818 7 Keys to Being Present In Your Life with Chris Lee

This is episode number 818 with Chris Lee. Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now, let the class begin. Deepak Chopra said, life gives you plenty of time to do whatever you want to do if you stay in the present moment. It's all about being present. For some reason, I keep hearing this theme lately. Obviously, there's been books written about this for years. People talk about this constantly, but we seem to miss out on the present moment. We're so focused on the past or we're focused on what we want to create in the future. I know I've been susceptible to this many times where I've let past experiences take place in the moment where I've repeated the past in my mind or allowed the emotions to come up at a different times, but that moment is over. And I'm such a goal oriented, high performing achiever that I'm focused on a future vision. And I think that's important to do is to focus more on the future vision, but bring it back to the now. and be present as much as possible. And we derive most of our stress and anxiety and anger and resentment living in the past or in the future. But when we bring our present moment to the now, that's when we start to feel at peace. And that's the only way we can get in the zone is when we live in the now. And for those of you that know me, talk about this, peak performers, those that achieve the unachievable, only do it by being present, by being in the zone, by being in the flow. And today we've got Chris Lee, who's been on the show, I believe, over 14 times now. He's a transformational trainer, coach, best-selling author of a book called Transform youm Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity. He's been doing transformational work for 30 years, traveling the world, leading seminars and workshops for over a million people, teaching them the art of living abundant, extraordinary and successful lives. He's worked with top companies worldwide, such as DreamWorks, Apple, Google, Sony, Univision, NBC, and Telemundo. And he's been on tons of TV, media, press. And he's here today to talk about how being present can literally save your life. The importance of living with a sense of urgency in the moment, taking responsibility for your environment. I'm huge on environment, and I wanna share with you why this is so powerful. The power of setting an attention for yourself and for the people why so many people are unfulfilled in how to break the habit and the seven key steps for staying in the moment. This is a powerful one. Make sure to share with your friends. The best way to do that is just send them the link, lewishouse.com/818 or just copy and paste the link that's on the podcast app that you're listening to, whether it's Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, SoundCloud, all those places that you listen to podcasts. Just take this link, and share with a friend right now, be an inspiration to someone in their life today with this wealth of information, this free information to support them and improving their life. Without further ado, guys, the seven keys to being present in your life with the one and only Chris Lee.

Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness Podcast. We've got my good friend Chris Lee in the house.

How's it going?

My friend, my mentor, my coach, very grateful that you're here. for being here. I think this is probably number, what, 15, 16, 25? I thought you'd be, yeah. A lot of times you've been on here. You've transformed a lot of people's lives in person. I think we calculated a few years ago, it's over 100,000 people you've worked with over 30 years.

30 years.

30 years training.

Doesn't look like it.

It doesn't look like it. 30 years training. Yeah. In-person workshops, three, four, and five day workshops.

Day in, day out with people.

All day, 12, 15 hour days.

You were at one.

I was at one six years ago, roughly six years ago, that transformed my life. I talk about my life before the opening of expression of that workshop and then after that workshop of how things have shifted. Of course, I'm not perfect, and I still make a lot of mistakes in my life, but a lot has shifted and a lot has improved because of those moments. So you've also written a book called 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity, Transform youm Life. Make sure you get the outcome of a podcast here. That's it. We did a podcast on this and you wrote a book, it's did a best seller on Amazon. And today we're gonna talk about being present, the power of presence. And you were saying you had a.

Funny story on the way here, something happened with your Uber driver. Lately, a lot of things have been happening where I'm seeing how by people not being present, there's a lot of drama. and there's also a lot of missed opportunities. And so on my way here, the Uber driver was spaced out somewhere and literally crashed into the car in front of her.

No. Yeah.

So I literally got out of the car and I walked. I walked up Dohany. I'm like, okay, see you.

Bye.

Yeah.

You handle this.

