Q & A My Boss Doesn’t Like Me

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Welcome back to another episode. I'm Mike Hartman, the founder of the Hartman Academy, no.com after that and the author of the book the Healthy Mindset for the athlete in the Workplace. Athlete. And this week a question has came in to us and there's never a bad question. Hopefully we could answer your questions. But the question is I work for a company and every day I walk by my boss. My boss does not look at me or say hello to me or make me feel comfortable at all. As a former athlete, how would you handle that? Well, that's a, that's a good question. Well, first of all, I was taught at a young age that when I got to pro that the, the owners of the team or the coaches are not there to be your friends. I was there to do a job and my job was to play hockey. Now, I didn't look at it as a job, but this is what was passed down to me by my captains. I never thought hockey was really a job. To me, it was just something that I did and I loved it. Never really looked at it as a job. Now, it's hard work, but to me it wasn't a job. So the one thing I could share with you was what I did. I can't speak for you and is to go in every day with a good energy and be yourself. Say good morning. But don't take it personal because sometimes it's not you. It could be your boss's problem or if you're having a problem with somebody else in the workplace, it could be their problem. So don't take that on. As long as you stay in your lane, do everything that you could do to be productive for the company. Use a lot of the tools that we give you here at Hartman Academy, especially the app with all those tools in it that could help you and you just have to be yourself. I remember, I mean, I could tell stories on this all day. You hit a topic. I remember a situation where Nick Kyprios for the New York Rangers was playing with us in 1994. We had a powerhouse team. And I remember that Nick, the night before he had or he had a game. We had a game in. I think it might have been Chicago. And he had a goal, he had an assist, he made some big hits, he played a great game, he played physical. And the next day he didn't dress and he was angry. And I know he went in and talked to the coach, which in New York we really didn't have an open door. You may have one with your company. And I could answer that in a second after the story. So Nick comes out after speaking to the coach. Even the coach said, we don't have an open door, but how can I help you? And I think Nick said, well, I had a great game last night. I did everything I could do. And the coach said back then Mike Keenan said to him, well, I know I can't get anything more out of you. So you're not playing. And that's some of the realities of sports. Now does that work in corporate America? Absolutely not. I'm not saying it does. But Nick had to put his mindset in a place that, okay, no matter what happens, I'm going to keep doing my job. I'm going to keep trying to make those big hits, try to score some goals, add whatever I can to the team and be my best. Well, I'm going to say the same for you. All you could do is be your personal best. Do everything that you are supposed to do. Feel good about who you are. And I'm sure it does not feel good when somebody doesn't say, hello, maybe your boss and I don't know, I don't want to speak, I don't know your boss, but I don't want to speak about your boss. But maybe they need to take a leadership course or they need to learn different listening skills or, I don't know, listening to maybe the body language of you, not just listening between the ears all the time. So I hope this has helped you again. It could be their problem and not yours as long, long as you're doing your best. Now if you feel you're not meeting up to the standards of the company and you don't feel that you're doing well or you feel even like talking to the boss and ask, hey, you know, I feel uncomfortable every morning. Is it something that I did? I don't, you know, the boss might even know what you're talking about. So that's just the probably for me, that's how we would handle it within sports. Sometimes coaches have an open door policy and sometimes they don't. And maybe your, your boss does or doesn't. So I hope this has helped you. Any more questions? We love to answer these questions. Go to hartman academy no.com and ask us a question. That's that little blue icon at the bottom again. I hope this has helped you have a fantastic rest of your day.

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