Noah Beck’s Business & Life Lessons From The World’s Biggest Male TikTok Star EP 1467

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So three years in the making, we met, you know, two blocks away from here, about three years ago, as you were on the rise to your social media, Tick Tock internet Sensational Fame that you've been on, I think, what do you have close to, like, 40 or 50 million followers now on all your platforms. But three years ago, you kind of Who was counting? We lost count a while ago. But back then you were just kind of taking off month by month, just like doubling and came out of nowhere. I remember seeing videos of you as this, you know, D1 soccer kid, right? Who was like 19. And then all of a sudden COVID hits and you have nothing to do. You're kind of like, what do I do with my time? School year gets cut short, soccer season gets cut short. You had one dream going towards, I'm assuming, soccer and trying to play professionally. And then you started making TikTok videos for fun as a little side thing. And in one month, I think you said you got your first million followers, is that right?

Around that, yeah.

Something like that.

Something like that, yeah.

And then all of a sudden, when did you realize that, oh, maybe like this soccer thing, dream that I had for probably a decade isn't the main thing anymore? Or maybe school isn't even the main thing, but I want to start trying this other thing. When did you realize, like, this is a new possibility for you?

I would say when I think the opportunities became just too good to pass up. I think when the numbers started to grow, when emails started to come in, my email was attached on my TikTok and I started getting emails that I couldn't even believe with numbers that I had never seen before.

Financial opportunities. Sponsorship deals, brand deals. Yep.

All of those. And as a NCAA Division 1 athlete at that time... You couldn't make money. Couldn't make money. And I talked to the dean about it and everything. Like, I went to University of Portland and I literally told my coach, I was like, Hey, coach, I have a question. Who can you put me in contact with? I have some questions regarding NCAA and the rules because I know you're allowed to have as a D1 athlete, you're allowed to have a job if I was like a barista somewhere or something like that. Like minimum wage. Right. But, You're not allowed to make money off the likeness of your name. And although I wasn't selling jerseys or autographs or whatever, they still... I had a long talk with my dean about it. I was like, Look, making videos, you know, has nothing to do... Like, I post some soccer content, but, like, for the most part, people don't even know I play. And so...

Right.

So, I'm like, Is there something we can do here? 'Cause I'm getting money thrown at me that I've never seen before. And I was, like, a college student that had never really had work experience. I was like, Please let me do this. And he was like, Unfortunately, it restricts NCAA rules. And so that also kind of helped me make that decision.

Isn't that crazy? But now, just six months after that, I think NIL started, right?

Like, shortly after that.

Like, six months later, I was like, okay, now you can make money with your name and likeness.

Yep.

It was right before that the money was... I'm assuming it was in the five, ten, twenty thousand dollar opportunities at that time early on, if not more.

Yeah.

And you're like, okay, one video to make this to pay for like a year of life.

Right.

It's hard to say no.

It's hard to say no.

And who knows what would have happened if you were able to make money as a college athlete? Do you think you would have still been playing?

Well, that's the question, isn't it? I think there's so many things that that would have played a factor that I go back and I think, you know, what if, you know, what if he said, yeah, go ahead, like, do the sponsored posts, do brand deals. Like, I don't care. I don't think I ever would have stopped. I don't think there would have been.

That you would have kept playing.

I think I would have kept playing. And I think because it was crazy because I think my dad, my dad's, like, my biggest fan, and he's my biggest supporter, and he was my coach since I was three years old, and so. and he coaches a local high school team. And so having a coach as a dad, I mean, it had its ups and downs for sure. He, sometimes the car rides home were not fun, but it's one of those things where he was hard on me for the better.

And.

It just got to a point where he was like, if you're seriously considering quitting soccer, like, you don't even have to tell me. Like, this is, he knows my love for the game and he knows how passionate I was for it. and I am for it, he was like, this must be something huge because he's like, I've never seen anything throw you off as much as this is. So, I think he understood like the magnitude of the opportunities I was given. Um, and obviously he said that he didn't even really need to know, but of course my mom and dad were still kind of hands on with being like, you know, talking to the right people, looking things up, and like, I give them as much info as I could, but for the most part, I didn't even know what was going on. I was like, I don't know this brand, but they're offering to pay me like, So, it was pretty nuts. I can't lie. And I think there are so many what ifs if... Really? Yeah. If the NIL would've been a thing six months prior. That's crazy.

Yeah.

But here we are.

I think life puts us in different directions at different moments. You know, I got injured playing football, I was telling you before he jumped on camera. And that was the dream, that was a passion. So, for a year and a half, I was recovering from a surgery and an injury. and I didn't know what was going to happen next, but I wouldn't be here. I wouldn't have done this show for the last 10 years. Had that injury not happened, I would have kept pursuing the same thing. And who knows? Maybe it would have a great run. Maybe I'd have broken my neck or something. You never know. You never know. So you might have been redirected for something greater.

Right.

Which is interesting. And that's why I can't help but kind of frame my mindset as I'm like, this happened for a reason, so I'm just gonna. you know, do, I mean, as athletes, I feel like growing up as athletes, I think I was telling you before the cameras were on, it's just kind of how we're programmed with being so structured and disciplined and being like, all right, if I'm gonna do this, I have a new, like, I got a new job, you know, it's like having a new coach, like you wanna impress the new coach. And so every time I would do something new in the entertainment industry in the, in this space, I was like, I'm gonna give it the best I can, and I'm gonna try to really throw myself in and, like, what's the worst that can happen?

Yeah.

You know, you fail. It's like, what was the biggest challenge over the last three years for you with getting so much popularity and I guess social media following and fame in a time of extreme cancel culture and a time of extreme celebrating individuals and cheering for people, but then also criticizing them and these kind of two extremes.

Yeah, of course.

Let me follow you, comment on everything, celebrate you and talk about you in a positive way. But then when I don't like something, let me criticize you. Let me pull you down and let me shame you publicly.

Yeah.

How at 19 and now 22, have you navigated that process?

Yeah, I think you hit it right on the nose. It's one of those things where it is just such a flaky industry and it's such a, you know, at one moment you're on top of the world and the next moment, like, you can breathe the wrong way and someone's got something to say. And I think in the world we live in now and with the social media, I think social media has changed so many things for the better, but also for the worse. I think this constant culture of comparison going on with young individuals and it's not really a good way to view life constantly comparing yourself. And I think, I don't know. Yeah, when I first started, people at first, nothing bad to say, you know? As I'm gaining traction and numbers kept rising, people were like, my God, let's like, you know, this guy's amazing. Let's keep him hidden. Like, don't let him blow up too much, like that kind of thing. Keep him hidden? Let's keep him hidden. Like, that's kind of a thing, you know?

