The Productivity Expert: How to Make 2024 Your Most Productive & ABUNDANT Year Yet | Ali Abdaal

People feel that the more energy you give, the more drained you become. But it's actually not true. Similarly with work, it's like the more effort and engagement you give to your work, that doesn't deplete your energy, that actually renews your energy. The most draining thing in the world is coasting, looking at your clock, being like, oh God, when is this gonna end?

No one is energized by that.

No one- Sucks the life out of you. Sucks the life out of you. But if you're fully engaged, if you're giving it your all, if you're showing up sincerely rather than seriously, if you're doing all the things, treating it like play, lightness and ease, having fun along the way, trying to help people out, You get home from the end of the day of work feeling more energized than when you started, even though counterintuitively you've been putting a lot of energy into it.

Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin. Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Ali Abdaal in the house. My man.

Good to see you, brother.

Great to see you.

It's good to see you again.

Very excited about this because two and a half years ago we had a conversation on the internet that changed the course of your life.

Genuinely, that one, that like half an hour segment of me being interviewed on your podcast two and a half years ago has literally single-handedly changed my entire life.

It's cool to see.

It's cool that like, I get to be here in person with you now. It's insane. So like, here we are.

It's fun. You've got a book out called Feel Good Productivity, How to Do More of what Matters to youo. And this book is gonna help a lot of people. And I wanna dive into it around productivity, passive income, making money online, identity, and how we can also feel our emotions while also being a productive human being and not just, you know, push our emotions aside by being overproductive constantly.

Absolutely.

I want to talk about all these things. The first thing is, is going into your story about deciding to leave medicine because you started as a doctor and you were building YouTube content on the side, talking about how to be productive and how to optimize your day and your routine and things you were learning in medicine and all that stuff. But then you started making money online and realizing, oh, I'm actually making really good money online. More money online than I am as a doctor full time. And so you started pulling your time down as a doctor from my memory. And two and a half years ago, when I had you on for the first time, you were still part time as a doctor, but making a ton of money doing the online marketing, YouTube, content, all that stuff. And so what made you decide and know that it was time to leave medicine, leave being a full-time doctor or even a part-time doctor, to go all in on the side hustle, which was also making way more money than anything. That became the full-time thing. How did you learn to shift your identity to say, okay, this path that I've been on for eight years, I'm gonna let go of and go all in on this other thing that I've been doing on the side.

Yeah.

Let's talk about that.

Mate, that conversation with you changed my life. Before that conversation, I had been feeling a lot of money anxiety and security anxiety about my business and about my YouTube channel. And even though it was making a load of money at the time, I thought to myself, okay, it's making money right now, but it's sort of like, I don't know, being an actor or being an athlete or something. Like, you've got maybe a year or two or three to really make money. And then at that point, you become a has been and no one cares about you anymore. And like, you're sort of washed up and irrelevant. And all of those fears were going on inside me. And so I had this real risk aversion, this real fear of like, what if I, you know, if I leave medicine and go all in on this YouTube stuff, and it doesn't work out, what if I'll end up broke and homeless and alone and destitute? And I just had this narrative running in my mind that there's something about medicine that gives you security and I need a job for security. And I had never really questioned that until you were questioning me about it. And what you asked me, you were like, you know, we were actually just running the numbers. You were asking me, how much you're earning in medicine? I was like 40 grand a year. You were asking, okay, and then when you fully qualify, how much will you be be earning. And in the UK, it's very different to the US. In the UK, a consultant would earn 100 grand, 100,000 pounds, $120,000, something to that effect.

That's like full time.

That's like an expert. Full time expert. And if in your 50s you're doing private practice and you're really good, then maybe it goes up to 300, 400.

Whereas in the US, it's very different. It's a different sort of equation. And I was like, how much are you making a month right now on YouTube? And I think you were like over 50 grand a month. Yeah, it was something absurd. More like that. I was like, wait, so monthly you're making more than in a whole year if you busted your butt as a doctor in medicine. And this is just a side thing. And you were like, yeah, I never thought about that.

And one of the things I find so interesting, I've listened to that conversation back again so many times, is that I think a lot of us have these stories about money and about security and the need for certainty. A lot of these stories that are actually completely disjointed from what the reality actually is. The reality was I was making more money in a month than it was in a whole year working as a doctor. But in terms of how I felt about money and felt about security and certainty, I didn't feel that confident about it. And what it took was an outside perspective, you know, someone with a lot of love and a lot of care to just sort of challenge me on that for me to realize, wait a minute, actually this story I've told myself, which is that, oh, I have all this insecurity around money, it's actually a bit of a bull story. And it took you challenging me to say, look, let's say you lost everything. Let's say no one knew who you were. but you still had all the skills that you've got. How long would it take you to make a hundred grand? And I think I said something like, oh, I can do it within two years. You were like, oh, you can do it within three or six months. And I was like, that's probably true. Because in the course of building a YouTube channel, it's not just about the fact that, I don't know, I've got followers on the internet. Anytime anyone does anything entrepreneurial, you just build a ton of skills in that thing. And so even if it doesn't work out, worst case scenario, you just get another job. And now you have all these skills from entrepreneurship. if it doesn't work out, best case scenario, you just start something else and you use the skills that you've already developed through the process. And that was something that you kind of challenged me on. I was like, before that conversation, I was so fearful about the money thing, about losing it all, about what if all of this comes crumbling down. Since that conversation, I still feel weird about money. I think it's not a, it's like, I don't know, a long-term thing that's hard for one conversation to change. But speaking to so many people, there's so many people who I've met in real life and who've emailed me, having listened to that conversation that we had two and a half years ago, and something in that conversation resonated with them as well. Like, even though maybe they're not a YouTuber and maybe they're not making 10 times as much as they are from their side hustle as they are from their day job, I think everyone can relate to this idea of feeling insecure about money. Like, I don't quite have enough. And I should stick at my job a bit longer, because what if I get that next raise? What if I get that next promotion? Because then I'll feel safe. And I've spoken to people who are Deca millionaires who also feel unsafe about money. So there's like some kind of emotion thing here that's like disjointed from reality. And I just.

Where do you think that came from, that fear of money for you originally?

Yeah.

'Cause you're also making it. It's not that you weren't afraid of making it, 'cause you were making it on the side. You were making more in a month than you were in a year. But was it a fear of I don't wanna lose this? Was it something conditioned you early on that you saw that you were like, oh, this is a scary thing?

I think it was a scarcity mindset growing up. I think because my mom is a single mom, raised me and my brother, and her mom kind of single-handedly, we moved countries. Immigrant families always have a bit of a scarcity approach about money that, hey, money is this thing we have to hold onto. It doesn't grow on trees. You've got to work hard for it. You've got to save and all this kind of stuff. and so that was an attitude that really served me because it gave me my entrepreneurial spirit of like wanting to make the money. But once I got there, there was a lot of this fear of losing it, as you said, a lot of this scarcity that like, yeah, money doesn't grow on trees. I got very lucky with this YouTube thing. What if it was just luck? What if, I don't know, a year from now people stop following me anymore for whatever reason because I become irrelevant, like, oh my goodness, what if I no longer make all this money? All of the stuff around that, at least I could be a doctor. That's a way that I can have value and make some money and support my family and things like that.

So what was your identity like before YouTube? And then what was your identity like as you started making money on the side on YouTube while you were also full-time as a doctor?

Yeah. So I think before YouTube, When I was growing up, my identity was very tied to academic success because I was really good at school and I got good grades in. But I realized after a few, after sort of my teenage years of doing that, that I kind of wanted my identity to be different. So even in my school years, I was trying to make money on the side, trying to build businesses, trying to make money on the internet, passive income, all that crap. Then when I got to university and medical school, suddenly I did no, I no longer had the identity of being really good in school because everyone around me was really good in school and I was bang average. I was like middle of the class. I was like, oh, like, wow, okay, I no longer have that thing that's propping up my self-worth, the fact that I got really good grades. And so I think as we all do, I tried to find other ways of diversifying my identity. I, you know, started a business that I finally succeeded and then I was like, oh, cool, you know, I'm the entrepreneurial guy. I get, you know, all these other students around me, some of them are really good at sports. Obviously, no, we're gonna be great at sports, but I've got a business, I'm making money, this is good. When I started the YouTube channel, I got that identity of being a YouTuber. When I became a doctor, I got that identity of being a doctor. There was something weird about the doctor identity that I clung to for so long because I think if someone had asked me, what do I do? I wouldn't have said, I'm an entrepreneur, I'm a YouTuber. I would have said, I'm a medical student, I'm a doctor. That was the noun that I was using to describe myself. I've spoken to people since when people ask, what do you do? Some people are like, oh, I enjoy saying that I'm a lawyer because that gives me, you know, people respect that. Even the people who work for me now don't like saying they work for a YouTuber because there's something low status about that. They prefer to say, oh, I work in marketing or, oh, I work in customer success or something like that. And it's taken a long time for the people in my team to be actually comfortable with, yeah, I work for a YouTuber, because they realize it's actually more interesting. If you say you work in marketing, no one has any follow-up questions. If you say you work for a YouTuber, huh, that's interesting. What type of content? It creates a more interesting conversation. But I find it so interesting how a lot of us are so tied to the identity of the thing that we do for work.

And I was so tied to that identity of being a doctor.

Yeah.

And you had pride in it, it gave you self-worth. Yeah. What was it like when you were thinking about leaving being a doctor and just going all in and being a YouTuber? Were you scared about how you would perceive your self-worth or how others would perceive your self-worth?

I was so scared about how others would perceive it. Really? I was so scared that like, I would be just a YouTuber. And I had this phrase in my mind that just a YouTuber is a terrible thing. I don't want to be just a YouTuber. I want to be the guy who's like a doctor and a YouTuber on the side because that's what gives my content value. And I had this real fear that, hey, if I'm not a doctor anymore, I'm just a dude. making videos in his bedroom about productivity, that doesn't... Hang on, that feels a bit like not nice or people won't like it or people will hate me for leaving medicine, which is an altruistic profession for the sake of making money on the internet.

I had all these fears around it.

How did you overcome that fear? I sort of broke it down and I realized, you know, after our conversation, that was a bit catalyst. That was when I sort of... I haven't practiced a day in medicine since that conversation. Wow.

Really? Yeah, still doing it. That conversation changed everything. Do you regret leaving and not practicing anymore?

Absolutely not. Best decision I've ever made. Really? Because as you said, I think at the time, you said that, hey, what if you could, what if you devoted all your headspace to your business or to your YouTube channel or to teaching, which is the thing you want to do? Whereas before, even though I was only working like a few hours a week, half of my headspace was like, should I go back to medicine? Should I not? Like the uncertainty, something you talk about in Greatest Mindset is a meaningful mission. In the past, my, I didn't really have a meaningful mission. I was sort of torn in multiple directions. but now I have a meaningful mission. I feel like the thing that I'm here to do is to learn cool stuff, synthesize it, and share it with other people in whatever format. And that's just so clear for me that that's what I want to do. And so when all my focus goes on that, that's what the business completely skyrocketed.

