Barry Bonds' knee and how it can help you in your business

Hey new listener, thanks so much for checking us out and there's a good chance you have adhd, so I quickly wanted to ask you to please follow this podcast in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or whichever app you're listening to this on. Don't leave it until later because you will forget. Thank you. Hey new listener, thanks so much for checking us out and there's a good chance you have adhd, so I quickly wanted to ask you to please, please follow this podcast in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or whichever app you're listening to this on. Don't leave it until later because you will forget. Thank you. Squirrel in this episode we're going to be talking about Barry Bonds knee and how it can help you and your business. Hey Katie, it's your old friend Barry Bonds. Just checking in for this episode of the Weenie Cast that's all about me. Squirrels. Squirrel Pie Katie I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast. Squirrel Honestly, at this point I feel like this podcast could be the Vengeance podcast on all the high school teachers and middle school teachers who made my life miserable for the first X amount of years of being on this earth. I don't mean it to be that way. There are just some really abysmal teachers that I had to suffer through. I want to talk about this one project that I had in sophomore year Biology that I remember to this day because of how traumatizing it was to me as an ADHD person. This project was basically an entire binder of instructions. I don't even remember what it was on, but it was miserable. The teacher, Ms. Flint, thought that she was being really clever and trying to teach us life lesson around going through a myriad of instructions that often contradicted each other, that changed gears halfway through so that we could prove that we read the instructions. But what she didn't realize that she was making this massively not accessible to folks with adhd. I remember working on this project and being very happy with how I had done it. The metaphors that I had used, the visuals I had done. Walking into school that day convinced that I would get an A, I was so, so proud of the work I had done and I looked around and realized on first glance immediately that I had misread the instructions. In a panic, I opened up the binder of this assignment and read through all the instructions again and there it was in clear black and white that I had to have a visual for each portion of my presentation. Now there was another instruction earlier on that suggested something different. Ms. Flint had planted some gotcha instructions in this project to prove a point about how important it was to follow instructions. Now, for someone with adhd, following instructions is not just a thing that you do. Following instructions is life. When we read instructions, we read them as rules because there have been so many instances where we got the instructions wrong and we were penalized for it. We were told that we were stupid, we were told that we were lazy. We were told that there were so many things wrong with us for not following instructions. What happens to a person who's constantly bombarded with that kind of messaging is when we hear instructions, we start panicking. We start listening to them as if they are life or death rules. Now, how does this impact folks who are starting a business? Let me ask you, how many times have you gone to the Interwebs and the Google machine and put in the search bar? How do I build a website? How do I create a content plan to get clients and gotten a bunch of things back? That's contradictory. I can't tell you how many times it's happened to me when I first started. And what happened was I would get completely stalled in overwhelm because I didn't know which rules to follow. Where this really gets us into trouble is when we sign up for these online courses that are instructional. There's no ongoing support. There's no place to really ask questions and clarify. Not that many folks with ADHD would ask questions because we don't want to appear like we don't understand very basic instructions. When we're in these courses and we're reading these instructions and they don't quite make sense, or we don't quite understand what it's getting at, or there's a piece of the instructions that isn't detailed enough for us to know exactly what actions we need to take there. What ends up happening is this fear bubbles up in us that we're gonna get it wrong. And when we describe this to other people, they look at us like we're nuts. Because who cares if you get it wrong? Like it's your business? It's this thing like it's an instruction. You just do the instruction. If you get it wrong, you fix it. For someone with ADHD who has been made wrong so many times in their life for failing to do exactly what the instructions dictated, this feels like we're breaking the law. It feels like we are going to get in so much trouble for doing this wrong and it stalls us, it prevents us from having any kind of success in our businesses. In this episode, I really want to dive into giving you permission to up the rules. When clients start with me, one of their first concerns is, are you going to just give me one size fits all instructions that I'm going to have to follow? And if they are one size fits all instructions, are you going to be really detailed with how I need to do it? And my answer is always no and yes. Right? Because there's no one size fits all that fits every single business owner. There's no one right way to start your business. There's the right way for you to