Mike argues that public speaking is first about connection, second about information. Self-deprecation and humor work best to make you relatable and knock yourself off the pedestal. Test these jokes in real time to see what builds rapport with your audience.
For me, public speaking, we have a few responsibilities. It's to transfer information, but first there's to transfer connection. And I find, at least for me, the greatest way to build connection is self-deprecation, humor, where people say, "This person's relatable and they get me." It's actually to take ourselves off a pedestal. When you or I walk on stage, you literally are on a pedestal. You're literally standing above people. They're looking up at you. And I think that's a very difficult position to be in because you have instant authority over the audience. There's good things to that, that people are more apt to listen to someone they think has authority. But we're also resistant to someone who thinks they're greater than thou. I gotta rip off that bull right away and clear that out. So I use self-deprecation. As I'm doing public speaking, I test things out and say, oh, that's self-deprecating, that worked.
