EP65 Kari and Paul - 12:30 Challenge & DWD Recap

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We're back. It's the Empowered Athlete Podcast. I'm Paul, joined by Kari, and we are looking back on a year that has flown by, primarily focusing on the 12:30 challenge that some of you have taken part in, either fully or partially. And we also want to give you a recap of our incredible week down in Florida at Date with Destiny. Kari, how are you feeling after Date With Destiny?

I'm feeling lighter, clearer, more energized, excited, connected. I don't know what else I can say.

I'm floating on air.

Yeah, you're floating on air because you've been running around trying to get all the Christmas tasks done.

Yeah, that's for sure. It's that time of year and we hope all of you listening are having a wonderful holiday season and are ready for Christmas or whatever you celebrate at this time of year. And we are so excited to. Yeah, it's just an incredible time, really. An end of a decade. The end of the year. We just did Date with Destiny. We're planning things for the future. It's just a time of kind of transition and it sounds a little cheesy at the end of a year, but, you know, there's turning over a new page, but really looking at going in a new big direction. So this is just an awesome time. I'm fired up.

It really, it really does feel incredibly transitional. We've had, I think if, if people have been listening this long to this, this podcast, if they listen into us, summing up the end of Last year, it was a really emotional time. We'd gone through some really tough times, some really amazing times, but if we look back on the whole decade, it's been a really incredible time. And we'll sum up that decade a little more next week. But right now we want to look back at this year and this 12:30 challenge.

Holy cow.

I don't know if we bit off.

More than we could chew or I don't know what you're.

You were really excited when I, when I came up with this idea, but. And I was kind of surprised that you were all in. You're like, yeah, let's do this. This will be awesome. But now that we've been through the full year of a 30 day challenge every single month, yeah, it's, it's a completely, like, I could never have predicted what it would be like and I, I don't know, maybe naively just thought.

Oh, this will be awesome.

And it was awesome in a lot of ways.

But, man, there were a lot of things we learned and we started last year. So just over a year ago with the no Meat January, that was the first one. And no Meat January, I think was almost this. We thought it would be a tough lead in, but I think it was almost one of the easier challenges, surprisingly.

I agree. I'd agree.

We didn't think it would be an easy challenge. We thought it'd be really tough because we are meat eaters and, you know, and there's all kinds of. This can be a really polarizing topic. But, you know, I've, and I've debated back and forth with myself whether I would want to go vegetarian or vegan from an animal treatment standpoint and an environmental standpoint. But from a health standpoint for me in particular, I don't know that I can go completely meat free due to some iron absorbing issues that I have. But, man, like, it was really amazing. The month felt great. It was, it was, it was fun finding the new recipes a little bit daunting trying to find some of the recipes to get the whole family to eat and not to have to make two meals for, for those scenarios. But it, I don't know, we, when we finished it, it's not like we were craving meat. It's not like we wanted to dive into a big burger.

It's not like, yeah, that was never the problem or not there was a problem, but I think because prior to that month and in the past, we made that conscious effort to reduce our meat consumption considerably, it wasn't that hard to Go that step further and fully eliminate. And I think the thing that helps us in that challenge, which is a habit for us, which might not be for others listening, is that we have good habits around meal prep and planning out a few days so that we're fairly organized so that we're not caught too often last minute, hey, what are we going to make for dinner? And having that little bit of a plan was critical for that challenge because we were obviously going to be needing to make things that didn't have meat and required a little more thought. But I think for us, if we didn't have that habit ingrained already, it would be extremely hard because the hardest times are when you're unprepared and so you're always prepared and you were thinking ahead. I mean, you made the challenge easy for me because I mean, you're generally in charge of dinner. So you've got ideas and recipes that you're pulling, want to try. And I think the reason it went so well, I think is that underlying reason of the habit of food planning and prep that really set us up for success.

If you had one biggest takeaway from that whole month, what would your biggest takeaway be?

I think that it's surprising how satisfied and good the food. I mean, feeling, you know, full every meal, not craving more, being, being able to, to feel totally satisfied from a flavor perspective, from a full perspective, from an energy perspective, without it.

