Mentoring

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Welcome back to our little mini series again. And today we're going to talk about your self worth, respecting yourself, taking care of yourself, managing yourself before you manage others. I was a captain of minor league team the Hershey Bears and we, we won the Calder Cup. It was a very tough year for me. This isn't about Mike Hartman's story. You've heard enough about it. This is about you. But I learned though, that we had a lot of young players on the team. And I realized that at the end of my career, I think if I, you know, if I look back, all those bumps and bruises and I had stomach surgery, a lot of different injuries really held me back. So I had a little pity party for myself, all but a couple days. And I thought to myself, you know what? I'm the captain of these young players. I know my career isn't going anywhere. I have to take care of myself. I have to be a leader. I have to step up. I, I, I right, no, but not in this case. I was going in the wrong direction. So I learned, I said, you know what? I'm here, I'm living in Hershey, Pennsylvania. I was with the Colorado Avalanche. I knew my days were done. I knew I couldn't do what I wanted to do. Based off of I had very tough year with this, especially having stomach surgery and torn muscles. It's a, it's a terrible injury without getting into that. But I really understood my self worth and I realized at that time my self worth was to help other players. We had a lot of young players on that team. One of them was Wade Bilac. And unfortunately we lost him in, you know, a few years back. He was a tough guy with Colorado, played with Nashville, the Toronto Maple Leaf. Just a great guy. But I would talk with him, we'd go out and we would share stories about life, about things that, you know, how can we get better? He shared his story about living out west in western Canada and living on a farm. This guy was about 6 foot 5, great guy, but just learning about him and being able to help him and get through things was rewarding. And so the point is, you got to be very clear that you have to take care of yourself and not worry what anybody else says. You're going to have a lot of doubters out there. Those are the negative people in the world. There's a lot of noise. You want to eliminate that noise. Get rid of the noise. So in this little episode, I want you to write down how are you going to be able to manage yourself and take care of yourself before you manage others? Now, we use this in sports. We also have the business athlete, right? How can you take care of yourself? How are you going to be more authentic and real? Are you going to walk into your place of business and have a negative bad energy on your face, looking like you don't want to be there? Or are you going to take care of yourself and bring in good energy to where you are? That's going to help everybody else. My favorite story is Mike Foligno in sports. And Mike Foligno was a player who's one of the most authentic, real, down to earth people in his life. And just share this quick story with you. I was playing for the Buffalo Sabres. And it was not to get into details, but I was on the. We were roommates and sometimes we'd have these roommates where you have a roommate, but you have your own room. It's almost like a little suite. So you have your own. You meet in the middle. But. So I didn't know Mike was in the room and he was sitting, I believe, on the. On the couch. And I started to have a conversation with my mother. And I always respected my mom, but I remember I was being a little harsh. I think I couldn't even remember what the conversation's about. Maybe she wanted tickets in Detroit. I said, you know, Mom, I can only get so many tickets. And she wanted them maybe lower because my grandmother couldn't walk up steps. And so then what happens is I'm kind of raising my voice. We were in Boston, I'll never forget this. And Mike Foligno came out and he approached me, knocked on my door and says, who are you talking to? I said, I'm talking to my mom. Here I am, 19 years old, right? And mouth, you know, still immature. I don't care if you play in the NHL at 19, you're still young and immature. He says he picked up the phone, he goes, Mrs. Hartman, Mike's going to call you back. And he sat down. It had nothing to do with sports. He goes, listen, I lost my mother a young age, and your mother is your mom. You don't ever have a tone in your voice. When you talk to your mother and you don't ever do that in life, you have to understand that your mom is your mother and she's always going to be there for you. It really hit home. But that's called mentorship. That's called caring. Mike didn't have to do that. I wasn't screaming and yelling. I just had a little tone in my voice. And I'm not trying to downplay it, but he taught me something at a young age, that boy, I have to take care of myself before I even start managing others. And Mike was our captain. And that's leadership. That's doing it. You could apply the same method. And all Mike wanted to do was help me. He wasn't trying to prove a point. He was trying to help. I hope you could relate to the story. I want you to write down five things on how you're going to be clear. You're going to manage yourself before you start managing others or even mentoring others. Let's use the word mentoring. It's good to mentor. That's giving back. That's one thing that you could learn to do, is help others. How can you help somebody, even if they're taking your job as the business athlete, or even if you're a hockey player on a team and you're on the fourth line and you see somebody not doing something right on the first line, are you still going to go out of your way? You should. Mentoring is a skill. It's something that it's so important to share the knowledge and experience that you have and gained through the years, just like Mike did. He was older than me, a lot older than me. At that time. He might have been like 29, 30 years old. I was 19, so he passed that on to me so I could be better. It's all for the betterment of us. I hope you're getting this. This is very basic. Any questions? Ian, go to Hartman Academy. Go into the area at the top of the page. You will see the business athlete. You'll also see the athlete who's a regular athlete. And you can apply this to both. Like I said, we use this in sports and we use this with the business athlete. Any questions? Hartman Academy looking forward to helping you do these little exercises. Any questions? Use the app and you can ask us questions. We're here to help you.

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