Richard said first?

Absolutely, of course, yeah.

Okay. I took a couple of points, I made a couple of notes for, from what Richard was saying and what you were saying, the idea of triggers, this is really important to clarify. You are. Okay, so whenever someone says something or does something that bothers you, you want that to stop. So you can either cut them out of your life or you would threaten them that if they ever say or do that again, you will do a blank, whatever. Or you would just talk to them, have a conversation and ask them to stop. But a lot of people resist that because they don't want to look weak maybe. So they don't do that. There are different or they, or what a lot of people do, they just keep it in and they just go like, oh, he's, it's just a one time thing. They're not going to do it again. And then they do it again. They're like, oh, just okay. He just does it once a week, once a month. And you keep on carrying weights you were never meant to hold inside. Now all these different strategies are for one thing, you just don't want to, you want to stop feeling what you felt from what they said. That's it. Now what's amazing about this is if you get them to stop, that doesn't guarantee that you, that that will be over. Because what you ask them to do is to stop triggering you. You ask them to stop pressing the button. That doesn't change the fact that there are other people that could still press that button. That doesn't change the fact that if you cut them out of your life, someone else will come along to press that button. So the solution is not to ask people to stop triggering you. The solution is to eliminate the thing inside of you that is connected to the trigger. And the trigger will disappear when you, that we have an open wound that is causing the trigger to take place. You eliminate the wound, you heal the wound. The trigger is null, is worthless. So anyone can try to trigger you in any way or form related to that wound. And it's never going to work. And I thought that was really important to mention just to clarify that the other thing is you're right in terms of acceptance, it's important for us to start accepting the existence of the situation, of the current situation, because that's the first step to make a change. The idea is not to accept things as they are forever. Because the key here is to accept the existence of the reality you want to change, not the persistence of it. And the moment you accept the existence now you can change it. Because a lot of people are in denial. And if you're in denial, then you're never gonna get. If you're in Spain and you want to go to Italy, but you're denying that you're in Spain to yourself, you're saying, I'm not in Spain, I'm actually in Paris. Well, how the hell are you going to get into, how the hell are you ever going to get to Italy? You need to tell the truth. And that's at the heart of Starting to heal emotional wounds, to tell the truth, not necessarily to other people. So in terms of stress, the problem is resistance really one of the main problems. And is the resistance. The moment you resist is the moment you create tension. The moment you create tension is the moment you create paralysis. Automatically you're paralyzed, you're stuck. And as long as you're in momentum, you can easily bounce back like a basketball versus a bowling ball. When something happens and you stick to the ground versus something that happens, you bounce back immediately. Okay, so what's next? So what can we do about this? How can we handle this? Instead of asking why? And this could be a strategy. Never ask why when you feel pain, because why doesn't matter how. Why you feel, doesn't matter. How you feel is everything. And when it comes to problems, why the problem happened. I know as an analytical, and I love asking why but why can help you in improving the how. But the truth of the matter is the faster you get to how, the less stressed you are, the less in pain you are. Because now you're in motion, now you're gaining momentum, and now things begin to change. So resistance really is the issue. And we resist because we're afraid. The idea of the monkey, I don't remember which country, but they do this where they do this trap where they carve out an opening for a coconut for the. For the hand to go in, for the monkey's hand to go in to get the bait and then make a fist. It's big enough for the hand to go in. It's not big enough for the fist to get out, to leave the. So the monkey's trapped because the coconut is buried with that opening. It's buried in the ground. And so the moment there's that sense of being trapped, the monkey is tense, resists what's happening. And the resistance is what keeps us paralyzed. And that's an example of this. And all the monkey needs to do is just accept the reality, relax, and it will move on from it. It is the resistance that slows us down, the resistance that weighs us down, the resistance that keeps us trapped. Acceptance is what sets us free. So a question I would ask whenever I feel tension is, what am I resisting right now? And that creates a shift because now you realize there's a resistance going on. But a lot of people don't realize this. The other thing I would say would be my definition of personally frustration. And the link between frustration and stress is frustration is about trying to control something you can't. Trying to control something you Can't. And one of the causes of stress stems from trying to control something we can't. And I think two important questions to ask is what am I trying to control right now? Because if I'm trying to control time, I will fail. If I'm trying to control people, I will fail. If I'm trying to control technology because it's frustrating, it's not working, I will fail. And if I'm trying to control natural disasters, I will fail. What am I trying to control? And then you start realizing that I'm trying to control something I can't. And if that's the case, then I'm setting myself up to fail, to remaining out of control, to remaining trapped and a slave to the stress. And that's the problem. So that's the first question to identify that I'm focusing on something I can't control. The second is what can I control right now? Because we can't control time, but we can control the way we conduct ourselves within time. We can't control people, but we can control the way we conduct ourselves with people. So what we really can control is our inner our environment, our homes, our rooms, the inanimate objects around us that belong to us. We can control that. That's why making the bed is actually really important in the moment, in the morning. It allows you to connect to something you can control from the very beginning to realize that you are in control of your reality. We are in control of our decisions. We are in control of our actions. We are in control of the pictures in our minds that we allow to happen without us changing it. We are in control. And the most important form of control is muscle. The only way we can communicate to other people, the only way we can communicate in general is through muscle. Muscle is the way we express how we feel. Muscle is the way we express in any way or form. When you talk, that's muscle. Non verbal communication, that's muscle. Verbal, non verbal, physical. Everything is about expression. We exercise, we feel better because that tension leaves us through exercise. Muscle. We laugh. Muscle. Crying Muscle. It's important for us to realize we are in control of the very thing that we use to express ourselves, which is muscle. And the most important muscle to control is the diaphragm. Which brings me to one of the strategies in terms of breathing and movement.