Let's keep him our secret.

Really? Yeah, because I think- you-'re not a secret at 10 million followers already? No, not at that point. I think when it was like just before the millions, people were like, Where are these guys coming from? They keep spawning and it's like, I just made an account. Simple as that. I think, I don't know, when someone feels a part of something small, it feels a bit more intimate. And then, it's funny that that is being said, though, because I have my OG fans that have been there since the early days, since 10,000-20,000 followers.

That you recognize still.

That's still to this day, I'm in group chats with them on Instagram. I'll chime in here and there and just be like, Hey, guys, hope you're all well. It's really fun having a community like that and knowing that 10, 30 seconds out of your day can to stop and do a group chat and be like, Hey, guys, I hope you all are well, not forgetting about you. I think that can really, it's crazy that that can make someone's day. And, yeah, with cancel culture, it's one of those things where you kind of, I don't know. I like to think I don't really have any skeletons in the closet, you know? So I'm just kind of like, I'm able to be authentically myself, and if you like me, follow me and let's go on this journey together. But if not, I'm gonna lose sleep over it. If you don't like me, that's fine.

But how do you deal with maybe not cancel culture for you, because you don't have a skeleton, but criticism culture and make wrong or just like comparison.

Yeah.

Comparison and criticism culture where, okay, you were the and still are, but you were three years ago kind of the newer, person coming out and creating content, and now there's newer people doing that.

Exactly.

Younger or more defined abs or whatever.

Longer hair looking, of course, yeah.

And how do you not let your self-worth be defined by criticism or comparison at such a young age?

It's hard. It really is. And I can't lie, I think... I can't sit here and say it hasn't affected me. You know, there have been times where, you know, the likes are down, the engagement's low, you know? And as much as I don't want to ever look at that, like, it's your job, you know? And it comes to a point where you kind of have to look at that and see what people are saying and seeing, like, what they want to see. And you can either choose to do two things. You can give the people what they want, or you can just keep posting stuff that you like. And I think I saw or read this quote the other day. It was about, I don't know if I'm gonna say it correctly, but it was basically something about, like, the work's never as good when you start to cater to other people, but as soon as you start doing it for yourself, then it's a lot more like people can see right through the authenticity. And I think, I don't know, I think that's just what I've always kind of stayed firm to, is the belief of just being myself and just posting stuff that I want to post. And I'm very, very blessed and grateful to have the fan base that I have and people that support me the way that they do, because At the end of the day, like, there are people that will do just about anything for a like or a click. And I'm just grateful that I have people that will click no matter what, like, if I put out something. But that being said, I'm never gonna take advantage of that, and I'm never gonna, like, take that for granted. And I'm always gonna try to put out my best stuff and. Yeah, but I think going back to what I was saying with, like, it is a very, you know, one moment, you're on top of the world, the next moment, you're nothing. And then all of a sudden, you have a big project coming out. And bam, you're back on top. And it's just like, I'm very aware of that, and I would tire myself out if I constantly tried to be at the top and constantly tried to do things that would make sure that I'm at the top, get stay people talking. I enjoy the time when people aren't talking, you know?

Really?

I think so.

I mean, here's the thing. You got 50 million followers. It's not like you're not relevant.

Right.

But what do you mean, like being on top versus Of course, your bottom is like 5 million views versus on a post as opposed to 100 million views.

Right.

Where that would be someone's dream.

Exactly. It's funny that you mentioned that, because I was having a conversation the other day with some of my friends, and we were talking about, who are also kind of influencers in the space, and they were kind of talking about the idea that, you know, You know, it's the constant thing of, you know, the algorithms changed, you know, views aren't the same anymore. Like, back in 2020, like, prime time with, like, when I had just, you know, entered the house with Sway Boys and, like, I could post a video of me staring at the camera for five seconds and it would probably do 20 million views.

Come on.

And it was like... I think we took that for granted. Like, I think we really It's hard not to be spoiled to that. It's hard not to see that and be like, oh, anything less than this? It's like, oh, am I falling off? It's like one of those things because I like the content that I'm putting out now way more than what I was putting out back then, you know? But like I said, there's an audience for everything. And so I think the stuff that I put out now is definitely more authentic to who I am and more like catered to a specific audience, whereas back then it was just like, All right, anyone who wants to make a video, let's do it. Let's dance, let's have our shirts off, you know, it's gonna do well. At the end of the day, so it was funny because we were talking, we were like, if you really put it into perspective, our least viewed video is someone who's just starting this dream. And it's hard to kind of zoom out of that. When you take yourself out of your shoes and really zoom out and see for what it is, it's, It's pretty insane how spoiled we were back then with all those views and still to this day, like, like we were talking about before the cameras turned on, I just think I joined at a perfect time where COVID hit and everyone was all of a sudden like, what do we do? I'm just gonna go on my phone and scroll, you know? Like, TikTok blew up at that time and being the new up and comer, like it was, it was definitely a weird feeling because it wasn't till A few months after I started gaining followers, I didn't think it was anything more than just numbers on a screen. And then my first time kind of going out after the pandemic, like, going out meaning, like, I went on vacation with my family in California. Recognized you. People recognized me. Came up to you. You're that guy from TikTok. You know it back. And I was just like, yep, I was in a dorm room, like, three months ago, you know, like, training for soccer. And this is definitely And my parents, like my parents knew about like the numbers and like, but they thought the same thing. They were just like, oh, that's cool, you know, like we don't know where these millions of numbers are coming from. Like it could be wherever. And so when you first kind of get like start getting spotted, my parents were like, what? Like it was just a new thing to all of us. And I was crazy. It was truly a surreal feeling.

Now, how do you manage your ego and not let it get to your head so much as a, you know, 22 year old? heartthrob, you know, athlete, social media sensation. How do you, or maybe you haven't figured that out yet. How do you keep a good heart, a kind soul, and still be compassionate towards humanity?

Right.

With all the success, the fame, and, you know, 16 year old girls running after you everywhere you go.

Yeah, it's flattering for sure. And it's definitely got me blushing, but like, it's one of those things where, I think, again, like we were talking about before, the people that I have chosen to surround myself with in my personal life have really helped manage that. And, you know, like I said, I'm not one of the. I just don't think that's how I am as a person anyway. Like, I. I have give a big shout out to my parents for. For raising me, I think, in the right way, and.

Yeah.