Where was the business two and a half years ago? How much were you making a year that year prior to then how much you make it today in the business?

Yeah. In 2020, we, I think, did just over a million in revenue. Is that when we had this conversation about the time? We had a conversation 2021.

So this was, I was still doing.

Part-Time medicine and we did a podcast. So you were making a million dollars a year. Yeah.

And you were afraid of leaving, you know, being a doctor for five hours a week.

Yeah, well, I made a million dollars that year, but the year before it was like 100 grand. So it was so fluctuating that I was like, you know, I'm sure this is a fluke. Right. And then it was a pandemic and it's like everyone. So there was all these other stories I was telling myself. But then 2021, we did 4 million. 2022, 4.6. This year we'll do like 5.3, something like that. That's great, man. Which is pretty cool.

So it's like- Where do you think it'd be if you didn't decide to go all in? If you were like, I'm still gonna be a doctor part-time because I really want to hold on to that. I like the identity. I like the feeling it gives me.

I like being able to help people in medicine, you know, a few hours a week. Where do you think your business would be? I think the business would be a lot less successful than it currently is. Because it's like the thing, and like everyone finds this eventually, that the more you split your focus, the less progress you make in each individual direction. I still probably would have had fun, but at least for me, once I tasted the freedom of entrepreneurship, you know, when I was working my five hours a week as a doctor, every half an hour I was thinking, why am I doing this? why am I doing this? Really? Why am I here? Why am I here? I could be in a really nice WeWork right now with my team, free coffee on tap, you gotta pay for coffee when you're a doctor. You know, there's a table tennis table there. I could be just playing ping pong in my breaks, but instead I'm going to this sort of smelly doctor's office that smells of mold to have like really unhealthy food from the hospital canteen from Burger King. Every half an hour I was like, why am I here? Why am I here?

Why am I here?

And the answer was because, well, I have to stay being a doctor because otherwise no one's gonna follow my content. I have to have this identity. So that was the story you were telling me. That was the story I was telling myself that I had to do this because otherwise I'm worthless if I'm not a doctor and a YouTuber at the same time.

I'm worthless as a YouTuber and I have self-worth as a doctor plus YouTuber. Where was your self-worth at on a scale of 1 to 10 back then when you were working part-time as a doctor and doing YouTube versus where's your self-worth today? So two and a half years ago, scale of 1 to 10, 10 being I have incredible self-worth, not ego self-worth, but like I feel really confident about myself. I love and accept myself. I appreciate versus a zero being, I have zero self-worth. So where were you then, the week before we had that conversation?

Yeah.

To two and a half years later today.

Great question. I was probably a seven then and I'm probably a nine now.

Wow. Okay.

I think back then, like, yeah, back then I did a lot of questioning around, like, why am I doing this? Like, what's the path I should really be on? And even, like, after that conversation, it's like, for the first few months, of going full time on YouTube, I had this thing of like, oh, have I made the right decision? Have I made the wrong decision? Now it's been two and a half years and I've so settled into that. And I've realized after a lot of the journaling prompts in your book and of writing your own obituary I did a few months ago as I was reading it and just made me realize that no part of me wants to practice medicine and every part of me wants to be a really good teacher to be learning, synthesizing and sharing cool stuff. Wow. And to, you know, be a family guy on the side and to take care of my health and, you know.

Those other things as well. Sure, sure. That's inspiring, man, because you invested, what, six to eight years of your life becoming a doctor, right? So you put a lot of time.

A quarter of your life was invested in this identity. Yeah. And even before then, even in school, it was like, I knew I was going to be a doctor. Yeah. Planning for it, like working on it.

Doing the exams all for the sake of getting into medical school. Wow. So probably half of your life was involved in thinking about it, planning about it, working hard to get in medical school, being in medical school, training as a doctor, being a doctor, and telling people, I am a doctor. Your parents being like, I have this proud, proud parents, the son who is a doctor, he's made it. We're safe. We have security. He's gonna be safe for the rest of his life. And then you say, well, I'm gonna go be a YouTuber.

Yeah.

So half of your life was committed to this thing that then you said, I'm no longer gonna do. So I can only imagine the amount of fear that comes with letting go of a half of your life's time and work and around an identity. That's a big fear. So I don't wanna diminish the fear that comes with that and the questioning that might come with that. And a lot of people probably wouldn't have the courage, especially 'cause they wouldn't be making the money on the side that you were making. It was hard for you, even though you were making the money.

I was literally making a million on the side and I was still worried. which kind of says that it's not about the money. It's about something deeper, some kind of emotion, some kind of fear around there. Yes. Because if I, even if I was making five million on the side, that wouldn't have changed the story I was telling myself. Yeah, the story, because I realized the story I was telling myself was, this is all going to go away. And I have no worth, I have no worth to the market, I have no worth to others unless I'm also a doctor. Because that was such a narrative.

Wow.

And what it took was like, you know, you to, Challenge me on that to help break.

You were unwinding a lot of it. You weren't full time. You were already trying to. You were thinking about it for a year or two. So I think I just was a mirror to what your higher self really wanted to do. And you just needed that extra push. Isn't it fascinating the stories we tell ourselves around identity and how we make decisions based on identity? I think Tony Robbins says that identity is one of the key factors of success in life. choosing what identity you wanted to have. Yeah.

And I was at one of his events the other day, and one of the things that really stuck out was the strongest force in human personality is the need to stay consistent with your identity. And so if you have the identity of being a doctor, that is the strongest force in your life is causing you to stay consistent with that. If you have the identity of being an unfit person, then the strongest force in personality is keeping you in line with that. if you change your identity, as James Clear talks about, to that of a healthy person, someone who's in shape, someone who takes care of themselves, now the decisions become easier because now you're working with the identity that you actually want rather than the identity that's kind of pulling you back.

Yeah, so it's really important to decide what identity we want to live in. And daily doing this, there's this guy on TikTok and Instagram who just did 365 days in the ice tub. and he films it every day. So from day one, you could see the transformation. It's incredible. From day one, he's like, you know, I'm not in a good place mentally, physically. You can see he's got 30 pounds overweight. You know, he's let life slip by. Yeah. You know, he's got he's married, he's got kids, he's got a job, but he didn't have a positive identity. He's just kind of showing up. And he decided to do this challenge. This literally 365 days yesterday, he completed it. And every single day, he shot a video of him getting into like one degree Celsius ice tub. And he would say a message every day about what's coming up for him, you know, and he got better over time. You can see the first few months he struggled. Then he became, you know, a pro and you started to see his body transform. He started to take notice in his health, his mindset, his decisions every day. And he said, I'm a guy who's going to do this every single day for 365 days. his entire life changed because of that commitment, that identity. And so we've got to be thinking about our identity around all things, relationships, health, money, career, all that stuff. And that's cool. What else did you learn that opened up from you from the event with Tony recently that stood out to you based on the reflection of the last couple of years?

Yeah, yeah. Just one point before, on the I think, I really like that. that idea, this idea that in order to change our identity, often all we need to do is commit to doing one small thing. For this guy was the ice tub. It's not small, it's kind of painful. The first time I went on was udder hell. The fingers feel like they're going to freeze off. And similarly, one of my friends and team members, Tintin, started doing cold showers recently, and he's into this sort of stuff. So he was like, weirdly, when I start my day with a cold shower, It helps embody the identity that I am the sort of person who does hard things. And that bleeds into other areas of your life. And some people make that point of like, oh, if you want to get in shape, it's not about exercise, it's about the diet. But as Peter Attia would say, actually the exercise is the keystone habit that everything else flows from that. Because if you are the sort of person that exercises every day, you are also the sort of person that starts doing these other healthy habits. Just to stay consistent with that identity. I know. And so this is partly why, you know, when it comes to YouTube, I personally believe that posting something every week or with a blog or a newsletter, posting it every week, there's something about that where just the act of doing it every week helps you stay consistent with the identity that you want. Another big thing I learned from the Tony Robbins event was this, I think, one of the exercises, essentially this event was just a lot of journaling prompts. this is what I realized, like on a meta level, all these Tony Robbins events are or any of these like personal development seminars, because I've seen a few videos of them, I've attended a few, it's not someone telling you how to live your life, it's someone encouraging you to do the journaling and reflection to think about how you want to live your life. Yes. And so one of the prompts, you know, they do the thing, like lights down, eyes closed, inspiring background music, and he's like doing his little guided meditation. One of the most powerful ones for me was imagining what is the story that you, what's been the story of your life so far? And, you know, the story of my life so far is a story about... What's the story? And then from now, the story of my life will be a story about... And I realized after doing this that the story of my life so far has been a story about serving the self. It's been a story of, to use David Brooks' metaphor, climbing the first mountain. The first mountain is the mountain of achievement, of success, of of freedom, of optionality, of autonomy, of pride, of fame. I want all of these things, all of these options. I want all this freedom. I want to be able to quit my job. I want to have all this money so that I can, I don't know, whatever.

Travel the world.

Travel the world. Flexible, yeah. All that kind of stuff. The flexibility aspect of it. And David Brooks' the Second Mountain is really good because what it talks about is that as you're climbing this first mountain, usually in your 20s or whatever, sometimes 30s, sometimes 40s, sometimes teens. It depends on different people are at different stages of the process. As you're climbing the mountain, one of three things will happen. Either you'll get to the top and realize, Huh, okay. Or you'll get knocked off the mountain by either you having some sort of crisis or someone close to you having some sort of health crisis or trauma or anything like that. And then you get into the valley. and in the valley is when you're like feeling a bit like, hm, meaningless, purposeless, aimless and all this kind of stuff. But in the valley is when you realize that there is a second mountain. And that's not the mountain of the self, that's the mountain of service. That's the mountain of commitment, of committing yourself to a spouse or a family or a community or a faith or a philosophy. Cause. Or a cause, yeah, or all of the above. And that's where you realize that actually freedom buys happiness, sure, in the short term, but it doesn't buy joy. Wow, freedom actually kind of sucks because if you're just free, then you're like, well, I can do whatever. And then you feel that meaninglessness of like, well, so what should I do? I don't really know. But actually aligning with something you really care about, committing yourself to a spouse or family, all this kind of stuff, that's the second mountain. And it's a harder mountain to climb. And it's not filled with so much dopamine and so much excitement, but it's filled with like lasting joy. And so I read that book this year and this Tony Robbins event, like really put that metaphor for me because I, I realized that my story so far was about climbing the first mountain. And what I want my story to be moving forward is to work on the second.