I think, yeah, especially big guy like you. For me, it was that I, I basically came out of that thinking of myself as more of a flexitarian. Like I would, I'll eat mostly plant based meals and really pick and choose when I'm going to add meat in or cook meat with that. So I, I came out of that month becoming, I think what, what would be considered a flexitarian? Somebody who eats mostly plant based and just chooses meat on, on occasion.

Yeah.

Okay. So February. Do you want to add anything else to that?

No, no. Down to Frisky February.

Oh my gosh. February is Frisky February. We were, we were basically, basically trying to get it on, on a daily basis that whole month. But I mean, there was some travel involved too. I went to Dryden that month and.

But for the most part, yeah, your.

Travel schedule filled up pretty quickly after that month was booked. No, I'm kidding.

No, you're fine. No, it was actually pretty good.

We did pretty well. But I had a huge takeaway on that one. But anyway, what was your biggest takeaway on Frisky February? Without getting too.

In detail?

Well, it's it's really simple. It's that things happened when you and I felt connected and when we didn't, it didn't. And so it shows the importance of maintaining the connection with your partner and it is the foundation for all the other good things to grow from. And so I think that was what was just as black and white, as clear as it could be for me is that if we're feeling connected, then things were easy. If we weren't feeling connected, then potential fail was in the cards. And that was just that simple.

Yeah. I think my biggest takeaway was that there was a lot more thought going.

Into two main areas.

Number one was that how we were.

Being to each other on a day.

To day basis was.

Was more intentional because it's like, okay, if we know that the objective today.

Is to make something happen, then it's like there was more effort to be more considerate or more or more affectionate or loving or whatever. But so there was more intention there. Kind of like, like someone would be in the beginning of a relationship not, you know, over a decade in. And then the second one was that it was the premeditation or the. I guess there's three things. The premeditation is that there had to be some sort of planning because, because some days based on schedule it's like, okay, we can't make this happen tonight or whatever. So what. How is this going to happen? Is going to be morning is going to be a lunch. You know, like what. What's going to happen? So we're actually planning when. Which we never would have done.

Yeah.

You know, so that was another thing. And then. Which, which was fine and worked well. You know, if things were working. But then, but then the last one was that. Oh yeah, creativity. Because it gets pretty bloody boring if you're just doing the same thing.

Yeah.

Is this too much information? No, if you're doing the same thing and then. So it caused just, you know, a little more variety that way. So yeah, those are my three biggest takeaways. Just the, yeah, the how we were being towards each other, the pre planning and then the, the different variety kind of thing.

March was awesome.

Yeah. And now we don't have time to go through every single month. But maybe if you listen.

I'm going to listen to reminder what.

The challenges were and maybe we can just pull some of the.

March was mindful biggest lessons. So March was mindful March. It was meditation, yoga and gratitude on a daily basis. What was your biggest takeaway?

Just how good it felt to get in the routine. My routine was to do it at lunch at work, listen to a guided meditation, have that just disconnect moment. And I really enjoyed it. It was something that I wasn't sure about how it would go at the beginning, but yeah, just felt good like that one.

And that's something that I've been integrating on a. That that's come into my life as well. April was no plastic. That one I think was way harder than we thought it ever could have possibly like. And it's changed our lives. That whole month of no plastic. Like that was so hard.

Yeah, I think for me, before we started this recording today, I was thinking, okay, what was some of the hardest months? No plastic was, you know, if not top of the list, top of the list. Because it is so pervasive everywhere. It is shocking when you are trying to avoid it how much you see it.

And we were just trying to avoid the single use plastics. We weren't, we weren't trying to avoid every single plastic out there. We were just trying to avoid the ones that are, you know, you use and throw away and it's the single use thing. So the bags of apple, because we, we buy, we buy a lot of food and when we're looking for the organic apples, well, guess what? You can't find the organic apples free on their own. They're all in these bags of plastic. Anyway. That, that was just, that was mind.