I owe everything to them and I think, yeah, I don't know. I just, I know that I have, you know, I've always been confident in who I am and I've never really struggled with like confidence, but at the same time I'm human and I have my insecurities, but I think, I don't know. I think, yeah, the people I surround myself with, And like we were talking about, it's hard to find here in LA with how transactional the city can be, how... Everyone wants something from you. Everyone wants something. Why are you being nice to me? Why did... All these questions before that are just kind of unsaid. But yeah, so I'm still very much a family man. And my parents and my sisters definitely keep me humble. My friends that I grew up with playing soccer from Arizona are still my best friends to this day. That's correct. We're all kind of off doing our own thing, which is amazing, but we connect somehow, whether it's through like playing Xbox together or even just like, you know, in a group chat, just checking on each other.

But you mentioned insecurities though. Do you have insecurities? Because you seem like such a positive, you know, always smiling, happy guy fit, millions of followers, making money, you know, Paris Fashion Week and all over the place. Like, yeah, you're the guy. How can you have insecurities? And if you have them, what are they?

Yeah, I think... Yeah, I don't know. I think I'm human, you know? I know I'm human. I don't mean to say I think... I look, I know I'm human and.

I think... What is that insecurity for you?

For me, it just changes every day, you know? I have... I think when I look into the mirror, I see things and I'm just like, You know, you can't help but think, like, when you especially the comparison, you know, it goes back to that. It's like, or when I'm on TikTok, I'll be like, you know, this guy's just better looking or whatever it may be. Really? Yeah, of course. But it's like, I sound shallow. I think I'm also just, like, insecure about sometimes the... I don't know, just kind of the way...

I don't know.

You know, I'm trying to think... Is.

It a feeling of, like, you're not enough? you're not talented enough, you're not smart enough, you're not good looking enough, you're not as experienced enough, you're, you know, well TikTok gave me this, so do I really deserve it?

Okay. What is the- yeah, you got the wheels turning. Yeah, what is the- 100%. And this is a thing that my team gets mad at me for. My managers, my agents, like they're all like, Get out of your head. And, you know, I think going back to being raised as an athlete and kind of having that like background, You know, if you want to win a game, you work your off and you win the game. Or if you want to get better, you train and you work harder at it. Whereas in this industry, I felt like I haven't done enough to be in some of the rooms that I've really found myself for sure. And I think it may be one of those things where it's just the world working in weird ways where, you know, all my training as an athlete growing up has led to this in a weird way. It's rewarded me in a different way that I never thought would translate. But there are definitely rooms that I find myself in, events that I find myself at, and I'm like, why am I here? You know, there are world-class athletes, there are amazing artists, there are, you know, every vertical. And I see myself and I'm like, I just don't think I've done enough yet. And I think that definitely is probably one of the biggest insecurities of mine is that feeling like I earned it or the feeling that I deserve this. And I think, yeah, that definitely got the wheels turning. I think that is probably the biggest one that I've kind of have faced.

How often do you think about that? Like, did I really earn this? Do I deserve to be at all these big events or with these, you know, celebrities or with these talented artists or talented athletes who put in their whole life to create this career?

Right.

Is that a weekly thing? Is that daily? Is that like just kind of when you're at the events, you're like, okay, why am I here?

I think it's just about every time that I get an opportunity that kind of makes me reconsider everything, whether it's, you know, a big endorsement deal, whether it's a big brand sponsorship that I get, or whether it's, you know, fashion week. I'm sitting front row next to, Who knows who? Yeah, you know, exactly.

It's like...

I think it happens just about every single time, because I know that they're sitting, or it's just in my head, and maybe they're not, but in my head they're thinking, like, why am I sat next to this guy?

Really?

It's this little TikToker. And it's like... That's what you think they're thinking.

Of course.

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Which is not good, and my team gets mad at me for it, 'cause they're like, I don't know, 'cause then it's one of those things where I almost enjoy that feeling. I don't enjoy the feeling, but I would rather have that mindset than being like, feeling like I'm entitled to be sat here. It's like, you know, looking at the, yeah, like you're sitting next to me, you know, like I was not, like...

Right.

Which I am very well aware that there are people out there that may have that mentality and it's like, Go like, I applaud the confidence, but I don't think I would, I think I would rather take the, you know, I haven't quite earned it yet, so I'm gonna continue to work until I do feel like I earn it. I just don't know if I'll ever, I think it's something within me that I don't think if I continue to chase that I might just tire myself out because I don't ever want to have that entitlement attitude of being like, But I think there's a fine line between the gratitude and being like, I earned this, I worked my ass off for this, and I deserve to be here, or I deserve this opportunity. And so that's why I'm always kind of splitting between minds of, do I deserve this or should I just be grateful for it? And always grateful, but there are times where, of course, I'm insecure and I'm like, it should have been this guy, or, Really?

Yeah.

Are there any other insecurities or feelings of being an imposter besides that that you experience?

Nothing really jumps to mind, but I'm sure that there are.

That's the main thing, though.

Right. I think that's the main thing in terms of feeling like an imposter.

Every time I see one of your photos or a video or a post of yours, you're pretty much smiling.

Yeah.

This whole time, you're smiling.

Yeah.

You seem like a very happy guy. This is obviously the first time we've connected really in person in a meaningful way, but you seem to be a very happy kid. You seem to be youngest of three. You had good parents, two older sisters who really supported you, and probably like my older sisters told you how to treat women, told you how to be respectful like they did with me. But is there ever any moments where you are or sad.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And I think, I don't know, I, that I think growing up in a female dominated household, it was, it taught me a lot about women. And, you know, they gave me a lot of lessons about how to treat, you know, and I've had a lot of people in my life tell me how evident it is that I've had that sibling, like that sister upbringing and. I take that as a compliment. And I love that I'm able, you know, I love that I have that respect and that I know that my mom has given me everything and my dad has as well, don't get me wrong. But I think I have a certain appreciation for what women do and... But yeah, going back to it, I think... Of course I get sad.

You do?

Of course. And I think it's always...

It seems like you're always happy.

Yeah.

You've got everything going for you. How could Noah Beck be sad?

I think that's, you know, it's weird with TikTok and with anything social media, anything on my phone, you know, the moment I start to... I bet it's listening right now. It's crazy because it takes you down this rabbit hole of like, I'll mention to like a friend, Hey, like, I'm not feeling my best today. Like, I'm sad about this, that, then all of a sudden, like, I'll go on my For you page later and it's about like, it's like sadcore Tik Tok, and it's like making me even sadder.

It's like, oh, man.