That's beautiful, man. I think I saw some clip of like Dan Bilzerian, I think online. And I'm gonna paraphrase it where he was like, you know, it seemed fun and exciting for a while to like be able to sleep with every woman in the world that you wanted to and have all this money and just gamble all the time and like shoot guns and do it out all these cool, exciting things. But then it becomes very empty. becomes very lonely, you know, kind of meaningless after you do all those things. And, you know, it sounds a lot like this second mountain. You know, it's like, it's like, okay, climb the first mountain. You do these things. Sure, you can have a fun life, but is it fulfilling? And fun is not always mean meaningful. Like you said, it's like, yeah, you have freedom, and I'm traveling the world and doing these things, but then you ask, what is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? and what do I want to be known for or remembered for or who really cares about me, who's in my corner? And I think it's kind of learning that balance of how do I enjoy and have fun in my life but also have meaning at the same time? And it sounds more of like the second mountain theory and going after that, we're both kind of in that same stage I think, you know?

Yeah. You've gotten engaged recently. That's like removes optionality from your life, removes the freedom.

And it's thinking of like, okay, what's our vision for, the family we're creating. Okay, we want to have kids one day, we want to get married, all these different things. And what will life look at look like for the next 10, 20 years? It's kind of visioning in the future that far. If you're going to choose to get married with the intention of having kids, you've got a plan 20 years in the future in a sense. And you have to realize how can I continue to live a life that I want, knowing that I'm going to need to be, if I want to be a great human being or a great man or a great person, I also want to show up fully and presently for my partner, my kids, and the responsibilities that I have from there. So it's almost shedding an old identity and stepping into a new identity. Similar to you, you had to shed an old identity of I'm this doctor and this is what I'm known for to becoming a new identity. And that's interesting perspective. Are there more than two mountains in this book?

No, I think there are just two.

The first mountain is like, chasing success and fame and accomplishment and freedom and flexibility. The second one is really going after meaning, it sounds like. Service.

Meaning and service. That's my whole book about the greatest.

Mindset, which is really about stepping into service. Yeah, that's one of the things that.

Like, when I read that, I sort of slowly worked my way through it over the last like four months or so, to kind of doing it, it's quite a heavy book, there's like so many exercises. And initially I was like, It's just a personal thing. I read it for a living. I'm gonna blitz through it. And then I was like, oh, hang on. I need to do my GPA. Okay, crap. Yeah, yeah. Oh, I should take better care of my health. Okay, cool.

Next one, it's like write your obituary.

Oh, that's heavy. Figure out your three P's. Have you never done the obituary? Have you ever done that exercise? I thought about it. I thought about it from the context of what do I want written on my gravestone? Which was, I was bored down to a good father, good husband, good teacher. And so I had a sense, but it took When I wrote it out as like a three paragraph thing, there was something about writing it out in obituary style that made it land in like a... I think also when you do the exercise matters, because it's like if I'd done the exercise when I was in my early 20s, I'd have been like... I'd have been, again, optimizing for freedom. Right, right. One of the other things that Tony talks about is... This was just like a throwaway thing that he said, he wasn't even part of the event officially. It was around like core values and he said that when he was young, freedom was his core value and he realized that actually the more you focus on trying to acquire freedom, the less free you are. And I was like, oh, that's interesting because that vibes exactly with my experience. I've been chasing freedom for my entire 20s. Like the whole reason of starting this business, building the YouTube channel, all this.

Stuff was- Financial freedom, time freedom, location.

Freedom, all that kind of stuff. But, you know, I would have like one thing on my calendar, like a few months ago, I'd have one thing on my calendar. I'd be thinking, oh, I'm not truly free because I've got one thing on my calendar. I'd be having like a meeting with my team and I'd be like, you know, I love hanging out with my team. It's great vibes. But I'd be thinking, oh, the fact it's on the calendar means I'm not truly free. Really? So by obsessing about freedom, I actually became a lot less free. Whereas what Tony Robbins was saying was like, when you spend, when you, instead of focusing on the self, you focus on service. and you're like, how can I serve in the best way possible? You become free as a result of taking the focus away from the self and putting it onto others. That one, I was like, that's good.

Yeah, it is.

Yeah.

Now, for people watching or listening, thinking, this all sounds great, but how do I make money?

Yeah.

And how do I stay productive without obsessing over hustle culture, you know, and burning myself out? How do I make money? create passive income without burnout and feeling like I'm exhausting myself.

Yeah.

What is your thoughts on that?

My thoughts on that are that- and.

Before you get into that, how did you start making money, I guess, passively? Do you remember like the first $100 you made, when that was, what that was, and then how has your passive income journey evolved?

Yeah, so over the last like 15 years of my life, I have tried so many attempts to make money on the internet. When I was 13, I was a freelance web designer trying to do web development on the side. I started my own web design studio. I was a kid in his bedroom, but I called it a studio because I thought it would be more legit. I tried making video games. I learned how to program. I emailed Nintendo and Blizzard Entertainment and authors that I liked, being like, Hey, can I turn your content into a video game? They all said no, or they just ignored me. I built an affiliate marketing site where I was doing, there was a game StarCraft 2 that had just come out. Some guy was selling a guide. there was a 50% affiliate deal on that guide. And I was like, if I build a WordPress site, then people, I'll SEO rank for Protoss build orders, and then I'll be able to sell that affiliate site. I tried building a multi-level marketing pyramid scheme type website that would get people to sign up for free trials of stuff, then cancel them so that they could get credit towards a games console. I tried building a forum that was helping kids learn martial arts and lock picking so they could become spies because that was really cool when I was a teenager. I tried those like six or seven business ideas when I was in school, and the one that finally succeeded was when I was 18, I was in my first year of med school, and I'd lost a bunch of money because some dude scammed me out of a MacBook Air. So I lost my life savings of $1,000. And I decided I need to build a business to recoup these losses. And so I still have the Evernote file from 2012 where I was like, what am I good at? I'm good at teaching. I did well in the med school exams and I know how to make websites. I was like, how do I combine these three things to make a business? And so I made a business teaching people courses on how to get into med school and made a nice website to go with it. Wow. And then that business did 10K in year one, 100K in year two, 150K in year three. And that was when I, you know, initially I was doing all the work. And then I realized that the way to get passive income once I had the four hour work week is to find a way to get other people to do that work. I think a lot of people try to go for passive income immediately. It's really hard to go for passive income immediately. Usually you have to go for very active income and then over time you passivify it a little bit. Right.

So this was- you- still have to.

Show up and do some work. You have to do a lot of work to get the thing going. And then once it's going, it's like, okay, cool, now you build systems and.

Processes, operations, delegation, outsourcing, all of that.

Fun stuff to make it a little bit more- It's fun stuff for you, but not for everyone. It's not for everyone. Yeah.

You love that stuff.

I love that stuff. But I also think, you know, part of the philosophy of Field Goal Productivity is that whatever you're doing, Find a way to make it fun, because the things that you find fun are the things you will do for a long time. You just have to do this for a very long time. I think most people quit way too early. Yes. Most people either don't get started because they're afraid, or they get started and they quit too early. I was looking at some stats, like over 50% of podcasts don't make it past episode three. Like 80% of podcasts don't make it past episode 20.

Wow. You've hit like your thousandth episode or something? Over 1500. 1500 now, bloody hell.

10 years, 1500 episodes. Yeah.

Every single week for 10 years.

Yeah. And you just don't quit.

Just consistently.

Yeah.

And I'm not the smartest and I'm not the most talented and I'm not the most innovative, but it's like when you try to get a little bit better every single week and do your best to get a little bit better and you do it consistently, either it's going to work or maybe after a few years you're in the wrong position, it's the wrong profession.

Yeah.

It's like learning, okay, maybe this isn't.

Working and I haven't figured it out yet after a few years. Okay, cool. Yeah, but I think actually on that note, what I would say is either it works or you realize it's not working and you change your plan. So it's like, it's like the thing you talk about a meaningful mission, when you know where you want to go, then that's like the most important thing. Like where do I actually want to go? Let's say, I don't know, my goal is to make 10K a month in passive income. Okay, cool. That's a destination. Now, what are the different, what are the three to five chess moves that right now I think will get me there? This is something Hormozy talked about in a recent video or recent keynote or something. And I really like this approach. It's like you've got a destination in mind and you know where you are now. That creates potential energy because now there's, you know, there's where you are and where you want to be. It's like going on a voyage or whatever. Now, either you know how you're going to get there or you don't know how you're going to get there. If you don't know how you're going to get there, you have an information problem. You need more information. If I was like, oh damn, geez, I really don't know how to build more muscle. I have an information problem. I should watch a couple of videos and I'll realize very quickly Progressive overload, weightlifting three times a week. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's about it.

Eating more calories and protein.

Yeah, all of that stuff. It's like there are three to five things that if you just do will probably get you to that destination. So if you don't know the path to get to where you want to go, you just ask people, you read about it, you figure it out, it's the internet, anyone can figure it out. Information should not be the problem. But if you know what the path is, Now you can figure out, okay, what's the most effective path to get there?

And so- and what's holding me back? What's like the fear, the insecurity holding me back?

Exactly. What's the story that I'm telling? What are the obstacles that are getting in the way of that? What are the monsters, the Leviathans I need to slay along route to my journey? So if someone was listening to this and they're like, okay, I know I want to be a podcaster like Lewis, and I know 10 years from now I want to say I've had 1500 episodes, it's like, okay, cool. How much money do you want to make? Like, let's really define the destination and figure out where we want to go. and then maybe they start off doing solo episodes, just talking to their phone in vertical, and they do that for a couple of months, and they see zero traction. They're like, my plan, which was do solo episodes every single day and hope that that gets me to a school of greatness podcast, that plan's not working. Let's change the plan. Let's try something else. And then let's try something else. And let's try something else. Let's try something else. Let's try something else. And eventually, this is something I think that Jeff Bezos wrote about this in one of his shareholder letters to Amazon. It was using the analogy of baseball. I don't do baseball because I'm from the UK, but I understand the principles, which is that in baseball, you either strike out or you hit a single or two or three or four. The most you can get is a home run, where it's like four points. But in the world of entrepreneurship, sure, you might strike out a few times, but actually, if you hit a home run, that home run can get you a million points. There is no cap to how many points you can get from the home run. And so if you figure, if you know where you want to go and you just keep on trying until you start making progress in that direction, There's like no world in which you're not going to be successful at the thing. It's like, yeah, fine, if you're like four foot eight and you're trying to go to the NBA, then okay, fine, maybe some people will tell you that.

Bro, your strategy is just very unlikely to get you there. Maybe you need to coach. Maybe you could still be in the arena that you're wanting to get to. If you can't be a player, maybe you can be a coach or an.

Owner or a manager. Yeah. Still playing the game. You just got to shift the role you're playing. Exactly. Yeah, there's a whole strategy I've got around this, which is not in the book, but I've sort of, developed this over the last few months, and I was like, damn, I should put it in the book. And it's GPS, goal, plan, system. What's a goal? What's a plan to get there? And what's the system to make sure you execute on the plan? And I think when it comes to building a business, making passive income, starting a podcast, like getting married, like all of this stuff, fundamentally, you have a goal, you have a plan, i.e. the moves you think will get you there, and you have a system to make sure you follow it. And if you're struggling with any of these, it's either a problem with the goal, you don't know what you want or it's wildly unrealistic and never gonna happen, or it's a problem with the plan, i.e. the strategy you're employing is actually not effective, or it's a problem with the system. You know where you want to go.