Blowing how that was an eye opening month to just.

We already learned so much about the problem.

Yeah, we already thought we did a lot of things to prevent plastic use and we did. But then we really had to do so much more just to get it to. And we still were collecting by the end of the month. We still collected a, you know, a small plastic bag of the ones that we found that weren't avoidable. Like in that bag stuffed. Yeah, like it was ridiculous. So I mean we do have a larger family and a lot going on, but at the same time we, we did a whole bunch of measures and we found barriers as well. There were barriers at place places where I thought there wouldn't be like bulk barn in terms of bringing our own bags. Or it has to be this or it has to be that. Like there's so many rules around what we could do and even at the market, the local bloody market, you know, so many rules around what we could do and what we couldn't do. And I was just like, holy cow, this is not making it easy for the consumer to go plastic free or single use plastic.

Right.

Of course, we did an exercise one moving daily. We did skin squats and planks. We did. Because that's in our wheelhouse, so that's not so hard for us. We did. We did like a cleaning month, like where it was about. It was about getting rid of things.

It was the annual purge.

Yeah, yeah, right. I haven't even seen that movie.

24 hours. Yeah, I really enjoyed that month. That month to aggressively be going through the house and the office and all the different areas of my life and just having it front of mind to be thinking about what can go here, what don't I use here. It was. That month felt really good. We overhauled a couple of rooms in the basement. We. Yeah, we got so much out. So much, you know, donated so much. Just clutter gone. That was. I really enjoyed that month. And I want to make sure that we have a week of that or more as a yearly thing that we do. That's one that I want to maintain. That was a really feel good challenge, for sure.

There was the.

There was the learning. In July, we did learning a new language and a new word. That was a total fail that month because there was a couple weeks where I was in an area where I had very little Internet and I was struggling to get the tools or do the things I wanted to do. And anyway. And then there's another fail, too. The other fail was. What was it? Oh, it was November. It was the.

It was the connection.

Telling two people every day what they meant and how much we cared. And I was like, I thought that one would be. But you know what it was. I know exactly why it failed. And it was. It was the lack of planning it out. Just because as soon as you go through your loved ones and your family and the bus driver and the people you. You connect with every day, then it's like, okay, well, where do I go from there? And the discomfort that's there with complimenting someone that's a stranger or acknowledging someone when you're kind of, I don't know, staying in your own. Your own lane or your own zone. And so that. That was a tough one. Tough. But we did. We did no tv. That was easy because it was in the summer and that's. That was strategic to put it in the summer. But what was interesting about that one was Maeve because she just. She crushed a whole bunch of these with us. And including. Including September, no sweets. So it was back to school. The bus driver always has, you know, like a few little candies for them and. Oh, yeah, and she was. She, you know, her teachers, her bus driver, her friends knew she was doing no sweets. And that was a big deal because she's. She's like me. She wants that little something after lunch or after dinner or whatever.

But, yeah, that one was good.

30 minutes outdoors every day. It was October. And that was.

That went really well. And thanks. Maeve played a big part in that because she helped us track it. She was really keen on, you know, marking down everyone's score, the points that we earned each day on the calendar and seeing how that flowed. So it was. She was a good partner to have.

In that, pushing us and that in the bigger scheme of things, out of the. One of the bigger takeaways for the whole year was that the two things that. The tracking and the pre planning were the two things that guaranteed greater success, like any sort of pre planning and. Well, the tracking, the preplanning, and the getting all of us involved. Because there were times where I was frustrated with you because I'm like, dude, you said you'd do this with me, and it's me that's pushing this, and I can't push this by myself. Like, you gotta do something, too. And then, you know, if we were. If Maeve was doing it, then we didn't want to drop the ball at all. It's like, if we messed up and she's in it, too, then we're her example. So there were, you know, there were some failings along the way, but it was. It was unreal. Like, I can't believe it's been a whole year and this month has been no swearing. I have a whole jar full of money. It's been much better this last week, but, holy cow, there was the first week.

Yeah, slow start.

Yeah, you just.