Yeah, it's. It really sucks because I'm like, I don't want to see this right now. I want to see, like, funny videos or, like, something that'll. But at the end of the day, like, you know, I read or I'll see often, you know, the people that are the happiest, you know, like, check in on them, you know, because it may be a blanket or it may be something and. I don't know, I don't think... I've definitely, definitely get sad, but I think it's one of those things where I try... And I had a therapist once tell me this, and I think it really helped me. I try to like... Not enjoy, obviously, that's the wrong word for it, but I try to appreciate the times where I feel sad, 'cause that's what makes you human. and I'm glad that I have those feelings because if I wasn't, then I will be a robot. But I know people that are pretty numb to, like, I know people that, I don't know. I like how in touch I am with my emotion and I'm not afraid to tell people if I get sad, I'm not afraid to reach out. But there are definitely times where.

I.

Have been and I'm getting better with it, but I think there have been times where I've kind of, You know, like, it's the classic, like, I'm fine, I'm fine. You know? And it's like, that's when I want someone to be like, But you're really not. Yeah, that's when I want someone to be like, Just be there with me.

You know?

Like, I know... 'Cause I've had friends that, you know, needed the same. And I always want to think that... I've tried to think that I'm a very compassionate person. I try to be empathetic. You got a compassionate heart. I can feel it. Thank you. And I try, and that's something I work out a lot, and I don't ever wanna let that go. But I've had times where I can see close friends, something's off, and then I just would want to give them what I would want in that moment. And everyone's different. So it's like they may react to it differently, but I know at the end of the day, it's easier or it would be better if I was there for them than if I was not, despite whether they want it or not. And I don't know. what I get sad about, it's so many things. But I think recently, what we were talking about a bit about off camera and what I have no problem talking about is, you know, we're all human, you know, we all have relationships with other humans, interactions, and yeah, I think that, that was one of the things that I've probably been most sad about lately.

Really?

Yeah. And I think, Well, to give the.

Context to this, you know, when I first heard about you, you were blowing up on social media, and then I started seeing you in a relationship on social media. And this is something that I think is, there's some pros and cons to being in a relationship publicly, especially in a social media world.

Yeah.

What has been the best part about being in a relationship publicly on social media with someone who's also growing in their own inspiring ways. And what has been the most challenging part about that experience in relationship on social media?

Yeah, I think the best part was that we were there for each other and that we understood how one another were feeling when something... It wasn't a completely new world. I didn't have to explain to my partner you know, this is how I'm feeling. And them being like, well, I don't understand because I can't even imagine, you know? And it was kind of just, like, an unsaid thing that we both just kind of understood. Like, hey, if you were getting. If something were to happen and they were getting hate online, whether, you know, even though it blows. Blows off in a day or two.

Like.

There would just be times where I'm like, look, I know I'm here telling you not to look at it. I can't be naive and be like, you know, I understand. Like, I'm like, I get it. Like, seeing it despite whether it gets to you or not, I can only imagine, like, because when it happens to me, like, when the. Whether it's, like, a controversy, like, I don't know. I haven't been in anything, like, crazy. Thank God.

And knock on wood.

Because, like, I said, comments here and there.

Yeah. Yeah.

Like I said, it's one of those things where I just in myself.

So if I ever.

I don't know, like, I have nothing really to hide, so thankfully. But there were times when just something would happen and, you know, she would get comments that were not very nice. And I'm just like, you know, it's not like a totally oblivious thing where if I was dating someone else that wasn't in the industry, they would be like, Just don't look at it. You're fine.

You know?

And it's like, I get it. And I think that was the bet, like, one of the best parts of The relationship was knowing that we were in it together and we both just understood we both had this unspoken, like, yeah, we just kind of just got each other in a sense.

And the biggest challenge about being in a public mission...

I think the biggest challenge was...

Especially as a 20-year-old.

Yeah. Yeah.

You know, and really your first deeply intimate kind of relationship is what it sounds like.

Yeah, I think that right there was probably the hardest part was, It kind of us just figuring this out together and despite, I don't know, she had moved out to LA a few months before I did. And when I came out to LA, like, we kind of hit it off very quickly. We started off as like really good friends and I was just like, I just really like being around this girl. And then, you know, one thing led to another and we're dating and then, The word gets out, and so now we're in a public relationship at 19, and it's like, Whoo, she was 19.

As well at the same time? Yeah. Same age.

Yeah, same age. And, I think the biggest challenge was just, like, everyone having a say. Everyone... Like, you could have zero followers and your comment could blow up. And typically, with how social media is and just how everything is, it's like, Typically, the things that go the most viral or to get the most attention are negative things. You know, it's never like, I love them so much together. Like, people are gonna see that in whatever. Like, you know, it's like, or on the latter, it's like, I hate them together. Here's why. And it's like, that'll get more views. I don't know. It's just everyone having a say despite who you are, where you're from, what you know about us. I think everyone has a voice. Everyone's in the relationship at that point. Well, that that was very tricky because we were figuring this world out and you're figuring life out, right?

We're human.

19 years old.

Like, we're human. And, like, no one ever has it figured out. But at 19, you really don't have it figured out. And, like, despite, like, I think I'm very grateful for everything that I have to this day, but, like, I'm still figuring it out. I still don't know what I want to do. I'm still, like, It is not all sunshine and rainbows. And I think, I think that's just part of being human. And... Yeah.

I was saying... What made you most sad about the experience?

The ending of it. And I think, yeah, I think just having someone in your life, like having that support system and... Someone that knows every little thing about you. Literally, like, and I don't know, we just such a weird time. Like, it was something that not many people can relate to. And so, like, everyone has their first true love, and I, she was mine. And I think everyone's experience is different, but I think the way ours, the way ours trickled down was just so bizarre and so unique in terms of, you know, you like a girl, you start dating her, you're 19 years old, this is a normal thing. You'd be in college, you know, you're going to school, you're holding your bags, you know, you're doing that stuff. Whereas, like, this time it's like, hey, like, do you want to hang out today? Like, no, I have a photo shoot or, you know, no, like, I'm shooting a music video or this, that. And it's like, or you're together every single day and there's just so many, like, Factors to it. And I think us... I don't know. I can go on and on about what makes a breakup hard, but at the end of the day, I think most people know what makes it hard. I think just our bond that we had was really tricky. And I think what was tricky to recover from was it was so good. And then...

I remember seeing a video of you... I can't remember where it must have been a year and a half ago, two years ago. Someone asked you a question. It might have been a vlog somewhere. Somehow this popped up on my TikTok or YouTube or something, and I saw it where I remember hearing you say, Someone asked you a question about will you marry her?

Yeah.

And you said yes, like without a hesitation.

Yeah.

Or would you like to marry her? Or if, you know, whatever it was. But they said something about would you want to marry her? And you were just like, Yes. Yeah. Like straight on in their face, like no hesitation.

