Natalie Fisher shares three tools to ease career anxiety: commit fully and take action instead of just hoping, treat setbacks as expected pauses rather than dead ends, and stop dwelling on the past to focus on future possibilities instead.
Today we're going to talk about how to stop worrying about the future when it comes to your job hunt, your career, and where you want to be. So stay tuned. Hoping or wanting versus being completely committed. So a lot of the times people will say things like, well, I hope it works out for me, or I really want to get a new job. But hoping or wanting both don't really require any action on the person's part. If you're just sitting Sitting there hoping something's gonna happen or hoping that you're gonna end up in your dream job, that really doesn't mean that you have to do anything versus being 100% committed to getting your dream job. I'll show you an example of what being committed means. Say that you go to a vending machine, you put the money in, press the button, and then the chips come out and then they get stuck. You have a choice at that point. You can, you know, bang on it, do all the things with the vending machine. If it doesn't work though, what are you gonna do? I'm gonna go to the next vending machine. At that point, you could just be like, oh, well, I really want the chips, but I'm gonna walk away. It's not worth it. Or you could be like 100% committed to getting these chips out. You could go around and ask a whole bunch of people if they could let you borrow a dollar to get the next bag out so that you could then get the 2. You could go find the vending machine people, call them. You could break the glass. Not suggesting you should do that. Or you could just hope that, you know, you're gonna get chips in the future, but that doesn't require you to take any action. So when you are 100% committed, you know that you are going to do whatever it takes to get there. And when you are going to do whatever it takes to get there, you're the one in the driver's seat, you're the one in control. Therefore, you don't need to worry about the future because you are creating it and you've decided that you're creating it. So this is another analogy that I like to talk about. It's called the red light analogy. Let's say that you are going to the grocery store. So if you drive a car and say you stop at a red light, you're not going to say to yourself, Oh, well, that sucks. I might as well go home. I'm never going to make it to the store because I've hit a red light. You're going to just expect that that red light's going to be there and you're going to stop at it and then you're going to keep going. I want you to think of your career as a series of red lights, and then your destination is your dream job, which is always there. It's just a matter of you navigating to get there. You might not know how yet. You might not know how exactly you're going to get there, but you know it's there for sure. You're going to just keep going. And if you hit some red lights, that's not going to be a big deal because you're going to expect them, right? And if you know that and you're actually believing that, then you're not going to be worried about whether or not it happens or not because you already know that it's going to happen. It's just a matter of when and how, and you're going to figure that stuff out. So another big reason why people worry about the future a lot is because they're living in the past from the past. If I'm living from my past, I'm very limited as to what I can do in my future. If I If I say to myself I can only do what I've done in the past again, or incrementally a little tiny bit better each time, like it's living in the past and saying, oh well, I didn't ever get a job like this before, like the job I want, so I'm never gonna be able to get one in the future. But how could that possibly be true? Because you have done a whole bunch of stuff that you never did before or you wouldn't be here. So you have to start thinking in the future and what is possible. So you have to be focused on the future. A lot of the times you can see this in everyday life, how it makes people feel. If you ask somebody how they're doing, they might say, oh, you know, not very good. I had an awful weekend. You know, my kids got sick, or, you know, whatever happened in the past, right? And they're, they're focusing on what happened in the past that wasn't very good, or like, oh, I had an awful childhood, or whatever it is that they're focusing on, right? But then if you ask them how is it going and they're thinking about what's coming up for them that they're excited about, they'll say, oh, I'm doing great. I'm going to Hawaii next week and I'm so excited. I got to get ready and I got to pack. So you can see the difference between between how they're, how they're thinking and feeling when they're future-focused versus when they're past-focused on things that didn't go their way or past-focused on things that are just how they are. We are definitely more benefited when we think about our future and we focus on what's possible for us because we have created things we've never had before. And basing what we can do in the future on what we've done in the past really makes no sense because it means that we wouldn't ever be able to create anything new or do anything new or different if We could only do what we've done in the past. So there you have it, 3 ways to stop worrying about the future. The first way is deciding to be 100% committed versus hoping or wanting. The second, knowing and believing that it's going to happen like it's the grocery store and it's there and it's waiting for you. You just need to figure out how many red lights are going to be and how you're going to get there, but you are going to figure it out no matter what. And then the third is living from the future from a place of possibility. From a place of what you can and will be doing versus from your past where maybe things didn't work out or you've learned your lessons in the past. So I hope you enjoyed this video. Leave me a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel if you liked it. Let me know what you thought with a comment. If you want to talk more, we can get on a call and we can go through your exact situation, how I can help you, what might be holding you back right now, and what you need to succeed. We can go through that together on a one-on-one chat. Sign up below for a call with me. If you don't want to do that, no worries. You can download some of my free resources, and you can find me on my website at www.nataliefisher.ca. I will see you there, and I'll see you next week. Thank you. Bye. Bye.
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