From First-Round Pick to Prison to Purpose

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Welcome back to another episode, and today I'm going to talk about one of my former clients. His name is JJ Davis. He was a big leaguer, played in the big leagues, uh, drafted 8th overall by the Pittsburgh Pirates. He was one of the top young players coming out of the draft. People talked about him around the country and talk about an athletic build. When I first met JJ, I couldn't believe it. I thought he was a basketball player. He was 6'8" and he was like built like a 6'8" built like a hockey player. I said, oh my gosh, look at the size of this guy. And I was introduced to him by a really good friend. One of my closest friends was the assistant GM of a Major League Baseball team in the big leagues. And he said, I really want you to work with this guy. And I did. I worked with him in the summer and it was great. He worked his butt off. He trained. He did everything he had to do. And he ended up playing games for the Washington Nationals. But from, if you look at it from the external side, from the outside, it looks like, wow, this guy's doing great. But JJ openly will tell you that it really, How it always appears isn't always how it is. And JJ openly would tell you that he was dealing with drugs, he was dealing with alcohol, bad attitude, you know, partying, staying out late. And eventually cost him his baseball career. Like everything he had, it was thrown away. And after, you know, getting involved with some bad people. Then he went in a different direction and ended up going to federal prison for drug trafficking. And he was sentenced, you know, in prison. Like, it was something like— when I heard about that, my stomach turned. I couldn't believe it. And for a lot of people, that would have been it. They would have given up. But not JJ. JJ ended up turning his life around, and he said, I'm gonna learn from these mistakes, and I'm ready to I'm ready to do different things. I'm ready to bring some good into the world. And when I talked to JJ, I met with JJ, we met about a year ago and we were talking about, you know, his career and what he's doing in his life. And he was just a different JJ. He was so focused. He was always such an amazing individual, an amazing person. You know, yes, he got himself into trouble and he had to pay for that, but He told me a few things at that time that I want to share with some of you. And I asked JJ, I sent him a message, a text. I said, JJ, I really want to share your story, but I do want some things that I could share with others and how, you know, what you learned about yourself and how we could pass on to others. And can you do that? And he said, you know, the number one thing was God. His faith became the foundation of everything that he followed. And so he took that as number one. He says that's the number one thing that he took upon himself is to become more spiritual, to have more faith in God. And I said, you know, that this is the path that he took. The number two thing was that, you know, he says prison forced him to reflect and take an honest look at his life. Like when he had a lot of time to think in prison, like, okay, what am I gonna do with myself? Like, who am I? And he ended up making those changes on his own. He really did. He really wanted to change for himself. He wanted to be a better person in society. And then he met his wife, which to me, his eyes lit up when he was talking about his wife and the support that his wife gave him through this entire process. And for him, it was something that he fought for. Like he says, I'm gonna fight now. Somebody's fighting for me. They want me to succeed so bad. And for him, it was— it inspired him, you know, to keep moving forward. And just some of these other things he shared, just a handful of things with me. Failure was important, you know, instead of running from it, he learned from it. So you see somebody that's, uh, that has all the potential in the world, and, you know, it ended up backfiring and he looked at himself, you know, as a failure. But he said, I'm gonna take the time, I'm gonna learn from this. Okay, what can I do differently? What can I do in my life? And he really took those steps. He told me a few other things, like one of the biggest things for him was family is everything. He realized that, you know, you'll meet so many people in your life and this is true about professional sports. You will learn, especially being a professional athlete and you play at the highest level, that your phone is ringing, people want to be around you, they're calling for tickets. And it's so interesting, you know who your real friends are when it's all over. That's the one thing I learned. I mean, I have friends coming to see me in Chicago, Montreal, Toronto, and sometimes tickets aren't always free. You know, we get 2 tickets to every game, but I'd have my family there sometimes, and other times I want to treat my friends to tickets. And we're talking $150, you know, $150, $200 a ticket. You go to Madison Square Garden, and then you lose touch of your friends after. And JJ told me the same