Never mind. You've dropped a few yourself there, buddy. I don't know where your swear jar is, but I don't want your money in my swear jar.

No, but overall, it's been an incredible year, and we've learned a lot about ourselves because the challenges have really hit us in so many different ways. Either how we interact with people, how we interact with ourselves, how we motivate ourselves. And just the one takeaway I just really latched onto, that you're just talking about, really, is involving the family is a great way to get through these, because like you said, if it's up to you, if it's all up to you, you may just slip on a day and it's okay and talk yourself out of something. But if, you know, you're trying to set that example for one of the kids or they're there pushing you or on a day you're struggling, you're helping them, they're helping you. Helping your spouse, your husband, your wife, your partner. That's so key to making things happen. And that's a lesson that we can use, you know, in every part of our life, not just these 30 day challenges. So I think that's something that really stood out for me too is like you're saying the recording and the getting the group involved and that was really kind of just a big driver to push through.

Anything that shows us visually, like whether it's a jar of marbles to show how many times you walked outside or what we did were little ticks on the calendar for every. Every tick was for a 30 minute bout. But you know, we'd get extra points if it was. If it was activity or in nature. So. Yeah, like it, it reinforces the behavior, makes you feel good and gives you that little dopamine hit and, and then you're doing it with family. So it's all amazing. Yeah, it's really, it's really good. Is there, is there one that you would repeat? Would you do something again?

Yeah, I.

Well, like I mentioned, I really enjoyed the purge. That's something that I want to make routine. I like when we do a month of no sugar because it, it's just something that creeps. That craving to have something sweet becomes habitual so easily. Just a little something after a meal here or there just becomes habit. And it's. It feels good to rein that in and own it and have control over it. Be able to make that choice without any effort at all.

Yeah, exactly. Like just say that it's you not. Yeah.

And then I think we really need to re. Yeah. And then finally I just got to really revisit February and try to listen. You know, work on Frisky February and level up there. You know, there's always room for improvement and.

Wow. You can't even keep a straight face.

Like, I can hear you. I can hear you trying to hold it in. That's amazing.

Wow.

How about you?

Yeah, it wasn't top of my list, but yeah, that's. I'll consider it. Maybe if we.

Good.

Maybe if we purge a bunch of things and you know, do a few other things, then I'll feel really amazing and want to dive into some more Frisky February. So we're not doing a second year of 30 day challenges. However, I know there's going to be a few 30 day challenges that come up. I'm totally in for making every September a sugar free month or doing what we did a couple years ago, which is sugar, no sugar, no flour, no.

Caffeine for a month. That was a big deal for both of us doing that. Not for the caffeine for me, but for the flour and sugar and. Yeah. But yeah, there's a couple things I'll probably redo this year. One, the two months that I just felt really didn't. That I didn't do well in, I think I'll redo those at some point. I just don't know when yet because we're in the midst of planning our 2020, so those will be reduced.

But I guess the biggest takeaway for other people to really encourage other people.

And we did this for ourselves, but we shared it to inspire other people to know that they had some support and in whatever things that we were doing. But I would really encourage people to take a look at where they want to improve and make a fun family based, planned and monitored 30 day challenge out of it so that it just becomes a thing that you are in charge of instead of something that is feeling out of control in your life. So for sure, yeah. Really made a difference for us. So our next. Our next topic for today's podcast is our date with Destiny. And I don't know about you, but, well, I do know you were looking forward to it, but I was really looking forward to it, but also a little apprehensive because I had heard so many amazing things about it. Then I almost felt like my expectations were too high and that I thought, well, if I think it's going to be this so amazing, then what if I'm let down because I'm expecting this just incredible experience? And I wasn't let down at all. I literally feel like when it comes to you, I feel like I'm seeing and finding the person that I originally fell in love with and he's just so many.

That's seriously. We both at different times said that to each other because of things we were recognizing in each other that we.

Haven'T seen in a really long time.