But she was not present. And so when you think about not being present, We cause a lot of unnecessary drama. Another friend of mine was in the hospital for a month because she wasn't walking, she wasn't watching where she was walking. She was somewhere in her mind, On her phone or somewhere else. Whatever, and she stepped into a pothole and fractured her leg in three places. And so just one specific moment can set you back financially, can set you back health-wise, can set you back in so many ways because we're not present.

Yeah, I think a lot of us try to do two things at once or 10 things at once. We try to text and drive quickly. We stop at a stoplight and we text really quick and then put the phone back. We're on the phone and doing something else. We're out on a date with our partner and yet we're distracted. And it may not even be something we're actually actively doing on the phone, which I see that a lot, where people go out on dates and they're on their phone the whole time.

Oh, God, yeah. I've seen dinners where everyone's on the phone. Right.

So it may not be as obvious as that because they might be in their mind thinking about something from the past or the future and be distracted and not being present. And something that I've been really focusing on over the last six months, I've been in a new relationship, and it's long distance. And I guess the beauty of that is when I'm with her, I don't take my phone anywhere. I'm present. And she will quickly say, you,'re not paying attention to me. If for one moment I check my phone.

Right, because you navigate. And so we live in a constant state of fear of missing out. We're always thinking about what we have pending, the plans, the future, our vision. There's almost like this ADD quality to life now, and especially now with social media and with all the things coming at us so fast. And if you're committed to creating big results in your life, you have plans, you have goals, but a lot of that steals time and steals moments from us. And so it doesn't allow us to be present in the moment. And the magic is in the moment. The magic is, I'm here, I'm all in, I'm engaged with you. Because so many people are not present they miss out on things. They miss out on life.

Yeah, we were talking before off camera how, you know, over the last five years, there's a lot of people in your life who've passed away. Right. And it's a reminder, I think, and I was telling you how I'm a little afraid, even though I should be more present and not thinking about the future, because we're all gonna die. But I've never really had anyone close to me die. I've had grandparents pass away at the right time, but not someone drastically you know, die. And all we have is this moment. There is no guarantee tomorrow. And I think the more we're reminded of that is being present, there's a lot of power in that moment. And I just think we're anxious a lot. I'm speaking for myself.

Right, right, right.

Anxiety of resentment from the past or a fear of the moment because of like how I was, what have happened to me in the past or I don't want things to repeat. And so we live in fear in the moment because we're thinking of the past, or we're afraid of what's coming in the future, that we're not going to meet some desired result or something's not going to happen, and then we live in fear of the future. So how do we focus our attention on being more present now so that.

We can live more fully?

Well, we have to break the obsession.

It's an obsession that we're in. We obsess over the past. We obsess over what was.

Why do we obsess so much over it though? When it's already gone, you can't go back.

Because we don't let it go.

Why do we not let it go?

Because we get attached. Why are we attached? Because we're addicted. It's an addiction. It's a focus. And I think that one of the biggest problems that we have is that we think that where we are isn't it. This is not it. And so we think that happiness or joy or fulfillment is in the future, or it was in the past and we lost it. So either we had it and we lost it, or it's in the future and it hasn't gotten there.

Waiting anxiously.

And then, and I think that, you know, and I'll talk about some of the steps to really bringing the present moment and being able to be present. One of the things that we do is we miss out on the moment and we don't realize that happiness is right now. Because the only moment that we really have is this one. There is no other moment. The next moment is a promise. The next moment is an idea. The last moment is over.

The last moment is just a memory.

It's a memory. It's history.

And the future is a future idea or a potential moment in the future that hasn't come yet.

Right, and when it comes, it'll be the present.

That's it. That's it. So how do we focus on being happier in this moment as opposed to waiting to be happy or being angry because we're holding onto something from the past? Or is that part of one of the keys?

