Positive Self Image

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Welcome back to another episode. My name is Mike Hartman, the founder of Hartman Academy and the book the Healthy Mindset. It's a workbook for athletes and the workplace athlete. And today I'm going to just give you some tips that you could take with you. A lot of this is from our Healthy Mindset book and these are some nuggets that you could take with you that, that I believe that will help you in your everyday life. We talk about developing a positive self image of yourself and that's important. You have to believe in yourself. If you don't believe in yourself, nobody will. So I'm going to give you a few tips to start with and the first thing I'm going to say is talk to yourself in a positive way. Say good things about yourself to yourself. If you sit there and say, boy, I, I'm crappy, I'm not good at what I do, that's how you're going to perform. Whether as an athlete or even in your workplace, athlete life, we call it, it's important for your self image to feel good about who you are. Nobody's perfect, so work on yourself. I watch people do it all the time. I see people talking to themselves and it's okay. But positive self talk goes a long way. The next thing I want to talk about is focusing on what you've accomplished. Don't compare yourself to others. Be proud of what you have done. It's fairly easy to say, oh boy, look what they have, or boy, I wish I was in that situation. You could use it as motivation, but be proud of what you're doing. I talked to one athlete, he says, yeah, I only got in for a couple at bats. Well, that's fine, that's good. Let's look at what you've accomplished again. We're all unique and we're all different. The next thing I want to say is be accepting of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. I've mentioned it a couple times in the last couple minutes, but you're not perfect. You're never going to be. Work with what you have and as long as you give 100% of what you're doing, you will be fine. I use this line a lot. I do this purposely that people retain what I'm saying. But sometimes you only feel like 60%, but you still have to give. You still have to give. I want you to think about this 100% of that 60% you have, because that's all you have that day. The next thing is setting realistic goals. I said this many times. You can go back and listen to our podcast and we talk about, like, measurable goals. Some people believe in setting their goals sky high. I don't necessarily believe that. Now it's okay to have that vision, dream, and the goal sky high. That's something to shoot for. But initially we shoot for these little measurable goals that are something that's attainable. So for me, it's. Setting realistic goals is key to your everyday success. Work on your self image every day because it's important, loving who you are. I've said it a few different times. It may sound redundant. Maybe it is, but. But it's important that you do. You gotta continuously work on yourself. An athlete has to continuously work on their game. Repetition is sometimes your best friend. So work at it. The other thing I say is you surround yourself with positive people. If you're around someone that's gonna bring you down all the time or somebody that's gonna make sure they make you feel bad, well, those aren't the people I want to surround myself with. You know, sometimes I know we don't have a choice. It could be family members. I don't want to get in the middle of that. But I've been there before, so I completely understand that it's important. I've heard it before from many people that sometimes it could be like a best friend that could say some damaging things. But surround yourself around positive people, that rubs off. I learned that in leadership from Mark Messier. I've mentioned his name a number of times. Everything he did was positive. Always left things positive. So many great stories around that we could talk about that forever. Avoid comparisons. I mentioned that earlier too. Avoid comparing yourself to others. It's easy to do. Be proud of what you've accomplished and keep working to get better and forgive yourself for mistakes that you've made. You know, sometimes we've made these little mistakes within our life and it's okay. We're human. Just don't make that same mistake twice. And I also tell people, watch what you say, because sometimes words can never be taken back. Focus on your journey and not the destination. Focus on getting there. You know, you focus on. It's a journey Everybody's journey is different. I was just talking to a very successful business person, CEO of a major company, and he even shared with me, he said, listen, my journey was not an easy one and it's amazing hearing it from somebody that's made it to the top of a billion dollar company. Everybody's journey is different. An athlete's journey is different. Some people are high draft picks and they make it, or some people are high draft picks and they don't make it. Some people never get drafted. And we've done episodes on these. A lot of this is around the same thing, but again, we try to keep it as simple as possible. Practice gratitude. Be thankful for what you have in your life. Even on the way to your journey. Be thankful for what it is you do have. I mean, the other day I was watching the news and not to get too deep into it, I saw something that just touched my heart and I said, boy, what am I complaining about today? I've seen something that, you know, young person is learning to use her legs again. I mean, you have to be thankful for and practice gratitude for what it is that you have. Appreciate your accomplishments. Take the time to celebrate your accomplishments, but don't get too high, don't get too low. I've said that many times. Hey, you've had a good game or you've had a good week at work. You could do a short celebration, then it's time to move on and keep preparing for the next. Stay positive when things get tough, because we say this even in sports, as fast as it gets good, it gets bad just as quick. So stay neutral. So when things, you know, I'm rolling my hands like a little roller, like peaks and valleys right now. What I don't. If you could imagine this, I'm more of a visual person. But you don't want to keep going straight up, up, up, up in the air and then all of a sudden, nose dive to the bottom. You want these little waves, short little waves, little peaks and valleys. And just don't get too high, don't get too low. Stay neutral. The last thing I want to say is be patient because things don't happen quick. Some of you young people might get mad at me out there, a lot of you. I've worked with people that are just starting new careers. They already want to be the CEO. Not technically, but they tell me I want to be at the top. Well, things take time. Same thing in sports. You're a freshman athlete or you're playing on a junior team and you're on the fourth line, maybe the fifth line you're not playing. Maybe you're a volleyball player and you're not getting the time you want. Be positive, be patient, work at your game, learn and listen. And I'm going to share this and end with this. Body language is key to what you do because bad body language, crossing your arms and sulking could bring good, really bad energy sorry into a situation, whether you're working in an office or you're an athlete. So be patient. I always say this Let the chips fall where they may and keep moving full speed ahead. I hope this helped you Any questions? Go to Hartman Academy. Check out the book the Healthy Mindset. It's a workbook that we put you through and lead you through through our app for athletes and the workplace athlete.

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