Ghosted After Final Interview? Here's What Happened

Ghosted? Every time I talk about this, I get a lot of hate online and people just eat me alive for what I say. But it is the most empowering way, and I'm going to show you why. So if you've been ghosted and you're pretty mad about it, this video is for you. What do you do when you're ghosted? Answer, nothing. Nothing at all. I know that's frustrating, right? It's like, ah, and if I was your friend and not your coach, I would say, ah, those jerks, how dare they ghost you? That was unfair. You deserve a response. That's awful. That would be a response that would commiserate and help you to focus on the issue. But here's the thing: what we focus on, we will get more of. So when you put attention into something you don't want, which is being ghosted, you're gonna give yourself more of that, right? More energy will go into the fact that you didn't get a response, and that doesn't serve you. It's just not helpful. It's pretty useless, actually. And we can't change people. We can't We can't say, you can't ghost me, that's not acceptable, I deserve a response. We can't force people into a response. And that's where I think our brain kind of short circuits. It thinks, oh, but if I follow up, like, if I follow up like 5 more times, then maybe I'll get a response. But the response isn't going to be what you want, and the lack of response is already a response. The lack of response is all the response that you actually need. And I would invite you to consider that the lack of a response is a response. It's a very clear one. It's saying, not right now. No. It could be saying a bunch of stuff. It could be saying, we're too busy and we're too disorganized and we actually have no idea what we're doing. But our focus isn't right now on hiring you, and we're on a different timeline. Like, it could mean any of those things, right? But what it doesn't mean is keep calling us back and then we'll hire you. So if you want to get hired, the fastest way to do that is to move on. It can be hard to hear. Some people really react to this, but when you move on, You actually then put more attention, more energy, more focus into the people who are ready to hire you, who are on your timeline, who are ready to get back to you. And then you attract more of that. You get more of that coming to you. You open up more opportunities instead of being bummed out that you were ghosted, right? And then when you do hear crickets, you know what to do. You're like, yeah, whatever. Imagine this. Imagine if Superman or Oprah or someone who is really successful that you admire got ghosted. Do you think that they would spend very much time being upset about it? Do you think that they would be following up relentlessly hoping that that would change the outcome? Probably not, right? What do you think they would be doing instead if they were? If they had their heart set on a goal, they'd be working on the goal another way. They'd be bringing in opportunities different ways. They'd be off doing things that were of more importance. Than dwelling on the person, the party, the organization that ghosted them, right? It's hard to hear sometimes. It's, it's like I said, it could be pretty controversial. People don't like it. It's like when I post on LinkedIn about this, I get eaten alive. People are like, this is not fair, it's not acceptable, we can't ghost people, that's not fair. And while I might agree with that, and I think yes, absolutely, we should try to respond to everybody that we can and let them know, maybe we should even be getting on a call with them and letting them know exactly what happened, That is not going to be the reality of the situation. We're never going to change the world to be like that, right? So we can't expect ourselves to change that. It's a futile endeavor. So we end up focusing more on it, and then what we end up creating is more time wasted in our search. Even if it's just a little bit of energy that you spend putting into being upset about being ghosted, it's power that you've given to the ghost. And the ghost doesn't care. What about the people who you email or that you message and they don't get back to you? What about those people? What do you do about them? Nothing. You can follow up once just to see, you know, hey, maybe you didn't get this, maybe you didn't see it. Sometimes what I do is I say, hey, I noticed you weren't able to respond. Was there anything that I could have done differently to, to get you to respond? If you're busy, I totally get it. You don't have to respond because I don't expect people to respond, right? I'm not doing it so that I get a response. I'm just doing it because that's what I know is the right thing to do to move me forward, right? So it's different between doing something with a transactional mind versus doing it because you know it's the right thing to do and it's the next step for you, right? And it might not be the last step for you. When we're working towards a big goal like landing a high-paying job, we will have to do a lot of steps, right? And it's more— it's usually more than we think. Right? It's always like when we're doing a big goal, when we're accomplishing something big for ourselves, it's going to be more than we think. So you get what you call in, you get what you focus on. So when you can stop putting energy and time and thoughts into being ghosted, when you can honestly say it doesn't matter, you've forgotten about it, you have other opportunities going on, that is when you have won. And this is the most empowering way that you can look at a situation like that. And if you insist, if you— some people will— if you would like to continue to give energy to the ghost, if you would like to die on that hill, if you would like to start a blog and a movement about why people shouldn't ghost people, then be my guest. But let me ask you, will it get you your high-paying job? Or will it just create more of what you don't want? Subscribe to my channel. Give me a thumbs up if you like this video. Give me a thumbs down if you didn't. I'm expecting it to get a lot of thumbs downs. It's just not something people like to hear. But as a coach, I gotta say the hard thing. I gotta tell you the truth, right? I gotta say, hey, that's not helping you. It's useless. And while I might agree as a human and a friend, I might say, yeah, that sucks. But it's not your story. Like, they can just be a little blip in your story. It's not a big deal. It says more about them than it does about you. It truly does. 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