In this solo coaching video, Natalie Fisher addresses viewers who have failed job interviews and offers a fresh perspective on failure as a catalyst for confidence and growth. She begins by likening interview setbacks to the way toddlers learn to walk—each fall builds strength and confidence. Through personal anecdotes about singing in school, learning to ski, and public speaking, she illustrates how embracing failure reduces fear and fuels progress. Fisher then presents several reframing techniques: substituting "failure" with terms like "learning," "experimenting," or "step toward success," and viewing each setback as evidence of being on the right path (e.g., Edison’s 1,000 "things that didn’t work"). She proposes treating failure as a skill that can be practiced—setting a target number of failures, documenting lessons, and iterating until improvement occurs. Practical advice includes preparing thoroughly for interviews using a free downloadable guide containing common behavioral questions, especially the "tell me about a time you failed" prompt. The video concludes with typical YouTube calls to action (subscribe, like, watch more videos). Throughout, Fisher maintains a conversational, motivational tone, encouraging viewers to see failure as a purposeful, repeatable step toward their career goals.
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So you failed a job interview. Now what? In this video, I'll talk to you about a brand new way to view failure and how it can lead you to a more confident self. If you failed in an interview before or recently or have been failing interviews repeatedly and you're coming across as nervous, this video is for you. It's all about how to think if you do happen to fail, why failure is not a bad thing, and why it's really no big deal at all. So stay tuned. The number What's the number one benefit of failing? The benefits of failing are endless. Let's talk about little kids, for example. A useful example of failure is when they start to walk and they have so many epic fails in the process. So they're trying to get up and they're just like grabbing things and they're trying to walk and it's just not fun. They are falling down, eating crow, hurting themselves sometimes every third step. But what's really interesting about this is that they are actually gaining the strength to walk every time they fall because they don't actually have the strength strength yet in their legs, and they don't actually know what to do. So by lifting themselves up and by falling and getting back up, that's how they're getting the strength to actually walk. And that's where their confidence ultimately starts to develop. If they stopped because they fell down, and they said, oh, I failed, I can't walk, the opportunity to get strong enough to be able to walk so they can actually do it consistently, that would never happen. They would never have the opportunity to do it if they quit, right? And that's what we are doing. We will fall down once or fall down twice or fall down 3 times and just be like, oh well, I guess I can't walk. And that's what we're doing in interviews. So if we fail one, we're like, oh, I guess I'm just not cut out for this, or I guess I can't get the dream job that I want. So what I'm offering you is that it doesn't matter how many times you fail, you will eventually get there, and that's what you need to be focusing on. So the good news is, is that confidence is your willingness to fail. For me, for example, I like to try new things. And I like to try to put myself out there in as many uncomfortable situations as I can. I might not want to, but I know it's necessary for me to get to my goal. So I was trying to figure out why I like to do this, and it's because I'm— I've decided that I'm going to be willing to fail. And when I'm willing to fail in front of other people, then I can get a result, and then I can use that result to move forward. I remember that the first time that I grabbed a microphone and I actually sang in front of the entire school, I was shaking. I was super terrified, and it would have been considered an epic fail because I did not win the contest. I stumbled across a couple of words, I forgot them. But since I did that at a really young age, failing wasn't such a big deal to me anymore. I did it, I realized I didn't die, I still got a lot of positive feedback. And that's why failure isn't the concept that you think it is. We talk about it like it's a bad thing, but it's not like you just failed a math test. Failure is something that you have to consider as part of your life. You want to include it. It's not It's not something to avoid. It's something to do on purpose and get very good at doing it. If I feel confident about my ability to fail, you can see how I'm probably going to do new things that are scary. I'm going to put myself out there more, and I'll probably be more successful in the end because I was willing to fail. Maybe sometimes I even knew I was going to fail, but I did it anyway. I will continue to succeed and stretch myself to see what's really going to be possible for me through my failures. Reframing failure. So I have several students frame failure in a few different ways. So for example, believing in our own capability to learn. Instead of using the word failure, we can use the word learning or experimenting or experiencing. The second way we can think of it, failure is the road to success. If you failed, you are on the right track. You may have heard the quote before by Thomas Edison regarding the light bulb. He says, no, I didn't fail 1,000 times. I learned 1,000 things that didn't work. So that's how we can look at our own failures, quote unquote failures, as learning experiences, as experiments, as lessons, as a step in the right direction. Another quote I really like is, you are one failure away from your goal because every success is built on a pile of failures. Seeing failure as, okay, we didn't meet our expectation. We just didn't take the correct action. So we just need to adjust that and change it until we do meet our expectation, until we figure out what the correct action is. So when we think about the word failure, Think about it in a new positive way. Think about it in the way of something that we want to move forward towards instead of something that we want to move away from and avoid. Practicing failure. So failure is a skill that we develop. If we are good at falling down, we actually learn how to fall down really well. And then when we're going to have the confidence to get up easily and keep going. So when I think of this, I think of skiing. When I was learning how to ski, I would fall down a lot. And at first I avoided it. And then I kind of didn't mind it because it wasn't a big deal, right? Just get back up. Keep going. So for example, what if your goal was to fail five times? Then what if you just failed five times when you did something that didn't work in a job interview, for example, or at work? You didn't do the normal thing and just get really disappointed or regretful or angry or have those feelings that weren't serving you. But instead, you skipped all that and were like, "Okay, failure number one. I can put that in my notes now. I can take that lesson. Let's move forward. I'm still focused on my goal. I'm still going to do this." So it's a whole new perspective. It's like fail. Fail one, fall down, 4 failures to go. No worries. When I started doing this, I had so much more confidence when I tried something new because I knew that the worst that could happen was I'd ultimately fail, and that was fine because I knew I was going to keep going. So the worst thing beyond that is how I would feel about my quote-unquote failure, but what I decided to make it mean. So I know that I'm not going to make it mean anything negative about myself or anything negative in general. I'm just going to make it mean, hey, I failed 3 times. Got 2 more to go. It's really up to me and up to you how you define it. So now I'm excited, anticipated, and take that failure as momentum to move forward because of the willingness that I have now to simply fail. If you want to get super prepared for your next interview so you have an even better chance of nailing it, I've got a free guide for you. You can click the link below to download it now. It includes 10 examples of the most commonly asked behavioral interview questions. Yes, it includes when they ask you about a time you failed. And it's got an example of how you would answer that, and 25 questions that you can use to come up with your own story. Being really well prepared is definitely the best way that you can set yourself up for success. And who knows, that next failure or that next interview could be your one. Click the link below, download it now. If you want to watch another video from me, click here. If you want to watch another one in the series, click here. Don't forget to subscribe to the channel. 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