The Comeback: Eliminate Fears, Overcome Psychological Barriers, and Become Unstoppable Featuring Whitney Jones at Joe Polish’s Genius Network - Genius Network Episode #161

You guys are entrepreneurs, you're risk takers. And that's not to say you never have doubt and you never have fear. But it's up to you to find a way to get out of that. No one's going to do it for you. And again, that's something that I constantly remind myself of. It's up to me. If I want to be successful, then do something about it. No matter what's thrown at you, there's always a way. And the mentality is find a way. Find a way to overcome whatever you're currently dealing with.

Before going on sabbatical. Joe, interview Supermom and two time Ms. Fitness Olympia Whitney Jones on overcoming fear. Here are some of the insights she shared.

She's two times Miss Fitness Olympia 201820192018 Miss Fitness International owner of Pro Physiques, the largest personal training gym in the state of Arizona. Owner of the Pros online personal training and coaching athletes all over the world. Owner of Fearless by Whitney Jones fitness apparel line. Owner of promoter and owner of the MPC Whitney Jones Classic IFBB Fitness Pro fitness routine. Choreographer, single mom of two boys. Give it up for Whitney Jones. What is this drive? What causes you to do what it is you do?

Passion. Honestly, with what I've always done in my life, I always feel like if you're doing it for the right reasons and you have passion behind it, you can't fail. So for me, starting my businesses kind of years ago, the biggest thing for me was not wanting to live a mediocre life. I mean, honestly, I had seen it growing up and just a lot of my friends just settling, settling into life, not going after their dreams, their goals. It's just like, okay, this is the way it's supposed to be. You go to college, you get married, you have kids and then you just kind of float. And for me, I've always been driven by entrepreneurs. I've always had a desire since I was a little girl to own my own business. Never knew what that was. And I had different opportunities growing up that I wanted to just pursue. But it was like until I had that moment where it just, I felt it in my heart. I never wanted to pursue it because I wanted to do it right. So I waited. Gosh, it was, I was 32 years old when I launched my first business. And then again, it was from a dream of just doing it for the right reasons. So for me, that was a pivotal moment to say, get out, start fresh, do something, take a risk. And so I quit my job, doing great. I Mean, I was fortunate enough to be making six figures at a younger age and said, all right, I'm gonna go get a job at a gym for minimum wage. And that was a big jump. That first paycheck, I was like, what the hell did I just do? But I just felt it in my bones that it was right. And I said, I know I want to do this. I'm excited. I was. Every morning I'd get up knowing I was going to help people make an impact, and it was what helped me thrive. And again, those paychecks were rough in the beginning, but if I'm doing it for the right reasons and have the passion behind it, I knew I wouldn't fail. And I've just moved forward with that same mindset. For me, it's constantly about overcoming and what you can do. Personally, I don't have that victim mentality, and I think that's what holds people back a ton, is fear, failure, and just not wanting to take that leap and doubt, those are two things that will always kill success. For most of you guys who are part of this, you guys are entrepreneurs, you're risk takers. And that's not to say you never have doubt and you never have fear, but it's up to you to find a way to get out of that. No one's going to do it for you. And again, that's something that I constantly remind myself of. It's up to me. If I want to be successful, then do something about it. No matter what's thrown at you, there's always a way. And the mentality is, find a way. Find a way to overcome whatever you're currently dealing with.

From all the therapy that I've done, which is a ton. The only healthy form of fear is concern. All the other forms of fear, like worry and scared and terror and all this, how have you learned to deal with fear?

One of the first experiences where I can say I really was nervous about it is in competing and getting on stage. I love to perform, but when you're in an arena filled with 25, 50,000 people and you're on stage by yourself, there's a lot of fear. I literally wrote a list of all the things that in my head at that moment were scaring me. And then I went back to what's important. Well, are my boys still going to love me? Is my family and friends still going to love me? And at the end of the day, yes, they were proud that I was even getting on the biggest stage in the world and doing something that Most people never would have the opportunity. So it erases the fear. But until I put it on paper and really looked at it and went, these are silly things. These are silly. Who cares, right? If I place last, big deal, like, what is the worst thing that can happen? So for me, that was my biggest moment of going, wow, okay. This is me facing fear head on. And I have parlayed so many things in my athletic career into all of my businesses. I think that's why I love everything so much. Because a lesson that I've learned about competing, dieting, mindset 100% always helps me with how I implement it in my businesses.

