In this coaching video, Natalie Fisher addresses the common fear of speaking up in professional settings—meetings, interviews, or any group where one feels uncomfortable. She explains that the root cause is the fear of judgment and worst‑case scenarios, which leads many to stay silent, ultimately stalling career growth. Fisher argues that speaking up, even when ideas are rejected, is essential for visibility, learning, and advancement. She guides viewers to visualize their future career self, prepare for potential objections by writing down specific fears and response strategies, and adopt a mindset that separates the idea from personal identity. By responding to disagreement with genuine curiosity (“Why do you think that?”) and iterating based on feedback, individuals can turn uncomfortable moments into growth opportunities. Fisher shares practical tactics such as repeating ideas in different phrasing when unheard, and emphasizes that the emotional discomfort of speaking up is temporary and non‑lethal. The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to access her free training, podcast, and coaching services to further develop their speaking‑up skills and accelerate their career trajectory.
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So this video is all about how to speak up in either a meeting at work or in an interview or in a situation where you would normally be uncomfortable to speak up in front of other people. So if that's you and you are normally hesitant to speak up in a group of people, this video is for you. So stay tuned. First of all, the reason why we're afraid to speak up in a group of people It's because we're afraid that we're going to be judged, right? We're afraid that the worst case scenario is going to happen. And whatever that worst case scenario is for you, whether it be somebody shooting down your idea, you being ignored, somebody saying like counteracting your idea or disagreeing with you, or whatever that worst case scenario is for you, or even people just— you're afraid of people just silently judging what you're saying. That is the reason why we don't speak up. There's also a very clear reason why we want to speak up, because we want to have our idea heard and we want the best case scenario, which is everybody thinks the idea is great, it contributes to the meeting, maybe they even take the idea and you get to have a positive feeling. And so what happens to so many of us is that we get caught up in the worst case scenario that could happen and then we don't speak up. And then we stay quiet, and then the compounding effect of staying quiet over and over and over again leads us to not getting to where we want to get to in our career. And so I've had some people say, yeah, but I'll go tell the person one-on-one later, or I'll go do this, or I'll find other ways around it. But the truth is, you're never going to have as big of an impact as if you were to have the courage to speak up. In a meeting with your idea and be willing to have that idea flop or be willing to feel something negative when your idea isn't, or the response isn't what you wanted. Well, what happens is, is that when you don't give yourself a chance to speak up and have that idea, then you don't ever give yourself the chance to see whether or not your idea was going to move forward with how you thought it would. Right? And so you rob yourself of any opportunity or any chance you had of actually seeing whether or not your idea was going to actually contribute and do something and make a difference, right? And there was always the possibility that it definitely was, but as long as you're focusing on the possibility that somebody might judge you or somebody might disagree with you, then you will never speak up and then you will never have the opportunity to see whether or not your idea was worth it. was worthwhile or not, right? And so as somebody who's spoken up a lot of times, I can tell you that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. So what I would encourage you to do is decide whether or not you wanna own your idea. And if you do, and you, you're willing to put it out there and have somebody judge it or disagree with it or open a discussion around it, and that's just gonna take some courage on your part. Be like, okay, I understand that this might happen, but it's uncomfortable either way. It's uncomfortable to sit back and not say it, but then it's also uncomfortable to say it and then see what happens, right? At least the other way you're actually moving forward. So that's the problem why we don't do it. And the reason why it's a problem is because if you wanna move forward in your career, speaking up with your ideas is gonna be a main contributing factor as to whether or not You get seen, your ideas get heard, you get to contribute and help move forward your department, your team, your organization, right? And also you are paid to give your ideas. You're there, they want your ideas, good or bad, right? And not everybody has 100% good ideas all the time. Nobody. Everybody has to have bad ideas and good ideas. And that's why a collaborative discussion is very helpful and around a good idea Or a bad idea. A discussion is always going to lead somewhere, and you're always going to learn something from it. And it's always going to be more useful to put that idea out there and see what happens versus not, right? Because then you don't even give yourself the chance to move forward. You don't even give yourself the chance to be heard or to be seen. And it is all out of fear, my friend, that you don't do that. Second, I want you to picture yourself in the future where you want to be in your career. So if right now you are a coordinator and you want to be a manager, or you're a manager and you want to be a director, I want you to picture yourself in the future. And how do you in the future, how do you respond in meetings? How do you speak in meetings? How do you speak in interviews? And how are you taking the courage to speak up with your ideas, whether they be hit or misses? And are you willing to accept it if maybe your idea doesn't land, or maybe not the whole thing, maybe part of it, right? And then noticing that it's not the end of the world, right? So even leaders have bad ideas, right? Even top marketing executives have bad ideas, and sometimes they have to put them out into the world, and sometimes it costs companies millions of dollars because somebody had a bad idea. And they acted on it. These things happen all the time, and you'll never get to know how you are going to grow into your position and how you're going to learn unless you have the courage to put your idea forth into the world. What I recommend is that you, you prepare yourself, right? You say, okay, I'm gonna put this idea forward, and