And what you need to do, you're just not doing it. So let's figure out a way to help you do it. That's interesting. I was having a conversation actually right before you came here with Alexandra on my team about the idea of, you know, being an entrepreneur, passive income, hustle culture, all these different things. And I was telling her, you know, Sometimes when people want to launch a side hustle or a side project or thinking about becoming an entrepreneur, they're really good at one skill. But the challenge is being an entrepreneur, you have to learn lots of skills. And that's usually what holds people back. Okay, I really like doing graphic design. But now I'm launching a business and I have to learn sales, customer support, refunding people. I need to learn how to build a website and checkout card and accounting and taxes and all these other things. Manage employees. It's like you have to learn a plethora of skills around being an entrepreneur. And that I think sometimes is what holds people back from being consistent. They go in because they have one skill that they're really good at.

Yeah.

But you have to learn so many other things that you don't enjoy. So how do we learn to make productivity fun and enjoyable when 90% of the time you're doing things that aren't your number one skill set, the thing you're really good at as an entrepreneur.

Yeah. Oh, great question.

Okay. Because you were talking about this before, but how do we really make all the unenjoyable things enjoyable in order to keep going? Yeah.

Okay, this is like the ultimate secret. Like the secret to all productivity is to find a way to make the process feel enjoyable. If you can just do that, you know, you enjoy doing podcast episodes. This is why you've been able to continue doing it for literally 10 plus years and 1500 episodes. I enjoy making videos, making YouTube videos. Not every aspect of that is enjoyable. And certainly there are days where I don't enjoy it. you clearly enjoy working out more than I do, which is why you're in better shape than I am. There's something about the process that you found a way to make fun. And so my whole journey of productivity has been to try and figure out what are the ways that we can make that we have to do a little bit more fun. And I've pretty much boiled it down to three things. Play, power, and people. The three Ps, I call them the three energizers. Play, power, and people. And if you can incorporate some or you know, some of these into whatever you're doing, I guarantee it will be way more enjoyable and you'll have more fun along the way. It'll be more sustainable, it'll be more energizing, you'll be more productive, you'll be.

More creative, you'll be less stressed, all of the good things will happen. Can you give me an example of each one, what that looks like for.

Something that you don't enjoy doing? Yeah. And how you incorporate these three energizers? Sure. So let's use a business example, because I know a lot of your audience wants to do business. When I started my first business, well, my first successful business, it was actually my eighth business, this was sort of selling real life seminars to help people get into med school. We would use Eventbrite for the ticketing, and then I would have to figure out how to get that into a Google Sheet. And there was a lot of admin involved in Google Sheet formulas and making sure the emails are being sent on time and making sure that the logistics of ordering course booklets have been sent to the hotel in time for the event and that DHL doesn't f*** up the delivery like they often do. Whatever the thing might be. A lot of boring admin work that required just sending a lot of emails and being on the phone with hotels. This is not my skill set. I do not enjoy admin. I think very few people, actually there are some people I know who just love organizing things. I absolutely hated that stuff. So I was like, how do I find a way to make this a little bit more fun? So play, power and people. Play is when we find a way to approach our work in the spirit of play. Unfortunately, these are only strategies that I discovered later. I wish I discovered them when I was working in the first business as well, because that was a bit of a grind. But if I were to have that situation now, how might I approach that in the spirit of play? Sometimes even just asking that question is enough. But generally play is where one of the things that stops play from happening is when the stakes feel too high. So like Roger Federer is not feeling playful when he's playing Wimbledon finals, especially when he's defending his title. That's a high-stakes situation. They've done some really cool studies in rats where they, you know, rats like often play with each other and they'll measure how many times they're playing with like, you know, biting the nape of the neck and like roaming around and doing all that. And then they will inject the rats with adrenaline or cortisol, like stress hormones, or they'll like stress the rat out a little bit by putting them in a cage for a bit and then taking the cage off. And they'll see what happens to play behavior. And unsurprisingly, when a rat is stressed, the play behavior gets reduced. People don't play when they're stressed. It's like when you're stressed, you're like survival mode, like what? Yeah, you very much narrow your range of options. and you get laser focused and you start taking things very seriously and it tends to drain your energy and it's not fun. So one of the big things is like, how do we make this thing feel less stressful? How do we lower the stakes? And one of my favorite phrases or mindset shift is from the philosopher Alan Watts and something that he says is be sincere, not serious. And I think a lot of us, when I was doing my admin for this Google Sheets and like all this, Taking it very seriously. I'm like, oh my God, if this email doesn't get sent out, then all these people are going to be unhappy. It's like, what's going to happen is going to happen either way. I can choose to approach it very seriously or I can approach it sincerely. Sincerely is where I recognize that this is an important thing, but I also recognize, it's not the end of the world. I can just choose to approach it with a bit more lightness and ease. Because the thing is, what I realized about productivity is that and life is that a lot of our experience is about the story we tell ourselves and the thing that we focus on. If I'm telling myself the story that this thing I have to do is enormously important, oh my God, I'm on this podcast, such high stakes, Louisa has such a big audience, oh my God, I've said the right thing, oh yeah, I go into myself, it's less fun, it's less fun, you're not going to be in flow, I'm not going to be in flow. But generally, you know, anyone watching this or listening to this, if you think.

Of the times where you've performed the best, it's probably been when you've been in flow, when you've been feeling good, when you've been feeling energized. I mean, what about when the stakes are high though? When there is life or death, when you are a doctor and you've got to deliver a baby, or something happens where you're like, I can't just be goofing around and playing the whole time. I've got to actually take my time seriously and show credibility.

Even then. So, I've been in operating theatres quite a lot in life and death, open heart surgery, brain surgery, obstetrics, baby mum bleeding out, all that I was doing in med school, I was doing as a doctor. Even when life and death is in the balance, One thing that's interesting is in operating rooms, there's often upbeat background music playing because surgeons realize and the staff in working in theater realize that actually having background music and having that sense of lightness and ease when it comes to, even when life and death is hanging in the balance, actually helps you perform better. Wow. It's like surgeons are cracking jokes when they're in the middle of life saving operations. They're sort of being sort of friendly.

And smart, like the good surgeons. They have to be.

If you're like tense and rigid, you're gonna be, you're probably more prone to make a mistake. I've worked with so many surgeons who are like that. And the, you know, there's a- Screaming.

At you, give me this and give me this.

And you're like, ah, you're- It's terrible. And then I think this was in the checklist manifesto by Atul Gawande talking about like human factors errors in hospitals where like the surgeon's operating on the wrong leg, but no one wants to say anything because the environment is like a stress- and everyone's thinking, I'm pretty sure you were meant to amputate the right leg, not the left leg. Oh my gosh. But like, oh no, I can't say anything because it's the big boss. So it's when you have this atmosphere of like high stakes and pressure and stress and- mental. This is why now there's checklists in operations where it's like, mark the leg with a Sharpie. Are you operating on the right limb? Make sure the patient knows you're operating on that limb because they'll tell you if you're not. A lot of it, there are so many instances where when we feel pressured and stressed, we actually don't perform very well and we don't raise concerns when concerns need to be raised. So having a light hearted atmosphere, you know, some surgeons and scrub nurses will wear like a rainbow colored scrub cap because it just makes- Light it up, yeah. Lighten it up. So even when life and death is in the balance, lightening it up is.

Actually the way to perform better. Interesting.

Okay. Be sincere, but not serious. Exactly. Okay. The other thing on play, you know, one thing I really loved, very practical thing, back when, at the moment, I'm like digital nomading around the world, and so I don't have a desk. But when I used to have a desk with a computer monitor on it, I had a Post-it note on the bottom of my monitor. And on that Post-it note was written, what would this look like if it were fun? What would this look like if it were fun? Anyone can do this. If you are ever doing anything at all, and you find yourself feeling stressed, or feeling anxious, or feeling like the stakes are too high, or like I want to be more productive at this thing, but it's really hard or procrastinating, you take a step back, you take a breath, and you ask yourself, what would this look like if it were fun? And usually you can come up with some pretty good answers. Maybe I'd have some background music, maybe I'd lighten up a bit, maybe I'd I don't know, bring some of my friends along for the ride. Maybe I'll just choose to take it a little bit less seriously. There's so much value in lowering the stakes. The other thing, again, on the playfront, like a really cool, there was a really cool thing that there's a YouTuber called Mark Rober. He used to work for NASA, then he used to work at Apple, and now he does like science educational videos. He's amazing. He did a really fun experiment where he did this experiment where he was trying to teach people how to code. and so he got 50,000 people in his audience, different ages, different walks of life, to do this online experiment, learning how to code. And they got this robot maze that they had to program a robot to go through the maze. And the trick was, this was an impossible task. There was no way to actually do this. But he split the groups up into two halves. Half the group, every time they failed, they got an error message saying, you failed, please try again. The other half got an error message saying you have failed, you have lost five points, you now have 195 points, please try again. Everything else was the same, the puzzle was impossible, the only difference was that group two lost five points. The points are arbitrary, completely made up, like no one cares what the points are, they have no idea. But actually, if you looked at the number of attempts they made to solve the puzzle, actually I don't think it was an impossible puzzle, I think it was able to be solved, but if you look at the number of attempts they made, how many shots on goal they had, the group that lost the five points had less than half as many attempts as the group that didn't lose any points at all. Because they were afraid to lose more. They were afraid to lose points. And so Mark Robert gave a really good TED talk about this where he explained this experiment and he says like, if we could just, what if we reframed our, what if we reframed how we think about failure? What if we thought of it as a scientist does, as, oh, it's just an experiment. It didn't work this time, maybe it will work next time. Even if it didn't work, I'll get data. What if we just stopped worrying so much about the concept of failure? And what if we started to treat it more like an experiment? That's another thing that helps you play. If you are so worried about failure, yes, in some contexts, life and death. Okay, fine. But most people listening to this are not dealing with life and death every single day. They're probably not realistically. In most contexts where it's not life and death, a fear of failure, it really holds you back from feeling good about the thing. It's hard to deal with, easier said than done. But if we can, I really like this idea of reframing it as an experiment, as a learning opportunity.

People know this stuff, but I think it's a reminder those often really help. Such a good reminder, man. What about power? How do we use power in this situation of something you don't enjoy doing?

Yeah. Okay. So we talked about how, you know, within entrepreneurship, you might be really good at design, but you might suck at sales and marketing and copywriting and accounting and legal and HR and all of that crap that you have to deal with as an entrepreneur. The concept of power is that when we feel powerful in doing anything, it makes it feel good. It makes it more intrinsically motivating. We do it for the sake of doing the thing. It makes it more rewarding, makes it more energizing. And you notice this in video games. In video games, there is this sense of like an experience bar, and the more monsters you kill, the more XP you gain, and then you level up, and then you get more power, you get more powerful, and then you do.

