Career coach Natalie Fisher says how fast you change careers depends on your mindset and effort, not programs or recruiters. Desperation repels employers. She shares an interview story where a candidate's neediness cost her the job, and argues that showing up, learning from rejection, and staying curious matters most.
So a lot of my clients have asked me, how long does it take to get your dream job? How long will it take me to make this career transition? So in this video, I'm going to answer that question, so stay tuned. So when people ask this, this is where it's normally coming from. So they're like, well, how long is it going to take? This is because they normally want proof that they're going to get their dream job or that they're going to be able to successfully make that change before they actually take any action towards that goal. And a lot of people have a belief that a program or a book or a technique or a strategy or a coach is responsible for their results, responsible for them reaching their goal. But as I learned the hard way, my friends, you are the only one responsible for your end goal. You are the only one who can care about it as much as you do. It's not a recruiter, it's not somebody who interviews you, it's not somebody you hire to coach you, it's not the person who reviews your resume. Those people are not responsible, and ultimately, they go home at night and they have their own problems. It's your responsibility. I was stuck for a really long time. I didn't want to take the action until I knew 100%, until I had 100% certainty that it was gonna work, because I'd felt like I'd taken so much action already and it wasn't working. That was blocking me from creating success. So how long it takes depends on your willingness to do what it takes, even when it's hard and even when the results are not showing up yet. It's your willingness to show up in interviews even if you've failed and been rejected before. It's your willingness to do the research and talk to the right people and continue going out there and talking to more people until you succeed. So the more you do this, the more you evaluate your results, the more results you get, the more you're gonna learn, right? So you're going to evaluate what went well from that conversation, what didn't, what would I do next time. With your interviews and your conversations, you're going to speed up your results tremendously every time you take the action to evaluate how close that brought you to your end result. So what worked and what didn't? In getting a new job or changing careers, rejection is normally part of the process. 9 times out of the 10, it's part of the process, and your brain starts learning that rejection doesn't mean death and you're not going to die. So when we're in the process of getting from point A to point B, The point B where we want to be, we often want to know how long it's going to take. And we start to get impatient and we get frustrated when what we're doing isn't working quickly enough for us. We want instant results. We want Amazon Prime delivery tomorrow. We want to go to the gym and eat healthy for a week. And then we want to have lost 10 pounds. But that's not how it works. It just doesn't work like this. The thing is, that what people don't realize is that when they are in this rushed, desperate, needy, graspy energy, it's exactly what is repelling employers and repelling people you speak to and sabotaging your chances of actually getting the result faster. Ask yourself, why are you in such a rush? The reason you're in a rush is that you're coming from a place of doubt and fear and lack and scarcity. You may say, yes, but I have bills that are piling up and I need to work now. The thing is that an inner interviewer can sense that, and they aren't gonna hire you because you need to pay bills. They're not gonna hire you because you're so desperate to leave your old job. They aren't basing their decision on that. That's the farthest thing from their mind. They care about what you can contribute, and you're not focusing on that. You're focusing on yourself, and that's causing you to slow down the process. So what you need to do is learn to find 100% sufficiency in what you already have. You need to show up to the interview with with everything that you need already within you. You are there to offer your help. You're there to show them what you can do, how you can contribute. You are not there out of desperation and neediness because you have to pay bills or you have to get out of your current situation. So I have a very specific story that I recall from when I was in an interview, and we talked about it after— myself, the HR, the other HR representative, and the hiring manager. The lady came in, she interviewed. She was very nervous, and I don't remember a lot of how the interview went. I just remember when she left, the HR representative said to me, I really felt like if she didn't get the job today, she was going to have trouble feeding her kids. And guess what? We didn't hire her based on that. We were so in that energy of her being so desperate and so needy and So I don't know how else to describe it other than desperate. We were picking up on that so strongly that that's what we were discussing after the interview. And that's not what you want people to be talking about when you leave. You want them to be talking about things you mentioned that you could do, implement, or things you've done in the past that are gonna bring value to them now. You may say to me, yes, I have bills to pay. I need to get outta my situation. I need to hurry this up. But focusing your mind there is slowing you down. So where you need to focus your mind is on what you're going to contribute, what you can do, what you can offer, and get in that energy of curiosity and excitement instead of desperation, fear, and lack. I could tell you how long it took me to get my dream job. I could tell you how long it's taken my clients, but that number is not going to mean anything to you because your number is going to be different and your situation is going to be different. And the good news is that there is a lot you can control in this process. The actions you take, from the place you take them, and your willingness to keep going even when you fail and even when you get rejected, the more you do that, the faster you'll get your result. And the more you evaluate your results, the faster you're gonna speed up your process. So thank you for watching. If you want the complete step-by-step proven system to getting your dream job, this is the ultimate tool, the ultimate program. And the only thing you'll need— you can sign up for the workshop below. It's called 4 Steps to Getting the Job You Want Regardless of Where You're at Right Now. So click below to instantly get access to that free workshop. Just enter your name and email and I will send you the link. And thanks for watching, and I'll see you next week. Subscribe to the channel if you haven't already. Give me a thumbs up. Thanks so much. Talk to you next week. Bye. Don't be needy. Don't be graspy. People can sense it. Don't worry, I did it too. I'm not judging.
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