Yes.

So when you have that expectation, especially an intimacy in a relationship, that then who knows what happens in the future, but then there's a breakup. How does that make you feel when you had that vision?

Yeah, my mom always told me that I thought a lot with my heart and I'm a very, I'm a logical thinker as well, but I think when you're blinded by love, it's like, you know, that there's that hope. And like, I think what I had with her, like, I held on to any bit of hope. Really? And yeah, and, I don't know, I wish... I don't know. Like, I think I love very... What's the word? I love hard. Like, I love deeply. I love deeply and I love, like, I don't know. I, like, dedicated a lot of my time to being the best boyfriend I could. Really? Yeah.

And, and the bond was strong.

Yeah, the bond was strong. That's not like tattooing my own horn or anything. Like, I just was, I'm very confident in the way that we were together and, you know, things just, it's life. Like, things just don't last always, and things aren't forever and. I don't know, I still have so much love for her and it's just one of those things where we both have stuff to figure out and we both have a lot of growing to do because I think us hopping into that relationship and us, not even relationship aside, I think us having the careers we do now has stunted a lot of things that would have, I don't know, I think it's stunted a lot of things that like a normal 19-year-old should have experienced.

Like what?

Like... She never went to college, for example. So, in school years, I was ahead of her one year. So, I had, like, a bit of a college experience, whereas she was gonna go to Alabama and, like, get that experience. She never had it. She never had it. And... She went right to Hollywood. Right to Hollywood.

Intense, man.

Intense. And it's really straight out of the movies. Like, it's really one of those things where it's like, you know, you moved to Hollywood, but in, like, There was never that... It's just so different than what you've seen in the movies where, like, you go out to Hollywood, you know, you get a job as a waiter, and then, like, you're going to auditions and you're, like, trying to make it. Whereas, like, we kind of moved out 'cause we made it. We made it.

We had opportunities.

We had the... Like, I wouldn't have dropped my Division 1 full-ride scholarship. I wouldn't have dropped that for nothing. Like, I had a guaranteed spot in this house. I guaranteed, like, lots of talks with, like, the manager of the house, and was like, we can promise you that you'll grow. We can promise you that we can provide this in, like, exposure. And I was just like, okay, okay. Let's give it a shot. You know, it's like, soccer was on pause at the time, so it was one of those things. But, yeah, we kind of, like. And when she moved out, like, they had made it, and it's one of those things where, I don't know, I. It's just, it's just crazy. It's crazy.

Yeah.

If you could go back right before you moved here, right before you met her, and give yourself advice, three pieces of advice about entering a relationship with someone, whether it's her or anyone, knowing what you know now, after a lot of highs, amazing connection, you know, a lot of love, a bond, but then, you know, a heartbreak and some sadness. What advice would you give to yourself at 19?

Um, I would... Number one, I would say protect yourself. Protect your heart. And I think that is like something that I'm very... It's guarded up now. And I think... I don't know. I think, yeah, protecting yourself, taking it slow. you know, we cut. We were 19, you know, we really liked hanging out with each other, so we were like, let's just. We might as well date, you know, it's one of those things. And so. And especially when coven was happening, we were with each other every single day, and it was like, I think, you know, you're. When you're constantly available for someone, that can be. That can be taken advantage of. And I think being less available in the future, not because I want to, I want to be there every single day. I want to drop anything at.

The.

Sound of the text. Like, what are you doing? Oh, what do you want me to be doing? Just how I am. You're a lover. Yeah, I'm a lover. I love love, but it's also what makes me the most sad sometimes. And I think that's.

Well, if you give and give and give, and then there's maybe an unspoken expectation or you would hope or wish someone wouldn't do the same for you. And I'm not speculating anything here. I'm just saying, you know, when you're a giver and you want to see someone happy and you love the feeling of being with someone and you feel happier together, it's really challenging when it doesn't work out.

Yeah.

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How I can courageously communicate.

Yeah.

Consciously in better ways with, you know, the next partner I was with to, to make sure that I focus on my vision first and then bringing the relationship in.

Yeah.

Second, as opposed to dropping everything always. Exactly. For a partner. So balance there.

But, yeah, filling up your own Cup.

And then filling up your own Cup.

Constantly, having them fall in love with the Overflow. Yeah, that was like, I think. Yeah, that's one of the things that she taught me was... And I think unintentionally she taught me to really protect myself.

Really?

I just, yeah, fall hard and fast. And I was, I don't know, everything kind of just moved very quickly. And then, yeah, when you are a giver, it's one of those things where you just so bad want to see him happy. when you realize it's not you and when you realize or I don't even when you like I never fully realized that like that was the thing I was like, no, like I'm not taking no for an answer. I'm gonna try my hardest to like make it work, make it work, you know, and always gonna be available. I'm never gonna give her a reason to not be happy. And then you realize it's when they constantly keep telling you it's not you like in it's the hardest thing because it's like, Look, I know it's not me, but like, I know it's not me making you sad because I'm doing everything I can to make you happy, but I'm going to try to be the one to make you happy. And it's like when they constantly tell you, like, there's nothing you can do, it's like, I don't want to say no for an answer, you know? I don't want to say, like, I don't want to, like, accept the fact that I can't make my girlfriend happy. And that was probably the biggest thing that we ran into was, man, I know that feeling.

I see a lot of my self in you with that because as athletes, you don't wanna fail.

No.

And you're like, I'm gonna do whatever it takes. We're gonna make this work. Even if it's hurting me, I'm going to do what it takes to make this work.

That's crazy. Yeah, yeah, I've had so many people, yeah.

And that is a painful realization.

Yeah.

When you're like, I'm doing everything, I'm shifting, I'm doing, I'm changing who I am just so that it works. and then it doesn't work and you're like, wow, I just shifted my whole identity for a relationship that no longer doesn't work. And I did that too many times. I repeated that pattern in many relationships because partners I chose, for whatever reason, weren't happy with me. And they wanted me to change to try to make them happy and never worked. And I finally realized, it took me until a few years ago, that I finally realized that you can't make your partner happy. You can add to their happiness. But they gotta focus on their own happiness.

Yeah, as soon as it becomes someone's client.

