Ep 108 - Today Over Tomorrow

Have you ever woken up and immediately started replaying everything that you did wrong yesterday before you even got out of bed? It's like your brain kicks onto autopilot and that pilot's only job is to criticize your every move. Hi, this is Jordana, the CEO of the Recon Network and host of the InBrief podcast. And today we're talking about something that quietly undermines more progress than almost anything else, the habit of weighing yesterday's mistakes heavier than today's effort. We're going to talk about why your brain does it, why it keeps you stuck, and why getting back up, not analyzing the fall, is the only thing that actually moves you forward. This is In Brief. Let's get to it. Here's a pattern that shows up for a lot of people. You're working on something, building something, trying to make a change, and then you slip. You miss a day at the gym, you snap at someone you care about, or you apply for a job, you get rejected. You commit to something and don't follow through, but whatever it is, it happens. And instead of getting back up, you just stop. Not because you decided to quit, but because you can't stop thinking about the mistake. So you replay it. You analyze it. You turn it over and over in your head, looking for what you did wrong because you should have done it differently. What does it say about you? And the longer that you sit in that loop, the harder it becomes to move at all. Here's why that's actually so dangerous. While you're replaying yesterday's mistake, today is passing you by. The day where you could actually do something different and reset the game board, the day where you could prove to yourself that the mistake wasn't the end of the story, that day is slipping by while you're still stuck on the last one. Now, in military service, there was a process for this. After-action reviews exist for a reason, to learn from what went wrong. But they also had a boundary. You debriefed, you identified the gap, and then you moved on. Because dwelling on the failure doesn't make the next mission go better. It just keeps you mentally stuck in the last one. Now, civilian life doesn't have the same boundary. There's no commander telling you when it's over. There's no next mission forcing you to shift your focus forward. So if you're not careful, The review becomes permanent. You get stuck in analysis mode, and analysis without action is just another form of avoidance. So why does your brain do this, weighing mistakes so heavily? Well, it's because your brain is wired to pay more attention to threats than to wins. It's actually a survival mechanism. A mistake means danger. A win just means, well, keep going. So your system flags the mistake, but it doesn't leave it at that. It makes it really loud. It makes it really sticky. And if you're not conscious of what's happening, you'll spend way more mental energy on the one thing you did wrong than on the 10 things that you did right. Now, that imbalance doesn't just feel bad, it can actually change your behavior because the more you focus on the mistake, the more your brain starts to see the mistake as the pattern. And once your brain believes that your default pattern is failure, it stops expecting or preparing for success. It stops looking for the evidence that you're capable and instead just waits for the next confirmation that you're not. But here's the part that your brain doesn't know to tell you. Yesterday's mistake doesn't define today's capacity. What you did or didn't do 24 hours ago has no power over what you're capable of doing right now. So let's talk about getting back up, because that's the part that most people skip. They think the lesson is the fall, that if they can just figure out exactly what went wrong, they'll be able to avoid it next time. But that's only part of the lesson to be learned, and there's much more in what you do afterward. Getting back up is the skill. It doesn't need to be perfect, and you don't have to have a plan in place to do it. You just have to get back up. And every time you do, you're proving something to your nervous system: that mistakes aren't fatal and that failure isn't final. That proof compounds too, not in a dramatic way, but over time. The person who gets back up after every mistake doesn't become perfect. They just become someone who doesn't stay down. And that, more than talent or discipline or any other trait that people talk about, is what separates the people who eventually get where they're going from the people who stay stuck. See, getting back up doesn't mean ignoring the mistake or pretending it didn't happen. It just means asking yourself, what's one thing I can do right now that moves me in the direction I want to go? Not a perfect thing, not a big thing, just one thing that proves to yourself that you're still showing up. Think about it this way: you can spend today reviewing everything that went wrong yesterday, or you can spend today building evidence that today is different. Both take the same amount of time, both take the same amount of energy, but only one of them actually moves you forward. Your nervous system doesn't learn from what you think about, it learns from what you do. So if you want to rewire the belief that you're stuck, that mistake means you're broken, that setbacks mean you're not capable, you don't do it by analyzing the mistake. You do it by showing your system over and over and over that mistakes don't stop you, that you keep moving anyway, regardless of how many times you fall down. So if you're in a season right now where you're stuck on something you did or didn't do, here's what I want you to try. Stop asking yourself what you should have done differently and start asking yourself what you're going to do next. Don't look at it as punishment or redemption. Just look at it as your next step, because the person you were yesterday may have made a mistake, but the person you are today gets to decide what happens next. And those may be two completely different people if you let them. Progress isn't a straight line. In fact, it's not even a line most of the time. It's just a series of decisions. Most of them small or imperfect, to keep showing up, to keep trying, to keep getting back up. And the only thing that makes yesterday's mistake bigger than today's effort is the amount of time you spend looking backward instead of forward.

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