What is the difference between good and bad stress? How do we use challenges as fuel? How do we use shit for fertilizer? How do we use these things in life that are seemingly things that we regret, wish didn't exist and just transform it into amazing growth solutions and things like that. Because we're sitting in a room of people that I think their success is that that's what they have actually done in some areas, but the others are really kind of screwing them up or making them hurt. So hopefully I explain that in a.

Clear enough ways for you guys to.

Respond to that when we can find within us the courage, the dexterity, the maturity, and the eloquence to express our truth. So I would point everybody in the direction of, okay, what's the most honest thing that you could say in a situation like this? And, you know, sometimes the most honest thing we can say is, I really don't feel like talking about that because it upsets me. Or another honest thing that we could say is, well, I'm really, really afraid. It doesn't matter what the truth is. I believe that we need to develop the habit of being more truthful, more honest, more authentic, if you like, more of the time with more people, which means we can do it incrementally. You can do it anywhere as long as the decision and the commitment is to live by your own truth. Because every time we don't live by our own truth, then we are denying ourselves. We are denying the world as well. But that in itself creates stress because our truth in here is not the truth out there. So I would say pursue the truth. Yes, there will be fear that comes up for us when we have the opportunity to speak our truth. Why is that? Or we're afraid of the consequences. We're all afraid of being rejected, being disapproved, of being abandoned, being judged unfavorably, being hurt. And if we've learned, especially back then at a young age, if we've learned that it's safer not to tell the truth or it's safer not to express our feelings, guess what? We grow up choosing when we tell the truth. We grow up. Most of us have done this, actually suppressing the truth about how we're feeling. When feelings get buried alive, they never die because the body keeps the score. And at some point, what's going to happen is the body is going to present its bill for us doing this to all of the feelings that we have inside. So one of the best things we can do is honestly express ourselves, whether it's to somebody else, by ourselves, to a support group, in writing. Find an outlet for your truth and get used to living from your truth. And you'll be amazed as to how much that can reduce stress over time.

What's Your perspective on physical disease and illness and the link between emotions. Because one of the things we had spent a good chunk of time talking.

About, Richard, when Sam first introduced us.

Was about physical pain and about how. And about disease and about how so much, you know, disease and conditions manifest as a result of repressed emotions and trauma and stress.

Right.

So could you describe what the link is?