Yeah, so I think there's seven keys that I've discovered and I've uncovered by, you know, through the research and through being in trainings and seeing what's going to bring people joy and fulfillment. And the first key is to realize that this is the moment. This is the only moment we have. and realizing that this is the only moment we have is realizing that by living in this present moment, I get to bring all of me to it. So I get to be engaged in it. And so by living in the present moment is realizing that the past is a memory, the future is an illusion, and so I'm gonna make it count. And when I live from the present moment back to the point that I've lost a lot of people, a lot of people have died in the last couple years and recently, is realizing our own mortality. Like we live life like we have forever. We live life like it's gonna, like there's a guarantee of tomorrow. And I don't know there's another moment. And so when I live life from, this is the only moment I have, I'm living life from urgency. And so I'm living life from, I may not see you again. So let me be present. Or I may not, we may not pass this way again. And so when I live from the moment, what I'm doing is I'm celebrating it and I'm acknowledging it. and I'm able to be present in it. And so what stops me from that is the guilt of the past and the anxiety of the past and the resistance of what I've been through, afraid of going through it again. And so that leads to the second key, which is to embrace and accept where you are. that what's happening right now is actually happening for you. That what's happening right now is your benefit. Because as long as I'm thinking that this relationship isn't it, this moment isn't it, this house isn't it, this career isn't it, this partner. This partner isn't it. What I'm doing is I'm putting all of my happiness on a result. And so by me being grateful for the moment that I have, whether it could be a bad moment, it could be a good moment, it could be an amazing moment, but being in gratitude of what's happening right now is a moment where I can choose happiness. Because my happiness is up to me.

Yeah.

And so my enjoying of this moment is up to me. And so when I'm able to embrace the moment and live in it, then I'm present.

Yeah.

Because by not being present, I miss out on you, I miss out on relationships, I miss out on life. It could bring me an accident. I could, I mean, there's so many things that could happen and that do happen when we're not present.

And if we're always focused on the future, we never experience anything really. We're just waiting for something, we're like half living. We're kind of half present but always thinking of something in the future. We're not able to really tap into the flow of feeling everything and being everything and experiencing everything. And that's what can be sad. You know, I've experienced this in my life where I've been disconnected because I've been thinking about the past or holding on to something, stress, anxiety, whatever, anger, resentment. and then I don't live the fullest moment. I don't get to experience life with all the joy and pleasures and really connect to people. The same thing when we think about the future. So it's powerful reminder to realize we only have this moment, realize it, embrace and accept where we are and know it's for you. As hard as that may be because there's a lot of moments that you've been through and I've been through and so many people, it's hard to say this moment's for me when you're feeling desperate, when you're feeling like the world is against you when you're feeling in scarcity, when you're feeling just like you're living in fear. It's really hard to tap out of that or to get out of that and be joyful. So how do we do that?

Well, it's interpretation. It's back to what we've talked about living a bulletproof life, which is choosing an interpretation that empowers you. What doesn't allow me to be in the moment, what doesn't allow me to be present with you or to be joyful in my life is thinking that What's happening is against me. What's happening is, you know, I'm taking it personal or I'm letting it take my power away. It may be something that you don't want happening in your life, but you make a choice to choose happiness, to choose to see the good in it, you know, to see it in a positive light. And so that allows me to be present. And when I'm able to be present, then I'm able to enjoy my moments.

Sure.

So many people go through people's lives and they were never present. They were never there. They were never connected. They miss out, they don't remember even conversations. You see it at funerals, people are like, what was the last thing I said to them? Or what could I remember of them? And a whole lifetime can be summed up in two conversations. Where there were so many moments that you were with somebody that you weren't present. And most people are not in the moment. And it's really challenging. And the next principle in terms of being present is to monitor your thoughts. to be aware of where is your mind going when you're with somebody, you know, kind of like when your partner is saying, hey, you know, come back, you know, monitoring your thoughts is being is noticing where your mind is going, noticing what you're thinking. And is what you're thinking taking away from the moment is what you're thinking something that's driven by the past is what you're thinking is about something that somewhere else you want to be. Because we're always thinking about the next place. It's kind of like we live in ADD land. We want the next shiny object. We not we want the next exciting moment. And so it's really challenging to actually be present.

