The Mental Trick That Gets Job Offers (Works Every Time)

Hello. In this video, I'm going to teach you a technique that has allowed me to create incredible things in my life. It is a mindset hack that my students have asked me for a little bit more information on, a little bit more in-depth. So I'm going to go into it today. You can use this technique to land your job offer. It has allowed me to land competing job offers repeatedly. It has allowed me to create my 6-figure business over years and years and years running. And it has allowed me to do things like get on CNBC and write for CNBC articles. It has allowed me to meet the love of my life, and it's a simple tool that I'm going to teach you today. So let's get into it. It starts with five categories. So there are five categories to this mindset tool. It is called the model. The first category is circumstance. Circumstances are things that we cannot change, things that are in the past, things that have. That have happened that we don't have any control over. They are usually very boring things. They are neutral things. They are things that we could either have a— like, um, they could be proven in a court of law or that everybody on the planet can agree with, right? So they are things that maybe the exact words that somebody said or the fact that you have an interview scheduled on your calendar for 10:00 AM, that would be an example of a circumstance. No one can argue with that. That is what it is. Okay, then we've got thoughts. Thoughts are opinions. They are things that we think are true, but everybody will have a different one. So with the same— with one circumstance, everyone, everyone will have fairly different opinions about the same circumstance. Some people might have the same, but the thought varies, right? The circumstance does not vary. Okay, the circumstance always is the circumstance. The thoughts are the, the meaning that we assign to the circumstance, the way that we respond to the circumstance. And I'm going to get into Lots of examples in this video, three to be exact. So stay with me. Then the next category is the feeling, and a thought triggers a feeling. So however you think about the circumstance is going to indicate how that makes you feel. And when you feel a certain way, that's going to determine what type of action you take. It's going to determine what you do, how you show up, how you act, what you say, what comes to mind, how you respond, the energy that you're in. So the feeling is like the vibe, the energy that you bring to the situation. And then the action is. What you end up doing, so the actual tactical things. It's like the the the. So I'm going to give you an example of what of what this all looks like. But an action would be like you reach out to somebody, or you or you write a post and you post it on LinkedIn, or you you you actually take that tactical action, right? And then we've got the results. The result is what happens from that action, from that accumulation of actions. What is the result that you get? And so what happens is a lot of people are missing what's going on here. They're missing the fact that it starts. With the thought and then the feeling, and they're just going straight to the action and trying to outact a bunch of negative thoughts and feelings. So this tool really helps you break that down, makes you stop doing that so that you can make your actions the most effective that they can be. So let's look at a very common circumstance that I deal with when I'm coaching a client. So circumstance: submitted 100 resumes with no responses and no offers. So that's a circumstance because we can prove that Somebody has done that, right? This person can open their email inbox and/or open their application folder and they can say, look, I submitted all these applications, they were sent, and I haven't received any responses or any offers yet, right? Circumstance provable in a court of law. Nobody can argue with it. The thought of this person is going to determine how their process continues and what, what result they ultimately get and how fast they get it. So their thought is normally something like, I'm not good enough, this is not working. Um, it's normally a negative thought to that circumstance, right? So let's use I'm not good enough as an example. So they submit all these resumes and they start to think, I'm not good enough. Then the feeling from there is probably something like disheartened. They probably don't feel very good about themselves because they're thinking I'm not good enough. So they're feeling disheartened, for example, right? And this is unique to everyone. This is just an example of a common one that I work with a lot of clients on. So then the actions they might take might be something like avoiding and procrastinating, not wanting to continue to apply, not wanting to continue to put themselves out there. They're not feeling very happy, very good about themselves, very valuable, very congruent. They're just feeling disheartened, which creates, and quite often, an avoidance, procrastination, lose motivation. Um, it could resort to snacking. It could resort to going on Netflix and just watching, binging The Office all day long. It could result to, um, sending applications without tailoring them. It could It could just lead to haphazard action, just like, I'll do this anyway, even though I don't really believe it's working. Um, so, you know, going through the motions with low belief. And then it means that you don't reach out to the people that you probably could reach out to. You don't think of that, cuz when you're not in a high feeling, like when you're not in a good feeling, you don't get really good ideas coming in, right? Your ideas don't spark, like genius doesn't doesn't strike when you're really, really low, right? So you end up expecting rejection. You're like, ah, if I, if I do this, I'm probably just not gonna get a response anyway, right? And you can see how this kind of spirals, right? And it comes from the thought, I'm not good enough. So then they start, the person could also start comparing themselves to other people. They'll start to see people succeeding, people landing job offers, and they'll start to say, oh yeah, see, I'm not good enough. And they'll start to affirm their thought to be true, right? So they start focusing on the success and the progress of other people and making it mean again that they're not good enough. And our brain is always going to want to prove that thought true, so it's always going to bring in the results that are compatible with that original thought. So your thought always ends up in your result line. So then the result that it's going