If someone's a five out of a ten, you can't bring them to a nine consistently. You might be able to influence them to get to a six moments here and there and to their happiness. But if they are not doing their life in a way that brings them joy and fulfillment, there's not much we can do. And that's a hard thing for athletes like us who want to win and want to succeed and want to like accomplish. It's really hard, man. and the thing that I wanna acknowledge you for Noah is being 22, and you mentioned talking to a therapist. I think I would have never at 22 talked to a therapist. I started at 30, 10 years ago, talking to therapists. It was one of the best things that ever did for me. It helped me bring me so much peace. It's what's gotten me to a high eight, low nine of inner peace. It's having that place to process, having that place to learn new tools. So the fact that you're doing this at 22, I really commend you for that. and acknowledge you for doing that, because I think it's a powerful tool to use. Now, what advice would you give to yourself moving forward in navigating this next season? Because I know you're trying to figure out, like, okay, well, who am I again? And you love deeply, but do you even think it's worth getting into another relationship? soon with someone or is it like you want to give yourself space and time to kind of really focus on yourself and your career? What's the advice you would give yourself of this next chapter?

Yeah, I think that's something I'm actively searching for is at the end of the day, just doing what makes me happy and finding out what makes me happy is like, again, like a never-ending search because it's like, yeah, this makes me happy in the moment, you know, like going to an amusement park, riding rides with, like, friends and stuff like that. Like, that makes me happy. But that's not something I can, like, apply to my everyday life that can make me more at peace with myself. Like, you know, so doing things, I don't know. Like, I I really. I don't know. I I think these past few months, I've. I really, like what we were talking about before the camera, it's one of those things where when you end with someone on good terms, it's hard because it's like you guys ended on good terms.

On great terms.

On great terms.

Great terms. So it was like you still care about the job.

But that makes it even harder. Because it's like then it gets dragged out. Like even though it was a year ago, it gets dragged out, and then it's like you're still there for each other, and then, you know, you still want to tell your person every good thing that happens. You still want to like tell them, like, Hey, this happened today, like, and then, you know, and I don't know. And then as soon as... Yeah, so.

Was it like some blow up?

No, not at all.

Get away from me and I hate you.

Not at all.

I love you so much, but we can't be together, right?

We have to grow apart. We have to... Gosh, that's the hardest. The hardest. And, that's why it's tricky now because, you know, it comes to a point where, I was telling you, like, where you almost. You wake up a bit confused sometimes because I'm like, you know, I feel like I'm good, you know? Like, I feel like I want to rekindle it. Like, I want to give it another go, you know? And then ultimately, it's not up. It's not up to you. When you. When the other person's fully in control of the decision. The decision. And when the balls in their core, I mean, like, when you're ready, just know that I'm here. It's a bit tricky. There's a bit of a power play that's as much as I just want to, like, wait around, because I do enjoy this person so much. And, like, yeah, and hard to imagine life without them sometime. There is, like, this. When you kind of go, no contact, you kind of step away from it, and then it's, like, months, like, a couple months go by, and it's like, okay, wow. Like, I'm feeling better. Like, the first month is really hard. I'm feeling better. Then all of a sudden, all it takes is.

We'll pull you back in.

All it takes is a text like.

Hey, girls know what they're doing, man.

They know exactly.

Girls know what they're doing sometimes.

It's so tricky. And a lot like you, I don't drink and I've never drank in my life. I've never done any drugs. I just... I don't have that excuse sometimes where.

Sometimes... You gotta feel it. I'm still, you know, feel the pain, the sadness. You gotta go through the experiences.

Exactly. And I don't have that excuse as to, Sorry, I didn't mean to text, like I was drunk. It's like... It's been three months and you randomly... And so it's like, now I'm back into it. And so that's the hardest part, is knowing that, like... If I decide to text you, that is sober me. That is me that genuinely means it. You know? It's never a question of, like... Like, I don't know, like, was this just a drunk text? Like, does she mean it?

Like, this is 3 a.m. or... For.

Me, it's like, I'm gonna respect your boundaries, but if it comes to a point where I'm just like, I don't care. I'm just gonna follow my heart. Like, I want to do this again. It's like, I don't know. It's tricky. It's very tricky. But, yeah, this. This feels a lot like. Like talks that I have with, like, a therapist.

Yeah, of course, man.

And it's. Yeah, I'm glad I started talking to him, too, because I've had friends that recommended me.

Wow.

Because. I don't know, even when things started to get really good, even when I started to get into a better mindset of like, you know, life goes on and I can love this person from afar, but right now it's like if we have, if we have, there's no rush and it's like, we'll find each other. So I think there's really no point in rushing it and that's like what I kind of had to accept. And so with this therapist, I'm like, it's nice Talking to someone when things are good so that they stay good. That's the best time, dude. 'Cause it's like when they're bad, it's like you have tools to use, like when things are like, when you get in that mindset of thinking, when you go down a rabbit hole, it's like, Remember what they told you, like do this, do that.

But when you're happy, it's like, you know, that's the time when you're supposed to stay happy. When I entered the relationship I'm in with my girlfriend Martha, we started dating, we took it slow. We took it slow, which I'd never done in the past. But I decided I'm gonna do everything different.

Yeah.

And we took it slow. I was also doing individual therapy. And we made a commitment and agreement together before we got exclusively committed.

Yeah.

We said, I made the suggestion, but she was like quickly to agree. I said, Hey, I would really like to start in therapy together, couples therapy.

Yeah.

And just try it differently. 'Cause I'd been in a lot of failed relationships. I tried a lot of stuff and none of it worked. So let me try something completely different.

Yeah.

She was like, Absolutely, I'm down. and it has been the greatest gift we have given ourselves and the relationship because any disagreement, any misunderstanding, any confusion or a feeling of like, oh, that didn't feel good. We're able to communicate it consciously whenever we go to that session together. And it allows us to create ground rules. It allows us to create boundaries. It allows us to create agreements. And it brings me more peace. Having that understanding. and someone equally as committed to personal growth.

Yeah.

As I am.

Love it.

And it and it's I'm not saying you need to do that 22 in the relationship that you have next, but for me, doing it when things are good is the best time to do it. So I really acknowledge it for doing that.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I love the lessons that you would give your younger self.

Yeah.

Take it slow. And it sounds like, you know, you had this realization, hey, we're meant to be. we'll find each other at some point. Whether it's in a week, a year, three years, you know? So taking it slow, I think, is great wisdom that you shared with yourself. Took some time to come to that, though.

It definitely took some time to, like, acknowledge that that was the case. 'Cause I'm like, you're sitting there fighting for it, and it's like, make this work. Let's do it.

Let's give it another go.

What do you need? And how can I do this for you?

How can I help?

You know, like, you know, Don't worry about how I'm feeling 'cause that does not matter right now. Like, what matters is we make you happy and it's like, at what point is it like... Do you have to take a step back? 'Cause if I saw one of my friends doing this... What would you say to them? Dude, come on. You gotta put yourself first. You have to, you know, and I'm like, it's so hard when you're blinded by it.