Anything that we suppress any, let's call them typically negative feelings that we don't find an outlet for when we bury them alive, then we create the propensity internally for things to get blocked energetically. So some of you may well very well know that word emotion comes from the phrase energy in motion. You know, we're designed to emote, we're creative. Part of the blueprint is to feel all of the emotions that we ever feel. We're supposed to feel them. So when we deny ourselves the opportunity to feel them effectively, what we're doing is we're stopping the flow of energy. And we can only do that for so long. It's a bit like a traffic pile up on the motorway. You know, as soon as a car crashes, that's it. Everything stacks up behind it until the crash is cleared. So what then happens to the internal systems of the body is they're compromised, they are overburdened as a result of us trying to do all of this with the stuff that we're refusing to feel. And I've done the. I've done a lot of research, or as I call it, me search and people who do research for a lot of. A lot of the time it's to serve their own agenda and serve their own purpose, which isn't to criticize the research, it's just to put it in some sort of context. Because I've done a lot of my own research in this field in private practice and with peers and colleagues, there's absolutely no doubt whatsoever you could Google it and find out there's over 200 million articles on the subject of how emotions affect our physical health. And so I've spent the last 25 years researching exactly and validating what's out there. And whether you like the idea of it being 60% of the cause of illness or 99% of the cause of illness, it's somewhere in that band. Even 60% of the cause is astronomical, which explains why, when you can take care of your nutrition or lifestyle, your environment, but still you haven't resolved the physical symptoms that you're experiencing, but what's left then is an explanation. Okay, there might be Some genetics, but genetics is less than 2%, depending on which research you are happy to accept. So that still leaves a big chunk of an unanswered question. Well, how has this come about? And my answer would be, it's actually a buildup of, and I agree with this term, emotional distress, which I'd like to separate out because there's stress, and for me, there's emotional distress. So whether that's trauma, drama, conflict, negativity, can't avoid it. Over time has built up, we've become emotionally constipated, if you like, because we haven't been taught, we haven't been encouraged to actually find an outlet for all of these emotions. So they've become buried alive. And that's what the body is doing when it manifests and creates physical symptoms. In my opinion, it is saying, look, this is not sustainable. I cannot carry on keeping this under wraps as well as do everything else. So something's going to have to break down. Something's going to have to fall over. Something's going to have to be compromised. So there's absolutely no doubt in my mind about the connection. And this is the way that medicine is going. I predict that now, without a shadow of a doubt, or into how emotions affect our health and therefore it's emotional healing that can contribute as a minimum, to. To the improvement in symptoms. Absolutely.

You said the body keeps the score. Great book by Bessel Van De Kolk, who I've met before, and my friend Gabor Mate, very similar in terms of how much conditions. And then Dr. John Sarno with physical pain, because as we talked, me and you, Richard, have spoken about that, and I've spent hours talking with Sam about the link between physical pain and, you know, repressed emotions and how people, you know, manifest stress. What are some strategies? Could you guys just rattle off some strategies? We can go deeper into it at a future conversation. But what are some of the ways to deal with this? What are some of the rituals? What are some of the fundamentals that if you guys had a choice to just say, here's things that we know that work now, people will have to utilize them and master them. And we, you know, luckily have BJ Fogg, the, you know, amazing Stanford professor who's a genius network member now and wrote Tiny Habits that can take some of these and, you know, show people how to incorporate it.

But what are.

What are the strategies? What are the ways that you guys recommend to people?

So let me give very quick, very easy, something to remember. It's called the swab Process, Swab. Sw. Swab. The S stands for speak, the W stands for whisper. A stands for announce, and the B stands for Bree. And the swab process I would recommend is used. If you feel overcome by any emotion, you create a truth statement along the lines of, I can feel angry, I can feel ashamed. And then what you do is you take that truth statement and you put it through swab. So you speak it in your normal voice. I can feel angry. Then you whisper it. I can feel angry. Then you announce it to the world or to the room. I can feel angry. And then you breathe and keep doing that. And keep doing that. And what you will find is that the emotional charge reduces, reduces, reduces. That's what I call a quick and dirty. If you find yourself overcome by an emotion, unwanted, difficult to know what to do. Of course, you've got to be mindful where you are if you're going to do the announce thing. But the principle is you're speaking your truth about how you're feeling. The expressing of the emotion is what we need to master.

