In this monologue, Kelly Alhooie explains how aligning business activities with personal life—what she calls "integration"—creates fulfillment, community, and client growth while avoiding resentment. She illustrates the concept with concrete examples: a Pilates‑with‑dogs event that lets her include her beloved pet, and a mom’s walking group that combines childcare, exercise, and professional advice. Each integrated activity serves a three‑fold purpose: it benefits the creator (self‑care, enjoyment), serves loved ones (children or pets), and builds community that can generate new clients. Alhooie warns against forcing misaligned engagements—like attending events that require babysitters and cause separation from family—because such dissonance leads to frustration and burnout. The overall message is to design business experiences that naturally fit into one’s personal life, fostering happiness and sustainable growth.
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So I also said this, I'm finding more and more people are happier with integrating and, uh, with integration, okay? Because let me give you an example. So number 1, if you have a dog like I do and you absolutely love her like I do, okay, why don't you create a Pilates and dog day where you bring— you have this event, you have a Pilates instructor, or you teach, and everyone brings their dog, and their dog gets to sit by them on a mat, and all the dogs get to meet, and you actually get to do your Pilates. So here's what it's hitting with this. Number 1, it makes me feel amazing because I get to bring basically my child everywhere, and I absolutely love that, and she is welcome. Number 2, I get to give to myself by doing Pilates. Number 3, it makes me feel even more comfortable because my dog is sitting next to me and I don't want to leave my dog at home because she loves to be next to me and I like to take her everywhere. So I think that's very important when it comes to integration. And when you're able to integrate, that's when everything aligns and that's when you feel the happiest. So that's just like one example. Another example would be if you have kids and you want to hang out with them and you want to bring them to work, right? Create a mom's walking group where once a week you guys meet up in a park and they walk and get to ask you questions and everyone has their strollers or everyone has their kids and they're holding their hand. And there you're creating a walking path while they get to ask questions. So it's like a walk with the doc and your kids. So again, you're hitting a threefer here. You're getting your kid to go for a walk. You're hanging out with your, with your kid and giving them attention. And you feel good about it because you're also giving to yourself by walking. And maybe you're also getting knowledge from a doctor that that maybe you wouldn't have gotten somewhere else. So that's another example. Then that could be weekly, and that creates community as well. So maybe part of that too is you also just want a mom group to talk about pee, poop schedule, whatever it may be that you now have cultivated because you're doing these walks. That's really important. 'cause community is huge. So that like checks all the boxes. And you could also get a client from this walk, because a client may say to you, "Yeah, I really have this question I wanna ask." "Okay, great. Oh, you know what, Sally, why don't you come in this week and let's get you in for an eval so that we can figure out, you know, what the next steps are for you? 'Cause I can't really solve it right now as we walk, but you'd be a great candidate for this." "Okay, great. Yeah, let me get you on the schedule right now." So now I improve my business, I improve myself, I help my child out, all while doing things that align and integrate into my life. Rather than you saying, you know what, I got to go to this event tonight and I got to leave the kids at home and I got to get a babysitter and I just got to go there and show up and do a speech and then I'll be back. Like, that's not really aligning. Then it doesn't align. So then don't do that, because then you're going to hate what you do. Then you're going to become resentful because now that thing is taking away time from your kids, and you're going to be like, why am I doing this? So don't do it. Do something else that aligns, and don't do what other people are doing. That's what also what I have to say.