More things, and you get more confident.

And all these different things, yeah. All of the different stuff. And so video game designers know that like, a video game is kind of boring. People just sit there and just like twiddle some things around and kill fake monsters on screen. But one of the ways they make it fun is by helping you feel powerful. this is partly why, you know, all of the good stories, like Star Wars, Anakin Skywalker starts off as a kid racing drones in Tatooine, and then over time you see his power gain, you see his journey of becoming a legend and then turning to the dark side and stuff. In the Mistborn series by Brandon Sanderson, incredible series of books, you get these characters, they start off young, they start off an experience, they learn, they grow, like we love following stories where someone is becoming more powerful over time. If they're powerful to begin with, kind of like you know, we need some kind of challenge. Like most stories don't start with the main character being a legend already. It's usually a they're a bit of a dweeb but over time Mr. Miyagi comes along and teaches them the thing and then they learn and Rocky like doing all his training, you know, we love that. Similarly, it works for ourselves. When we can experience a sense of power with what we're doing, a sense that I'm getting better at the thing, maybe it's like I don't enjoy marketing right now because I suck at it, but Let me try and read Dotcom Secrets by Russell Brunson. Let me try and read $100 million offers by Alex Hormozi. Let me just try and apply some of these methods. Oh, hang on, that thing actually worked. I now get how to build a funnel. Oh, that's fun. That's cool. Like that sense of accomplishment and achievement is one of the things that makes us feel powerful, which drives us to feel intrinsically motivated to do stuff. And so you could, again, it's the same thing. You could choose to approach creating a landing page with, oh, it's not my skill set. Oh, God, I'll have to write this landing page. Or you could approach a little writing a landing page with, wow, it's not my skill set. I get to learn this new thing. Let me figure out how I can do this.

Let me get better at the thing. Man, it's so good you're saying this because for 20 years I've been trying to learn Spanish on and off. Not like every day obsessed with it, but I'm like, okay, I'm gonna pick up a Spanish learning book or try an app or get a tutor or whatever it is off and on for like 20 years since high school, right? Just like, and I always felt like it was hard. And it wasn't until about six months ago where it started a shift where Martha, my fiance, was like, you got to look at it as an experiment more and play with it. Really play the game of being fascinated by why it is that way. As opposed to saying, okay, in English, we have a structure of sentences and it's almost complete opposite sometimes in Spanish. And I'm always like, why do they do that? Why don't they just make it the same way in English so I can speak it in in, I guess, in the same order. As opposed to have to flip-flop everything. And she goes, you gotta start looking at it like a game and just saying, wow, isn't that fascinating that they do this? It's so interesting and so fascinating and keep it more lighthearted. So she's been helping me play more and we're doing games now and we're doing flashcards and making games with points and it's like interesting as opposed to, and I feel like I'm learning faster now because I'm not saying, why is it this way? I'm saying, why? that's so fascinating that it is this way. Let me learn more about that. Let me learn why in an interesting way as opposed to a frustrating way.

Yeah, it's exactly the same scenario, but just changing the way that you approach it changes everything. Yeah, that's cool. The other cool thing about power, so part of power as well is the idea of, you know, we feel powerful when we have control over stuff. This is why we enjoy decorating our bedrooms when we're kids, decorating our houses, like we don't like our autonomy being taken away. We like feeling feeling empowered in that sense. And so a lot of people say, well, I don't have control over what my boss is asking me to do. It's like, okay, you might not have control over what you're having to do, but you usually have control over how you're going to do it. You know, when I was working as a doctor, I used to have to write a lot of these discharge letters. These are kind of boring as- boring, boring, boring, boring, boring. Exactly. You have to troll through something handwritten notes. Old school hospitals, no electronic record system, trawling through handwritten notes to be like, okay, what are trying to decipher the handwriting? You're in a doctor's office, it's tiny, the computers There's no air conditioning because the NHS doesn't have any money. Bad lighting. Yeah, all of this kind of, oh God, okay, I'm just gonna write this.

Discharge letter again and again and again.

Now, you're like, I didn't become a doctor to do this. Exactly, yeah. That's not my skill set. This is what burns a lot of people out. It's like the fact that you have to do this, but obviously someone's got to write the discharge letter as the junior doctor. You're gonna be the one doing it, obviously. And so in just taking that scenario, I realized something really cool about writing discharge letters. I said, I could just change the way I did it. I had no control over how, over what I had to do. Someone's got to write the discharge letter, but I had control over how I did it. So what I started to do is I brought a little Bluetooth speaker into the office, taped it to the ceiling with a little string type thing, and I would just play Pirates of the Caribbean or Lord of the Rings or Harry Potter movie soundtracks in the background while doing it. And initially I was like, oh, isn't this unprofessional? And then I realized, who cares? Forgiveness rather than permission. the seniors would come in and then they'd be like, oh, that's a cool idea. And they'd walk out again. No one cared. It's fine. But just having concerning hobbits from the Lord of the Rings playing in the background while I'm writing a discharge letter makes it feel like I'm a hobbit on an adventure in the Shire. And that was cool. The other thing with discharge letters is I found a way to inject a little bit of humor into them. So these are technically legal documents. They could be called on in court by a coroner or anything like that. But there's no law saying that you have to be like boring with it. So occasionally I'd say things like, I knew that the patient supported Manchester United, the football team. So I'd say at the end of the note, because these are discharge letters that you write to the doctor, their general practitioner on the other end, say, PS, while we're delighted that Mr. Jones made a speedy recovery, we wish him commiserations for Chelsea's recent performance in the exam. Something basic like that.

But you know that at some moment someone might read that and they might get a giggle.

Yeah, exactly.

So you're like, okay, How can I make someone else's day when they read this?

That's the one. And actually, that point of how do I make someone, so there's kind of two things here. One is it makes it fun for me because I've created this challenge for myself. Challenge is another one of those things that makes stuff a bit more fun. Even if the thing is boring, if you can create some sort of arbitrary challenge, like, let me do this and let me do this faster. Let me do this slower. Let me find a shortcut. Let me challenge myself to... That makes it way more fun. But also, if you can find a way to connect it to someone else, this is the third P, people, if you can find a way to help someone through the thing, even if it's in a really tiny way, whether it's making them laugh or whether it's in the middle of seeing a bunch of patients, you're spending 30 seconds just asking the nurses, can I make you a cup of tea? That makes their day. You feel the helpers high because you feel good. Both parties feel energized. Life is good. You can always take 30 seconds to make someone a cup of tea. Yeah, yeah. One of my favorite stories from when I was doing interviews for the book, there's a guy called Matthew Dix who is now an author and he's written some amazing books. But back in the day, in his 20s, he used to work at McDonald's and he hated working at McDonald's. It was grim. He was working in like, you know, Burger Flipper initially and then he graduated to the drive-thru. And one thing he said, he was like, yeah, working at McDonald's was really boring, but I found a way to challenge myself to make it fun. So what he would do is he would try and upsell a different sauce every day of the week. So Monday was barbecue sauce day and every time someone would come through the drive-thru, would you like fries with that? And I'm like, yeah, no. How about some barbecue sauce? And then they'd be like, huh, no, I'm good, thanks. And then he'd be like, you know, it's a really good barbecue sauce. You know, the last customer I had really loved the barbecue sauce. And then they sort of crack up. They were like, okay, fine, you know, give me the barbecue. Why not? It's like, it breaks the pattern. People are not used to being asked, being upsold on barbecue sauce when they're in a McDonald's drive-through.

It made it fun for the customer, it made it fun for him. And he said that it just transformed the energy that he got from his days purely because he now gave himself.

A little bit of a challenge to make something that was boring become more fun.

Yeah, whether you call it a challenge or some type of game, like every day, how can you make what you're doing a game? I remember, man, I've had some boring, you know, I guess jobs before I got into this. I was a truck driver for six hours a day.

Oh, no way.

I didn't know that. Driving from Columbus, Ohio to Cincinnati and back every day, driving car parts in the back of a truck every day, unloading it, putting in new car parts from Cincinnati, driving it back. in rush hour. And I remember this was a time when there was no Bluetooth. Bluetooth was still like, I didn't have a Bluetooth capability. It was like a CD player or something was in there. And it was like 2007, maybe 2006, 2007. And this truck was like a massive U-Haul. So it was like the biggest U-Haul truck you could get before needing a truck license. So it wasn't a semi, but it was a big truck. you have to climb up, you know, multiple feet to get up in there. It's like a bucket seat. It just kind of bounces. And it only went 55 miles an hour. The truck, like the pedal, when you put it all the way to the end, that's as fast as it would go. So I was in the right lane the entire time. I guess I'd be the left lane in the UK. But I was in the slow lane the entire time for six hours a day. Watching people go by me.

No. And.

And in Ohio at this location, It's like cornfields. It's all flat cornfields. So you're not looking at anything really like mountains and big cities. You're just driving through corn. And I remember after a week of this, I go, I'm going to drive myself crazy if I don't find a way to have some type of game or challenge from this. So I asked a friend, and at the time I was really trying to learn salsa dancing. So I asked a friend to burn me a CD of the greatest hits of the best salsa songs. And I started listening to this CD on repeat and imagining myself as I was learning salsa dancing. I would imagine myself dancing to the songs in my mind while I was driving. And that got me through these long days. And it made it more interesting and fun to the point where I started to get excited about going to work because I was like, okay, even though I'm gonna drive six hours a day, I'm gonna listen to this music. I'm gonna practice salsa dancing in my mind. It was just a game. It was a game like I also did for three months. My aunt was, what's it called? When you work, when you're like a pharmacist, right? She was like a pharmacist specialist. And she had me essentially like filling, what is this? Filling medicine, filling like, you know, pills, I guess, right? For different things. But it was more like generic stuff. So I was like, okay, I need you to put like 20 in these like 100 bottles of whatever, you know, maybe it was Tylenol or something. Filling it. And this was like very boring. It's like you're sitting in a small room, probably like a doctor's office, small room, bad lighting. And I was just like, okay. But I remember thinking like, I'm going to create a game. I'm going to see how fast I can do this and all these different things and celebrate after I do 20 bottles. So it's like creating some type of game and scenario around that and that made it more enjoyable. So interesting. I love this. Play, power, and people. I really like this concept of how can I make someone else's day with this activity that I'm doing. So that's a really cool one right there.

