How I Fixed My Life In A Day

I saw this extremely viral, almost 200 million posts article on X. It's by Dan Coe, How to Fix Your Life in One Day. I started to read it. It seemed so profound. I saved it for later. Now is later. I thought I would document it and see what this is all about. Let's see if we can change our life in one day. If you're anything like me, you think New Year's resolutions are stupid. Because most people go about changing their lives in the completely wrong way. For the most part, people try to change and most time they don't. He's right about that. In this, he's outlining 7 ideas we probably haven't heard of to address behavior change, and at the end he's got an exercise that takes about a day. I hope I can accomplish that with all the distractions we have. So I got tired, and it got towards the end of the day. I had some things to do. I gave up, kind of like a New Year's resolution that doesn't stick. But I don't want to give up give up, so I said I'm just gonna try it again. Let's go over the 5 reasons of why it is that we set out to change But we rarely ever do. See you, buddy. See ya. Dangerous. Alright. Going off to work. He's got him a grading job. Proud of that boy, man. First point. You aren't where you want to be because you aren't the person who would be there. Pow! Some points I drew from that. There's a lot more in this article. I encourage you to check it out. He makes the point that if you want a certain outcome in your life, you have to adopt the lifestyle that encourages that outcome. Dan goes on to say, if you don't adapt the new lifestyle, then it's not going to last. A good example of that, and for me and for many of you I'm sure, is yo-yo diets. I know before I want to get strict and hardcore and let's go and I want to do a fast or I want to do the carnivore diet or the GAPS diet. I'll have a date, but the day before I just go crazy. I eat the peanut butter, I eat the chocolate, I eat way too much of it. I eat all kinds of carbs. And I thought to myself, this isn't gonna last because this is what I really want. So I'm always going to revert to that, and that's always been the case, hasn't it? The second point is, and really profound, you are where you are because you really don't want to be there. And I think a good example of that is for myself, when I eat certain foods, it's inflammatory to me. But sometimes I'm really just like, this is worth it. The pain is worth it to have some copious amounts of chocolate and peanut butter. He goes on to point out that when you truly change yourself, like we have truly changed ourselves in the sense of opting out of conventional food. We don't eat it. It doesn't tempt us. Sure, we miss it sometimes. But we don't slip back in and eat unorganic food. We never grab a Coke. We never go out— that we haven't eaten Chick-fil-A in over 10 years. When you veer off from your goal and from your lifestyle, it becomes disgusting. So how do I get— one of my biggest things I want to change is the level of anxiety. I have so much anxiety, my stomach hurts. How do I get to where that's not okay and that's disgusting? It needs to be my lifestyle. I need a carefree lifestyle. And there's no lifestyle that's not going to have problems, so I need a lifestyle of dealing with that or coping with it or letting go. If I want anything on my tombstone, I want it to be "let go." Hopefully my life mantra. And attachment brings suffering, doesn't it? All right, before we get to point number 3, which is the most profound of the series, probably the biggest takeaway for me, uh, We've got ice in our tank. How y'all gonna eat water? Why is my trough heater not working? Let's track that down real quick and we'll get to point number 3. Oh, that was good. Just unplugged it then, but that was plugged in. It's plugged in. Hmm, let's track it down. It's not this extension cord. This will tell us if it's this extension cord. This is hot. Then our trough heater isn't working. It's not hot, our drop cord isn't working. It's working. That means it's our trough heater. Thankfully it's going to be 48 today, but we're about to have a crazy winter storm this weekend. We've got to— this has got to be on the list. We're talking 2 inches of ice, maybe 18 inches of snow. Y'all, that's unheard of here. Cows' water is good, so it's not that it's too cold and the trough feeders can't keep up. The sheep Water heater's good. Look at that little thing. All right, all right, all right. We're gonna come see if we got any more lambs. I'll go over point 5 in the lamb pen, but first let's talk about 3. That's still frozen. We'll have to hook that up in a bit. The third point, the most profound one: you aren't where you want to be because you're afraid to be there. When I fasted to heal myself, I realized when I was better that I was actually uneasy about it. And now that I've had time to think about it, I think it's because I was afraid. Because for 10 years that was my identity. I was somebody who had Lyme disease and hurt. And that was my chief goal. And as I was beating it and accomplishing it and feeling better, I didn't have an identity anymore. And that was scary. I need to find an identity in something higher than me. Higher than that. Higher than any goal I can accomplish. Because if we're just going after goal after goal after goal, we're just on a treadmill. And I'm going through that struggle now as we have arrived to our dream homestead. We have milk every day. We have all the meat we could ever imagine we want to eat. We are nailing in the vegetables. We have dialed it in and we are there and I'm dealing with— I don't think burnout. I thought it was burnout. Or maybe that's what part of burnout is. It's who am I now? That my goals have been accomplished. It's scary. You want help getting hay? Okay, I'll help you. Point number 4 is the life you want lies within a specific level of mind. Level 1: toddler, impulsive, no separation between impulse and action. Number 2: self-protective, the world is dangerous and you learn to look out for yourself. Conformist, you are like your group, it feels like reality itself. Self. And you try to find out where you are in these levels. So try to be thinking about where you are in these levels. 