What's the difference between appreciating where you're at and also recognizing if, well, I'm actually in a toxic relationship and I don't wanna be in this. I do want something better for myself. I do want a better career. I can be happy with what I have now, but I also wanna gain something greater.

Well, you have, in the moment, you have several choices. One is accept it. The other is change it.

Either accept the relationship. Yeah.

Accept the fear. Except, you know, a lot of people complain about where they are and they don't do anything about it.

Right.

And so either, like I have somebody who's coaching who's miserable in her relationship, but she won't break up with him.

So either accept it.

I'm like either accept it and embrace it that that's the way it is.

And love your life.

And find joy anyway in it. Yeah. Or move on. Move on. Change it.

Why do we have such a hard time accepting and changing, and we just stay stuck.

Because we think that things should be different than the way they are. And we also think that it has nothing to do with us when we're the ones who are creating it, we're the ones who are causing it. And so by not being present with the responsibility of what I'm creating, then what I do is I'm always thinking that this is not it and it should be different, and then we stay stuck. And then we're stuck in a situation we don't want to be in. And then we're miserable about it and we complain about it, but we don't do anything about it.

And we don't live in the present either.

And we're not in the present.

Okay. Are we on number three right now?

We're on number three. So number three is to be all in, to be all in in the moment. You're either all in in life or you're all out. My point of view is I'm either all in my relationship, there's no half in.

It's kind of what people are doing when they're not accepting the moment and they're complaining about it or they're not changing it. They're half in.

They're half in.

In the relationship, the career.

Or they're not even in. They're really not in. And really to me it's either all in or all not. There's no half committed, half in, half, you don't want an employee that's half committed. You don't want a relationship that's half committed. And so by being all in, I'm bringing all of me to it. I'm going to bring all of myself to the situation. and I'm gonna put thought, body, heart, mind, spirit all into the present moment. And so that's the key to being present by being all in and being all of me, like generous and present and joyful and bring all the gifts that I have to the moment. Right. Because most people are kind of like waiting for a circumstance to change.

Or they're just dabbling a little bit, half in, a little bit like you said. It's not until we go all in is when we can really experience life I think at the fullest.

Well think about it in your relationship right are you all in in the relationship?

Yes.

And is your partner all in?

Yeah. It's amazing.

And how's that feel?

It's amazing. It feels great. And here's the thing in my last relationship I was emotionally trying to unwind and get out for years.

Right.

You know in and out through therapy breaking up back together and It was more stressful because I wasn't all in all the time.

And you wanted to. I mean, it's important to make that clear. I was there with you.

Of course.

You wanted to.

Yes.

But the wanting to is not the same as being.

Of course.

Yeah. And when you come from that criteria, then you can make some decisions that are pretty, it becomes easier.

Yeah.

Because do I want to be in a situation, whether it's work, relationship, family, do I want to be in a situation where there's a partial commitment?

I think it's really challenging, this is probably a whole other topic for a podcast, but it's challenging to, the worst thing is indecision. It's like, do I go all in or do I go out? Being in the middle is the worst. You know, I'm not just talking about my last relationship, but multiple relationships, different opportunities in my life. When we lack the courage to just make a decision, that's when we suffer the most, I feel like. We're like, well, I want this, But I don't know if I'm ready.

But what we don't know is that indecision is a decision.

Indecision is a decision?

Yes. You're deciding not to decide.

I know.

And so you're making a choice to be in limbo.

That's the worst.

Which is why so many people are unfulfilled, because they're not doing what they want to do. If you're in a career that you're not all in, get out. If you're in a relationship, you're not all in, get out. So either change it or accept it.

Accept it and go all in.

Yeah, accept and go, okay, this is the way it is. Here are the benefits. There's clearly enough benefit that keeps you in or else you'd be out. So here are the benefits. I'm gonna accept it. You know, I was talking to somebody else and he was like, well, you know what? You know, there's 10 items that to me are important. This person has seven of them and three of them I cannot stand. And so I'm gonna stop complaining. Right. I'm gonna put my energy towards the seven.