Like a really long time. And that just felt so amazing for our relationship. But there's plenty of people who go to date with Destiny who aren't there with their spouse or aren't in a relationship. But it is amazing for couples to go as well. So I don't know where to start on this, but what do you want.

To go ahead just for anyone Listening who doesn't know what we're talking about. Really quick. Date with Destiny is Tony Robbins flagship event. He's been running it for about 40 years. This was the 84th time he's run this six day program. We were there from basically 11 in the morning until minimum 2am at night every single day for six days. And you're in a room with 5,000 people and Tony and some of his team presenting and you are basically getting a mental cleanse. You're just taking a look at everything you're doing, why you're doing it, what's working, what's not, where do you want to go? Let's get there. And it was just, it's an overused word. Awesome, amazing, incredible mind blowing experience. And I felt like a new person coming out of it. Just motivated, energized, clear minded, more like myself, free to be myself, 100% connected with you. And it's really just that process of going through six long hard days to shift, shake up all these patterns that and ruts that we're in. You've got to do long hours and get out of your comfort zone and move and do weird things and get over tired and yell and scream and cry and just really shake yourself up and learn and be open to looking again at what's working, what didn't. And so it was just an incredible process. You can get a little bit of a taste of it on the Netflix documentary I'm not yout Guru. That whole documentary is based on the event you're seeing behind the scenes and some of the things that Tony and his team are doing to make sure it's an incredible experience for everyone. But yeah, like you said, going into it I was hoping for a lot, but blew my mind. Just I've got so much more out of it than anticipated. It was just, yeah, amazing.

When we, when we leave there, we know that when we left we know that there's gonna be so many people asking what was it like, you know, all this stuff. And we know that our best response is just to really?

Because people, it's hard for anyone to understand when they haven't been to that kind of event. And so we know that our best.

Response is just to say, you know.

How amazing we feel, how awesome it.

Was and that's about it and stop there. But everybody that we know was like, well, what do you mean? Like, do you, what do you do? Like how long is it like, you know, they start to ask detailed questions, so I start to answer them. And as soon as as soon as we get into something like how the day is long or whatever it is, and maybe a few other details, oh, the room is chilly, or, you know, and then, then people automatically, and this.

Is, this is true for, I'd say 95% of the people who have asked more details automatically start to go, wow, I could never do that.

But some of them who know me well are just like, well, they know.

That I want to be in bed somewhere before 11, for sure.

They know that, you know, they know.

That about you or they know that.

About me and that we want to get our workout in every day or do, you know. And so everything is shaken up. Everything that we'd normally do that's healthy is shaken up.

Everything we normally do any possible way is shaken up.

And so the people who would be asking more detail just kind of would have a response in going automatically, well.

I could never do that.

But then they'd also be putting themselves in check, realizing if they knew me, realizing that that would be a bunch of the things were a lot of the things I would never do either.

So it, I don't know, it's tough.

To explain when you're not there, but it's something that from our perspective, we.

Would highly, highly recommend for anybody and everyone.

We spent a long time anticipating it, saving for it, getting things organized. It wasn't an easy thing to do. And it's one of those not easy things to do that makes the biggest impact and the biggest difference in, in our lives. There were things that were specific for a relationship that have to do with who we're being and, you know, social constraints and pressures and family stressors and.

All the things that put us in ways that. And patterns that don't serve our happiest and most fulfilled lives. And we want that.

We want to live a really amazing, happy, fulfilled life.

And it's not that there's anything wrong with our life.

There's nothing wrong with anything the way that it was. We just knew that we've got more room to grow and it's the room to grow that we weren't quite sure where or how to do it and.

Or what's holding you back from doing it.

I was just gonna say. And the ruts that we're in, it's like there are a bunch of ruts and a bunch of stressors and a bunch of things that you really want.

To get out of or a bunch of ways of interacting you really want to get out of, and you just don't know how and you don't know.

Why it's recurring, or you don't know what the thing that's in your own.

Way, or you don't know enough about yourself to really understand why you're doing the things you're doing. And so all of that just feels so much clearer and cleaner and easier to recognize.

