The Unstoppable Formula: How To Eliminate Burn Out, Turn Pain Into Power and Transform Your Life - with Sean Stephenson - Genius Network Episode #120

When you focus on a compelling future, you are pulled forward.

Who else wants the secrets to turning fears, envy and complaints into big goals? Appreciation and doing what you love. At the 2018 Genius Network annual event, Shawn Stevenson shared this amazing presentation. Here are some highlights. Remember to subscribe to Genius Network so that you don't miss a Future episode. Visit geniusnetwork.com subscribe for more.

Who I'd like to introduce to all of you is someone that many of you know. He is one of my dearest friends. He has impacted millions of people throughout the world. He has lived a life and in a container that I can't even imagine. And most people that have his condition die early in life or live lives of depression and loneliness and fear and anxiety. And this man has just developed himself into one of the most incredible, helpful, serving, funny, amazing humans on the planet. And one of the things that we emphasize in Genius Network, one of the things we want to really do is sell people what they want. And in many cases, that's more money, better clients, connections, all the trappings of success, from material items to being a New York Times bestselling author. For some people or whatever other people, they're looking at relationships, they're looking at health. And so we're gonna focus on one of the most important things today, which is your life. And that's going to be expressed through what Sean Stephenson is gonna demonstrate and share with everyone. So I'd like to bring up my dear friend, Mr. Shawn Stevenson. Dr. Dr. Shawn Stevenson.