There you go.

And so that allows you to create fulfillment in your relationship and in your life. So by being all in, then you could bring your energy, you could bring your joy, you could bring your passion, you could bring all of you into it.

That's it. Okay, step four.

Step four is be in ownership of whatever moment you're in. Most people are spectators. They're like watching, they're observing, they show up to a place and they observe. They go to the party and they, oh, I don't like the food, I don't like the, you know, this is the vibe's weird. And then they're in this observer mode or they show up into situations, their lie is their life, but they're a spectator. And there's like a t-shirt I read like I saw years ago, life is not a dress rehearsal. And so life is life, and there's a beginning and there's an end. That will keep you present. There's a beginning, there's an end, and we don't know where we are. We don't know what stage of beginning or end. There's a beginning, a middle, and an end, according to Buddhists, beginning, middle, and end. So we don't know where we are. Is this really, are we still in the beginning? Are we in the middle or at the end? So the important thing is that when you take ownership for where you are, whether it's a restaurant and you're in ownership of being there and you're noticing what's happening around you and you're present, you take ownership for the conversation, you're in ownership for the environment, you're in ownership for what's going on, that also allows you to be present instead of just watching. Because when we're watching, we're observers, we become judge and jury. So there we are, we start judging the situation. We start making, you know, we start making up stories about why, you know, we can't be present. And so when I'm in ownership, it's so funny because wherever I go, people think I work there. Like I'm in a store, like, see, you're the manager. Because I'm talking to everyone. I walk through life present, like I'm engaged, I'm with the salesperson, I'm present with them. And when you're present with people, and this is one of your gifts, people feel around you like they're the most important person in the world. You have that gift. People feel like, you know, like like you're their fan, like you're their number one fan. And that's what makes a great interviewer. That's what makes a great inspire somebody who inspires other people, because people feel like you're present with them. And so being in ownership allows you to look at the entire aerial view of what's happening around you. And then it allows you to be present.

Yeah. Yeah.

You know, so if I'm in ownership of where I am, then I'm able to be present versus I walk on eggshells wherever I go and I'm nervous and, you know, I'm not in ownership of my life.

You know, you talk about environment a lot in the last six years since I've known you and I really appreciate the reminder because I think it was something I was doing organically, but the more you address environments and how we are in ownership of our environment, of our physical space, our apartment, our homes, the environment when we show up to a space, we are in charge of how it thrives or how it dies. And by our way of being, by our energy, and by being present, of course. And I think that's something that you do really well, obviously, is always showing up with energy and a light and a joy that shifts an environment if it doesn't have that. and it's amazing how one human being can change the entire energy and environment of any space, conversation, experience.

Yeah, it's like I was saying, you walk into a room or you walk into a house or you walk into a store and you could be an observer of it and like what's, you know, and judge it or you can be that environment. And so part of, part of what I commit to myself is to be an be responsible for the environment I'm committed to creating around me.

And the experience you wanna feel?

The experience I wanna feel, the environment, what I wanna see around me, what I am committed to creating. And so before I go into a space or before I go into another, and this is like actually the next step, in addition to being in an ownership, have an intention. And so the intention, this would be five, right? So the intention is what is your intention when you're sitting down with your significant other? What is your intention when you go into the board meeting? What is in your intention when you're talking to your employees? What is your intention when you talk to your mom? So what's the experience that you wanna create when you're with that person?

For the skeptics listening or thinking, okay, so do I have to have an intention every 10 minutes of my life? You know what I mean? It's like I wake up, I have to have intention for I'm gonna have breakfast with my spouse, and then go to work? Do I have to set it a 10 minute reminder in my mind for intention? Or how do we navigate that?

I don't think it's so much so specific. I think it's more of a general intention. Like my intention is to create joy around me. My intention is to create love. And if there's something that's specific that you're engaging with, you know, your girlfriend or your boyfriend, I'm committed to creating connection. I'm committed to listening, I'm committed to being present, so it's all intentional.