And yes, you know, like to recognize.

Some things that are going on and go, okay, yeah, I get that. Or I know where that's coming from and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just understanding. And I'm going to choose to do.

Something a little different here now and being able to go forward in a.

Way of understanding, in a way of appreciation or gratitude, instead of making old patterns wrong or making your spouse wrong for doing things that they're doing.

Coming from a place of much greater understanding and a much.

Greater willingness to.

Do the things it takes to move forward.

Yeah, I think that's a great summary of it and I think. Think I won't speak for you, but if anyone asked me ever, would you recommend going? My response is 100% yes, you should go. I'm sure yours would be the same. And what was amazing to me is to be at that event and see how many people were there for their third or fourth time. Because they know that once you've done it and it's that good what you can get done after it. Yes. That it is just throwing more gas on a fire and just getting it stoked. Like the people there who have really dove in and went after it and got so much out of the event just want more. Because it's a. There's so much to be learned and there's so much to be learned. There's so many distinctions made and so many little things that you pick up for yourself that will change as you change each year and as you move to a new job or a new relationship. We are all continually changing and learning. So going back for these people to revisit, retune, reset goals, gain new insights, understandings about something that just happened to them, just empowers them to live a happier, fuller life and get after what they want. It's just. I think that was something that really stood out to me as well. Just the number of people who had done a different event or that event before meeting them and hearing their. Their stories of just, you know, different things that they've taken away at different points.

Yeah, I was just smiling because I was thinking my dad. Because when. When people haven't gone to something like this. They think that you're basically being brainwashed and it's crazy. And you know, I'm not into that rah rah stuff or there's all kinds of things that people say or think.

But it's the exact, it's, it's. I know it's not brainwashed. It's the exact opposite. It's. I'm doing all the brainwashing that we get from media and culture and people around us about or can't do. Yes.

Parenting stuff.

Like we're parenting undoing all the crap that has been laying on us.

We're programming all kinds of crap into.

Our kids by accident.

We don't mean to, but you know, we're, you know, they're becoming, they're setting these beliefs that they have that we've influenced and we have no, we don't understand that we are, we don't realize or we're not intending to, but. But it cracks me up because my dad said something at some point, I.

Think a year ago when we went.

To the Unleash the Power within program. And he says, oh, well, like, did you like. I was like, what dad? Drink the Kool Aid? And he's like, yeah, did you drink the Kool Aid? And I said, yeah, dad. And it was really, really good. He's like, really? I'm just like, oh God, I'm just.

I'm just picturing you with purple stained lips. You know, like kids have when they've chug Kool Aid. Just big smile, saying that with a.

Big wide eyes and. Yeah, yeah. No, it, there's a lot of kind of out there stuff that you never might have thought. Thought you would do. But it, it's amazing, amazing, amazing. Is there any one little like story that you would want to share or some, some little breakthrough that you had that you. I mean, it's so hard to share without context on a lot of things.

But.

I mean, actually something that was really amazing for me was one exercise that we did. I can't remember what day it was on, I don't know when it was, but we did an exercise where we looked back at our earliest childhood memory or whatever we thought was, and went through a process where we looked at it from our perspective, the perspective of people around us in it, kind of from a perspective of someone not involved in a situation, from 30,000ft looking down on it. And then how that opened up for me a whole bunch of other memories that I just could not access until that point. And it was, that was overwhelming that this that pivotal moment as a kid that really caused me to act in a certain way for the rest of my life. Moving forward. Seeing it from myself, seeing it from my dad who was there, seeing it from someone who's just watching like it's a movie. And then this flood of memories that opened up after that that were just. I don't know where they were. Obviously they're in my head, but they were gone and they came back and it was just. Yeah, just that. Was that something that really incredible, so emotional. Just remember all these amazing feelings that I wasn't allowing myself to feel because of the event that followed.

Yeah, yeah.

And.