4, self-aware. That's definitely Rebecca and I. You notice an inner life that doesn't match the interior. Rebecca and I are famous for asking questions. I encourage you to ask questions. If you're watching this channel, you're probably definitely here because you've probably opted out of conventional food, or at least are interested. You've asked questions. You're at the grocery store and you see all the people buying They junk in the middle of the store and you're there with them and you've realized or you've learned, as in our case we learned, there's crappy stuff in this. Maybe I shouldn't be doing this. And you become self-aware. You're not going with the mob anymore. 5. Consciousness. You build your own system of principles and hold yourself accountable to them. That is definitely us. We've gone way beyond the self-awareness. 6. Individualist. Are we there yet? I don't know. You see that your principles were shaped by context and start holding them more loosely. Probably not that. An example: realizing your political views have more to do with where you grew up than objective truth, or noticing that your ambition career goals were really about earning your father's approval. Hmm, I guess we've become individualists, haven't we? We've started to shake all the beliefs that we grew up with. 7. Strategist: you work with systems while aware of your own involvement in them. Example: Leading an organization while actively questioning your own blind spots. Definitely. I have so many doubts when leading. And then construct-aware: You see all framework, including your identity, as useful fictions, holding your spiritual beliefs with metaphorically, not literally, knowing the map is not the territory, or watching yourself play the role of founder or thought leader with a kind and gentle amusement. I have no idea what that means. Number 9: You look it up. You read this article. I have no idea what it means, so I'm gonna say I'm at 7. Strategist. Check them out, they went right to that grass. Thanks for doing that, bud. All right, let's go check out those lambs, go over the 5th and final Well, hey, hey, you act like you want to be petted. I pet you and you jump away. Okay, little lamb, little lamb. Oh, there's a new one. That was brand new. I still got blood on its face. So we got 1, 2, 3. I love it when we get to where we can't count them. 4, 5. We need 12. We need to eat a lamb a month. That gives us 5 pounds a week. Look at the little tail going. You're gonna let it? Yeah, she just had it. She's got gut coming out of her. Oh, there's maybe a 6th one. Yep, 6th one. Look, look. Hey, Belle, when you gonna have yours, huh? When you gonna have yours? Is somebody gonna give us a lady? Because we gotta replace these old ladies. Are you gonna give us a lady? Because you're like 7 years old. Oh my gosh, another male! Are you kidding me? We have 6 males. This one, it looks like a, uh, a dog with that patch over its eye. I've never seen it. Intelligence is the ability to get what you want. Okay, all right, let's see where they're going with that. The mark of intelligence is to be able to learn from your mistakes. Okay, okay, I make plenty of mistakes. I think I'll learn from my mistakes. High intelligence is knowing any problem can be solved over a period of time. You can achieve anything you set your mind to. These are good questions to be asking and going over with ourselves. Okay, how y'all feel? Y'all getting there? Getting— you're looking a lot better. You okay, Henry? I'm a little better. Let's get in this 3-point part workshop. But first, some applesauce we preserved. So easy. Question 1: What's the dull and persistent dissatisfaction you've learned to live with? Not the deep suffering, but what you've learned to tolerate. My anxiety. What do you complain about repeatedly but never actually change my pain levels. You getting that butter? Almost. It's whipping cream. For each complaint, what would someone who watched your behavior, not your words, conclude that you actually want? So with the inflammation symptoms, the pain, they would concur that I actually want that pain. Either I want to feel alive and through it, or I want to identify through that. Okay, just like I said, it's done. Yeah, yeah, that is done. I like to see how— I like to see how it falls off this because sometimes— did you catch it right away? Yeah, I think so. Sometimes it needs to go a little bit more, just a, just a minute more. If you catch it too early, it's too, it's too soft. If you catch it too late, it's too soft. We really want the fat to collide with each other and then separate from the buttermilk. Okay, you hold the the butter in while you pour it out on the buttermilk. Yeah, let's go with anxiety. Most of you probably can relate to that. If absolutely nothing changes for the next 5 years, describe an average Tuesday. Where do you wake up? I wake up right there in my bedroom. What do your body feel like? What's the first thing You think about? I think about my anxieties. I wake up anxious and depressed. Who's around you? My family. I love that. I don't think I want to— I don't want to change anything of that. And what do you do between 9 AM and 6 PM? Run a farm with my family and make content about it. How do you feel about 10 PM? I don't know, because I'm asleep. I'm unconscious. I'm thinking, thinking. How do you feel at the end of the day? I do feel better. I feel tired. That sort of tends to be my most hopeful and inspiring moments, and that may be because I had an hour of sauna and bath and it's quiet in the house. Do it for 10 years, what have you missed? What have you— oh, opportunities have closed. Who gave up on you? What did people say when you're not in the room? I miss the opportunity of joy. Of joy and hope in the morning. That's what this anxiety is stealing. You're at the end