thing. He said he had all these great people around him. Everybody wanted to be around him, but when he was done, those people weren't there anymore. And I said to him, I said, you know, JJ, You don't need 100 friends. You need one. One good friend. I tell the same thing to my kids. Sometimes we need just good people around us. Sometimes it's 4 friends, sometimes it's 5, but you need just good people in your life. And to him, he realized that. And from there he said, "You know, Mike, I need a purpose. I need a purpose." So he found a reason to get up every day and just become a better man, become a better person inside. He found that purpose. We talk about that a lot in coaching, like we talked about before, like, okay, what is your purpose? What do you want out of it? Well, sure, when he was younger, he was a big league ballplayer. He wanted to play in the major leagues. But now, life after sports, it completely changed. And to me, I respected that so much because J.J. doesn't hide behind a mask. He's going to come up front and tell you, you know, his mistakes. His failures, his setbacks, things that he regrets. The only thing he's doing is moving forward. And he told me that, you know, one thing too is that he wanted to be around positive people that influence him in his life, like mentors and people that are on his path. And he doesn't have time for people that are really not in his corner, like, or people that maybe are just bad people. Bad energy. He could read it. And when we were talking, I remember he did say something. You learn quick in prison, you know, you can read people very well, especially out in the real world. Like, he could read people extremely well. Or, you know, do I really want to be around this person? Not judging everybody, but making sure that person has that energy that you want to be around. And he really taught himself that Okay, I wasn't, as an athlete, I wasn't the most structured ballplayer. I wasn't. But I need structure and discipline and daily habits every day in my life. And we share this with our athletes. We share this with people in corporate America. JJ started incorporating some really good habits. He's training. He's taking care of himself. He's walking a lot. He's journaling. And he really took the time to work on himself. So when you talk about self-help, what is that? It's helping yourself. How can you get better? So JJ really took that in. We always talk about the importance of having good habits, and that's one thing that JJ took, you know, that's one thing he takes pride in doing. Another thing he told me is health and wellness, taking care of the mind and body. And we say this a lot, that the mind and body are one. When one is off, if your body is off, your mind's gonna be off. If you're, you know, if you feel okay but your body doesn't, there's always, it's a balance. So we always say the mind and body are one. And if, you know, looking back, you know, eliminating these things from his life took a lot of work. It took a lot of time. Even a lot harder than trying to be a Major League ballplayer. He really took the time into becoming a better person. So I'm really proud of J.J. I've worked with him, you know, for an entire— he had the winter off and before he went to spring training, we worked together and I was worried about him back then. I'm not going to deny that. I know he liked to party and do things. But maybe sometimes we need direction. So if you know anybody like in your life and if you see somebody that even has so much great potential, talent alone isn't gonna get you there. You need the entire package. And I'm proud of JJ. I'm proud of what he's doing now in his life. And he's so positive. He doesn't wanna talk about too much what happened before, but again, he's not hiding behind it. He'll share with you his mistakes, but the thing is that he says, you know, Mike, I'm always gonna start moving forward. And I told him, I said, JJ, you need to write a book. You need to write a book on this because, I mean, you could help so many out, and you've taken the challenge on, and you've taken this to a whole other level to just to be better in your life. And I hear a lot of people, it's interesting, like They tell me, yeah, I'm gonna change my habits. I'm gonna do this differently. I know I failed at things, but that didn't make me a failure. But I'm just gonna make sure I do better next time, and nothing ever happens. So the hardest part is starting. The hardest part to me is actually trying to, trying to get better, working on this. And this didn't happen overnight. This took JJ quite a few years, and he took one step at a time. And I'm so happy he has a great team behind him now. He's a He's got an amazing family and he's taken the steps of getting better. So we're going to be sharing many other stories. I thought it was important that I would share JJ's story with others. And JJ, I'm proud of you and just keep it going. You know, there's a lot of ups and downs and we know how life is. And the key is just to, to be as balanced as you can and just keep doing what you're doing.

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