Natalie Fisher breaks down the limiting beliefs that tank your interviews: thinking questions are stupid, fearing you'll seem too smart, believing the decision's already made. These stories leak into your body language and tone. Reframe interviews as conversations where you're evaluating them too, not just performing for approval.
The stories that you have in your mind about interviews could be stopping you from getting job offers, and you might not even know it. So stay tuned. Here are some stories that after some digging, I discovered several of my clients had been holding. The interview questions they ask are stupid, and I don't see why I should have to answer them. Oh, but when you go for an interview, they just want you to say yes to everything. Otherwise, they're not interested. And you can't sound too smart. You'll intimidate the interviewer and they won't want to hire you. It's a performance, you have to perform. It doesn't matter if I can do the job or not, it's whether or not I can perform. That's what matters. Well, they've already made up their mind anyway. Not sure why they put people through this arduous process for nothing. What's the point? I'm not gonna get it anyway. I didn't get the job last time, so what's gonna be different this time? Why do I even bother? They want you to be perfect. If you don't know everything, then you don't stand a chance. If you think any of those thoughts, do you think that you're gonna be feeling positive when you go into the interview? No. And you're probably not going to get the job. So the truth of the matter is that when you think about interviewing in any of the ways that I just described, you are shooting yourself in the foot before you even go in. Why? Because when you're holding these thoughts in your head, you're toast before you even start. Might as well not even show up. Why? Because it's like bringing your emotional baggage to an interview and laying it out on the table, but trying to get them not to notice it. You know how people talk about emotional baggage in relationships, for example? This is emotional baggage that you're bringing to an interview, and it could be why you're not passing them. Because what you think always shows up in what you say and how you say it, and it dictates the results that you're going to get. This can be a career killer for many people because it doesn't change the fact that interviews are how we get better jobs, and you have to normally go on an interview before you can get hired. And if you continue to hold these beliefs about interviews, then they're not going to serve you, and you're just going to continue to show up in a way that puts people off, and you'll continue to get even more and more discouraged. And create more of the same. I've seen it happen many times. People will try to deny it. They'll say— they'll try to hang on to their beliefs so hard while they're trying to convince me that they are actually showing up in the exact way that they need to be, and it's still not working. And it makes me think of when I ask my husband if he's in a bad mood and he yells at me and he goes, no, I'm fine! So I like to say, well, if you're really fine, then maybe you should tell your face that. He doesn't like when I say that. You have to first become aware that you have some of these sneaky beliefs and thoughts going on in your head that may be causing you to show up in a way that simply puts people off. It doesn't mean you're not capable of doing the job at all. It doesn't mean that you can't change these beliefs and start showing up in a completely different way. If you continue to hold on to these beliefs, you won't be able to pass interviews successfully unless something changes, and you're gonna keep wondering what you're doing wrong. You'll be held back from reaching your full potential, and you'll never understand why because You're a smart person, you know you can do the job, you know that you're capable, you know that you do good work and you bring huge value, but something will always be off when you go to interview. So what do you need to do to change these beliefs? Can you simply change them from one moment to the next? Let me give you an example of my thoughts around interviewing and why I got into this field. Interviewing is the only time I get to dress up and talk about myself and only myself for almost a whole hour. Interviewing is so fun. I get to learn about what other companies are doing, I get to ask them questions and see See what kind of cool things they're dealing with, and see if my skills match up and I can help them. Interviewing is a conversation to see how I'm going to be able to help them. Like, what do they need? What are they working on? How can I help solve their problems in this particular role? Interviewing is never a waste of time because it's always a networking opportunity. Having the chance to meet hiring managers and interview face-to-face is not a chance that everyone gets, and I can leverage this interaction in the future even if I don't get this job. Interviewing is a chance to check out new office spaces and new environments. and see how other people are functioning from day to day. Or this one: interviewing is a chance to clarify what I really want and what I really don't want. Let me ask you, if you adopted these kind of thoughts about interviewing, what do you think would change? The truth is most people never even realize that their stories about interviewing, their beliefs, their thoughts around interviewing are holding them back. It's easier to complain and whine about why, how you failed another interview and how you have no idea why because you're doing and saying everything right and nothing, nothing seems to be working. The problem with that is you never learn anything from it. Successful people become aware of this first, then their tendency can be to beat themselves up when they finally become aware. But I encourage you to just observe your thinking around interviewing. So do you hold any of those thoughts I mentioned in the beginning of the video? Then once you do know, then you can change it. If you can relate and you're looking to finally get past your mental BS belief systems and start passing interviews with ease, then I'm gonna invite you to get on a free session with me. I am a pro at both when it comes to interviewing, but I think the reason why I love the mindset stuff so much is that that's where the biggest shifts in people happen. So that's where somebody can go from failing interviews to all of a sudden getting callbacks for second and third ones. So click below to schedule a call with me now, and we can finally remove those roadblocks from your life, and you can start passing interviews a lot better and even start to enjoy them and start to see them as a fun Different, completely different experience. Everything you've created up until now is a result of how you've been thinking and what thoughts you've been having and what things you've been telling yourself about interviewing. A friendly warning to you though, if you don't take note of them now, if you don't start understanding how your mind is working, then nothing is gonna change for you and you're just gonna keep wondering what's going on. If you're ready to fix this, click the link below and let's get started. Thanks so much for watching and I'll see you next week.
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