And that's the lightness you mentioned. One of the first things you said when you talked about the week, you said, I feel lighter. And that's exactly what it is. It's the unloading of this baggage or this crap or something that you've attached to something in your life that is just not serving you. Now, getting that crap out. I'm not going to say the S word because of the month we're in. It's going to cost me a buck. But it's getting that stuff out and then you just feel lighter. You can breathe a little deeper and you. It's just a.

We're.

I'll. I'll give a little more context to that. That story there, though. But that was on the last day that you. That. That happened for you and was it.

The second last day? I don't know.

Maybe it was. Maybe it was the second last day because. Yeah, yeah, I think it was the second last day.

And so.

But one way or another it. What was interesting about it was that for years you've.

We've talked about this because there are.

Certain things about you that are very consistent and you're.

You have certain ways of being and some of them are very, very fixed.

And so, you know, your ex wife.

Me, you, we've all kind of looked into various things about your childhood just to see maybe where that came from.

And you were adopted and, you know, there's a few things like that.

But what was always remarkable to especially.

Me and the boys, mum, is that you couldn't.

You didn't have much of a memory for much of anything from your childhood.

Like there's so much, so little there.

That it was just so strange to us.

And so.

Yeah. And anything that was there didn't feel truly real. I didn't know if I was just remembering something from a picture or. It was.

Yeah, there was so little there. And then.

And then You're.

And then we did one exercise early.

On in the week, and you didn't really come up with any memories at that point, but by a few days in, when you had that major memory and a few other things started flooding in for you, that was huge. Like, that was such a huge thing because for you, it ended up. So much made sense to you because of it. So much started to fall in place. So much started to make. Just start to see how everything.

Came.

Together after that and why it did come together in the way that it did in. In the rest of your life. It's like we make a decision when we're so small about certain things in our life, and then we just keep clinging on to that for the rest.

Of our life in. In certain ways. So it was. It was really incredible. But, yeah, there's so much that we could go on and on about. But I can. I can say for sure that there.

Were great things for our relationship just on a personal level, just.

And also just a real hunger for.

Not holding back in our lives. Like, we're in the middle of our lives or maybe we're in the second half now, whatever it is. But I think I plan to live to over 100 and probably somewhere around the 113 mark. But I don't know about you, but if. If this is the second half of our lives, I don't plan on stopping the growth process. I don't plan on, you know, having it be the. The crappy half. You know, I want it to be.

Pedal to the metal, the best thing.

I want every year to be the best year, year of my life because I keep getting it better or learning more or having more connected relationships or doing more and that, you know, the only reason this is on this podcast is because if we can be an example for other people to live their best lives or be most fulfilled or have the greatest happiness or repair relationships or, you know, have better connection with their kids or family, like it just. Then by all means, copy us, do whatever, I don't care. But that's why we're sharing this, so that anyone who's listening can have that too. And if you're not doing a Date with Destiny or you're not doing some Tony Robbins event or whatever, then hopefully you can glean some inspiration from what we share as well. So that's where I'm at. And maybe we'll share some more personal stories on it so that you actually get not just the outline, but for today, we just wanted to do a recap of Date with Destiny and our 1230amazing year. Our 1230 year of 2019.

So there you have it. I think that's a perfect place to wrap it up. We'll let all of you listening get back to your holiday festivities. We want to keep it short today. Relatively short. So, yeah, the 12:30 challenge was incredible. Thanks for joining us on the ride. Those who did date with Destiny, much more than incredible, check it out. And I will be back next week to really look over our last decade, maybe get into some uncomfortable stuff about the highs and lows that we experienced. And then following that, we'll be looking forward to 2020 with all of you and planning the greatest decade of all of our lives together. So that is on tap for the Empowered Athlete podcast. From me to you, all the best for the holiday season. Lots of love to your families. Enjoy this time. Soak it up. And Kari, any final words?

Just embrace every moment.

There's lots of love coming from us to anyone who's listening with us, and we hope you just have the most amazing holiday and most connected holiday. Doesn't matter about whether the food's perfect or the gifts are perfect. Just be with your people and share the love to as many people as you possibly can. So lots of love from us to you and happy holidays, everyone.

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