start your business. Now, what's right for you will be massively different than what's right for someone else. Okay, so let's use the example of working out because everyone's body is different. Everyone's body has been through different things, Right. And has gone through different things at different times, right? So I'm very prone to sprained ankles. I have hyperextension in most of my joints. So if I want to start running for a while, I have to be very, very conscious of doing exercises that will prevent injury in my ankles. If I'm doing yoga or something that requires you to stretch and stay in poses for a really long time, I have to make sure that I'm not locking my elbows or my knees because what that's going to do is it's going to hyperextend my joints and cause pain for me. Later, my friend Barry Bonds and I will tell this story. He had knee replacement surgery. He was a professional athlete and he had to have his knee replaced. Now there are things that he has to do to protect that knee. There's rehab work that he has to do that I don't have to do. So let me tell the story of how I met Barry Bonds. Ooh. What am I going to say next? Well, you'll have to keep listening to find out. But first. Squirrel. Squirrel. Squirrel. Squirrel. Join the weeniecast hyper focused community and unlock a whole world of support. Get direct access to me in exclusive calls. Turbocharge your network with unlimited referrals, and boost your productivity with Sprint calls and accountability sessions. But that's not all. We're talking expert talks, masterclasses and more. Register now to get in front of the line for this at the introductory price of just $77 per month. It's time to elevate your entrepreneurial game. Let's do this together. Go to weeniecast.com hyperfocus all one word. That's weeniecast.com hyperFocus so let me tell the story of how I met Barry Bonds. I worked at Equinox Fitness in San Francisco, and this is why I use so many workout analogies, because I come from a fitness background. When I worked there, I was in sales, and I am very sports dumb. I don't know anyone. I don't know anything about the sports and the balls and the bats and all the things. I just go about my life naively bumping into things that I don't understand. So I'm in my office one day, talk, typing up an email, following up with someone, and the front desk calls, and they're like, barry Bonds is here. And if you don't know who Barry Bonds is, he is a very famous baseball player that worked for the San Francisco 49. I'm sorry, not the San Francisco 49ers. That's a football team. No, he works for the San Francisco Giants. They're the baseball team. I wish I could say that I did that on purpose. I did not do that on purpose. I legitimately mix them up all the time. Anyway, so I don't know who this person is. That name doesn't mean anything to me. So I finish my email, I go out. There's this massive man. He's a giant, right? And I walk up to him, and he sticks out his hand, and he says, hi, I'm Barry Bonds. I'm thinking in my head like, wow, that's very formal. Normally it's just first names. So I stuck out my hand, and I was like, Hi, I'm Katie McManus. And he turns to his friend who is with him, and he says, this is Dexter Fowler. And I'm like, hi, Dexter Fowler. I'm Katie McManus. I'm kind of teasing them, and I'm like, okay, great. So, guys, why don't you come back to my office and we talk about what you're looking for. We can do a tour of the club, and then we can talk about different gym membership options. And so I get them back into my office, and I sit them down, and I start asking them all the typical questions that I ask people when they sign up for the gym. What are your fitness goals? And do you have any injuries and what have you done for workouts in the past? And at this point, Barry's like, well, you know, I used to play baseball. And I'm like, oh, that's so nice for you. Like, after work, like one of the rec leagues. And he looks at me incredulously and it's just like, no, like, I played professional ball. And at this point, I'm like, oh, my gosh, that's so good for you. What team did you play for? And he's like, you know, I played for the San Francisco Giants. And I'm like, oh, how neat for you that you still live in the city where you played. I bet you get recognized a lot. And he's like, yeah, I do. And then I turned to Dexter Fowler. I'm like, dexter, do you also play the sports? Do you play baseball? He's like, yeah, I actually play for the Houston Astros. Anyway, so, I mean, I gave them the tour. They signed up with me, and Barry actually used to come into my office and hang out with me because he didn't want to be in the normal waiting area while he was waiting for Dexter for them to work out together. And I had no idea what to talk to him about, so I would show him my knitting projects, and we talk about the different bike rides that we've been on. And I would ask about his daughter and how she was doing in fashion school and all this stuff. Long story short, he had knee replacement surgery. And so when I was working out, and especially if I was stretching, he would actually, like, stretch with me, and he'd have to do different things. He and I have different bodies. This is a long story to prove a point that we have different bodies. He's a. An ex pro athlete who had a lot of wear and tear on his poor joints, and I'm not. I have different needs for my joints, just like Barry and me and our different bodies. Your business has different needs from other people's business. I have wanted to tell that story on this podcast for so long. I'm so glad I found, like, the most tangential way to