I don't care if my kids listen to me or not

24 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker discusses the natural phase when adolescents, typically around ages 13‑14, leave the family environment to explore and define their own identities. He warns that confronting or fighting teens during this period can push them further away from the family unit. Instead, he advocates for a proactive parenting approach: deliberately introducing trusted, supportive adults into the teen’s life who can serve as guides when the child stops seeking parental advice. The speaker emphasizes that this disengagement is normal and that designing a network of reliable mentors is essential for healthy development.

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When your kids turn 13, 14, they will go outside of the home to test and discover who their own identity is, who they are. And in those moments, if you fight them, they will never come back to the family union. Parents wrestle with this all the time where their kid is like dyeing their hair and hanging out with the wrong people and doing all this stuff. And they're like worried that they're gonna do something wrong and ruin the rest of their life. In those moments, be sure you've introduced them to people that you trust to be their guides. And I just think about that for my kids. I am designing the people that are in their life, that I trust that can guide them when they stop coming to me, 'cause they will, and that's normal.