How can I find a way to help someone else doing this thing? We've all had that feeling of, you know, there are some people that you hang out with who, you know, you leave feeling really energized. I think you're one of those people. I always leave our conversations energized. I'm like, yeah. But we also probably know people that you leave conversations with them feeling a bit drained. They're like, and there's this concept that psychologists call relational energy, which is exactly this, this is the sort of energy you get from relationships. And they've done studies in organizations where they'll do a relational energy map. well, they'll like ask everyone, who are the people that energize you and who are the people that drain you? And they'll do this for the whole organization. And they will find that they're usually a handful of people that are super energizers, that everyone loves them, people like meet with them and they get energized as a result. And they also find that these people have higher ratings, they perform better, they're more productive, they're more creative, they're less stressed, they're happier, they're getting more promotions, they're getting more money. All of the good things happen to the people who are energizers, whereas the people who are drainers in an organization, no one really wants to talk to them. It's like, no one really wants to promote them. They're a bit of a drain in energy. And so what we can take away from this is A, we should strive to become energized as ourself. If someone is sharing good news with us, we respond in an active and a constructive way, like, oh my goodness, that's so good. Tell me more about that. Rather than, ah, cool. You know, there's stuff that we can do to make ourselves a little bit more energizing for others. But the other thing that it does is that it tells us that, you know, the the profound power of being able to try and find people who energize us, who lift up our energy.

Yeah, surrounding yourself with those individuals.

Yeah. And then some people are like, oh, but like every single person in my team is a total, my, this is totally miserable. It's like, okay, find a way to get outside of that group. Find a way to bring the energy yourself. Generally, if you're the one bringing energy and helping other people, they will respond in kind. Most people have good intentions most of the time. And often what it takes is one person to be the person to be like, hey guys, you know, instead of going to, the local cafeteria for lunch. Should we just go to this other coffee shop and we can have a bit more of a lively conversation? Should we go for a walk in the park? And there are things that you can do to add more energy to your interactions. And it's kind of weird. It's like one of the nice things about energy, and I think this is a misconception people have, people feel that the more energy you give, the more drained you become. But it's actually not true. Similarly with work, it's like the more effort and engagement you give to your work, that doesn't deplete your energy, that actually renews your energy. The most draining thing in the world is coasting, looking at your clock, being like, oh God, when is this going to end? No one is energized by that. No one- Sucks a life out of you. Sucks a life out of you. But if you're fully engaged, if you're like giving it your all, if you're showing up sincerely rather than seriously, if you're doing all the things, treating it like play, lightness and ease, having fun along the way, trying to help people.

Out, you get home from the end of the day of work feeling more energized than when you started. Yes. Even though counterintuitively, you've been putting a lot of energy into it. That was a challenge for me in school growing up. Every day I was looking at the clock, being like six hours until the end of the day, just struggling. It was hard for me to find play in just reading a book that I struggled to read or memorizing or things like that. And so I procrastinated a lot. I procrastinated to the very last minute to get something done. I bet you were the person that just got everything done early.

Oh, no. I would also leave everything the last minute. I didn't know these strategies back in the day.

Right, right. But procrastination is a massive struggle for so many people. Why do you think people procrastinate so much? And what are three key things people can do to overcome procrastination?

Okay. So procrastination, if we really boil it down, is usually a problem with getting started. I think people think of procrastination as like, I'm leaving things to the last minute or like whatever. But usually people find that once you get started with something, Generally, you can keep it going. This is the law of inertia. It takes a bit of a push to get started once you're there. You know, for me, once I'm at the gym and I've lifted the first weight, it's like, I'll complete most of the workout. I might skip the final set just because I'm a bit soft. But it's getting to the gym that's the hardest part. So if we recognize that procrastination is a problem with getting started, then all we need to do is optimize for how do I start, not how do I finish. Because the finish will take care of itself. as it were. So how do we optimize for getting started? There are basically three things. See our top three. So usually the first blocker that causes us to procrastinate is uncertainty if you don't know what you actually need to do. So in students, for example, I'll hear people be like, oh, today I'm gonna study chemistry. It's like, okay. But what does that mean? What does study chemistry mean? And they don't know. They're like, I don't know, I'm just gonna study chemistry. It's never gonna happen. If your plan is to study chemistry, it's never gonna happen because you don't know what it actually means. Does it mean I'm gonna read the textbook? Does it mean I'm gonna do a practice test? Does it mean I'm gonna do questions 8 to 15 of the work that the teacher gave me? Does it mean I'm working on this assignment or that or reading about this? Unless you know specifically what you're gonna do, it's very hard to actually do the thing. There's like, when I try and go to the gym without a plan, now I have to spend half my brain power figuring out what am I gonna do? What am I gonna do?

Yeah, what am I gonna do?

And then I'm like, oh, Just too much friction, I'm just not gonna bother. There is always an activation energy to doing anything and having clarity on what the thing actually is. And crucially, when you're actually gonna do it, makes an enormous difference.

Yes. So getting clarity first.

Yeah, clarity is like one of the big solutions to procrastination. What are you doing and when are you gonna do it? I have a little journaling reminder every morning. I fill out this thing. I call it the AM5 because it's sort of like 5:00 a.m. But like AM5 means first five minutes of the morning when I sit down to work, it asks me three questions. It asks me, what is the diet plan for today? This is the only thing I've started doing because I realized it's super helpful. What's the diet plan for today? Because I realized if I think about it in the morning for 30 seconds, I'll get my protein, I'll get the calories, and I'll eat healthily. But if I don't think about it, now the first meal I have is lunch and now I have to decide, I'll just decide in the morning. Protein shake for lunch. mid-morning snack, protein shake again, and then chicken breast and veg for dinner, whatever thing. Just spending 20 seconds making a plan. The next question is, what's the exercise plan for today? Or I'm like, oh, that's a good question. Okay, cool. So I think, yeah, so today's workout day, so I'm going to do a workout straight after my next Zoom call. And the final question is, is it in the calendar? And then I'm like, good point, let me just put it in the calendar. Because often all it takes is for us to know what we're doing and when we're doing it for us to just not procrastinate. A lot of people are like, oh, I don't have time to go to the gym. It's like, it's not in the calendar. You didn't schedule it. If it's not scheduled, it's not gonna happen. Schedule the blaf thing, treat it like.

You would a work appointment, and automatically you solve about 50% of people's procrastination problems by just putting it in the calendar.

Right. So that's clarity. That's where we get clarity. There you go. Okay, cool.

So once you get clarity and you answer those three questions, is there anything.

Else that holds us back from procrastinating. Yeah, the other big thing is fear. Fear is a massive one. The fear of starting, the fear of continuing, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection.

This is what I hear from a lot of people. There's a lot of smart people in my community. And I used to do a lot of webinars and coaching and do Q&A sessions, and I would hear this all the time. I mean, these are individuals that are extremely intelligent, super smart, got, you know, master's degrees, PhDs, whatever it might be. they've been working 10, 15, 20 years, and they've got a lot of skills, a lot of talent. And they're like, I've got these, these three or four different big ideas, these dreams I've had that I really want to get started on, or I really want to launch this book. And I'll think, I'll say, how long have you been thinking about this? And let's say, like, seven years. Like, I've just been thinking about this book for seven years. I'm like, seven years. I'm like, how much time and energy is that taking you? from actually just getting started on it or creating a game plan, finding out when you're going to do it, how you're going to do it, and when you want to complete it by. It doesn't have to be perfect. But one of the biggest things that people have is this fear like you talked about.

Yeah.

Why is fear such a huge procrastinator or procrastination thing that holds people back?

Oh, man. Like fear. Fear is everything. I spent seven years thinking about starting a YouTube channel before I started a YouTube channel. 2010 to 2017. Wow. Our brain is a survival machine. We're so attuned to see any kind of threat as being like a terrible thing that could impact our survival. There's a part of the brain called the amygdala, which is sort of the fear center of the brain. And a lot of the time, you know, back in the day we were afraid of the lion. Obviously the lion's going to kill us. But back in the day we were also afraid of social disapproval, because if you lose the respect of the alpha male in the tribe, you're going to get kicked out of the tribe. And then that's going to be terrible for your survival because the line's going to kill you. So you have to kind of go around with these tribes and stuff. And so the brain, the mind became very attuned to viewing any decrease in our social status as being a profound threat to our survival. And usually when people are scared of doing something, it's not because the thing is going to kill them. People are usually not, oh man, I've been thinking of skydiving for seven years and I've not done it because I'm scared of dying. It's usually not that. It's usually, man, I've been thinking of writing a book for seven years, but I've been a bit afraid to start because what will people think of me? What if I fail? What if I fail? What if it doesn't work? What if I never get a deal? What if I don't manage to do it? What if I judge myself? There's a lot of this, this sort of stuff. It's usually not survival. It's usually threats to our social status or our standing with people, with other people and stuff. And it's because the brain is designed to do this, it's designed to protect us from these threats. That's why it's so easy to let fear get in the way of us living our best life. You know, I wanted to start a blog for like six years, 2010 to 2016. I was like, you know what? I want to start a personal blog. I was reading people's personal blogs. This was in the era of blogging, for Mark Manson stuff in 2010, back in the day, before he went back when it was postmasculine.net, it was about how to be a man and how to get girls and stuff. I was like, damn, personal blogs are really, I want to start a personal blog. I was like, no, I can't do that. Who am I to start a personal blog? Who am I to have my domain, alliumthel.com? I bought the domain, I just kept it inactive for six years, because I was afraid. I was afraid, will people think less of me if I have the arrogance to think that me, a 15-year-old kid, has the right to start a personal blog? And then I read Austin Kleon's amazing book, Show youw Work. That book, that one book, 20 minutes long, it's so easy to read, helped me realize, I don't need to be so scared of this. I'm not like, you know, showing myself, I'm just showing my work.

What I'm learning in the process.

What I'm learning.

Yeah, that's cool. I'm not the expert.

I'm learning how to become better. Yeah, exactly. I'm the guide, not the guru. I'm like, Hey, I've just tried this thing out and here's what I learned along the way. So my first blog post was How I Overcame the Fear of Starting a Blog, where I talked about exactly this in 2016. Ah, really? And it took me six years to overcome that fear and it was just the right book at the right time that helped me realize No one gives a f***. Like, I was like, oh my God, all my friends and family are gonna think none of my friends and family even know that I have a personal blog. They just like, why would they know? Why would they care? And like, the only people that see it are like now people who know my stuff. And because I got over that fear of starting a website and a personal blog in 2016, that's what allowed me to start a YouTube channel in 2017. Wow.

'Cause I was like, man, if I.

Didn'T start that blog. Yeah, where would you be today? If I didn't start that blog, I would never have started the YouTube channel. I would have had a failing business trying to still running at the age of nearly 30, helping people get into med school, I'd have been trying to grind to get more leads for that because it's becoming more competitive. I'd be working as a doctor right now, freezing my bum off in a random doctor's office in the middle of nowhere in England because I would have been shipped off to some random location to do my specialty training.

What it took was getting over the fear of starting that blog, which led.

