752 How to Empower Others with Tererai Trent

This is episode number 752 with Terarai Trent. Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin. Albert Einstein said, In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. I want you to think about that for a second. Are you going through a difficult moment in your life? Do you feel like everything is falling on top of you? Do you feel like you're stressed and overwhelmed more than you've ever been before? If so, look at this as an opportunity. Look at this opportunity to learn, to grow, to develop, to shift something that isn't working and start developing something new that will work for you in the future. Your obstacles will lead to opportunities if you allow them. If you allow them to hold you down, then it will always be an obstacle. And today's interview is with Dr. Tara-Rai Trent, who is one of today's most internationally recognized voices for equality, and quality education and women's empowerment. She's distinguished as Oprah's all-time favorite guest. She's a scholar, humanitarian, motivational speaker, educator, author, founder of the Terroright Trent International Foundation. She's an adjunct professor. She's done it all guys. This woman is incredible. We had her speak at the Summit of Greatness this last year and she blew people away. I like to think that all the speakers blew people away but she brought a sense of fire and passion that that was just palpable throughout everyone in the auditorium. And we have the Q&A from that interview. Again, she did this magnetic, mind-blowing, passionate interview. And at the end of the interview, we sat down for Q&A. And we talk about the power of daily rituals to help maintain your mindset. Talk about how Tererai makes her voice heard every single day, even when she was silenced her entire childhood. How to recognize talent in ourselves. how to believe in our dreams no matter what, and the beauty between working together as one. This is a game changer. Make sure you share it with your friends, lewishouse.com/752 to listen to the full interview, watch the video, check out the show notes and all the other information, but share this on your Instagram stories. Tag me @lewishouse and @teraraytrent. Name what you're grateful for and your Quick question.

Hi, my name is Olympia again. I'm very grateful for woman empowerment, of.

Course, and my question is, how do you as a woman make your voice heard every day?

I defied the rules of my people. I think it's about refusing to have someone define you and to say, I'm not going to be silent. I have to maintain my authenticity because it is in how we give our voice, allow, give ourselves permission to speak our truth, that's what's going to change our world and the world around us. To recognize the gifts in you, the talents in you. Because sometimes we numb those talents because we are always afraid, because we want to listen to what others say about us, but it's important to dig deep within you. Sit still and I always say, my sister, come home to yourself. When you do come home to yourself, then you own who you are and you own your voice.

My name is Janice. I'm from Toronto. You're a very powerful woman and I thank you for sharing. Where are your children today?

So when my mother said, if you achieve these dreams, not only are you defining who you are, you are defining every life that comes out of your womb in generations to come. When I came to the U.S. I had, I brought with me three daughters. First one, when she came, she was hardly nine years old. And today she graduated with mechanical engineering from Oklahoma State University. If that had not happened, so I'm always saying I'm passing on a different baton. I redefined it. And I have another daughter. She's at Western Michigan University. She's doing biomedical sciences. And another one, she's doing a degree that I can't pronounce. I'm Marco from originally from West Africa, Togo, but I live in Omaha, Nebraska. And that's my journey to the summit. Louis, thank you so much for bringing us together. Very grateful for my family and for the Terrare. Thank you for being here. Thank you. So how can we inspire men to empower women. How can we inspire men by coming to these forums? And thank you, Louis, for doing this. Because this is how we all get inspired. And I think it's important that when we inspire more men, it means more women. are healed. We need to do that. We need to do that. Men should give more voices. You know what's happening in America? Sometimes people say the silencing of women is only in Africa and I say, nah, nah, nah. It's here. So we need men who can vocalize, men who can stand up with their sisters. But also remember, I read a Louis book. There are also men who are being marginalized. So we also need to recognize that. And I think there is beauty in when there is that intersection between men and women. There is that energy when we work together as one. I think we can achieve much more than women on their own and than building silos. I think we need to be more of a family. Collectively we can do more.

Great. Yeah, for you, yes.

I'm so excited right now, I'm sorry. I'm trying to be calm. My name's Nay Cook, I'm from Michigan, Grand Rapids.

It's too bad.

Pardon?

It's too bad.

Hey, you said that when we were one-on-one in the inner circle too.

It's all good. But we let you here. We let you here.

Yeah, it's all about love. So I'm not gonna take that. I'm grateful for each and every person in here, 'cause you guys are seriously a blessing. And I think you guys are gonna do huge things, each person. My question now is you covered a lot and you have a phenomenal story. What's like if we can leave with one thing to do different or to add into our lives? What do you feel like that is just that one thing we can take away?

Tino Gona, it is achievable. We have to believe in our dreams no matter what because we are here on earth for a purpose and we just have to believe in it.

Over here.

Hey, my name is Matt Givens and I'm from Atlanta, but Oklahoma State graduate as well. So thank you. And I'm grateful for everybody here. This is my third year, grateful for all the people I've met and very grateful that you made it through what you went through to impact so many people's lives. And so what I wanted to find out was, while you're there, you're going through that struggle, all of us have similar type dreams. We want to get out of whatever we're thinking, whatever we're in, not nearly what you were in, but we all have that. So how did you, unlike everybody else in, you know, where you were, how did you continue to keep that mindset, drive through it? Even when you got here, how did you continue that mindset? Because it seems like nobody else around you was able to, and with all odds against you, How were you able to just keep that and hold it and push through?

You know, there's something about our minds. They wobble. We fear pain. But I always maintained my dreams by focusing on daily rituals. And I talk about daily rituals. You have to have your own daily rituals. Something that grounds you. Some they call it meditation, whatever you have that can ground you. Because I can tell you there were many times I wanted to give up. There were many times I wanted just to go back to Africa. But then I would go back to those rituals. I would visualize those dreams throbbing with life deep down under the ground, encouraging me to say, Go on. You are on a journey to redefine this pattern. That alone grounded me. And I never wanted to go back. So it's important to have something that you believe in. And I also say, surround yourself with individuals who give you energy. Run away from toxic environments. Run. You can't change someone unless if you want to change yourself.

I want to acknowledge you. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Can we acknowledge Tariq for being here? Let's give it up for him. There you have it, my friends, powerful woman who is up to big things in the world. Make sure you share this with your friends. Tag me @lewis.house on Instagram. Let me know you're listening and I'll send a reply if I see you. Tag @TerraRyTreNt as I'm sure she would love the shout out as well over on Instagram and Twitter. And make sure to check out the full show notes, lewishouse.com/ Seven, five, two. Guys, 752 episodes continues to blow me away. We are on track to just taking over with a movement of possibilities, a movement of potential, a movement of love and support. That's what this community is all about. I love you guys so very much. And as the great Einstein said, In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. Look at the challenges in your life. Look at the difficulties in your life. Look at where you might be struggling. That is the juice. That's where the greatest joys can come from if you're willing to take a look and dive in. All the great things happen on the other side of fear. Dive into it, be aware of it, and move into an incredible life. I love you so very much and you know what time it is? It's time to go out there and do something great.