then whatever you're afraid of, write it down. Be like, I'm afraid my boss is going to knock it down. I'm afraid my colleague's gonna disagree. I'm afraid Jenny's gonna say it's stupid. I'm afraid they're going to be silently judging me. And then Write down a strategy for how you would handle each one of those things. So for example, if somebody disagrees with your idea, say they, they say you speak up and you say, I think we should do this. I think this is a good idea. And somebody says, yeah, not so much. I don't like that. Then be prepared with how you would handle it. Right. And so I would recommend being open and just saying, oh, interesting. Why, why don't you think so? What are your thoughts? Right. With just a genuine curiosity to get to where they're at and what they're thinking. Right. And so maybe you can come into a collaboration and I ask, I like to ask, what are your concerns? Um, what, what do you think? Right? And when you are really open and curious, there's really no danger because you can't be hurt by anything that they say unless you take it really personally, right? So if somebody tells me that my idea is bad, I don't take it personally anymore. I used to, but I don't now. Now I'm like, okay, I wonder why they don't think it's a good idea. I wonder what they think and why. And then we can get into a really productive discussion. This is how healthy work environments Work, right? We want to hear all the ideas and then we want to put them out there and then we want to use the best one, right? Or we want to come to an agreement and use the best one, right? So sometimes we have to hear a whole bunch of ideas and then just apply one of them, right? And then the decision maker would do that. But I think it's very important for you to have your idea heard at least, because if you don't, you'll never know and you bypass all these opportunities to have your idea heard, right? Or at least to get feedback on your idea, right? Because even if you put your idea out there and they decide not to go with it, you get feedback on why not, right? So then the next time you, your brain can formulate a better idea, right? And that's your learning and that's your growth. And also the courage that it takes to put your idea out there in the first place is gonna be more difficult in the beginning, but once you do it more and more, it's going to become easier and easier. Trust me. And if you decide not to take it personally from the very beginning, there's really nothing to lose, right? Because it's an idea, it's not you. So you are not your idea. You are separate from your idea. You can have an idea and they can say, we don't like that idea. They're not saying we don't like you. They're just saying we don't like your idea. It has nothing to do with you. So when you can remove that personal aspect of it, then you can just see it very neutrally and get curious, be like, oh, why don't you think that'll work? What are your concerns? What's your idea? Right? And then you can take that information and formulate better ideas in the future. So I hope that helps. And I really encourage you to speak up, especially if you want to move forward in your career, get promoted, make more money. Leaders need to have ideas. Leaders need to take risks. Leaders need to have courage. And all of those things start small. So yes, it's a step to speak up, but it's definitely worth it. And if you want to be progressing, if you want to constantly be progressing in your career, you will need to start taking those steps and understand that the worst that can happen is a feeling. So the worst that can happen is you can feel a bit embarrassed. Because they didn't like your idea. You can feel a little bit uncomfortable for speaking. The feeling that you feel won't kill you. You will not die from the feeling, right? All you can do now is get the feedback from what you did. So maybe if you spoke up— I did this a bunch— I spoke up, nobody even heard me, nobody even said anything, it wasn't acknowledged. So then I was like, okay, I'm gonna say it a bit differently. First I would say it over and over, and then if people weren't listening, I'd be like, okay, I need to say it a little bit differently. But I didn't get shut down and say, okay, they don't like me, they're not listening to me, they're ignoring me. I just said, I need to try this a different way. So I implemented different strategies to have my ideas heard, and then I started to see what people responded to best. The key here is never take it personally. You are not your idea, right? Just like you are not your thoughts. You're, you're the thinker of what you think, right? And you get to choose. You get to choose your ideas. And so when you remove that personal aspect, it becomes a lot easier to just say, this is what I think right now. This is what I think we should do. What do you guys think? Right? And it becomes a lot lighter, right? And I've had that happen several times to me where I say something and they say, yeah, we don't want to do that. We don't want this to happen. And I would be like, oh, I never thought of that. Okay. And then I'll think on it for a bit and then maybe I'll come back again with, with a counter or, you know, but I'm not going to take it personally. And that's, I think, what's led to my main success. And even in interviews, I would say things like, yeah, so if you give me feedback on something, if I do something and you don't think that You don't like it? I'm not gonna take it personally. I'm just gonna wonder, I'm just gonna ask you why, right? And I think that that was a very, a very strong asset because when you can just work with people and remove the drama, it makes it so much easier to move forward and get results. So that's what I have for you, my friends. Thank you so much for watching. And I hope this has inspired you to speak up in meetings and speak up in interviews and not be afraid to trust yourself and really share your ideas. If you wanna take this further, this is exactly what I help people with. And it's gonna be monumental in changing your career trajectory and the amount of money that you're gonna make if you are willing to voice your ideas. And if you're at the point where you don't think you have any good ideas yet, that's where I, that's where I shine with helping you because I bring out your good ideas. I show you your own genius and I get you to express those ideas in a way that creates value, whether you know it or not yet. So if you want to work with me, you can click below, get started with my free training, Get a Better Job in 30 Days, or you can check out my podcast. If you like this video, give me a thumbs up. If you didn't, give me a thumbs down. Subscribe to the channel. Leave me a comment. I will see you next week for another video. Cool. Bye.
