A coach shares what happens when you ask clients what they really want: most describe things they could do, not what they actually desire. The real work is pushing past surface answers to find the genuine wish underneath.
Really interesting thing I've learned from coaching hundreds of clients. I often ask them, well, what do you want to do? What do you want? And I feel like that's one of the most important questions you can ask is, what do you really, really, really want? And they will answer— this is so fascinating— most of the time, like 9 times out of 10, they will answer with what they could do. Well, I could do this, I could do that, I could do this, I've done this before. That's where they will answer from, right? And then I'll bring them back to, yeah, Yeah, you could do a lot of things. You could go work at the 7-Eleven. You could go, you could go do, you could go get a degree in taxation if you wanted to. I, I don't even know why anybody would do that. But what do you actually want? That's actually the question that's most important, because then that starts to become something, and we can start to see from there, how do we make that happen? And the trick is not to shut it down and say, oh yeah, yeah, but I haven't done that before. Oh yeah. But that's crazy. Oh yeah, but that would never work. Oh yeah, but I can't make money with that. The trick is not to shut it down before you give it a chance to grow into anything. Okay, so that's what— that's— I just find it so fascinating. It's like I ask that and that's always the answer I get back. So I challenge you, comment below, what do you really, really want?
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