That's why I think it's really effective in the morning to set a clear intention of how you want to show up that day.

Of course. That's the first thing I do when I wake up. In addition to being blessed and grateful for being alive, and for breathing, and for making it to another day, I get clear about my intention for the entire day. But sometimes intentions can be broken into smaller intentions. Because if you have a board meeting or if you have a team meeting with your employees, you got to have an intention about what you want to create. And so leaders come from intention. Is it got to be micromanaged every moment?

No. Right, right. I think in the morning you should set your intention for the day. And if you have a big moment that day, you can ground yourself beforehand. I think it's always good to reflect at night and say, did I show up?

Did I get-- yeah. Was I present? Was I present?

Or was I distracted?

Was I engaged? Did I accomplish what I wanted? Did I create the environment of love? And if I didn't, then what can I learn from it? What can I do different the next day? But think about, like, before you have big events, like, one of the things that I do with you is I'll ground you. Like, before you do, for example, you're on Ellen, we grounded before Good Morning America. All these or big speeches, one of the things I ask you is, what are you gonna create? And it just, it gives you the power. It just lets you know that you have the power to create what you want.

Yeah.

In that environment.

That's it.

Yeah.

Okay, number six.

Number six is to hold people accountable in being present.

What's that look like?

Louis, you're spacing out. Can you get present?

Yes.

That's what it looks like. Sweetheart, I'm talking to you. Can you, you know, can you stop playing Candy Crush for a moment? Guys, we're at a dinner party and I noticed that we're all on the phone. Can we take a moment and put our phones away and let's be present? So it's not- Hold people accountable.

So it's not screaming at them?

No, no, no. Look, accountability is love. Let's be clear. Holding people accountable is saying, I love you. When I hold you accountable, I'm saying you're capable of a bigger game.

Yeah.

You're capable of bigger possibility. And so holding people accountable is clear on the environment you want around you and you're ensuring it. Just, for example, if you are not, if you don't want in your environment people disrespecting you when they disrespect you, then you actually stand for that boundary, which we've talked about in the past.

Sure.

And so holding people accountable to being present creates an environment of people being present. I have a friend, a very close friend, and for the longest time, I was afraid to speak up. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but I noticed every time I was with her, we'd have dinner, she'd be on plain candy crush. We'd be at a movie and she'd be playing Candy Crush. We'd be doing whatever. And it got to a point where I was like, Can you, when we're together, can you do me a favor? I want to be with you. I don't know how much, you know, maybe I scared, I don't know how much time we both have on this earth. But I really want us to have quality time together. And so that completely shifted the relationship. And now, that longer happens because that person knows that when they're with me, they're gonna be present. That's good. I was once at a dinner party, it was so funny, there was like 12 people and all 12 people were on the phone texting and doing whatever. And so I'm sitting down, so I text the person who invited everybody, Hey, how you doing?

It was next to you, yeah.

The person that invited me, I texted her and she looks up and she says, why are you texting me? She says, well, that's the only way we can talk. Wow. And she got it, she says, Guys, let's put our phones away. But it's just, and I don't think people do it in a bad way. I just think that we just get caught up and it goes back to the point that where we are isn't where we think we should be.

Wow. Powerful.

Instead of enjoying the moment. That's it.

Okay. And number seven.

Number seven is be mindful of your physical space and your movements.

So your body.

Your body, so whether it's driving the physical, look, we are all physical beings and we're all millions of people moving at the same time. And so by not being present where I'm stepping, I could literally kill myself.

That's true.

Two weeks ago, a woman in Puerto Rico had her head set on. She's a very well-known woman from a family of givers. She was 65. She's listening to music in her phone, and she goes out of her house to put the trash in some other place. The trash truck ran her over.

No.

She couldn't hear. She didn't see. She was like in her own world, boom, ran her over. Like one second, she wasn't present of where she was walking. Another friend of mine, she was stepping off a helicopter, her brain was somewhere else, missed a step, back surgery.

