Mindset Toolbox With S. Spector

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Welcome to the Mike Hartman Show. Mike is a performance coach and former Stanley cup champion with the New York Rangers. Topics on this show are focused around stories, mindset and champions. Mike will also go into details about helping you with your pain points and struggles and finding motivational solutions on how to have the mindset of a champion. Now, here's your host, Mike Hartman.

Welcome everybody. Today we are going to talk about mindset again. I have a special guest. Her name is Sherry Spector. So make sure that you get out your pen and piece of paper and if anybody wants to reach out to us go to hartman.academy no.com I would love to help you. We could have a Discovery call. We are now offering free yes free nutritional products for all kids ages 4 to 18 years old and if you want more information go to Hartman Academy. Leave me a message and one of our staff or I will be getting back to you. Enjoy the show.

Thank you Mike hello, my name is Sherry Spector. I've known Mike for many years and I'm honored that he's asked me to be on the Mike Hartman show today to talk about my point of view about mindset. I I am the creator of the Self Roadmap. I've been studying and teaching Nutrigenetics for over 30 years. I am not a nutritionist but I am a food expert. I teach tips, tricks and hacks so you never have to say the words I'm on a diet ever again. When it comes to mindset, I personally believe that you can accomplish anything in this world if you conquer your mindset and practice the ability to control your head trash and your inner voices. I have been developing my mindset skills for years. I'm very methodical so my mindset is based on having a plan in place. My father, who was also my inspiration and I looked up to, was phenomenally successful in the business world and an amazing overachiever but was never really in control of his mindset. On a daily basis he would let frustration, anger and an insurmountable amount of stress defeat him, but in true fashion he would ultimately pick himself up refocus to get the job done. He was a fixture of problems. Sadly he passed this method of dealing with stress down to all three of his children. We are all over achievers, very accomplished in our careers and we all have very self critical points of views about ourselves. Much of my personal head trash and self talk comes from people who try to tear me down all the time. The bullies growing up, unprofessional co workers and bosses, my competition, and the judgment and gossip within my immediate and extended family, including how I personally thought other people perceived me. All of this information can be incredibly overwhelming and can literally stop people from living the life they're meant to live. Over the years I developed a plan to pick myself up and keep me on track to achieve the goals I set out to accomplish in both my personal personal and my business life. I've had many friends, family and co workers who know me at my best and also know me at my worst tell me that they never met anyone who could rebound faster than I could. Sometimes in minutes, sometimes in days. I'm a planner and a very methodical person with the ability to flow and adjust as life events happen. I found that having a plan of action in place really helped me assess the situation and move on. Much easier than dwelling and living in a negative space. I will never suffer physically or emotionally like my parents, right, because the next generation is supposed to better themselves from the previous generation. So I made my mess my mindset mission. Much of my parents bad health could have been avoided if they had better mindset and a plan of action in place. Chronic disease is not always about the food you eat. Uncontrollable stress has such a negative impact on your entire body and quality of life overall. Many of the decisions you make are impacted by your emotions, stress, relationships, family, your job, and more importantly, your inner voice and self talk. Mindset is the strongest skill set you can develop. It teaches you that you can only control what you actually have control over during the day, in your surroundings and in your life. So if you can't control it, learn to accept it and adjust what you do have control over. It's something I personally practice every day. Because you can't control what bullies or co workers or family say about you or what they do. You can only control how you choose to accept the information and what to do with this information. Do you address it or just let it go? You have choices. There are two parts to the mindset Toolbox plan. I'm sure most of you are already familiar with this process, but have never followed through on it. The first part is a personal plan of action you follow. The second is a plan of action for the people you trust around you to follow. The first part is your mindset action plan. I believe there are six basic rules that can be followed and practiced every day to help your life run just a little bit smoother. Feel free to add more if it's helpful. This is all about you. Write down the answers because science has proven that you're five times more likely to achieve your goals when they're in writing. So let's begin. 1. You must put yourself first. The only way to serve your family, your community and others is to help yourself first. How are you going to put yourself first? 2. Learn to say the word no. It's so very empowering. It relieves stress and will give you more time in your day to do things that matter to you. You don't have to be everywhere or do everything for everyone. Use that extra time for you because you deserve it. How are you going to learn to say the word no? 3. Learn to accept the word no. It doesn't need to be so stressful. No can mean many things. It can mean not now. It can mean I don't understand, please explain. Or it's just simply a no and move on to something else. What situations have you experienced? The word no and how could you have handled it better? 4. Make mistakes. I still struggle with this. Why I am a perfectionist. I admit it. It's why I have to practice my mindset plan every day. But mistakes are good. It's okay. Just take a breath. No one's perfect. And it's an opportunity to learn how to improve a process and grow as a person. So how do you handle making mistakes and what can you do differently? 5. Have a positive mantra or saying and repeat it at least three times a day minimum. Say it when you wake up and say it during the day as needed before an important phone call meeting. Before you pick up the kids. You'll know when to say it. It's whenever you need to hear those words out loud. Mine is Watch me make it happen and the last rule 6. Before you go to sleep, say or write down three things you were grateful for that day. This shows that you were present in your day and you can't use I'm still alive because that's cheating. Simply choose three wins that day, something good that happened or something you enjoyed. If this is a new process for you, it can take a while to make a habit. And that's okay. So your next step after you create your mindset plan for your toolbox, you're going to create an action plan for the people around you. After you do this, you decide who and when to share this plan with. Because in some cases it can be very personal. You want the people you care about and who care about you to have this plan in hand. Why you're providing a mindset plan with a set of instructions for when you feel overwhelmed, frustrated and your mindset is out of sync. You're telling these few people you trust how to communicate with you during your challenging moments. So what's the action plan? There are seven questions, but please add more and make it your own unique plan. 1. Your personal information. Your name, address, phone numbers, maybe your doctors or medications. It's completely up to you. This might be common sense, but under duress, it makes it easy to find for the people that can help you. 2. This is what I look like when I am inspired and on track. If you have a hard time answering this question, ask the people who know you best. Sometimes it's easier seeing yourself from the outside in. 3. These are things that support my mindset. You're telling people how to treat you when they see you struggle. You might want to be left alone for a while. You want to go out with friends and have fun, have a glass of wine, talk it out without needing a response because you're just purging to get it all out. 4. This is what inspires me, is important to me and reminds me of my value and my values. This could be stories, situation wins. You've experienced influential people in your life or people you look up to.5. These are things I need to avoid and stay away from to maintain my mindset. People, places. Maybe the news is a big one lately. 6. This is what I need to do for myself every day to maintain my positive mindset. And 7. This is what I need to do less of every day to maintain my mindset. Now I realize I analyze everything because I'm a perfectionist. So this process really made me take a hard look at myself, how I live my life, who I wanted to be around and whose advice I really valued because they gave me strength. And I challenge you to get a pen and paper and create your own mindset toolbox. When you have a plan in place to delete the head, trash and negative talk, it doesn't seem so overwhelming to lift that wet, hairy, heavy blanket off your shoulders and get back on track quickly. But it does take practice. Life is fluid and always changing and so should your plan evolve and change as needed. Remember, you are in control. So I'm honored to be here today with you and I thank Mike for his gracious invitation and you for gifting me with your valuable time. If you have any questions, input or would like to request a copy of the Mindset Toolbox questions I provided today, please contact me on my Facebook page, thesherryspector or@contactharispector.com and I'll email them to you. Thank you so much and have an awesome day.

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