To the YouTube channel, which led to all of the good things in my life. What was the secret of you overcoming that fear of getting started? Ooh, great question. It was two things. It was firstly realizing that no one actually cares. Realizing that I think at the time I hadn't heard of this thing of the spotlight effect. We all walk around thinking that we have the spotlight trained on us and that anything that we do, people are scrutinizing and judging and shit. No one's thinking about you, no one's thinking about me. You know, people are busy with their own lives. So recognizing that was a big step. And the other thing was getting out of myself and recognizing that the point of my blog is to help someone else.

When.

We move from the self to service, you know, a lot of, I speak to so many, the average age of people in my YouTuber course is 36. We have a lot of people who are parents. They struggle so much to start to make their first YouTube video. They're making it about them.

They're making it about them.

But if you ask them, would you.

Do anything for your kids?

You ask, of course I do anything. Like, we're so much more likely to do things for other people than we are for ourselves. And so finding a way to shift the reason you're doing something, it's not about me, it's about helping someone else. So the thing I would tell myself and what Austin Kleon says in his book Show youw Work is, does this thing that you're thinking of sharing have the potential to help at least one person in any small way? If it's a photo of your coffee, probably not. Therefore, don't post it. But if it's a little small little write-up of like, Hey, I read Lewis Howes' book, the Greatness Mindset. Here are three things I've learned from it. That has the potential to help someone. Great. Make it about them. Don't make it about you. That's cool. And so every blog post that I wrote, I was like, it's not about me. I'm writing for someone else and I'm just trying to help them with something that I've learned recently. There's no ego involved, purely in the spirit of service.

Yes. And that attitude has served me so much in the last 10 years of YouTube as well. I think that's one of the reasons why I've been able to make it sustainable for me with the School of Greatness, because when I started it, I remember a lot of people telling me, oh, you should make, because I kind of had like a little, you know, personal brand in like online marketing and LinkedIn and webinars, and I was like the online marketing guy or whatever. one in a sea of many people, but I had my own lane. And when I was thinking about doing the podcast and I was calling a few different friends, they're like, why don't you just make it like your name, you know? And I go, I could, but I don't want to make it about me. I want to make it about others. And that's what I made. It was like the School of Greatness with Lewis Howes.

Yeah.

'Cause I want to be on the journey of learning from other smart people.

Yeah.

Like yourself and like learning these lessons. And that has allowed me to take a lot of pressure off me. It's, I don't have to be as serious of like, everything needs to be perfect. Although I want things to be perfect and great, it's allowed me to kind of let go of that pressure. And it's made me to think about like, if I can help one person from this conversation, then it's worth it. When I think about those things, it's not about me, it's about serving, learning from others, and serving others who are listening. And that has allowed me to be consistent, I think, one of the things that has allowed me. But I think going from self to services is a key message a lot of people need to step into because fear holds so many people back on taking action. Mark Manson actually created a video recently called the Spotlight Effect. It's of him walking in a chicken suit. Like he has a full chicken suit on and he's walking down in Santa Monica where you're staying. He's walking down the boardwalk where everyone's kind of going by on bikes and roller blades or whatever walking around and he's walking by them shooting the video saying, there's this concept called the Spotlight Effect. And he's put himself in this chicken suit. He's wearing a chicken hat. He's got a whole chicken thing on and he's talking about it. And he goes, to be honest, most people don't care. Like, I'm walking down the street right now in a chicken suit and most people aren't watching me. And they had another camera showing the reactions of people walking by or riding by. And maybe he can get like a glance of someone be like, huh, what is this guy doing with a camera in a chicken suit? And then he would make a point of like, okay, even if they are looking for a second, They're turning around and they're going towards their destination, and they're probably not going to remember this. They're not going to sit there and point a finger and laugh at you all day and all year long. Even if it's for a moment of humiliation, they're on thinking about their own lives. So let it go. Keep focusing on your own thing was kind of the premise of it, which I thought was interesting. Okay, so you're talking about getting clarity would be the first one. Learning to overcome fear would be one other way to overcome procrastination in your mind?

One of the way is just getting over that hurdle of inertia. And my favorite thing for this is, this is the five-minute rule. Just convince yourself you're only going to do the thing for five minutes. So back when I had an actual desk, I would have a five-minute hourglass on my desk at all times. And when I found myself procrastinating from something, I think, you know what? I'll just turn the hourglass over and just do it for five minutes. and usually I forgot that I even had an hourglass because the time would just go and I'd be doing the thing. Sometimes I'd be like, okay, I'm really not feeling it. And then I would give myself permission.

To just not do it. Yeah, I can do it.

Yeah, I did five minutes.

I'm done.

Yeah, five minutes is a win. That's good. It's like finding the win in as easy a way as possible. But like 85% of the time, probably, I would just continue doing the thing. And I found the five minute rule to be really good in beating procrastination. This is also why I This is kind of random, but I like finding songs that are exactly five minutes. Bohemian Rhapsody is a song that is basically exactly five minutes. So you can even put on Bohemian Rhapsody and you can be like, for the duration of this song, I'm gonna do this thing. I often think in terms of song length, like, you know, most songs are like three, three minutes, three and a half minutes. Sometimes I'll tell myself, you know what? My room's a bit of a mess right now, my desk is a bit right now. I'm just gonna give myself a song and in that song, I'm gonna clean up as much as I can. And I would put on my favorite, like, Rule the World by Take that, or like, the Greatest Day, or like, something by One Republic that's upbeat and uplifting. As soon as the song's over, I'm done. But you can make so much progress.

With tidying your desk in three minutes. So much. And it becomes a game, it becomes.

Fun, it becomes less of a chore. And you might also feel like, okay, I'm halfway done, let me finish this.

Yeah, exactly. Let me keep going. I would go on to the next song, Spotify autoplay. It knows the vibe that you're going for with one song and moves on to the next one. Yeah. One of the things I really respect about you is that you've read a ton of books in the last 15, 20 years. And I think you have like a photographic memory. You memorize like almost all the key insights from every book you've ever read, I think, is what I- oh, is that something like that?

I wish I had a photographic memory.

But- But you remember, you have a great memory. And you remember a lot of things. Like you could recall like three things from probably most books you've read.

Yeah, it's also because I make videos about them. I think this is the thing. When, like, in 2016, when I started my blog, I was like, Huh, I read a lot of these books and I remember all from what I've read. So why don't I just make these little articles where I write some lessons.

That I've learned from the things?

That helps you remember them. Helps me remember, yeah. It means that I'm thinking, the greatness mindset, what was the lesson? What was the lesson? It was GPA, meaningful mission, the three Ps. That was that thing that you said. Oh, what was it? It was, that was a really good Seth Godin quote. I'm like, oh, I need to go back and find this Seth Godin quote. I think it was about the process and doing the thing for 7,500 times or something like that. that was some good. And then there were the five Ps, priority, I can't remember the five P, okay, I need to go back and look at that. It's like as I'm reminding myself of these things, because I'm making a video about the book or writing a newsletter about the book or whatever, sharing something makes you way more likely to learn it yourself. And so even if it's just sharing it on Facebook or sharing it on Instagram, one of the things I'm very bullish on is just people sharing the.

Things they've learned purely selfishly because it helps you remember it yourself. Right, yeah, of course, that's cool. So sharing these things. You have a video that a lot of people loved, which is about what really makes people successful. I'm curious from all the studies, all the research, the interviews you've done, the videos you've made, the books you've read, your own personal experience, what do you think really makes people successful?

My answer to this has actually changed over time. My answer to this now, like, When I started this process of doing these videos and stuff, I wouldn't have had a good answer for this. I would have said, oh, success is all very personal and who's to say that money success is actual success and things like that. And I don't know, someone just doing what they want maybe is what makes them successful. And my answer is still that, but it's a bit more refined. The thing that makes people successful is knowing what they want and actually just working towards it. knowing what they want and working towards it and adjusting course along the way. And it's just that thing of like GPS and goal plan system. If you have a goal, you have a plan, you have a system to follow the plan, and you just change the plan if it's not working, you're going to be successful. And this is not successful in terms of like you have to make all this money or you have to whatever, get a six-pack abs. It's success in terms of whatever you want it to be. That's why the subtitle of the book is How to do more of what matters to you. To me, success is knowing what matters to you and then just doing the thing.

Doing more of it.

Doing more of it. Doing more of it or like working towards it. And there's a thing I think Huberman's been talking about this recently. It's not the pursuit of happiness, it's the happiness of pursuit. When you're pursuing something that you actually enjoy and that's meaningful to you, that's literally the pinnacle of life. I know people, I'm sure you know people who've sold companies for hundreds of millions of dollars. They're miserable once they sell the company. They were happier working towards the goal. and they all start new companies because they're like, either they start companies or they start podcasts. That's their thing. Or they write self-help books. Yeah. Yeah. Because it's like, they need some new Pursuit. They need some new Pursuit. The Pursuit is what creates happiness.

The Pursuit is what creates that feeling of.

I'm.

I'm a feeling of success. Yeah. It's interesting because, you know, before I used to be a type of guy that always wanted to achieve my goals, and I achieved a lot of them, you know, from Sports to business to. whatever it might be, different milestones that I had for my teens and 20s and early 30s, and I would accomplish a lot of them. And I realized that wasn't the thing that made me feel peaceful and fulfilled. Accomplishing it was fun, it was cool, but it wasn't like, now I feel better about myself. It increased some confidence, but it also made me realize, oh, I still have sadness and pain and suffering inside. So this isn't the answer. to being peaceful and joyful and fulfilled and happy. And I started to, and as I started to go on my healing journey and really kind of like dissecting the past and creating different stories about my past and finding meaning from the past and having harmony around it, I started to set different goals and actually realized it doesn't matter if I accomplish this goal. What matters is what I do every day on the pursuit in the path. Like did I show up doing what I said I was going to do for myself and for others. Was I consistent in my ways of being? Did I respond well, you know, majority of the times? I'm not a perfect human being, but did I respond well in situations that were frustrating or triggering? Did I care about other peoples? Did I want other people to succeed? And did I do my best to empower them and give them tools and trainings to succeed? Did I show up with good attitude, good energy, you know, majority of the time? Did I Did I make it about others and not about me? All these different things. And if I accomplish the goal, cool. But if I don't accomplish the goal, can I still be proud of who I was and how I showed up every single day? And that makes me feel good. Now, part of my ego wants to say, ah, but if you don't accomplish the goal, you're a loser. Part of me wants to think that. And that's part of the reason why I've created such big goals, because I'm like, It might take me 10 years. I don't know. But what I can create in the path and who I become in that path is going to be so much greater than the actual accomplishment. And I think we start thinking that way about who we're becoming and how we're showing up and how we're being on a day-to-day basis. We'll be a lot happier with who we are. So that's what I think about. Like, I want to accomplish all my goals. I want to hit my financial numbers. I want our team to grow. I want, you know, all these things, I want to be healthy, but it's also like, if it doesn't happen, you know, what can I control and how can I just be consistent with that every day?

Yeah, I think people think that success makes you feel good, but it's actually that feeling good makes you successful.

