Interview Tips That Actually Work: One Simple Tweak (Strategy)

In this video, I'm going to share with you one simple little tweak to how you approach your interviews that can change the final results drastically. Stay with me. I'm Natalie Fisher. I am here with you today on my YouTube channel, or wherever you're watching the video, and I am a career mindset coach. Been doing this for 11 years. I help professionals get into their first 6-figure jobs, Or their next best 6-figure jobs. And I help them to thrive in that role with tools that I share with them, mindset shifts that I share with them, and the, the empowerment to bring them back on track wherever they're having a problem. Because we all have an up and down trajectory. If anyone told you it's supposed to be linear all the way up, it was a lie. So today I'm going to share with you a quick change of approach to create a drastically different result in your interview. So there's 2 ways that I see people approaching interviews. The majority of the time it's, it's pretty self-focused. So tell me if this is you or if you can think of a time when this might be the thoughts you're having. The self-focus that I mean that is usually a negative self-focus is when we're thinking about what the other person might be thinking about us, right? If you're thinking, oh, they might be thinking I don't have enough experience. They might be thinking that they're interviewing someone else later and that person might be better. They might think this, they might think that, right? You're thinking about it in conjunction with you maybe not being good enough, or you might be maybe not being the, the right person or the person that they're looking for, right? A big one is, I might not check all the boxes, so they're probably going to go with someone who wants this or that, right? And so all this, these are thoughts, right? They're thoughts that are focused on you. And what they might be thinking about you, and the problem with this is is that when you are focused on these possibilities, then you kind of project that onto them, and they are more likely to then be focused on those possibilities. Right? So, and there's a bunch of different ways that people do this that it shows up in different ways. People are self. I call it being self-focused because this type of self-focus usually leads to panic and scarcity. and like thoughts like, I have to get this, I have to do this right, I have to perform perfectly, I have to have all the answers. Like, and it creates a big cloud of pressure over you in the interview. So this is one type of self-focus, and it's usually not helpful from my experience. Now, you could be focused on yourself in a different way, and that could be helpful, but this is specifically what I'm talking about. Okay, and so what I want to do is help you to shift into a different way of thinking where your mind is not on yourself. Okay, now if you're thinking about yourself in a way that's like, I'm perfect for this, I'm super confident, I've got everything they need, I've got what it takes, I can help them— that kind of self-focus is helpful. Okay, but I'm talking about the self-focus that is Negative. It's not. It doesn't make you feel good. Okay, so let's talk about it. Think about it this way: if you were on a date with somebody, for example, and they were in that negative self-focus, right? They're prob. And this has happened to me. I've been on a date with someone who was in that negative self-focus, and so what he was doing was he was actually saying things to me like, "Oh yeah, I you know live with my parents," and I like he was telling me. the things about him that he was afraid that I was gonna find out and then judge him for, and then it wasn't gonna work out anyway. So like, when you're in the negative self-focus, you're more likely to project and share things that are not super powerful about you, right? And we do this without really knowing it because it's a mindset, right? It's a mindset of being in self-focus. And I'll tell you some signs of how you can see whether you are in that self-focus In just a in just a minute, I'll continue with the video.

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the thing that I I want to share with you is that when you go on an interview, you have the ability to put your focus where you decide you want it to go. Okay, and where you decide your focus goes is going to create the result that you get. Okay, so where you where focus goes. Energy flows. That is something that Tony Robbins said years ago. It always, it always deems true. So when you focus on creating a win-win situation, that is no longer self-focus. That is now looking at, okay, if there's going to be a win-win situation here where both of us like create something amazing, if that's available, if that's If that's what's going to happen here, then how do I get to that point? And that poses a new question in your brain, right? Because you're no longer thinking, oh, what are they thinking about me? And what if I don't have this? Or what if they don't think I have the right experience? Now you're thinking, okay, what do I have and how can I bring what I have to specifically serve them to help them achieve what they want to achieve? Right? And then your brain gets working and focused on that problem, on solving for that problem. So you've given your brain a focus that's a new focus, right? And it can leave behind those thoughts of, oh, what if I can't do it? What if I'm not good enough? What if they ask me this? What if I don't have the answer, right? What if they just don't like me or whatever, right? You can leave all that behind and you can say, my only job is to Focus on creating a win-win situation here. And a win-win, to clarify, means they get a tremendous amount of value from what you have to offer, from what you can do, from what you've done before, from what you have the potential to do, and from your problem-solving brain can bring to their organization. Now, you have the ability to decide to focus there if you choose to. And that focus makes you much more powerful and makes you much more likely to succeed in the interview than if you are in that self-focus. Now, being in the self-focus is just a normal human thing. So, I don't want to make you wrong or bad, or I don't want you to feel ashamed for being there. But it's not going to be as helpful as being in the win-win. So, that's why. I'm making this video. It's a very big, big thing for many of my clients. Once they can get out of the self-focus and they can shift into what I call service mode, then like service focus, results focus, win-win focus, they can start to create a completely different conversation and a completely different result. So when I work with people and they want to get into a new industry, they want to get better paid, they want to get a sense of Of, of how, what's, what's possible for them, what they can actually do in their career. This is gonna be one key factor to pay attention to. If you walk into your conversations, to your interviews with a focus on how can I create a win-win here? How can this be a win-win? Then your brain is, it's got something else to look at. It's got something else to work towards. And when you give your brain a task, It's going to go to work on that task. If you don't, or you ask it poor questions, you ask it low-quality questions like, oh, what if they don't like my experience? Then you're going to get low-quality answers, and it takes you out of service focus. So again, the dating example works. It's like if you're on a date and you know, you can tell that that person isn't really engaged with you and learning about you, and they're not trying to create an experience that you also enjoy, but they're mostly worried about themselves. and how, how you might appear to— how they might appear to you. They're worried about you judging them. They're worried about you not thinking they're good enough. That energy isn't super attractive, am I right? Right. You'd rather have someone who was confident, there to, there to look to see if there was a match, and genuinely just be unattached either way. Be like, if there is a match here, great, I'm really looking to find out how that works. And if there isn't, That's cool too. I'm here to have a great conversation, and then, you know, whatever is supposed to work out for the best for both of us is what I want, right? That's some— so much more of an attractive energy than someone who's in the whole, oh, I really hope that you like my answer, I really hope that I get it right, I really hope that you approve of me, right? That it's kind of— again, it repels people. It's— it screams like, I don't really know if I can do it. I don't really know— like, I don't really know about myself. I'm not really confident in myself, so expecting someone else to be confident in you is a tall order.