Oh.

Stories of people, I don't know what the statistics are of how many people slip in a bathtub, your brain somewhere else, you're not thinking, where am I stepping? By the way, this podcast may save someone's life. You're not conscious of where you're stepping. so you know that you hear the watch your step, literally watch your step. It could literally save your life. So be aware of where you're walking, what you're doing, what you're doing, you know, as you're moving. Don't text and drive. Be aware that you're in a car, it's moving. You text, that could be the end of your life. So just being conscious of that, being mindful of that.

Yeah. Don't think that you're talented enough to do both text and drive. walk on the street and look down and texting the whole time.

Or then it won't happen to you.

Exactly.

One moment that you're not present can affect your life or it could affect a relationship. Many relationships end because people, they were never present with each other. And being present also implies being present with yourself. Be present with your body. Listen to your body. Listen to what's going on. Sometimes we could have a health issue that we're not paying attention to. that we avoid and it turns into something worse. So it's really, the point of this that I want to share is living life present. It could literally not only save your life, transform your relationships, it could transform your businesses. I mean, it can make such a big impact, which is why I want to talk about it. Because I think most people nowadays with social media, the misuse of social media, 'cause social media is not the problem, but the misuse of being so engaged and being in constant, constant engaged in other things, we miss this moment. And this moment is the most important moment you have. Because you may not have another one. You may not wake up tomorrow. The plane may not land. Every time I land on an airplane, I am in gratitude. I'm the one who claps. Yay, we made it. People ask me, how's your flight? You're looking at me, right? Good flight.

Yeah, yeah.

Because I don't take a moment for granted. And so I think that if we live more consciously present and be present with the people that we love, express how we feel today, make every moment count, this will elevate people's lives.

Do you think it's gonna get easier for people or harder?

It's getting harder because there's so much more coming at us.

There's distraction and information and tension and-.

There's distraction, there's information, there's- All these, it's kind of like, you know, the dog that chases the shiny object, you know? It's like we have attention. It's like we literally have a collective ADD where there's just so much happening. And also there's the whole thing of wanting more, more, more, more, more, more money, more followers, more success, more of whatever, something hotter, something brighter. And we don't realize that the key to joy and happiness is happening right now. this moment, this is the moment. Because all of those things will never bring fulfillment and don't bring people back and don't bring memories back. You know, some people are so on, it's like we live on autopilot that people come in of our lives and we never really, we were ever really present with them. Even parents are like, I never, I've heard this in my training room. I was never present with my children. I missed out on 20 years because I was in, I was in somewhere else. And that happens in everything. And so I'm the guy in your life that's like, look at how I am, Louis. I'm like, look at me, you know? I love you, okay? I live that way because I live aware that one day you'll be watching this podcast and I won't be alive. And you won't be, this is gonna be recorded forever. We're gonna be a memory. It's scary at the same time, it inspires me. to want to make every moment count. To want to be present.

I love this. Let's do a recap really quick. The first one is realize that this is the only moment. Second one is embrace and accept where you are and it's for you.

Right, because when you resist, you're missing out on the moment.

The third one is to not dabble in the moment, is to be all in.

To be all in.

On everything that you're experiencing. in your life.

-Yeah, to be all in.

-Fourth thing is to be in ownership of the moment you are in. The fifth is have an intention for what you want to create for the day, the moment, anything that's happening. The sixth is to hold people accountable to be present so if people are distracted, don't allow them to continue that. And the seventh is to be mindful of your movement, your physical space and your body because one moment you could end it or injure yourself or hurt yourself.

Correct.

So be mindful of your body and your movement. I love these keys. I wanted to ask you a couple of final questions.

Yeah, sure.

One is, it's about a halfway year mark and you've done 30 years of trainings. But what have you learned in the last six months that's new or that's been reinforced for you from your trainings or just your life in general? some new lesson that you've had in the last six months?

One of the biggest things that I'm, that's really landing this year for me.

Is.

