Kelly AlhooiePelviBiz, Pelvibiz · Healthcare Business Strategy Assistant

That Voice Telling You You're Not Good Enough? It's Wrong.

27 Apr 2026 · 3 min

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In this solo motivational talk, Kelly Alhooie examines the pervasive pattern of negative self‑talk, especially among women, that tells them they are not good enough. She illustrates how this inner critic surfaces when she watches a wealthy professional working in a luxurious ocean‑view house in La Jolla, instantly assuming she could never belong there. By consciously reframing the thought "I can't have that" into the question "Why not me?", she demonstrates a practical technique for challenging imposter feelings. She captures a photo of the scene as a tangible reminder that self‑doubt is universal and that authenticity—showing up as oneself, regardless of external validation—can be a more powerful path to fulfillment for both the individual and their clients. The talk emphasizes that high‑level competition does not require perfection or groundbreaking inventions; it requires honest presence and the willingness to ask, "Why not me?"

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Um, the other patterns that I tend to see, especially in females, is a lot of like kind of negative talk but not even realizing it. No, I can't do that. No, that's not for me. That's not who I am. That's for that other person. No, like, I can't do that. Like the other day, guys, and I, and I'm not— again, I'm not sitting on my high horse here saying this is never me. It actually happened to me Yesterday I was at the beach, you know, in La Jolla there's like, you know, crazy houses that are worth millions and millions of dollars. This house is probably 20-something million. And I see this guy sitting at his desk and he's overlooking the ocean and he has EarPods in and like he's literally looking out so we could all see him, okay? But his head's down and he's like hyper-focused. And I was sitting there thinking because I was watching him And I also took a picture with him in the background sitting at his desk because my mind immediately goes, you can never have that place. That's what my mind said. There's no way. You don't have the greatest idea. You don't have the best business. You're not inventing toilets or whatever it may be that's life-changing. Like, literally, this is what my mind says. And I'm like, but wait a minute, why can't that be me? I don't have to have the best invention. I don't have to invent the bumper of a car, okay, that everyone has. But what I can do is show up truly, authentically me. And if people love it, great. People hate it, great. But I can truly start living the life that fulfills me and fulfills my clients. And I could just see where that goes. But why can't that be me? Why can't it? I don't know what that guy did. And so in the moment when I did a reframe, I actually took out my phone and I took a picture with me, the guy sitting at his desk— he didn't see me because he was focused And I took a picture of the house, and it's now on the back of my phone. And it's a reminder that every single one of us, no matter whatever level you're at, sometimes that self-doubt will always creep in. But you gotta remember and say, actually, what have I done to prove that? Why not me? And I remembered what I, what I, what I've done. Said, why not me? He's no one special, I guarantee you. Even if I knocked on his door and said, hey, what do you do? He'd probably have a very interesting job, you know. And, and so my point to this is, to be at a high level and compete— I put that in quotation marks— and compete at a high level