Oh, man.

But, yeah.

Yeah.

So if you saw a friend of yours struggling in a relationship, you'd be like, Hey, if she needs space, give her space and go focus on your life.

Yeah, it's so hard.

Right?

Yeah, it's so hard when you're in it 'cause it's like... You know what.

The sexiest thing is?

That's a fixer.

And you know what the sexiest and most attractive thing is for a woman? Is when a man is fully committed to his vision and his mission, taking care of his life, in service to his friends, his family, his community, and joyful. Not needing a relationship, not checking in constantly to see, Hey, what can I do for you? But in his purpose, that is when women are most attracted to men.

Yeah.

And so, to independence coming together, yeah.

And then you can come together and support one another with each other's lives individually and together. But if you're always in support, I think it's amazing. I understand where you're coming from. I think it's like, wow, that's like a dream guy. I always here to show up for her.

And, like, I'm flattered that you say that, 'cause it's, like, in my head, I'm like, you know, who's the kind of guy I want dating my daughter? Or if I, I mean, yeah, daughter, future kid, but also my sisters, you know? I'm very, like, even though I'm the younger, like, I'm still very protective of my sisters. They started talking to a guy and I don't like it. I'm gonna tell her. I'm like, Sure. Don't waste your time. Like, I don't like this guy, like, and here's why. But, fortunately, I haven't really, I haven't.

Really had to say that to either of 'em.

They're good at picking, which is nice. Um, But I think it's one of those things where... I don't know. I don't ever really wanna change.

How.

Like, those qualities about myself. And I've questioned them because I'm like, this isn't working right now. Do I... I don't know. I get so split in between two minds of like, this isn't working. Should I try the ladder? Should I... You shouldn't be a jerk. Yeah, exactly. It's like, I don't ever want to even question, like, Should I, you know, 'cause there's that saying, Nice guys finish last. And it's like, I don't think that's the case, honestly. Like, I really think kindness wins at the end of the day. That's like.

But it's not about changing, it's about evolving.

Right.

And it's keeping the core of who you are, the values, the generosity, the kindness, the support. That's like a dream.

Yeah.

As a friend and as a partner.

Right.

And it's evolving into saying, My health, my mission, my values need to be my number one priority.

Yeah.

And that's hard to say.

Yeah.

And definitely most people don't like most people in relationship don't like hearing that. And this is my personal experience. I'm not sharing this as like what everyone should do, but when I shifted this and I said instead of making someone else number one and making my mission and my health, number one. And then a relationship, second or third.

Yeah.

Everything shifted for me and my relationship is healthy and happy. My girlfriend loves that about me because I have it on purpose. And she still thinks I'm very generous and giving and I show up in a big way.

Yeah.

So it's not like you're changing into like, I'm never going to be there. Yeah, the opposite is showing up for yourself the way you would for someone like that.

Right. Right.

First. and then showing up for them.

Right, no, it makes sense. Prioritizing other things. Yeah, that's it.

What has been the biggest thing that's opened up for you during this conversation as we get to the last few questions?

I don't know. I think at times I find myself in, again, going back to my mom and my dad, they always kind of told me I'm a bit of an old soul, but... I take it as a compliment, but I also I'm like, no, like I can have fun like this, that. But I think I just grew up with older people and I grew up with like older friends and like to this day all my like closest friends in LA are older and I don't know, I find like wisdom and I find like more experience very appealing and like not even just as like I'm not saying like I'm old into older women. Like it's like, sure. As like friends and like companions. It's nice to know that someone has, like, I like to learn from people and I like to be a sponge in conversations and I like to really just, you know, soak everything in. And I think that's been lovely talking to you today about and just like hearing these things. Because obviously, you know, I share a lot with my therapist, but at the same time, like, it's nice to hear it from, you know, a guy perspective where, I don't know. It's just been nice. Let's get man.

Yeah.

It's been a fun conversation. I've got a few final questions for you, but I know you've been working on a few things. How can we support you in your professional career right now? What's the thing you're most excited about that you are launching?

Yeah.

So, I mean, the main thing right.

Now.

I would say is the recent launch of my apparel brand.

Yeah.

Yeah. As of right now, it's genderless. Undergarments and gender neutral, it's called Eifis. Eifis. Eifis. Or, you know, all my friends are like, so when am I getting some Eifis? And I'm like, yeah, that works too. I'm not gonna stay here and be like, it's Eifis, you know? It's like, you're not a tomato. So, however you want to pronounce it. But yeah, it's, as of right now, we just have underwear and undergarments, but like I said, genderless and so made for everyone. And it's, it's really, I'm really excited about it and I'm really passionate about this new project because I didn't want this brand to be merch-y, if you will. I wanted to, I want to build a brand and I want to curate something and foster a community that has for everyone. And I want, you know, it's really cool. I guess one of my favorite parts about social media and it's one of my favorite parts about being an influencer, content creator, whatever. you know, creating an aesthetic. And I really have fun with photography and all this. And so for our first campaign shoot, we kind of went back in time to and did like a Greek mythology type thing. And it was really cool. And I had a blast doing it. But yeah, the story of Effie's kind of originates back in Greek mythology.

Yeah.

And I can bore you with the whole story of the details, but it's basically a lovely Beautiful story about, at the end of the day, like, Love Conquering All. It's about, like, gender fluidity, you know, this king that wanted a son but then had a daughter and then raised her as a son, and then she fell in love with a girl. And so it's just like, Love Conquering All at the end of the day. And, like, I think it goes perfectly, I know we kind of rabbit hole down, like, relationship stuff, and I can talk forever about it. It goes back to, I just love love, but it's also like, My biggest Kryptonite, I think, is like it definitely hurts me the most. But yeah, with with Effy's, I'm just very excited. And, you know, right now at this given moment, soon releasing more. But right now we have two designs of the underwear, two waistbands, if you will. One is called the Heritage and one is called the Classic and Yeah, I love them. Like they're great and I really and I mean, I think the the like initial idea of creating underwear brand, like I'm sure you might be wondering like why underwear? Like why even doing this?

Like.

When I first started social media, like what gained me a lot of my my following, what I think got a lot of views. Sure, sure. And Me and the boys were kind of, we were free billboards for Calvin Klein with our waistbands always showing, like that kind of thing.

Yeah.