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here are a few ways that you can make sure that you are doing this. Okay, so one, be present to your state. Are you feeling worried about your own situation, your own ability to answer questions, your own lack of experience? Are you bringing in baggage from past interviews thinking that they might tell you you're overqualified, or they might tell you that you were great, but they went with someone else. Are you bringing in baggage and expecting a negative result, maybe subtly? Every interview deserves a completely brand new clean slate. So be present to your current mental state as you go in. And what are you bringing to the table and making sure that it is clean, congruent, fresh slate energy? Number 2, check in with yourself As far as where your focus is. Are you in win-win service-based energy, or are you in self-focused negative energy? Okay. And if you do have any of that, you can clean it up. You have to make sure that you clean it up before you go into the interviews. Number 3, are you just asking questions at the end, or are you asking questions throughout? So this is a sign. If you're asking questions throughout, And this is how I know, because when I interviewed, and I interviewed very successfully, um, whether I got the job or not, I loved interviewing. I just loved it. That is why I got into this profession of coaching on interviews and stuff, is because when I went into the interview, I could not help but ask questions. Like, I couldn't wait till the end. I couldn't— like, I physically couldn't wait till the end to ask questions because I was so genuinely curious about what they were doing, right? I was so genuinely curious about what they needed, about what this person was looking for, about what they wanted to create, about what their vision was, about what they were dealing with. I was so purely, genuinely curious that I didn't ever wait till the end to ask questions. And so it kind of baffled me when I would go to career seminars to try to learn more and improve my skills, and they would say, oh, wait till the end. And I was like, but I can't. And also, like, that doesn't make sense, because what I was actually doing was I was creating a synergy where I would ask a question. So they would say, something to me, they would ask me a question, I would answer it, and then I would say, oh yeah, and by the way, does— are you doing this, this, and this as well? Or have you incorporated this yet? Or like, I would just ask a question back, and then they would answer, and it would become a dynamic conversation, right? And so I couldn't help but do that. That's just what I did. And so I didn't understand this whole wait, answer questions, and wait politely till the end to ask. Because when you do that, I couldn't— I couldn't do anything with that information that they gave me at the end. I was just like, okay, okay. Great. And then I would leave and then I'd be like, but wait, I still wanted to ask them all these things. So that way just never worked for me. So step 3 for me is, are you asking questions just at the end or are you in that genuinely curious win-win state where you are asking them questions throughout because you're genuinely wondering how it is that you can help them and how you can bring your specific skills to them? Number 4, When you're talking about your value and what you have to bring to the table, are you connecting it genuinely to what they're talking about? And if you don't know how to do that or you're not doing it, it's because you don't— you haven't asked enough questions to get the information to then do that, right? So are you connecting your value directly to what it is they need and what they have on their desk in front of them right now? Are you doing that right? And it's not just by telling stories. It's it's by sharing. Like I have a formula inside my program, and you can get started on the three-day training where we go through all of that. But it's not just by telling a story and just just telling stories because they asked you tell me about a time. It's like you want to directly connect the story to exactly what it is they need or how it could be relevant to them, right? And the the faster you get at doing this, the better you get at. Thinking this way, the more skilled you will be at doing that, and the more you will land offers, like actual offers. It won't just be like, oh, you were great. So are you connecting that value up? And that, and if you're, if you don't know if you are, that's a current, current, uh, a common thing is people are like, well, I don't know if I did a good job of that. It's like, there is a way to evaluate that, but you need to be gathering the information throughout the interview, not just asking a few polite questions at the end. So if you want to explore this and go deeper on this, I have a 3-day series and you can sign up for that below. And I deep dive on how to be relevant, how to create relevant answers, how to convey your value. First of all, you learn how to convey your value, and then you got to do it in a way that's relevant and connects up specifically to their problem. And you can do that on my 3-day series. The link below to sign up is there. So if you like this video Give me a thumbs up. If you didn't like it, give me a thumbs down. Subscribe to the channel. I would love for you to leave me a comment. Preferably, it's a nice comment, and I appreciate it. I appreciate all the support, any likes and comments and subscribers. I appreciate everyone here, everyone watching, everyone who takes the time to watch until the end especially, and I can't wait to connect, and I'll see you in the training or on the next video. Bye bye.