Taking care of me is self-love. And taking care of me is everything from releasing relationships that don't work, taking care of my body, taking care of my health. You know, I got Invisaligns. I was showing you my Invisaligns. You were getting braces. these are just things that are ways of me loving myself. And I think that as productive people and leaders and people that are committed to making an impact, we forget about ourselves. And so I'm really big on loving yourself, taking care of you, create the space for you to disconnect, to meditate, to do things that are mindful. So that's really landing for me in a big way. I'm doing things that I haven't done my entire life.

Wow.

You know, like I've done like laser treatment on my face. I'm, you know, exercising, I'm dieting, I'm, I'm, I have a trainer. I'm doing things that I used to think, I don't have time to do that.

Neglected.

I just didn't think it was important.

Yeah. You're going on vacations more.

Vacation trips more.

You're hanging out with people you care about.

I'm connecting more, I'm taking time out. I've spent a lot of time with my mom this year. I'm doing things that come back to fulfilling me. Not so much about making the money or getting the deal or I don't come from that need. I come from a place of gratitude. And so that's the biggest key for me that I'm learning and that it's really landing in a big way. And so of course I'm lending that for people in my trainings and people like It's across the board. People would rather take the shirt off their back, help someone else out, do whatever they need to do for other people, but they don't do that for themselves. So that's one of the key things that are happening.

That's a good lesson. Yeah. What's a lesson you think you still need to learn after that, for the next year or two? Where do you need to grow?

Oh, I know exactly the answer to that one. Learning to say no. 'Cause I just love what I do. I love to be in service. I love, you know, to, I was looking, I already have my schedule for 2020.

You're booked the whole year.

I'm booked the entire year. And not only am I booked the entire year, there's people that want me to do stuff and I feel bad 'cause I want to do it for them. And for me to say, you know what, I can't do that for you. That's something that I gotta learn to do in a way that empowers me that I don't feel bad about it. that, you know, 'cause I don't like turning people down. You're the same way.

So hard to say no. I've been doing it this year, I've been pretty good at it. 'Cause a lot of people have asked.

Me for- We also have people saying no for you.

I do. Yeah, but people still get to me direct. Right. Yeah. It's really hard. I even did something this week, I'll tell you more off camera 'cause it's more of a personal thing that happened with a mutual friend of ours, that I felt like, I was put in a really bad situation that this person wouldn't ask me to do something for them and I just felt so uncomfortable. They asked me to do it a year ago. I did it and I didn't want to do it.

I think I know who you're talking about and I think you shared part of that.

Yeah, maybe. And then it happened again recently. They needed me to do something again and I felt like, oh man, I already committed to this and I didn't want to do it. Right. And I was, and so I just said, I can't do this. You're like, no. and I'm risking the fact that I'm gonna lose this relationship over one moment.

Right, right, right.

Where it's like, you don't wanna lose a relationship because of you saying no. Right. And you, you know, I don't know, I don't wanna lose a relationship because of that.

So it's like, how do you say yes to please people? Say no to please people? But then it goes back to my first lesson, which is self-love. Saying no sometimes is saying yes to you. That's true, that's true.

And so that's what I'm working with. Well, you got a book. People can get the book, Chris Lee, 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity, Transform youm Life. I wrote the forward, so make sure you guys go get it. Support our friend Chris. You're on Instagram.

Is it still Chris Motivador? Yes, it is. On Facebook, Instagram, Twitter.

Chris Lee, Motivational Trainer. Yes.

In Instagram, @ChrisMotivador.

Motivador. They can come to a training of yours. Seminars, workshops all over the country. If they DM you on Instagram, you do trainings all over the world. You can tell them where to go.

Exactly.

They can get your book. I love you. I appreciate it.

I love you too.

Amazing. I'm so grateful. This is the 300th time you've been on here. You've helped so many people on these podcasts. When we get together and do things, we always have an amazing time. I'm so grateful you're my life and I love you so.

I love you too.

Thank you for being here. Appreciate you. Make me cry.

Always.

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