Mindset Monday - Words to Live By

This is episode 110 of the Empowered Athlete podcast. This is the Empowered Athlete podcast Mindset Monday. 10 minutes with Kari Schneider to learn new mindset tactics and tricks to optimize your performance in sport, business, and life. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. I think we're on. Happy, Happy Monday. Hey, guys, we're on for Mindset Monday. Welcome to the Empowered Mindset Monday. We are taking a look at our language, and the reason that this came into my space, into my presence, is because I was coaching one of our groups in the reset, and I was addressing everyone. I was saying, like, hey, how are you guys doing? I would say that a lot. How are you guys doing? What's going on? You guys feeling okay? What's happening there? Happy Monday. And when I was saying this, someone eventually pointed out to me and said, when you say you guys, what do you mean by that? And there's a group of women and men that I was coaching, and I thought, well, it's just all of you. I just mean all of you and everyone here, you guys, you know? And he said, well, isn't that kind of offensive for some because you're speaking to the guys. What is it, you know? Are you thinking of just the guys? And I was like, no, to me, you guys means a bunch of you people, all of us together, everyone here, when I say you guys. But when I was saying that for him, it wasn't necessarily offensive. He just found it very unusual because he knew me well enough to know that I'm very inclusive. It doesn't matter whether someone. Someone is of any different ethnicity, religion, you name it, I don't care. I'm just speaking to everyone with an open heart and an open mind. But when I was saying the words you guys, that landed for him in a way that was different than how he viewed me and how he thought I would think. So the point in sharing this story is to really understand how powerful our language is, especially once it's gone from our head, out of our mouth. It ends up anchoring whatever we've thought with great heaviness or lightness, whatever the language is. And I'm going to give you a few global metaphors and things that I have either used in the past or some things that just would come out of my mouth really easily because I picked them up from my family, my friends, I've always said them, or I thought I've always said them. And they're things that end up having really heavy impact on our lives. And then our brain tries to match our actions to the things that we said. So some examples would be money doesn't grow on trees. I've said that so many times. Even another one would be beggars can't be choosers. I don't know who I picked that up from. Probably one of my parents or family members. Money doesn't grow on trees. It implies it's obvious money doesn't grow on trees. But it basically says that it doesn't just show up. It's not easy to come by. It doesn't just grow all the time. Or. Or money's hard to come by. Or beggars can't be choosers. Those types of things end up being a greater belief system or something that your actions are then going to align with, because not only did you think it, you also said it and put it out into the world. So those things become very powerful. Another one would be barely hanging in there, or at least there's hope. You know, it sounds like there is nothing else available to you except for a shred of hope. So they're very profound things and they're not real. But we're making it as though something. So it sounds so innocent, but it becomes very real once it's put into the world. Another one is on the hook. I'm on the hook for that. Well, are you on the hook because you're a fish on the hook? There's another meaning to that, where we put bread on a wall on a hook. A Turkish type of thing. I used to say this came from a movie and a bunch of my friends started to say, oh, yeah, that's so gay. And it sounded so innocent at the time. And then I stopped because I took a look at what did I mean when I was saying that, what was I implying? And what context did I use it? And I realized that I was kind of saying that it wasn't all that great, or it was kind of lame, or it was kind of off or whatever. And that's what I was meaning when I was saying that. But then I'm encompassing an entire group of people when I say that. That's ridiculous. And I completely cut that out of my language. When I realized what I was saying and the impact it could have, I completely cut it out. And it seemed so innocent at the time. This was years ago. A group of my friends were saying things like that. And it's just not going to be part of my language. Another one would be blindsided. That information, that news, just blindsided me. I would say, and if you're actually blindsided you know, you can't see something coming and you're. You're knocked down or you're completely hit. That's really a big thing, a physical thing. And then we make that kind of impact with the language. I would say the rug was pulled out from under me. Like, I was so surprised, as though, you know, I have no power in this situation. Someone else did that to me. Another one would be, I heard someone say at some point that their relationship was just demolished with that argument. Well, if that's what they're saying out loud, the relationship was demolished like something was knocking, like a building was knocked down, then that's the kind of results they're going to have. And their brain is going to keep aligning their actions with the things they put out with that language. And so the point here is, with the innocent thing like you guys, and my attention drawn to that is be aware of the language. The language is just another step from where our thoughts were. And our thoughts are creating whatever goes on in our world. Our language goes and solidifies it just a little bit more or a lot more. And so take a look at what those global metaphors are that you might repeat over and over or you might say a whole lot. When you do, you're anchoring either a belief or you're anchoring an action that your body wants to keep following because your brain is telling it too, especially when you've put it out there. So that's your mindset Monday, because awareness is the first step. I don't have to give you a whole bunch of global metaphors or a whole bunch of language tips to say, oh, say it's great, say it's awesome, say whatever. That's not the point. The point is the awareness of what we're thinking and what we're saying so that we understand that we create what goes in the world. It's not just an automatic thing. So that is your mindset Monday today. Create what you are going to put out in the world. Allow that to be your power. You create your life. And one of the ways you do it is with your language and what you choose to say, what you choose to share, what you choose to bring into the world. So have a wonderful Monday, guys. Let this kick off your week. Do it with awareness, do it with choice, do it with your creation and have an incredible rest of your week. Love to you.