bring it in. And, Barry, if you're listening, I miss you. I hope you're doing great. This is future Barry Bonds. I did listen, and here I am telling you that I love this episode, and thanks for the trip down memory lane. So let's stick with the Barry bonds and Katie McManus bodies metaphor of your business is Barry Bonds were to be trained by my trainer to do my workouts, he would probably A, hurt his knee and B, be really not impressed. Right? Because I have a different body. I have different strengths. I have different weaknesses. I'm also a much smaller human being than he is. Versus if his trainer came to me and tried giving me Barry's program, I would die. Like, that would just be the end. I would do one Workout and then I would just lay down and. And expire. That would just say, I wouldn't be here today. Right. It's the same for your business. And so, of course, like, we see all of these random instructions that are put in magazines, you know, that are on the interwebs that are on those, like free PDF downloadables that we get about how to do X, Y and Z in these courses online that we pay for. And it's the equivalent of you taking Barry Bonds workout and trying to do it for yourself. There's a reason why it doesn't work. Now, that's not to say that there aren't parts of it that you could absolutely implement into your business. But here's where the ADHD entrepreneur bumps into problems, is we read these instructions and our brain goes, these aren't just instructions. These are rules. And we break the rules, we're going to be a bad person. And whenever we bump into something where we're like, that doesn't fit me. That doesn't fit my business. Wow, I have no idea how to do that part. Our brain clicks into trauma mode and thinks, okay, well, you're about to break the rules. And you don't want to break the rules because when you do, you get into major trouble and you're made to be a bad person. You're told that you're stupid, you're told that you're lazy, you're told that all these awful things are true about you not do it. Your executive dysfunction jumps right in. It teams up with your overwhelm and your imposter syndrome. And before you know it, they're having this whole luau in your mind that just starts distracting you from actually doing stuff in your business that will move the needle and get you paying clients. So what we all need to learn as ADHD business owners is to tell those parts of our brain to off when we hear instructions from other people. What we need to do is we need to take what will work for us and what we feel aligned to and do actions on that. We also need to be comfortable asking questions where we don't understand things. Okay, that is okay to ask clarifying questions. Actually, I would. I would go so far as to say it's very generous of us to ask clarifying questions of people who are selling us advice because they may not know that they're not being clear about something. They may think that this is a perfect way to explain how to do X, Y and Z. And getting your question is amazing feedback for them to change how they Describe something, some process or some system, so you doing that helps them become better. We also have to just acknowledge this part of our brain that turns instructions into rules. We have to know that just because we can't follow it exactly doesn't make us stupid, it doesn't make us lazy, it doesn't make us bad. It just makes us us. Right? It makes you you, it makes your business yours. So, for example, you know, when my clients come to me and they're. They've gone through all these digital courses and they have never made any of them work, and they think, oh, my God, there must be something wrong with me that I can't do this. I must be just magically up and unable to start a business because I wasn't able to do this. Exactly. What I always tell them is like, okay, well, what parts of this didn't fit you? This is one of the benefits of working with a coach or a strategist or a mentor who can help you really customize the plan to your work style and to your goals. I don't have a one size fits all program that I hand out to all of my clients. Even my group program teaches basic business skills and gives instructions to all the participants how they can make it their own. Because there's no business that can be replicated perfectly by everyone else. If you have a business like that, then, congratulations, you have a franchise, and yeah, go and sell it as a franchise. But if you're not starting a franchise that has all the instructions already built for you and all the systems and processes already designed for you, and you just have to, like, plug in like an employee and do it. If you're starting a business from scratch, it's your responsibility to find what works for you. And it is my delight, my absolute joy of my life, to help my clients figure this out for themselves. This is what I live for. That and telling Barry Bond stories. Hey, remember to follow the podcast in your favorite podcast app. And you're still like, I don't know if you can see, like, there's buckets of paint still under the desk. Squirrel, Squirrel. Squirrel, Squirrel. Are you an entrepreneur? Are you struggling to stay focused and organized while juggling a million tasks? Are you looking for ways to improve your productivity but finding it hard to stay motivated? Then you need to get access to my weeniecast for Winners show. That's exclusively on Apple Podcasts. I know you might be thinking, I've tried everything to stay on task and nothing works. But I'm enjoying the advice I'm getting here on the weeniecast. 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