In this instructional video, Natalie Fisher addresses common interview anxiety and offers a step‑by‑step framework to transform nerves into confidence. She begins by normalizing nervousness, urging viewers to accept the feeling rather than suppress it, and points out that a modest amount of anxiety can actually signal genuine interest. Fisher then reframes the worst‑case scenario, emphasizing that the most damaging outcome is simply feeling uncomfortable, not catastrophic failure. She introduces a concrete feeling‑processing technique: naming the emotion, locating its physical sensation, and describing its color, texture, and temperature, which helps the feeling dissipate. The video explains that nervousness stems from underlying thoughts—often subconscious—about self‑worth or performance, and suggests consciously shifting those thoughts toward excitement and contribution. Fisher highlights that confidence grows through repeated exposure, using analogies like skydiving and baby‑holding to illustrate how familiarity reduces intensity. She stresses purpose‑driven preparation, encouraging viewers to clarify why they want the job and what they can contribute, rather than seeking approval. To support this, she offers a free guide containing 25 reflective questions and 10 model answers to help users articulate their value. The video concludes with a call to action to download the guide, subscribe, and visit her website.
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If you get nervous in interviews, if you panic beforehand, if you feel like you have to have all the answers, you're totally not confident in interviews, in this video I'm going to explain to you how to handle your nerves so they're not a problem for you anymore, how to be ready for whatever comes your way, and just, you know, how to be at peace with yourself, at home with yourself. So stay tuned. So the first thing I want to tell you is It's okay to be nervous. It's normal. We're all nervous. We're all humans, right? So telling yourself like, I shouldn't be nervous, I need to be more confident, I need to be this, or I should be this, that's contributing to the fact that you're nervous. So meet yourself where you're at. Just be like, it's okay that I'm nervous. I'm gonna deal with this and it's okay. And also knowing that you can still be a little nervous and you can still get the job. I've done it myself. Humans are humans. We relate better to people who are human. So the fact that you're a little nervous could actually might work to your advantage. Don't tell yourself that you shouldn't be nervous. Just tell yourself, "I'm a little nervous, and that's okay." Just means that this opportunity is important to me. Just means I want to do my best. It just means that I'm excited about it. And also, the feeling of nervousness and excitement, the feeling of nervousness and like exhilaration or panic or fear, like all those feelings. Like the body doesn't really know the difference. You could be afraid and you could be nervous. You could be really excited. Just keep in mind that that's okay and that there's nothing wrong with you for being nervous. It doesn't mean you're going to do any less of a good job when you get in there. It just means it's normal. Okay, so that's the first thing. So 2, I want you to understand that the worst thing that can happen here is you go in the interview and maybe you don't know the answer to something. Or you feel a little embarrassed, a little awkward, or a little inadequate, right? So that's basically the worst thing that can happen. But our brain is telling us, oh my God, if I don't do well on this, I'm gonna die. If I don't get this job, I'm gonna die. Like, what's gonna happen to me? What's it gonna mean if I don't get this job? What's it gonna mean if I don't nail this, right? You get to decide what it means. The worst thing that can happen is an uncomfortable feeling. Right? So you're not actually gonna die. Your brain thinks you are, which is why it makes you so nervous, but it's actually gonna be okay. So whatever happens is gonna be okay. The third thing, I'm gonna show you how to actually process a feeling so that if you do start to feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or awkward, you're gonna be okay. Say you didn't know the answer to the question and say you have a bit of an awkward moment in the room, right? Say that's the worst thing that happens. Then you're gonna maybe feel inadequate, let's say. So I want you to just describe what it feels like to feel that way, right? So maybe after the interview, you feel like you didn't do so well and you feel a bit disappointed. Any of the, any feeling that you might feel, name it and then process it. Then the way that you process it is you just describe it in as much detail as possible. What does it feel like? Where in your body do you feel it? Is it in your stomach? Is it in your chest, your solar plexus? Like where do you feel the feeling? Right? And then ask yourself, what color is the feeling? Is it blue? Is it gray? Is it red? Is it hot? Is it cold? Is it lukewarm? Is it spiky? Is it crackly? Is it smooth? Like, what does it feel like to have that feeling, right? Feel it for as long as you need to feel it. And then once you do that, it will start to fade away, right? And you'll start to see that it's not such a big deal. Just a feeling. Being a human, we ride these feelings like waves. They come and go, right? And then This is what's gonna make you stronger and willing to go and put yourself in situations that are uncomfortable again, which are gonna move you forward in your life and in your career and towards what you actually want. That's called processing a feeling. And when we learn to do that, we can handle a lot more that comes our way. Understanding where the nerves come from. So when you're nervous, it's because of a thought you're having. Now, it might not be fully conscious. You might not be fully conscious of the thought you're having quite yet, but I wanna bring your attention to the fact that when you're nervous, that's when you have those feelings of nervousness. It's because of a thought that you're thinking. So it could be something like, I failed an interview before, I didn't know the answer before. It could be something in your past, or it could be something that you feel about yourself, like, I'm not good enough, can I really do this, are they gonna like me, I need to put on a performance. Anything like that would probably make you feel pretty nervous and pretty tense, right? For example, if you were really confident, you wouldn't be thinking thoughts like that. You'd be thinking thoughts like, you know, I'm really excited to show them what it is that I can do. I've got some skills and some knowledge, and I'm excited to share with them what it is I'm gonna be able to help them with. And then notice how that feels different, right? It feels different from, I hope they like me. Right? Because