This YouTube video (Nick Kugelman) argues that over-solving children's problems weakens them and prevents development of resilience. The speaker emphasizes letting children encounter friction and challenges (including boredom) so they learn to self-entertain and solve issues themselves; supportive presence is endorsed but not constant problem-solving. Illustrative anecdote: a mother-in-law's remark — "your boredom is not my problem" — is cited to exemplify the stance.
You 100% make your kids weaker when you solve all their problems. Treating them like little tiny helpless kids, little babies that can't take care of themselves. It's literally holding them back from their own personal development. The world will put them in places where they feel conflict, friction, challenges. I want to prepare them. I don't want them to get out into this world as an adult and wonder oh no, why is it so hard? Because they never saw that before. I'll be there ready for them. I'll be there to support them but man I just let the world happen to them. Like a kid says I'm bored and the parents is like oh what do you want to do? Guess what? My mother in law says your boredom is not my problem. I'm not your entertainment director. You're going to have to figure this out. You're likely raising mentally weak children because you're doing too much for them.