Many of you know me, Shawn Stevenson, as a professional speaker, 24 years of speaking. Raise your hand if you've ever seen me speak or seen one of my videos. I believe that that is a huge blessing and an honor. And while you might know me as a professional speaker, that's not where I'm most proud. It's been fun. I love making you laugh and cry. I love creating magic on stages around the world. But at the end of the day, I'm most proud of being a professional listener. For the last 18 years, I've been a professional listener. It all started because a young lady in my audience, junior high age, she came up to me and she rolled her sleeves up and she had cuts all up and down her arms. And she said, why do I do this to myself, Sean? And at the time, I was a newbie speaker and I had no clue why somebody would harm themselves. And I said, sweetie, I don't know, but I'm going to go find out. And I went back to school and became a doctor of Clinical hypnosis, because I wanted to study the unconscious mind. You see, I have a unique form of therapy. I work exclusively with entrepreneurs. I've worked with many of you. I have a full immersion practice where somebody comes sees me for 12 hours in a row because I know how busy you are. I know that it is not feasible for most of you to cut out a week or an hour a day to keep seeing somebody. But to go deep and really deal with. Why are you not loving being you? I think the greatest tragedy is when a human doesn't love being them. And one of the things that I really am good at is loving myself. People will come up to me and they're like, oh, Shawn, I'd love to have your confidence. I'd love to have your poise up on stage. Sean, I'd love to be able to sit down and be able to work on a project like you. But listen, none of that matters. If you don't love yourself, it doesn't matter how much money you have. It doesn't matter how productive you are. It doesn't matter how many people you reach. If you aren't loving being you, you're not playing. And so today, what I thought would be the best thing I could do is teach you how to love being you. Raise your hand if you would like to have that. Yes. So I'm going to teach you a formula, and I'm going to demonstrate one part of the formula this morning in real time. This formula. I call it the unstoppable formula, because I've seen people stopped. I counsel the entrepreneur who's burning out. Their lives are crashing down. Their marriages are coming unglued. Their bodies are aching and they're in pain. They don't even know their children. People come to me not because their life is perfect and they have it together. No, they come to me in the shadow to say, sean, I need help. And here's what I found, that there is a way to be miserable. So what I want to start off before I tell you how to be unstoppable, is I want to teach you how to be miserable. Okay? Many of you do it very well. Okay? So here's what you're doing when you're miserable. Write this down. You're going to share it with your kids. You're going to share it with your employees. This, in my own humble, not so humble opinion, is going to be the most valuable thing. You're going to learn to be miserable. All you need to do is focus on what you don't want what you don't have and what you don't like. That's it. Anytime you're miserable, it's because you're focused on what you don't want, don't have, don't like. Well, what do we call that? Well, don't want is our fears. But what if I fail? But what if I look bad? What if I screw up this huge deal? But what if I can't get out of this partnership? But what if this is a horrible trap to be in? When you're focused on what you don't want, you're miserable. And guess what happens when you focus on what you don't want? That's like walking backwards into your future. I don't walk, but I'm pretty sure you all don't go really well backwards. Most of you would trip if you tried to go everywhere in your life walking backwards. And that's what you're doing when you're focused on what you don't want. Number two is when you focused on what you don't have. That's all your envy. I heard the key to getting into heaven is quoting Dan Sullivan. So Dan says, when you are envious, you block the very thing that you want. So we cannot be sitting around going, oh, I want Dean Graziosi's money. Oh, I want Joe Polish's sense of humor. No one says that, but I want. You know, when we spend our time focused on what we don't want, we drain ourselves what we don't have, then we upset ourselves. And lastly, when we focus on we don't like, that's all of our complaints. Do you know how much of your life you waste complaining? Each and every one of you, myself included, think about how much energy you lose. Complaining, oh, this room's too cold. Oh, I don't like the food here. Oh, I didn't like my airplane today because it wasn't big enough. I don't like this. I don't like that. I don't like this about my spouse. I don't like that about my children. I don't like this about my house. I don't like that about my car. Do you know how much of your energy is being wasted talking about what you don't like? We need to clean that up. So here's how you can feel. Amazing. It's very simple. Flip it upside down, Focus on what you do want. Those are your goals. Anytime you're in a dark space, pull out a piece of paper, pull out a pen, just start writing down, what do you do want. What do you want? Here's what I want. Here's what I want. You don't even need to know how you're gonna go do this. When you focus on a compelling future, you are pulled forward. I've worked with so many people that they were told just like I was, you're not going to live past such and such date. The people that had the big goals, they were the ones that had something to go toward. I think it's more important to have a goal than to achieve a goal. Yeah, I said it, I said it to a room of entrepreneurs. I think it's more important that you have a goal than that you achieve the goal. Because achievement is oftentimes disappointing. Raise your hand if you've ever done something, and then when you did it, you were like, oh, that's all I got. But enough about marriage. No. So I love my wife. When you focus on the goal, you have something to move toward. I can promise you right now, if you came to Genius Network and you're going through a miserable time, it's because you don't have compelling enough goals. Second is you got to flip it upside down. Instead of having the envies, you got to have all that appreciation. The opposite of envy is appreciation and gratitude. Find me somebody who loves everything that's going on in their life that wants to kill themselves. Find me somebody who is like, oh, I love my children, I love my life, I love my