And I was like, had this idea. And I was like, what if we owned? Like, what if we wore something that we owned and just constantly had it in our content organically where it's not like we're not getting paid to post it, we're not doing this, but at the end of the day, it's just pushing something that we're passionate about and that is ours. And so, I kind of kept this idea to myself and because I was like, I don't even know where to start. This is just an idea I had. And then after some time, the conversation came back up and after we all kind of split ways and like moved into different houses, I had a talk with my manager. I was like, I really want to do this. Like, I think this is really cool and kind of exciting. And that was at the time when I kind of started to get more into fashion as well and. I was like, this just feels perfect. Like, I feel like we should do this. And then I was like, where do we start? This is Comedy Bang!

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And fortunately, I had people around me that, you know, I asked a lot of questions. I had, you know, a lot of friends that you know, like yourself that I would go to and be like, that are older and be like, hey.

Put your arm around me.

Like, how do we do this? Like, mentor me a bit. Like, on how to start a business and how to do this. Like, I want to learn. And so in creating this brand, like, I made sure I was very Hands-On because I was like, this is my baby. Like, this is, like, my thing that I want to really blow up. And in, like, in a couple years, I, like, everything goes well. Like, the dream happens. Like, I want people to buy the product for what it is and not even know that I have anything to do with it. Like, so, yeah, it's something that is really exciting to me and I-- It's exciting, man.

Yeah.

I can see it.

Yeah.

See it on you.

And eventually open up to-- I mean, there's really no, like, there's no cap. Like, I don't know where it's gonna go as a brand, but very exciting things. I think it's one of those things where we'll kind of just see where it goes. See where it goes.

And-- Can we buy right now? Is it out? Is it launching?

You can buy right now. Yeah. Came out June 6th was the launch of the official site and everything. So yeah, right now we just have the icon or the classic and the heritage. Okay, where's the website? It's called ephis.us.

I-P-H-I-S, right? Yes. Okay, us.us. Or if we go to your Instagram.

Or TikTok, it's anywhere.

You'll find it, yeah, it's in my bio, yeah. Ephis.us. I love that. You're also all over social media, Noah Beck everywhere. So make sure you guys check out Noah's content, follow him, subscribe. Even though you're not an OG commenter, you can still join the party of the 50 million plus and hang out. These are the couple questions I ask everyone at the end. But I usually don't have many people your age on here. I've had a few people in their young 20s, but I'm gonna ask you this question and have you dream and imagine for a moment. So this question is called the three truths. it's a hypothetical question. Imagine you get to live as long as you want to live. 80, 90, 100, 120, whatever it is. You get to live as long as you want to live, but it's your last day. And you have accomplished, created and experienced life to the fullest in every area, financially, career, personally, professionally, love, all these things. Family, all of it. You've created this life.

Love it.

Right?

Okay.

But for whatever reason in this scenario, you've got to take all of your content, your work, your business, your products to the next place. They're not here in this physical world anymore. So no one has access to this conversation, to anything you've ever posted online. It's all gone.

Okay.

Hypothetical. And for whatever reason, you get to leave three truths behind. three lessons that you would share with the world. And that's all we have to remember you by are these three truths. What would be those three truths that you would leave behind?

Hmm. I'm trying not to steal like quotes that I've seen. I'm trying not to steal.

Whatever comes to your heart. Yeah.

Yeah.

Whatever you feel, if there's a quote that really stands out to you as a good truth, feel free to share it.

I think something that I try to spread, and I think that can resonate with all my content and kind of going back to like, you know, despite, you know, being able to get sad and, you know, being human, I try to be very positive. And I think that kind of goes back to, you know, a life's too short. You might as well do what makes you happy. So I think doing what makes you happy could be one.

Okay.

You know, it's funny. There was I had I had lunch with a friend. not too long ago. And we had known each other, but we never had a proper sit down. And I was fortunate enough that we got the chance to kind of like, our schedules, our busy schedules kind of aligned up.

Yeah.

And so it was nice having a really nice conversation with him. And one of the things that he told me was that I'm definitely gonna have the truth because I think this It just like really, I don't know. It just like really like touched me in a way that I was like, if you're ever doubting something, if you're ever doing this, and he told me, he was like, Don't ever keep your talents hidden. Um, because if you do, you're owing the world like a dis, like a disservice. And so like, by not sharing your talents, you're, you know, stealing the world from potential joy that people can get from you. So I thought that was really interesting. I think that can resonate with like what I do as a social media content creator is like everything that I put out. It's really amazing and I think that my favorite comments are like, it's not my favorite, but it's comments that like really like touch me and like really hit me and like really I don't.

Know.

I guess give me that reassurance that I'm doing something right is when people say, like, you genuinely saved my life or, like, that stuff, like, is.

Really.

Like, knowing that there's someone out there that you've saved with your videos is just insane to me. And so that's why I think, like, that one kind of hits home, because there could be someone out there that. Needs to hear what you have to say.

Yeah.

So say that.

Second one is the third truth?

The third truth, I would say... I don't know. This is kind of like more advice to myself that I think could be... Like that? And it kind of goes back to it, but instead of just your heart, I would say protect your peace. Oof. And I think, like, again, a bit cliche, but... It's one of those things where... It's simple, but it's so true. And I think once I kind of started to apply that to my life, I think things got a lot better.

Yeah, man.

For, I don't know, just finding something that makes you at peace and finding something and then finding ways to constantly apply it so it doesn't... Yeah.

That's beautiful, man. The simplest stuff is usually the most important.

Yeah.

I love these three truths. Before I ask the final question, I want to acknowledge you for your openness. I appreciate your openness. I appreciate your generous heart, your candor and everything that you shared today and the fact that you're, again, I think I told you before, I haven't seen you really do a long form conversation like this, so I appreciate you being willing to put yourself out there and open up about these things because I think it's going to inspire and help a lot of people with you doing this. And I hope you do more of this in the future.

Yeah.

So I acknowledge you for everything you've had to go through over the last three years, you know, although someone watching or listening might say, well, this kid hasn't had to go through that much because it's been success, money, fame.

Of course, of course.

But it's the quote that I'm going to butcher, but paraphrase from Jim Carrey said, I wish everyone would become rich and famous and realize it's not everything.

Yeah.

You know, I wish everyone would experience it and realize it's not the key to happiness.

And that's said it better, yeah.

And so I acknowledge you for having to, experienced life at 19 to 22.

Yeah.

With all this happening all at once. I'm sure a lot of amazing, exciting things, but also some weird, confusing, you know, challenging things too. Final question for you, Noah. What is your definition of greatness?

I would say greatness to me is applying yourself every day to be the best version of yourself and doing, just doing all the right things while also, you know, living a little and having some fun, you know? And I think that's, that's where I'm constantly split is, you know, maybe, maybe I do need to let loose a little, but at the same time, like, yeah, so I think, yeah, I think that would, that would be my definition of greatness.

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