In this coaching monologue, Natalie Fisher addresses job seekers who become overly attached to the outcome of landing a new role or promotion. She explains that fixation on the future creates a feeling of lack, while embodying the mental and physical state of already having the job can shift one’s mindset to a problem‑solving mode. Fisher uses a car‑versus‑bike metaphor to illustrate how the job‑search journey can be made more comfortable and enjoyable: a bike requires constant pedaling and fatigue, whereas a car lets you set a destination, adjust the environment, and enjoy the ride while still navigating toward the goal. By treating the search as a pleasant “car ride,” reducing resistance, and focusing on the process rather than the destination, she argues that candidates move toward their goal faster and with less stress. The talk blends psychological insight with practical, experiential advice, encouraging listeners to reframe their approach, stay present, and create a supportive journey.
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So we get really attached to the outcome, right? So with my clients, it's like the job hunt or the promotion or the new thing. They get really attached to that happening. And if that hasn't happened yet, they feel a certain way, right? So you might be able to relate to that. You're like, oh, it's not here yet. It's not here yet. I haven't accomplished it yet. So you're very much in the it's not here yet instead of integrating what it would actually be like to have it. And what it would be like to have it would feel very different to you in your body. You would be feeling totally different. So if you had it, you would probably be feeling stimulated mentally. You'd be working on a challenge, and you would be problem solving. You would be in problem solving mode, right? And those are all things you can be available for right now as you get to the end result. Right? 'Cause in your job, you're actually gonna be working on another end result, whether that be a project for an employer or something for your boss. You're gonna be working on a challenge, and you're working on a challenge right now. It just might not be the one that you wanna be working on. But you do have this challenge in front of you, and the way you approach it is gonna be everything. So when I said, I said to one of my clients, 'cause she said she felt like she was pedaling on a bike. She's like, I'm pedaling and pedaling and pedaling, and I just can't stop, and I'm getting tired, and I don't like this pedaling anymore. So here's what I said to her. So I was like, you can get from one place to another on a bike or in a car, okay? And in a car, you're probably gonna be more comfortable. So you can program the GPS to where you wanna go, and you can get in your car, and you can make your car really comfy. You can turn on the heater, you can play some tunes, you can bring some snacks for your road trip. You can have a lot of fun in your car on your way to the destination, right? And you're not gonna get as tired 'cause you're driving. You just got to put your foot on the gas, you got to brake, you got to steer, you got to be aware of your surroundings, and you got to navigate to where you're going. In the car, you can do that and you can actually enjoy the ride. On your bike, it's going to feel heavy, it's going to feel hard, and maybe you enjoy a bike ride, which is great, but you can actually do it in a way that feels a lot more enjoyable and you're still getting there. So I would encourage you, think of your journey as a car ride. Make it as comfortable as possible because what we resist persists. Yet know that you're still getting there. I love the metaphor of the car because it just feels like something I love to do. I love driving. So sometimes I'll just get in my car and go for a drive because I know that that's gonna create newness for me. Like, I'm gonna be able to see things. Maybe I see scenery I haven't seen before, see things I haven't seen before, and it's gonna inspire me. And that journey, not the destination, is why I go for the drive. So you can make your journey as enjoyable as possible. You will get there faster because you will be— you won't be as aware that you're not there. You'll just be like, oh yeah, I'm going, I'm getting there, it's happening.