connection to God, I love my dreams, I love my house, I love my car. Look, gratitude and misery don't hang out together. When you see me, a three foot tall man in a wheelchair, and you're thinking, how does he have so much confidence? Is it a joke? Is it an act? Is it a fake? No, it's because I believe I chose this container. I believe you wouldn't listen to me the way you do if I looked like you. Do you get that? If I looked like you, you couldn't hear me. So here I am. I am somebody that is just filled with gratitude. And the third component is so very valuable. And that is not your complaints, but your preferences. What do you like to do? Many of you are so rich and broke, you're broke because you're not using your money for fun. Let me tell you, send me some of your money. I'll show you how much fun you can have. One of the reasons why I love Joe Pollard so much is because Joe, amongst all of you powerful entrepreneurs, Joe is somebody that still goes to the movie in the middle of the Week, he'll call me up and say, hey, do you want to see a movie? I'm like, sure. When? He's like, now. And I'm like, thanks for the advance notice. And so I say yes. I moved to Arizona for three reasons. My wife and I, Mindy and I, we decided we wanted to be in warmer weather. Mindy and I, we decided that we wanted to be close to her brother who has our nephew. We wanted to see him grow up. And third, we decided we wanted to be close to the Genius network. I moved here before I was a member because I just wanted to be around the airspace of greatness. That's why you need to be in this room. That's why you need to sign up for Genius Network. Not so you can learn the tactics on how to get more money and more business and have more visibility and likes and conversions. Fuck that. No, you want to join this group because you want to be around the airspace of greatness. Because when you're around greatness, oh, good things happen. What do you like to do? Do you like taking baths? Hot baths? Do you like reading? Do you like hanging out with your children? Do you like going for walks with your lover? What do you like to do? Because if you're miserable, I know you're not doing those things anymore. What are you waiting for? You think you gotta get that deal done before you can have a good day? If you don't like your life right now, you're not gonna like your life 10 years from now, 20 years from now. If you aren't willing to like your life right now, with what you have, no amount of money, happiness, visibility is going to matter. So do this. Take a deep breath in. Let it out. I'm going to teach you how to be unstoppable. Here's something I found, that when clients come out of my office, when they work that 12 hours with me, they peel back the layers of BS and they say, sean, I'm ready to love my life. And let me tell you, if you have kids, the best thing you could do is show them what it looks like, like to love your life. Everybody always says, oh, I want to teach my child these values. I want to teach them. I'm going to do all these things. Like, they're going to listen to you. Your kids don't listen to you. They watch you. Raise your hand if you would die for your children. Keep your hand up. If you're living for them, are you living for them? You know, I counsel people that are going through horrible relationships and they'll say, sean, I don't know what to do make such an impact on my children. And I'm like, well, then go have love in your life and may it first be with you. Here's how you be unstoppable. I'm going to prove it to you in a second. Up real time. These three components is 18 years of therapy just shrunk down time compressed. Number one. If you want to be unstoppable, you need impeccable self care. Repeat after me. Impeccable self care. There was no happiness in this room. Impeccable self care. Because when you have impeccable self care, no insecurity has a chance. Your confidence. Dan Sullivan says that you must protect your confidence at all costs. As an entrepreneur, anything that is going to get in the way of you feeling confident is jeopardizing your life and impeccable self care. When you work on yourself, your mind, your body, your spirit, and you track it. I loved Dr. Hope yesterday. She said you need the metrics on your health and your life. She's right. I walk around with a binder with all my self care activities and I'm checking them off as I go. In my life, I care way more about my self care than my income. Here's why. Because if you have income without self care, it won't matter. You won't like yourself, you won't like the person in the mirror. Your children will wonder, do I really want to grow up and be like that? You need impeccable self care because the cure to insecurity. Here you go. The cure to insecurity is self care. Have you ever noticed that when you're insecure, you don't really flow that Midas touch? Raise your hand if you know what I'm talking about. You flow the manure touch, right? It's like everything you touch turns to shit when you aren't taking care of yourself. Impeccable self care. The second component, and this is huge. And this is why I do what I do. It's why I wake up in the morning. It's why my eyes open every single day and I get out of the bed, get into this wheelchair, head out into the world, cram myself into little airplanes, drive for miles, stay in different hotels, eat different foods, take the risks on my body every single day is for the second component. And that is you need to align with your life purpose. Why were you born? When you know why you were born, you will get God's caffeine and that will pump through your veins and you will not be stopped. And the third part of my unstoppable formula is surround yourself with empowering people. Get in the airspace of greatness. You know what's great about being a Genius Network member? You get to do all three at once. When you're in the Genius Network, you are going to learn about how to get more impeccable self care. How do you get more aligned with that life purpose? How do you peel away anything that is standing in the way of you having more more woo. And you get to be in an airspace of greatness. I just want all of you to know that there's more of you inside of you than you have shown us and you've shown yourself. There is always an equal amount of evidence to prove that your life sucks and that your life is a gift and a miracle. Find how you can create a life that is unstoppable. I would love to have you in the Genius Network. I would love to call you my friend. I'd love to spend time in your airspace. It has been a pleasure, an honor and a privilege to be with you this morning. Thank you so much.

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