of your life, you lived a safe— the safe version. See, I don't, I don't think I worry about the safe version. We're pretty crazy. And just enjoy it, because how you live your days is how you live your year, and it's how you live your life. And I'm in constant anxiety, so I'm probably missing out on deeper connections with the family that's around me all the time. Forget practicality for a minute. If you could snap your fingers and be living a different life in 3 years, now what's realistic? What do you actually want? What's your average Tuesday look like? Same level of detail as question 5. You know, what I would actually want and what I see myself working towards is I do love this. I missed this when I made less videos. I want to make videos. I want every day. I actually want to do that. That may seem crazy to people, and if that's what I really want, I need to be okay if it doesn't just go crazy and explode. So really, not much would change except maybe I would delegate more, and that may be happening because my kids are getting older and older, like Josiah making the butter. I just taught him how to make butter. He can do that next time. He goes on to say, number 2, write the identity statement. I am the type of person who lets go. I am the type of person who documents our life and shares with others to complete his joy. I'm the type of person who doesn't let things get to him. I'm the type of person who enjoys the moment. What is the one thing you would do this week if you were already that person? Hmm. I would mark something off the to-do list. And I would avoid putting something on, something more on the to-do list. Part 2 will be fun. You set up questions for yourself throughout the whole day, alarms, and when those alarms go off, you answer based on what you're doing at the moment. One has already gone off. Show that, Austin. 11 AM. What am I avoiding right now By doing what I'm doing. I'll tell you what I'm avoiding. Well, I was on my way to do part 1 of this video, which is weird because you would have already just seen that. I haven't filmed that yet. We're just— we're throwing this in at part 2. Saw the milk out and I said, well, I gotta do it because it's just gonna go— well, butter, the cream that we're gonna turn into butter, it's just gonna go bad. You can sit there and hold that while you watch TV. And that's what I really want to do. Is film this video. I think I'm doing pretty good because I just— I said I'll see if I can get Josiah to do it. I mean, he eats the butter too. 1:30 alarm. Austin and I were editing. It's uploading now. If someone filmed the last 2 hours, what would they conclude I want for my life? 11:30, I made the ladies the meal. I made my family meal. They would conclude from that that I want to serve my family. And then I went into editing with Austin, so they would conclude that I want to produce. I want to share with the world. That's pretty good. That's pretty good. You ready for this interview, Austin? Ready. For the fasting documentary? Yep. Okay, let's do it. I'm gonna fast until I'm healed for 40 days. Am I moving towards the life I hate or the life I want? I think it's fair to say I'm living— I'm moving towards the life I want. 5 PM. What's the most important thing I'm pretending isn't important? There could be an element of spirituality there because I think about my day. It was about family, it was about farm, it was about making the content, running the business. So perhaps spirituality. Would be more important than the emphasis I'm giving it currently. 7:30 PM, I was in the bath, so we'll do this check-in now. What did you do today out of identity protection rather than genuine desire? It's most things you do. I don't know, I have to disagree with this one. I just, I get it, but I just don't do it out of identity protection. I've never struggled with that. Let's do 9 PM while we're at it, because I'm going to be honking my shoes. When did I feel most alive today? I think it was doing— when I was outside doing chores in the cold. It wasn't too cold. It felt great. Part 3. Let's see if you guys can see me. After today, what feels most true about why you've been stuck? It's definitely because I'm afraid of there. I'm afraid of the end goal. I'm anxious for the lack of purpose to what has defined me the last 10 years. What is the actual enemy? I guess that's it. Fear. Not circumstances, not other people, not internal pattern or belief that has been running the show. Yeah, I might be afraid that we have debt and want to knock that out as soon as possible, but that's not the real debt. That's not the real problem, is it? It's fear. So I need to be focused on being brave. Write a single sentence that captures what you refuse to let your life become. This is your anti-vision compressed. It should make you feel something when you read it. What I refuse my life to become is normal. Definitely don't want it to be normal. I don't think I'm worth worrying about going down that route. Write a single center that captures what you're building towards. Know it will evolve. This is your vision MVP. I'm gonna build towards higher meaning, significance. What are 2 to 3 actions you can time block tomorrow that the person you've become would simply do? That anxiety is killing me. So, somebody who doesn't, I just, I need to watch Josiah, my second born. He doesn't seem to be anxious about much. Will this change me forever? I don't know. No, probably not. One really good thing I got out of it is a reminder or a pointing out that, or a confirmation that other people, another human spoke this, that we may just be afraid of where we're going, and that's why we don't go there. And so I'll be thinking through about how to address that and how to alter my lifestyle to be less anxious, learn to live in the moment, because it's, it's all we have. This was a different one. If you're still here, thank you very much. Happy day. Feel free to check out the article. Let me know what you think down in the comments, what you got out of it. See you later.