25 Oct 2019 · 5 min
This is a podcast episode titled "867 Brotherhood of Emotions" recorded in October 2019. The content features a conversation primarily between Randy Couture, a former UFC fighter and actor, and other speakers including Lewis AI. They discuss emotional vulnerability, toughness, and personal growth, blending topics of sports, acting, and emotional expression. Lewis AI participates as a speaker, making this a conversational transcript with multiple speakers.
This is Five Minute Friday. Welcome, everyone, to this incredible episode with Randy Couture. I'm so excited about this. I did not want to stop this conversation. I had so much fun and enjoyed how far Randy went in this episode and how much he talked about.
We talked a lot.
About many things. But for those who don't know who Randy is, he's a former collegiate wrestler turned UFC fighter turned superstar actor. And he is best known for starring in all three of the Expendables, ambushed and the Scorpion King too. He also served as a four time US Olympic wrestling team alternate and is a six time world heavyweight and light heavyweight UFC champion and Hall of Famer. Now he also served as a soldier in the US Army. and he did that before he actually went into the UFC. So he served for many years, and then it wasn't until his late 20s and early 30s when he got into the UFC, when most people actually start retiring at that age. And he is the first of only two fighters to hold two UFC championship titles in two different divisions. Now he is known as one of the roughest, toughest guys in the world. And also, I was so touched by his generosity, his calmness, his love, his joy. I mean, he is an an amazing human being. He's more than what it looks like on the surface.
This is the first time you saw, I guess, boys, men cry when they hit their breaking point wrestling in these 90 minute sessions. What was that like when you see, was this a lot of people that do this or a few people would, like, break down?
I saw it a couple times. Doesn't happen.
What would happen in the room when, you know, you saw that, were people accepting of that or were they, like, quit being, you know, quit crying and stuff.
No, that's the thing. Good training partners, your teammates, guys that you know you can trust. Again, when you find yourself in that situation where you can't go anymore, where you just, you literally emotionally break, they're gonna pick you up. They're gonna help you go further, help you get through it. And that's what we do for each other.
Yeah.
So it was more about support and love and connection, not like, Quoting a pussy.
No, I mean, no, it was never like that. You're never gonna chastise that guy because that could be you tomorrow.
Right.
You don't know.
Interesting. So you really were embracing that experience.
Yeah, they had to.
That's cool.
We're all struggling with it. A 90-minute match is a long match. We're all struggling, you know, we're all fighting the same fight, you know, and so. On that any given day, that could be you and you realize that there's a recognition of that vulnerability, of that potential, of that wall, that barrier, and we're all trying to push it back, but we're all fighting it.
Do you ever feel like you had to suppress emotions when you were fighting? Like, I have to be tough and strong, I can't show my emotion.
Absolutely, really. I think we learned to box things up as athletes. you know, we learn to stuff things, put them to the side and stay on task, stay on focused on what we need to do to go out and be effective and win. That's what's weird about acting now.
You have to express yourself.
Yeah, they want that. I've spent my entire life and I had that tendency anyway.
Yes.
To stuff things and not be terribly open and gregarious with my emotions.
Sure, sure.
I think, you know, even as a kid, so I spent a ton of time boxing it all up, pushing it to the side and staying focused on what I needed to do. And now I'm supposed to just let all that out. Like, this is weird.
Pry on command.
Yeah, this is weird.
Do you feel like the, you know, boxing the emotions, that that held you back in any way, or that was the only way to be successful?
I think that's where it It had a detriment and affected my personal relationships.
Do you feel like you could have died?
I had an adversity and maybe it was because of the type of personality that my mom was and that my dad wasn't there. I didn't have an example in the house on how to deal, especially with those kind of confrontations, those emotional type of confrontations. And so I boxed all that up and just not engaged at all. I didn't like that kind of competition, which is weird. for a guy that gets in a cage and punches people in the face to be afraid of that kind of confrontation. An emotional confrontation. Yeah, those, I couldn't deal with that. I really hated it and had an aversion to it and would do anything to avoid it. And a lot of times I would stick my head in the sand and not deal with issues, not deal with problems. And that's, I think, you know, I was good at it as an athlete.
And I think being good at it.
In life, that wasn't good. You know, things got bigger, things festered.
They. They.
Till they got to a point where they're insurmountable. You can't get over them. The connection is so fractured and broken that you can't fix it and. And end up walking away.
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