In Brief: Essential Insights for Post-Military Transition
10 Jul 2023 · 4 min
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In this solo podcast episode, Jordana Megonigal, CEO of the Recon Network, discusses the power of personal presence and body language, especially for individuals transitioning from military to civilian life. She cites research showing that first impressions form within 7 seconds and that people can judge others accurately from a 10‑millisecond facial glimpse. She explains how posture, eye contact, facial expressions, and gestures convey confidence, trustworthiness, and interest, and how misaligned body language can undermine both external perception and internal self‑confidence. Jordana offers concrete tips for interviews, networking, and everyday interactions—maintaining eye contact, standing tall, smiling, and avoiding fidgeting or closed‑off postures. She also highlights the feedback loop where stressed body language can amplify anxiety, and urges listeners to consciously adjust their physical presentation. The episode concludes with a weekly challenge: conduct a body‑language inventory across different contexts, compare self‑perception with imagined external perception, and deliberately align posture and gestures with the desired personal brand.
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This is In Brief. Let's get to it. Hey there, and welcome back to In Brief. Each week we take just a few minutes to dive into a topic that hopefully makes your transition a little bit easier, or at least gives you a new perspective to take into a new week. I'm Jordana. I'm the CEO of the Recon Network. And this week we are talking about Your presence. Did you know that it only takes about 7 seconds for someone to make up their mind about you after meeting you? But it doesn't even take that long for most people to be able to read you accurately. A Princeton study done in 2006 showed that people were able to make accurate judgments about people when shown their faces, even when they were only shown for about 10 milliseconds. That's about 1/10 of a second. Incredibly, those judgments made at 1/10 of a second were just as accurate as the judgments they made at half a second or a full second, and overall they were pretty reliable. But regardless of how long someone has noticed you, that second-long first impression comprises a lot of what will be your future relationship with that person or not. As humans, we make very quick judgments about each other based on no more than facial appearance and body language. That means your body language is a powerful form of communication, and most of us have underestimated its power overall. Not only can it convey your confidence, your interest, and your trustworthiness, but even if someone judges those things incorrectly in a matter of moments, right or wrong, it's affecting their perception of you, your capabilities, and your effectiveness. For those of you who may be transitioning out of the military, or even those who are in a job shift or a significant life change, keep in mind that your body language is a valuable tool that can be wielded in a number of different ways. For example, when you're interviewing or in a job search, make sure to make eye contact and stand up straight to show potential employers that you're confident and capable. When meeting others in a networking situation, a simple smile can help you come across as more approachable. Making eye contact shows the person across from you that you're engaged and invested. Conversely, fidgeting can make you seem nervous or uncomfortable and may make you come across as untrustworthy or incapable. Crossing your arms or legs or hunching over— all signs of closing yourself off to others— may send the signal that you're detached or unsociable. But your physical presence isn't just about the story it tells others. It's also about the story it tells you and how it can affect your own sense of self in the meantime. If you're feeling stressed or anxious, your body language can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, making you more likely to feel even more stressed and anxious when you're hunched over and closed off. On the other hand, if you're feeling stressed or anxious, try to relax your body and take deep breaths to feel more in control and less overwhelmed. When you're in a part of life that includes a lot of change or shifting situations, it's easy to lean into uncertainty. When you're uncomfortable with your personal situation, it's far too easy to let that discomfort seep over into the rest of your life. And before you know it, you're also unsure about your own body. or capacity or capability. If the change takes long enough or longer than you think it should, the imposter syndrome and self-doubt creeps in and can affect other parts of your life too. For many of you, this can be even more challenging because the contrast between the stability and solidarity of military life is so stark compared to the uncertainty of a new world in the civilian sector. So here's your challenge for the week. Take inventory of how you present yourself in certain situations. How do you hold yourself during networking? What about interviews, at work, or at home? Try to see yourself in mirror image and determine how others might perceive you. If that image clashes with who you are or who you want to be, work on changing it. Make a conscious effort to align your body directly with how you want to appear. Whether it's strong and confident or friendly and outgoing, Your body tells a story before you even have a chance to open your mouth.