Absolutely.

You can feel good every day of the thing. And like, crucially, like, I think, again, this is where we're going.

Because there's no point in being super successful, rich and famous if you don't feel good.

Yeah. Like, what's the point?

What is the point of working that hard to get those things if you still don't feel good about you?

Yeah.

But feeling good will just make you successful in terms of it doesn't matter if you have those things or not because you feel good about you.

Yeah. 100%.

And people, you usually will attract good people around you.

Yeah. And you're also more likely to then be productive and creative and less stressed. Let's feel good productive.

And more financially successful, whatever it is.

Like all the good things happen when you can just focus on the process and focus on enjoying it.

Yes.

And, you know, it's useful to have an idea of what you want. Like, you know, as you said, you have these goals. But the way I think of goals is it's not about the goal. The point of the goal is to set your direction. So it's like, I'm not fixated on the destination, but at least I know what direction I'm heading in. Because otherwise, you know, we all have so many options. Anyone listening to this has a ton of options in their life, even if you feel like you don't have any options right now. Compared to someone who's not able to listen to this podcast, you have a ton of options objectively. Yes. But a lot of uncertainty and anxiety comes from this thing of like, I could go in this direction or that direction or this direction or that direction. But one of the best pieces of advice I got in medical school was from one of the senior colleagues who I really looked up to. And he said that this was around the time, I think it was four years in out of the six year course. And around that time, people start asking you, what do you want to specialize in? What specialty do you want to go for? And you don't need to decide until like six years later, but people kept asking. And this guy asked me, Dr. Adcock, Chris. So Chris asked me, what special do you want to go into? And I was like, oh, I'm not sure. Like, you know, I've got some time to decide. And he was like, okay, but one piece of advice is that it's much easier to steer a moving ship than a stationary ship. So what he said was, I'd recommend.

You just pick a specialty and start.

Working towards it, and you can always change your mind. If you don't like it, then you can steer it in a different direction. And I was like, huh, okay, Chris, sure, I'll do that. So I picked plastic surgery. and I just started working towards it. And tons of good s*** started happening in my life when I started working towards that. Now I got connected with these cool plastic surgeons. I became the web designer for this really cool charity that does reconstructive surgery in developing countries. I joined these hackathons where my skills with computer programming combined with this plastic surgery stuff, I made friends along the way and ultimately realized, actually, now I've met a lot of plastic surgeons. Don't think it's a life for me, but what I really like is I love the emergency side of things. I mean, maybe I want to go into anesthesiology, anesthetics, as we call it. and it's like moving in that direction allowed me to steer the ship. And I think that's the point of goals. The point of goals is that it just gives you a direction to head in and it gives you a path. And you can ask yourself, is this the right path? Am I on the path towards the goal? And do I want to be on the path towards the goal? And either which way, it's okay. If you're not on the path to the goal and you want to be, it's like cool, you changed something. Yes. If you are on the path and you realize the goal is not what you want, you change the goal. Absolutely. But either way, you're making progress, you're moving. Mm-. And it's kind of weird. It's like, I have all the freedom in the world now. I can literally do whatever I want. I could not work a day in my life if I didn't want to and just live on a beach in Bali. But when I've been, when I've taken an extended break, it's kind of weird. When I've taken an extended break from not making YouTube videos, there's part of me that feels unfulfilled. Why? Because right now my meaningful mission is to be able to learn, synthesize, share and teach. I love that. And to me, right now, that's in the format of YouTube videos, in the format of the book, in the format of the podcast. But the main thing is YouTube videos. That's the practice. That's the thing that I show up and I do every week. where if I read something, I'll figure out a way to share it. If I blend something, I'll figure out a way to share it. If someone's asked a question, I'm like, I actually have a take on goal setting. I'd find a way to share it in video. And I don't have to make a video every week. But there's something like when I'm, it's like working out. When you're showing up to the gym regularly, you just feel better about yourself. There's something about it of like, you're acting in a way that's consistent with your meaningful mission, with your identity, with who you want to be. Freedom ain't all that it's cracked up to be. Right. The point of freedom is to be able to do things that matter to you. And so you realize, I should just do the things that matter to me. I just feel way better about life.

As opposed to just having endless options.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Options are not that fun. Yeah, they're fun for a bit.

Yeah. Down meaningful after a while.

Yeah.

And feel good productivity. How to do more of what matters to you. Make sure you guys get a copy of this book. When you dropped the video of announcing it, I pre-ordered it right away. And there's so much wisdom in here, so much great information that people can use on how to be more productive, feel more productive, and have more fun doing it. And that's really the key. I don't think it's about like grinding and working so hard and hustling to where you feel exhausted, drained, and burnt out. That's not what people want. They want to feel productive. They want to feel like they're maximizing time and that they're enjoying their time while doing it.

Exactly.

So that's what Feel Good Productivity teaches you. and shows you how to do by Ali Abdaal, the world's most followed productivity expert. So make sure you guys check out a copy of this book. I would say get a couple of copies for your friends, family members, people that maybe feel stressed out and overwhelmed right now. Give them this so they have some tools and frameworks on how to apply their time differently to their life and their work and feel good about it. What else do we need to know about Burnout, productivity, hustle culture, making money online, what else is on your heart and mind right now that you feel like if people knew this one thing, if they truly knew this one thing, their life would be better, more meaningful, and they would feel abundant versus overwhelmed and stressed?

I would say when it comes to making money, if you can get to a point, and this is accessible to literally anyone, if you can get to a point where the money you're making on the side covers your expenses. That unlocks a ridiculous amount of freedom for you. It gives you the freedom to quit your job if you want. It gives you the freedom to cut down your hours on your job if you want. A lot of people enjoy their jobs, but maybe you don't enjoy it for 60 hours a week. Maybe you'd enjoy it for 20 hours a week. Gives you the option to go part-time, gives you the option to go freelance, gives you many, many, many options. Getting to the point where the money you make on the side covers your expenses. I think that should be a goal for everyone in life. because it just changes your life. It gives you so much freedom. It means you're more antifragile. It means that if a pandemic strikes and people are losing their jobs, you're not that concerned because you're making the money on the side. It teaches you so many skills because to become the sort of person who makes two or three K on the side requires you to have so many to develop so many skills that are going to change your life and they're going to make you more valuable to employers in the future if that's what you care about. They'll give you more self-esteem because now you've learned all these new skills and literally anyone can do it with the power of the internet and the power is reading a couple of books. that is incredible. Beyond that point, beyond the point where you're making enough money to buy your freedom, I would say don't fixate so much on the money. You know, you and I are rich, objectively. We also know people who are way richer than us. Yes. It doesn't really buy more happiness beyond the freedom that it buys initially. Maybe you get a slightly nicer house in a slightly nicer area of LA for an extra 5 million or whatever the thing might be. But I think beyond the point if I had my time again, I'd be doing whatever I could to get to Noah Kagan calls it the freedom. Oh, you're about to interview him. He calls it the freedom number. Get to the point where you're making enough money to feel free. At that point, stop worrying so much about the money and focus on doing a process consistently that provides value to others that you enjoy and you can.

Find a way to enjoy because then.

The money will take care of itself. Yes. But that first hurdle, that freedom number that Noah talks about, that's so important. It will change your life.

Yeah.

Have enough money coming in on the side to pay your expenses. I love this. And it seems out of touch with some people. People can be like, oh, you don't know my circumstances. Okay, fine. I don't know your circumstances. I know plenty of people who have been from terrible circumstances who have managed to find that and finally make it happen. There's no shortage of stories on the internet and podcasts and books of people who have done it. If someone else can do it, you can as well. There's always a way if you decide it's a priority for you. If you don't, that's okay. But personally, you and I can attest to it.

It's so nice having enough money to not worry about paying the bills.

It's really nice. It's so nice to be able to do what you love rather than drive trucks for six hours or for six years. Or be a doctor in the way that you want.

Sure. Yeah, not that being a doctor, if that's meaningful for you, then that's a great life. Driving a truck is meaningful for you, that's a great life. It wasn't the path that I felt called to do at that time. Same with you. It was originally, but then the path shifted. Yeah, and that's okay. And that's okay too. and also, again, we both know a lot of people who have way more money than us who are way more stressed out, overwhelmed, exhausted, unhealthy, have horrible relationships.

Yeah.

And so it is nice to have more money than I did before. You know, it's nice to have money where I can pay for my own things, as opposed to my sister, you know, sleeping on my sister's couch for a year and a half for free and living at my brother's place for 250 a month for six months. and feeling like I couldn't take care of myself. So it is nice to be able to provide for self and others in different ways. But it doesn't mean there aren't other challenges and complications that you have to learn how to overcome with money. So we've both seen that as well. This is powerful, man. I want people to get the book, Feel Good Productivity. Make sure you guys get a couple of copies. I asked you this question before two and a half years ago, but I'm gonna ask you again. Your three truths. So hypothetical question. Imagine you get to live as long as you wanna live, but it's your last day. You've extended your life as long as you could go physically, but you gotta turn the lights off and you're out of this physical world. And you get to create everything you want for your life. All your dreams come true, you feel good every day, you do meaningful work, you have beautiful life, relationships, everything you want happens. But for whatever reason, you have to take all of your work with you. All your content, book, video, everything you make from here on out has to go with you to another place. No one has access to it anymore. But you get to leave behind three lessons. Everything you've learned from your existence, what I call three truths. What would be those three truths that you would want people to have access to?

Okay, the first one would be success comes to those who figure out where they want to go and keep moving in that direction. Number two would be On the route to success, remember to take care of your health and relationships because they matter far more than your work. And number three would be, and whatever you do, remember to enjoy the journey along the way.

I love those. I feel like there's been a big shift in you over the last few years, you know, and you're, I think a lot of people might look at you and see this analytical, really intelligent, productive master. But I've noticed getting to know you, you tap into emotions and feelings and reflecting on these things. And I think it's really beautiful to see that transition of kind of blending both, like the analytical mind and the genius in you that's creative and productive and launching and building with someone who's also reflecting and taking time to go to a retreat or, you know, Journal and really, you know, our therapy or coaching or whatever it might be, and start reflecting inward as well, as opposed to just thinking of, like, how can I be as hyper productive as possible? So I want to acknowledge you, Ali, for the journey you've been on since I've gotten to know you in the last couple of years, for tapping into your, your heart, your emotions, not letting them consume or control you, but allowing you to feel and experience the beauty and the wonder and the awe of life as well, as well as being, you know, productive and creative and, and building what you're building. So I really acknowledge you for the journey, man. It's fun to watch you evolve, and I acknowledge you for everything that's happening in your life and all the beautiful things behind the scenes that I'll keep private between us that I know are happening as well, man. So I want to acknowledge you for that. And again, I want people to get the book, feel good productivity. Final question for Yali is what is your definition of greatness?

I think for me, the definition of greatness is working towards what truly matters to you and having fun along the way.

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