This is what genius networking actually is. It's the integration of ideas put into behavior. We actually hear something and then you put it into, you know, you take what you like and you leave the rest. I mean, I'd say treat everything like.

A 12 step group.

And okay, Sam, what would you say?

Learn to respond rather than react. And the main difference is a response is a controlled reaction. And the way you learn to respond instead of react is slow down. And that ties it into the muscle. Slow down the muscle movement. Because when you slow down the muscle movement, two things happen. When you slow down the way you move as you're doing something, or slow down the way you breathe, which is the most powerful thing, what ends up happening is you're triggering, you're sending a message to your unconscious mind to let it know that you are safe. Because if there's a tiger in front of you, you're not going to slow down. The second thing is slowing down amplifies precision. And when you're more precise in what you do, you automatically amplify the sense of feeling and control, which makes you feel safe. So slowing down your movement, bullet time, really slowing down the movement, slowing down the breathing and having that, I've seen that in Japan. We can talk about that in depth. The way people move in Japan is just unbelievable, especially in different, you know, professions. So that's one thing. The second is the swab that was mentioned by Richard is one of the most powerful and simplistic Things you can ever do to release an emotion like that, it is unbelievable. It doesn't take more than three to four minutes. You can do as many rounds as you want. I can do like seven rounds. Obviously the breathing is three. Three exaggerated deep breaths, really important, that kind of powerful breath and suddenly within seven, seven times. Actually, one of the things that I learned from Richard about the swab is when I had that experience, it reminded me of the WIM HOF method and it was interesting. So what I normally do if I want to swab, I end up following that with a WIM HOF method. 2, 3 rounds of WIM HOF breathing. WIM HOF is one of the most powerful ways to reduce stress. The WIM HOF breathing in and of itself, obviously we had conversations about this. I basically swab, then whim, in other words. So I do this followed by whimming, if that makes sense. And it's a powerful combination. The other thing I would recommend is the. The M wave. EM wave 2.0 is a device created by the Heartmath Institute. I've been using it since 2013. It is the most effective, one of the most effective ways to combat stress and reduce, kind of like reduce the hyperactivity of the amygdala. It really is powerful. It's not as fast as the WIM hof, it's not as fast as the swab, but it's really powerful. I remember seven to eight years ago when I first got it, there was something that happened to me in my life and it's the kind of thing that makes you lie on the couch for about eight days, not wanting to eat, not wanting to do anything. I did a 45 minute session with that device and I was able to operate like nothing happened. I recommend it to people that have panic attacks and since they started, they no longer have panic attacks. It's a powerful tool. I highly recommend using it either twice a day for 15 minutes or three times a day for 10 minutes. But you can use it as many times as you want, as long as you want. Obviously. The last thing is what I mentioned about control and resistance. It's important for us to interrupt our patterns. Now. Breathing in itself is something that is a much bigger topic. But it's important to interrupt our patterns. And asking the right question redirects us. The language of possibility gives us permission to do anything. And in this case, when I ask myself what can I control right now, I'm giving myself permission to control something. I just need to find the thing that I'm in control of that. I forgot to control it to feel better. The last thing I would say to tie that in because we create an impossible problem every single time through the way we look at things. When we are trapped in a room and fear the walls that define it, how can we ever leave? When we live in a dangerous place and the way out becomes the enemy, how can we ever taste freedom? But the way we look at things always is to create an impossible problem. I received a message from someone saying, how can I control something I'm already in control of? He didn't say it that way, but he was asking something and that came to my mind and that creates an open loop that the mind can never close. How can I control something I am already in control of? How can I lower the arm that I just raised? It's like the chicken and egg, and it's a monkey wrench that the mind can never break. So redirecting yourself through asking the right questions interrupts patterns, redirects your focus to what you can control, and you move out of where you are in that room.

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