Natalie Fisher argues that avoiding failure means setting expectations so low you never truly fail. She reframes interview rejection as a normal part of the game, like missing a basketball shot, so you can take more risks and interview more often without the emotional weight holding you back.
So everyone talks about how to succeed in job interviews. I talk about this too. If you watch my channel, you know that. But what there isn't enough talk about is how to fail. And most people don't achieve their ultimate goal because they don't want to fail and they're really afraid of it. So in this video, we're going to talk about how to fail properly, so stay tuned. What is failure? So I work with a lot of clients, and a lot of the time they will have a real fear of failing. What does that even mean? What exactly specifically are you afraid of? What does failure mean to you and why are you so afraid of it? So that's one of the things that I do when I coach clients. I get to the real heart of the issue because we can't solve the problem unless we find the cause of the problem first. So the first thing that's important to do is understand what failure is, how do you define it, and why are you so afraid of it? So that brings us to my second point. How do you define failure? How do you define that you failed? So failure means that we just didn't meet our own expectation of something. So we didn't do what we expected that we would do. It just seems like not a big deal, right? It's like, okay, well, that happens, right? There was an omission of action on either my part or your part. So either the interviewer didn't say yes to you, or you said something that could have been better. And that's not really a big deal, is it? It's just something that didn't turn out the way that we had planned it. And that's life. How most people handle failure. So what most people do is they just stop expecting, and therefore they never fail. They keep their expectations and their standards super, super low. They just keep recycling the same life over and over, and it means they never get out of their comfort zone again because they're afraid of failing. And when we get out of our comfort zone, it means that we have to fail. So this means that they never really have to deal with letting themselves down or not meeting their own expectations. So many of the clients that I have, that's their main issue. If they just don't feel like they're alive anymore because they're not putting themselves out there because they're afraid and they don't want to fail. So don't let this be you. Excuse the noise in the background. It's my dog chewing on a bone. Point 4, why are you avoiding failure? So it always comes down to avoiding wanting to feel a certain way. If failure is really just not about meeting our own expectations, it means that we didn't take the required action to meet what our own expectations and achieve what we wanted, then really what's gonna happen when that happens? Because that happens all the time. So what's gonna happen when you don't meet your own expectations? This is what's— it's going to create some negative feelings for you. And this is the reason why we're avoiding any kind of failure. We don't want to do anything wrong. We're afraid of not doing it perfectly, therefore we don't do it. And what I think we need to do is just accept that that's gonna happen. Here's what's really interesting about that. When we don't meet our own expectation, the only feeling that you're gonna have in the end is what you decide to think about it. So you can set out to do something and you have an expectation of a result and say you don't achieve that result at first. Now at that point, you can make a decision. You can decide what it means. So you can decide that you're gonna think about it in one way or another way. If you think about that, then you could be like, well, it's not a big deal, I'll do better next time. If you think about it in a way that's disappointing, then you're gonna have an experience that's really bad and negative, and you're gonna let it affect you for your future tries. So I invite you to think about how you perceive the failure. If you think of it as, oh well, I guess that didn't work out, what am I gonna do next to achieve your ultimate result, then it completely changes things for you, and it just becomes part of the game. Like anytime you're playing basketball, you don't get the basket every time, but that doesn't just mean you stop playing, right? Failure is part of the game. Accept it, learn it, and embrace it. So what if you set yourself up for the fact that things might not work out ahead of time before you start any kind of action? If you do this, you're gonna be much more willing, first of all, to take the action that you need, and secondly, to take the risk that most success takes and the risks that most people won't take. So to put yourself outside of your comfort zone, to try something you haven't done before, is normally pretty risky. But what are you What are you really risking? Failure. Yes, you could fail, but if you know if you might fail beforehand, you're gonna take care of yourself. You're gonna be like, okay, well, that's fine. I'm just gonna keep going. What am I gonna do next? You're gonna be fine. You're not gonna die. You're just gonna try something else. Then you're gonna be much more able to do it. If you're much more able to fail, you're going to double, triple your rate of failure, which means it's gonna get you to the result you want way faster. So you're gonna have a much, much higher chance of getting exactly what you want when you think about it in this way. Next up, watch my video titled Why You Keep Failing Job Interviews and 3 Things You Can Do About It. And there you have it, some thoughts on failure and why it's good for you to fail as much as you possibly can. The more that you do this, the closer you are to succeeding. And one of my mentors says, he's like, you are just one failure away from what you want. So just think about it like that. What if you were To fail and then you were to quit and never get that result. That's the danger. So what now? You failed an interview. Well, first of all, good for you. Many people don't even apply for the job because they're afraid of failing, or they go to the— they don't go to the interview in the first place. And if you wanna get super prepared for your next interview, I encourage you to grab my free guide by clicking below. When you grab that guide, you're gonna get instant access to a formula to answer any interview question you might get. You're gonna get a series of concrete examples for my top 10 most commonly asked questions. And if you're still getting stuck, I've also included 25 questions that you can ask yourself to come up with your own stories. So get started failing, get out there, go to some interviews, and if you fail, not a big deal. All right, thank you so much for watching. If you like this video, give me a thumbs up. Don't forget to subscribe. Click the link below to get on my email list and start working with me, and I will see you next week. Bye.
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