Nathan Payne compares asking someone out to negotiating with a property seller. Expressing strong desire makes you seem desperate and lowers the other person's perception of your value. Instead, acknowledge their busy schedule and present your offer casually, as one option among many.
If you ask your girl out on a date, if you're like, hey, I'd really like to take you out, I think you're beautiful, I think you're amazing, and I've been watching you for years and I've been dreaming about this moment, that's weird, right? And they're probably gonna be like, wow, this guy really wants me, this guy really is desperate. That's the same thing if you come to a seller, hey, I'd really like to buy your property, I think it's amazing. They're thinking, well, I have a gem here, maybe I have something really good. But if you go to a seller and you say, you know, this is great and all, you should probably list this thing, I mean, I'd love to buy it, but you probably have better options than me, they're starting to see like, man, maybe this ain't that good. And I'm not saying that psychologically like hurt a feelings. But if you were to ask a girl out, you could do something, say, hey, I know you're probably super busy tonight, you probably have plans already, but I'm going to grab some food. I was wondering if you'd like to come. There's no pressure. It's like, hey, you're probably busy, you probably got something else planned, but if you'd be down, let's do something. It's the same thing with the self. Hey, you probably got better options, you probably should explore them. I'm here if it makes sense.
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