now you want to show them something and you're excited for what you are going to bring to the table, right? So very different thoughts equal very different feelings. The 5th thing, self-confident people still feel nervous, especially when it's something they've never done before. Let's say you have never been skydiving before, you're going to be super nervous, or you're going to have a feeling, right? Like it could be excitement, exhilaration, Fear, probably fear that you're gonna die. Whatever the case is, you're gonna have a feeling because you're a human, right? If you've never done that before, you're gonna have that feeling very, very intensely, to the point where you might not even want to do it. If you have been skydiving before, and I have, I know somebody who goes skydiving all the time, and he does it because he likes that feeling, right? But he doesn't have it as intensely, and he doesn't— he knows he's not gonna die, so he He keeps going, right? And this is an extreme example, but somebody who's never been skydiving before, they experience that feeling a lot more strongly than someone who has been before and they know what to expect. So it's the same with interviewing. It's the same with anything else. So if you've done something a few times before, you kind of know a little bit more about what to expect than if you've never done it before. So with interviews, it's like everything is different every time. Some things are always going to be the same, like they're probably going to say, you know, tell me about yourself and ask you some of the same behavioral questions, right? You'll have a chance to share, you know, about your skills and about your abilities. So there's a lot of things that are going to be the same, and then there's some things that are going to be a bit different, and that's okay. But the more that you go and the more that you learn and the more that you take notes about your interviewing, the more confident you're going to become, and that's a normal part of the So most of us don't interview for a living, right? So we don't really get super confident at interviews. We just have times in our lives where we need to interview and then we're like, uh-oh, and then we get super nervous because we're not really used to it, right? So it's totally normal, and even really confident people still get nervous when put in situations that they're not familiar with, right? So they might handle it a lot better where they might put on a very strong, confident front, but sometimes they are still panicking inside thinking, ah, I don't know what to say. I'm not sure of the answer to that. And that's okay. It just means there's more to learn here and there's an opportunity for you to grow. So I want you to think of it in the context of this, in the fact that you can think of something that you're really confident doing, right? So maybe it's walking, right? So maybe you're pretty confident that you can get up out of your chair and walk wherever you wanna go. Or maybe it's driving. You're pretty confident you can drive to the store and back, right? You're pretty confident that you can speak, right? You're pretty confident that you can maybe hold a baby, right? Like for me, my sister just recently had a baby and she's like, you want to hold him? And he's newborn. And I'm like, I'm actually kind of nervous to hold him. I don't really know how to hold him, you know, how to support his head. Like I've not really done that a lot, so I'm nervous to do it. After doing it a bit, I'm a lot more confident. I'm like, okay, yeah, give me the baby. I got this. But the first time I did it, the first few times I did it, I was a bit nervous. It's a human life that I was holding and I was like, ah, I don't want to mess it up. Perfectly normal. Doesn't mean anything— there's anything wrong with me. It just means I've never done that or I hadn't done it a lot or for a long time. With interviewing, it's the same. What's going Skydiving—it's similar, right? You can take these examples of your own life. So I want you to think of something that you're very confident in doing, and think of the first time that you did it, and think of whether or not you were confident then, and how you built that confidence in what you did, right? And I guarantee you it involved doing it, right? So you did it first, and then you had the confidence, and now you can say, "Okay, I've done it." And then the last thing I want to leave you with is the things you can do to control. Your nerves. A big thing is to prepare. You want to prepare because that's within your control, but I want you to prepare with certain thoughts in mind. So first, I want you to ask yourself, why do I want that job? Why do I want to work there? What can I contribute? And don't come from it from a place of, I hope they like me, or I want to answer all their questions correctly. Come from it of a place of, do I like them? Do I want this? Why do I want this? What can I contribute, right? Because this is a big part of your life, right? Your work, you're going to spend a lot of time there. You're going to want to make sure you like what you're doing. You're going to want to make sure you like the people that you're interacting with every day. And if you had the opportunity to work anywhere in the world, why are you choosing them? What is it that you'll be contributing, right? So when you think of it like that, You can feel different feelings than, I hope they like me, because those feelings will contribute to nervousness and tenseness. If you're thinking, I hope they like me, I hope I say everything right, I hope that they'll approve of what I'm saying, that's very different than thinking, do I like them? Do I want this? And what is it that I'm going to be contributing that will be useful? What's mutually beneficial for both of us? Am I going to be the right fit? Do I even want this? To help you with the preparation, I have a free guide available, and it's got 25 questions that you're going to be asking yourself to pull out your own value and your own experiences and to pull out your own confidence. And that's going to happen with the questions. When you download the guide, you can ask yourself. It's also got 10 example answers of questions that confident people would give, right? And they've worked in the past for myself and my clients. So I want you to take a look at those, and then you'll start to get in So basically, once you download the guide, I want you to feel confident, ready for whatever they're going to bring your way, and able to control that preparation so that when you go in, you can see those nerves disappear. So thank you so much for watching. If you liked the video, give me a thumbs up. If you didn't like it, give me a thumbs down. Subscribe to the channel, and if you want some more free resources, you can always visit my website. Www.nataliefisher.ca. I'll see you over there, and I'll see you in the next video. Cool. Bye.
