Self Confidence BEFORE INTERVIEW | Interview Tips

In this video, I'll be talking about self-confidence and how to create it before a job interview. So in this series, we're talking about self-confidence specifically in interviews, and in this video, I'll be talking about when you get to create self-confidence, you get the results that you want. So the secret that all self-confident people have, and that's the thing I'm going to explain to you today, is you have to actually have self-confidence before Before you get the success, not afterwards. And that's the mistake that most people make. They think, well, I'll be confident after I do it or after I get it. But you have to be confident actually before you walk in. If you're trying to get confident from your talent, if you're trying to gain self-confidence from your ability, you're doing it hashtag backwards. You have to believe in your capability to develop your capacity. So you have to develop the talent and then you can rely on external evidence, but you haven't created it yet. So you have to have the self-confidence to create the external evidence in the first place. It looks like this. Number 1, you take action. Number 2, you might fail. Number 3, you learn. So when you take action, you either get the result you want or you don't. You either get the job or you don't, but you always learn what worked and what didn't. So take actions, Fail or not, and then learn. You don't have to fail. You might get it first try. The secret that all self-confident people have is they know that self-confident people don't always succeed. So the huge misconception that I see all the time is people think, oh, self-confidence comes from people because they always get the job, or they've never been to a job interview without being hired, and that's why they're so confident. But that's not the case. Always being successful is not what gives you self-confidence because most successful people will tell you that they have failed many times in the past. So some of the great successes have been built on a pile of times that they failed. You might look at someone and say, it's easy for her to self— be self-confident. Look how successful she is. But I promise you that it's the other way around. You have to have self-confidence before you create that success, not afterwards. So for example, I am self-confident now in making videos. But if you go back and look at some of my first videos, they're not so great. They're awful. You're like, I look like I'm reading a screen and I look like I'm completely slow. I have no energy. Like, it's just rough. I had the confidence to do them, but they weren't good. So it's based on my ability to handle anything that comes my way. And I know that what will come my way might be a feeling of embarrassment. I might look back at that video and be like, oh, that video is embarrassing. It might hurt my self-esteem for a minute. But if I can experience that and I can manage my mind and I can say to myself, you had to do that in order to get better at it, then that is what makes me successful today, having been making videos for almost 3 years. So if you fail ahead of time, what that means is you don't even start. So it means you don't even take action. So in my case, it would mean I maybe made a couple videos, they were so awful I didn't put them out there, nobody saw them, and I did nothing. That is failing ahead of time. And there is nothing to be gained from failing ahead of time because it's not even a real failure because you didn't even really try. So when you learn how to handle your emotions and you know that you can just understand that if you fail or if it doesn't work out, you're maybe gonna feel a little bit bad, That's okay. The worst thing that can happen is a feeling. So a lot of people will just decide to fail ahead of time. But failing ahead of time is really unfortunate because it teaches you nothing. So what I mean by that is they decide not to apply for the job, for example. They decide not to put themselves out there for opportunities. They decide not to go to the interview because they feel like it's not even worth a try. So if you take no action, how do you know what works and what doesn't? If you're gonna fail, Don't fail ahead of time. Fail by taking action and learning rather than failing by doing nothing and staying comfortable. Yes, both can be considered failures, but at least one gets you somewhere and increases your self-confidence by providing evidence that you did something. You're going to feel a lot more accomplished after you went to an interview and failed rather than if you didn't go at all. So here is a thought that will help you. I'm going to get this result no matter what, no matter how long it takes me. So if you're going after a dream job for a certain amount of salary, certain type of position, and say you get turned down for the interview, doesn't matter because you know that you're eventually going to get it. And you're going to take the lessons learned from that last interview, you're going to harvest them, you're going to internalize them, and you're going to show up better the next time. And that's your choice. You can get down, you can beat yourself up, and you can stop trying. Or you can take that failure and use it as fuel. So before I want to go, I want to share a thought that can also ignite your self-confidence, and that is, I'm more prepared than any other candidate for this interview, therefore I'm gonna crush it. And if you do know how to prepare effectively, this is going to be super powerful for you. So you can get my free guide, click below to grab it. It's gonna have some information in there that you're gonna be able to go through and then deliver confidently in the interview. It's called The Ultimate Interview Prep Guide where you're gonna get a ton of free value to get prepared for your next interview. The first thing you're gonna get is the formula breakdown of how to instantly communicate your value in an interview using stories. Then you're gonna get 10 concrete examples with 10 most commonly asked behavioral interview questions and the answers that have been successful in the past. Then you're going to get fill-in-the-blank templates So you can start writing them in. Lots of people print this out and start practicing right there. Also, it's all in a nice workbook so you can prepare for your interview. And also, 25 questions. So a lot of the people that I work with have some trouble coming up with those stories essentially. Like even though they see the examples, they still have some trouble. So I've given you 25 questions to get you thinking about your past experiences so that you can bring really confident, really quality information into that interview with you. Deliver it well. Thank you so much for watching. I really appreciate it. Nice to see you this week. If you want to watch another video from me, click here. If you want to watch another video in the self-confidence series, click here. If you liked the video, give me a thumbs up. If you didn't like the video, give me a thumbs down. And don't forget to subscribe to the channel. I will see you next week. Have a good one. Bye.