What lessons have you learned about being a business owner, about success as a business owner? I mean, how do you do all this stuff? You're doing a lot of different things. And you're a mother.

Yes.

Single mother.

A single mother. Yes. Balance is such a overplayed word, but it really is the truth. I get up early, I have a schedule. It never goes right. Not one day ever goes right. Primarily because kids schedules, they just don't follow the normal business element. But it's taught me a lot about being able to roll with the punches. And I have a set schedule every day, but there will be three to four big things that I just was not able to get to. Fine. That's okay. There's fires that happen. If I can keep a positive mindset. The best advice I have for parents is you can't be so tunnel vision on my workout needs to be this way. You got to be able to roll with it. There's always a way to find an opportunity to exercise, even if you're in your own house. I mean, a lot of people said this when Covid hit and they were stuck at home with their kids. Ok, great. Let's make a family little workout and get the kids involved. Hey, what do you want to do? You pick an exercise. It's something simple, maybe push ups. So guarantee you're going to work twice as hard as any child does. But you get half an hour of a workout in, you just got to be moving. It always works because you can play this. Oh, my God, I can't believe this happened today. We lost a client. Or, you know, with COVID this year, there were so many hurdles our industry had to overcome. And it's like, okay, well, we're not the only ones dealing with it. And there's always people in worse situations. It goes back to some of the doubts I had kind of starting my businesses and the fear and it's like, if you can go, okay, well, this is scary. But I'm not alone and at least I'm in a better position than others. It takes you out of that victim mentality to go step up. The first time I won a title, I had a torn ACL on stage. But it happened three weeks out, three and a half weeks out. And I'm like, I was coming back from neck surgery, so there's all this media about she's never going to be able to make it back. It was supposed to be a career ending neck injury and I was just dead set on getting on that stage to prove everybody wrong and to give hope to anyone that has a devastating injury that you can still come back. Well, on that journey, I tore my ACL and thought, but again, I worked with the body parts that could work and came up with skills and a routine that was entertaining and, and had some wow factor and ended up winning my first title with a recovering double fusion with 12 pieces of metal in my neck and a torn ACL.

That is crazy. The analogy of entrepreneurship, I often think is like, you know, hurling down the freeway at, you know, 80 miles an hour and you have to change the tire in the middle of it.

Yeah, there are tough days. I mean, trying to prep for an event while being a single mom and managing five different businesses, it is difficult. But I go back to that mentality of, you know, I get to. And I have followed this philosophy of regret is a bitch. I mean, and that's, that's the truth. I never want to look back and say, I didn't give it my all. I also on those low moments, because everyone gets it. I mean, I feel like if people say, I never have a bad day or I never go into these like, oh, I'm just exhausted phases, they're lying and good for them to kind of put on the happy face. But the reality of it is be authentic, be genuine. Me sharing my story has helped too, because there's always for me that helps give me inspiration to say, okay, we'll keep going, keep inspiring. No matter if I'm having a bad day, share the story that it's a rough day and what I'm doing to overcome it. And the thing is, I look at and again, it plays into business. I never want to be outworked. So if I'm having a day that I'm just exhausted, I'm having trouble kind of motivating myself. I think about my competitors and I think they're doing what I should be doing right now and that instantly. For me, that triggers something because I will never be outworked. I want to go into a competition knowing I gave it my all. And truthfully, when I step on stage for my competitions, I have to feel like I won. I don't want to give that validity to the judges So I could win, I could lose. It doesn't matter if I hit the stage and I already feel like I did what I was supposed to. I put in the work. I already feel like a winner. It's up to you guys if you want to actually give me the trophy. But no matter how it goes, I'm going to feel like a winner because I never gave up and I pushed. And it goes back to business. If you're having a day where you just feel unmotivated, think about your competitors. Think about the competing businesses that want your market share. And if you're just sitting idle, they're going to take it. So don't let them.

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