to do, that it's usually going to generate, is it's going to end up— the result is that you don't end up showing anybody that you are good enough because all these actions that you're doing coming from that thought, I'm not good enough, is just going to prove to yourself that you're not good enough. Not because you're not, but because you are not able to do what's required from that thought space. Right? All right. So, once you understand this, this is the first part. This is called the awareness. So, once you understand that this is not an effective approach, you can start to move to a more effective approach. So, the next option would be to create a model intentionally that reflects the results that you want. So if you want to land the job, figure out this job search, figure out your career, how to get your job when you need it, then that is something you can do by changing the rest of your model, right? So let's do an intentional model now. So the circumstance is submitting 100 resumes, no responses, no offers. That circumstance stays the same, okay? But the thought changes. So the— an example of a new thought that could feel much better and motivate you much more could simply be, I am capable of figuring this out. Just see how that feels for a minute. Does that feel any different to I'm not good enough? I would think so, right? So then that's going to spark a different feeling, right? And that different feeling could be confidence, for example, or it could be motivation, or it could be more certainty. It could be more forward momentum, right? Simply because you have decided to think, I am capable of figuring this out. Right? And I just want you to stop for a minute and think, okay, if I think I'm not good enough repeatedly every day, how is that going to compound if I keep thinking that for like a year versus if I think I'm capable of figuring this out? Think about how much energy, more energy that gets driven into your body. And when you think and believe that, you're like, okay, I'm going to do different things and we're going to go through the rest of the model. So let's say you're feeling more hopeful, more motivated, more optimistic because you're thinking I'm capable of figuring this out instead of I'm not good enough. So then your action is going to be different. And I know this because of all the people I've coached on this exact same model. So likely what people are going to do from a space of I'm capable of figuring this out, they're and they're feeling more confident. They're going to think they're going to focus on specific opportunities that they really want. They're not just going to be pumping out resumes and sending to whatever and expecting rejections. They're going to be more intentional about what they're doing. They're going to be more focused on what they're writing on the applications. They're going to be more. In more able to reach out to people, they're going to be willing to reach out to people because they're like, "I'm going to do what it takes to figure this out." They're going to be taking more emotional risks, so being more willing to send a message to somebody and have them like have that be open for a rejection. But they're going to do it in a different way because they are working in that I'm figuring it out mode, right? So they're also going to be. Willing to follow up without second-guessing themselves. They're not going to be placing attention to every single little detail and second-guessing themselves. They're just going to be moving forward because they want to figure this out, and that's their main thought, right? Um, they're going to be connecting regularly. They're going to build— be building a community around them, and they might not even be aware that they're doing it. But when you're figuring something out, you are in that forward movement. You're going to share value. You're going to share value with people that you speak to, even by just your presence being valuable because you're in a figure it out mode, right? And you're problem-solving. You're gonna get curious to see why what you put forward wasn't accepted in an interview. Like, if you didn't get a job, you're gonna be curious about that. And you check out my video on rejection because that gives you 3 different frames of how to look at rejection that will really help you through this process. You're gonna be feeling more impactful when you go through the motions, right? So when you actually do the actions, you're gonna be feeling more impactful, and you're gonna have a different thought process behind the actions that you take. Therefore, they're going to be more effective. Effective. But not only that, you're going to start seeing the things that are working because you're going to be collecting all the evidence that you are figuring this out, right? And then the result is going to be that you are going to show people that you are good enough to get hired. You're going to start figuring it out. So the result is going to be you do what's necessary to figure it out, right? And most people are not doing that because they're thinking I'm not good enough, or a variation of that thought that doesn't empower, doesn't move anybody forward. When you're thinking I'm not good enough, you're just wanting to sit on the couch and hide and do nothing, right? So that's the example. 2 models. That is the one that your brain maybe gives you as a default. It's called the unintentional model. I call it the useless model. And then the one that's useful, which is gonna be more, um, more intentional where you can look at it and be like, I choose to think this way. A successful person thinks more like this than the old one. And you, you're gonna have the power to change that up. So anything you want, you can put it in the result line and you can create whatever it is that you want. You just need to do it intentionally. So if you want more information, if you wanna work with me, I have a whole series of teachings on the model inside my community. You can get the link below to sign up for my 3-day training or one of my freebies, which you will get when you sign up and you can start to dive into this work with me. And this is just one simple example. Hopefully it starts sparking some creativity for you and started to make you feel better. But just think, what would I want to put in my thought line if I could put anything I wanted? And what would I want to put in my result line if I could put anything I wanted? So thank you so much for watching. Like this video if you liked it, thumbs down if you didn't like it. Subscribe to the channel. I will see you in the next video. 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