In this solo monologue, Natalie Fisher recounts leaving a ten‑year narcissistic partnership in 2020 and moving back in with her parents at age 37. She describes how, despite external perceptions of loss and failure, she chose to view the situation as freedom and an exciting fresh start. From that mindset she attracted a loving partner, a two‑year‑old daughter, and a new home, all of which she attributes to the certainty and excitement she maintained before they materialized. Fisher then extends this lesson to job seekers and anyone feeling stuck, urging listeners to adopt the same anticipatory excitement and belief in unseen outcomes. She concludes by noting that both faith and fear require belief in something not yet visible, positioning perception as a catalyst for personal transformation.
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Hey, my name is Natalie if you don't know me, and in 2020 I left a 10-year narcissistic relationship and I went to move in with my parents at 38, 37, 38 years old. I'm now 41, but fast forward, rewind a few years, and I went to go live with my parents and I was kind of starting over again. Left a 10-year narcissistic relationship, left the house that we bought together, um, Let him take the majority of the house because even though I had put in more than half, because I didn't want to fight and I was the one leaving, so I felt guilty. So I was living with my parents at 37, had a job, and was basically starting over again with nothing. It felt like not entirely true, but people would ask me; they'd be like, "Oh, that must suck. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry to hear that." And that was one perception, one. Option of how I could have perceived the situation. But honestly, inside, I was feeling the happiest I had ever felt. And so that's the, the change in perception, or the power of perception, right? Someone could perceive me as single, childless, no house, no relationship, starting again at 37 years old. And I was perceiving the situation as Free. I'm free. I'm excited. I no longer have somebody holding me back. I have the opportunity to fall in love again now for real with someone who actually appreciates me. Um, I'm like, I have all these opportunities in front of me. I have a wonderful family who I now get to spend this time with, which I won't get to— like, this will never be a thing in my life again where I'm living with my parents. And I get to appreciate their company as an adult. And I just get to live in this new, exciting unknown as to what the future is going to be, but I know it's going to be great and I'm so excited about it, right? And I was, I was so excited. And from that space, I created now the man of my dreams— or I didn't create him, but he came into my life— and, um, a 2-year-old girl, um, who we love and cherish and adore, and she's so much fun, and a beautiful new house that we both bought together. And all that was created From the excitement of knowing that all that was going to come come through, even when it hadn't yet, right? It wasn't something that had happened, and I just knew it was. I didn't have any doubts about it. So then it came in, and that's just that was always my perception. And even when my mom was like, my mom was like, "Oh, I'm sure you're gonna find somebody else. Don't worry. I'm sure." She tried trying to make me feel better. I'm just like, "Oh, Mom, I'm not worried. One hundred percent, I'm gonna find someone way better, and this is gonna be the best thing I ever did." And she looked. Looked at me and she was like, you know, you know better than I do, you know better than I do. So that certainty just transferred in into the people that I spoke to. And so for you, I just wanted to share that story because when you are in a job hunt right now or you are not where you want to be right now, you can have the excitement of what— of getting there. You can have it right now, right? So if someone's like, oh, how's your job search going? You can say I am so excited. I get to find the most amazing place for me, and I get to be in that space of not knowing where, where or when it's going to happen, but I know it's happening. I know it's coming, and I get to, I get to like make those decisions now, and I get to discern the place that I'm supposed to be. And that is very true, my friend. And both faith and fear both require you to believe in something that you cannot see yet.
